We had unprotected sex

[FutureMommy]

Hi I’m new here :) Can someone help me? I have read so many different stories online.. idk what to believe anymore. I tried to calculate dates but many website say many different things. So I’m sharing mine so I could maybe get some personal experience stories :)

Me (23) and my partner (25) would like to have kids. My partner has a well paying job and we’re gonna try to buy a home with enough space for a kiddo, hopefully somewhere in 2024. Our life is pretty good and I’m really grateful for that <3

So here’s the thing.. we were away for a couple of days and we were feeling romantic. We hadn’t had quality time for weeks due to finishing school & working a lot. We had unprotected sex on July 31st and also on August 1st. We both know the consequence of this of course. We’re both like ‘if it happens it happens’.

He did not ejaculate inside of me, that happened like a couple of minutes later. So, if I am right, the only way I could be pregnant is because of pre-cum containing sperm from the day before.. how high would the chance be that I’m pregnant? Did someone experience the same kind of thing? Have I been informed the right way?

My period started July 21th. I have had a very regular cycle of exactly 26 days for the past 4 months.

Sorry for the long paragraph. I know this is the internet and people don’t know me irl so I just wanted to include some info of things that people could ask me. I’m not scared at all, just very nervous and kinda exited to know if I am actually pregnant or not. I will, of course, wait for my period to come and do a test if it doesn’t ;) So I’ll wait for replies and will definitely update!

Very unlikely

We’re both like ‘if it happens it happens

you're 23! Buy the house and live a life before having a child. Get on some contraception.

It's not impossible but as PP states very very unlikely.

🙄

It can happen but very unlikely

Other than the fact that OP doesn’t own a house and is 23 you have no idea what she is ‘offering’. There are some rude people on this thread.

It’s unlikely OP, but obviously possible.

You both sound childish, especially what you definitely not ready for a baby.

*you

Just wanted to say that having a boyfriend with well paying job and a nice house isn't enough. You need to have a solid relationship that you can fall back on during all those challenges that having a child brings.

Of course it can happen. I'm not sure why you're getting so many hostile replies here.

If you're just happy having unprotected sex and seeing what happens, go for it. No need to count the days and fret. Simply test if your period is ever late.

Not sure what's hostile about the truth and common sense but go off

The liklihood is low but not impossible. Download a tracking app it can help highlight ovulation window and make it clearer.

There are a few free apps

@Olika wow ! Really! How on earth do u know what her relationship is like?

@FutureMommy please ignore some of the replies you have on here, seriously judgy!!

I’m sorry I’m getting kinda angry because I have read this kind of response on so many young parents. What’s wrong with wanting kids at a young age? 2 generations ago it was normal to have kids young and now you HAVE to be 30 and have lived your life or people will call you crazy... We have been living together for 5 years now and have done everything we wanted. We have studied, been on multiple vacations together, have done so many things together, have gone out with friends and got really drunk, we have money, furniture, we have everything we need. We just really would love to be parents around this age.

Which bit is "the truth and common sense"? The OP asked if she can get pregnant from unprotected sex and the answer is a plain yes.

Many women in relationships have children in their 20s, didn't you? I did and I'm glad. Me and my DH were ready. No, we didn't own a house, but we do now. Quite a few of the replies here seem to be a stretch given what she's actually asked.

Okay guys I was really excited and happy to be posting on a forum like this but now I’m just hurt :( The internet is such a rude place. Y’all are acting like you know me, calling me childish? Am I not clear in my post we’re both ready and excited? We have everything we need, the only thing missing is a child. If this child will be here in a year or 3 years, that doesn’t matter. Y’all are acting like we don’t have a solid relationship. We do have one. Yes it’s possible at 23 and 25. We’re even gonna get married soon. I would just love to come into contact with young moms without getting these not so nice comments.

The OP sounds childish, nothing to do with her age.

@FutureMommy ignore those comments. If you and your partner want and feel ready for a baby that's entirely down to you. As for your age 23 isn't young at all.

Maybe talk to real people and don’t depend on the internet.

I’m sorry but where did I say I don’t have one? You could’ve asked my nicely if I have and I would’ve nicely said I do have a solid relationship with an amazing man who will be the best father in the world. I’m literally happier than I’ve ever been in my entire life because of him. He makes my life complete and a child would make ours complete.

That’s wonderful 😊

Sorry you're having so many negative replies on this thread. I wouldn't say 23 is to young for a baby and that you haven't lived. I was 16 when I had my first. He's now 18. I've raised a wonderful young man and had a fantastic life. I'm still you (34) and have years ahead of me to do anything I haven't yet.
Good luck op. Try not to stress over it and let it all happen naturally! Good luck with the house next year too x

Are you not a real person?

@FutureMommy the sad thing is, when you post on mumnset you will get lots of negativity as well as lots of kindness.

I hope your baby dreams come true x