Due January 2024 🎉 PART 3

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@Kalodin yes, I agree they're not pleasant. I still get pain from time to time at the site of the needle but seem to be feeling it today, wondered if it was linked to being pregnant again!

Can anyone recommend the best book / places to get info on what we'll need as first time parents?
We've just been asked by the few people we've told if we want a new moses basket that's hardly been used and I've never felt so clueless in my life 🙈

Honestly? I'd ask mums here. The best advice I was given on what we'd need and what was just novelty was from the forums I was on at the time of being pregnant with my first. Books will tell you that you need all this fancy equipment and you really don't. A moses basket is good, I'd be buying a new mattress for it though, just because you just never know

Thanks @cossie13 ☺️
I've had a look online and the mattress is available for it as it's a fairly new one so will get that and say yes. Thank you! Gosh don't know where I'd be without Mumsnet already

@Flossiepot first time round, I read "How to grow a baby and push it out" found it good!

https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Grow-Baby-Push-Out/dp/1785040383

@Flossiepot these forums are everything especially for first time mums. Second/Third/Fourth etc time parents will be able to tell you what is actually useful and what is just a gimmick!

Scan today went well despite vanishing symptoms etc. Due date 3rd Jan!

Congratulations!!! That's amazing news!!!

It might be @Luhou Could be worth texting your MW to ask?

I agree with @cossie13 , @Flossiepot , you'll get great information from here. Moses baskets are cute BUT DS1 outgrew his by 3 months and he wasn't alone in that, most of the NCT groups' babies did too. So next babies we just went with a cot in our room.

Ah wonderful @WitcheryDivine !

@Kalodin fair point about them outgrowing moses baskets super quick! My first was only in his for 2 months, he was insanely long! But DD was in it for 5-6 months before she outgrew it (I was very lucky with her that she lasted so long!). I do think moses baskets are a personal preference aren't they? Some people will go straight to a cot, we'll get a moses basket just because I quite like them especially after a c-section, they're easier to get baby in and out of in those first couple of months while you're healing!

We have a Moses basket and a next2me crib (as an interim step before a cot). I found that the Moses basket always creaked when I tried to put the sleeping baby down, waking them up! So the next2me worked well for us (although to be honest I’ve ended up mostly co-sleeping until 6 months anyway!) Urg, not looking forward to all the sleep deprivation again!!

@WitcheryDivine great news, you must be so relieved! My 12 week scan feels like a lifetime away (7th July)

@Flossiepot we also had both a moses basket and next2me, both of which I’ll use again! We got the moses basket second hand and I found it really useful for daytime naps downstairs.
A sling is the one thing I’d 100% recommend! I have a couple of them, one of them is that stretchy fabric you wrap around (takes a few goes to figure it out but once you do it’s amazing, so lightweight and baby gets super snuggly 💛) definitely needed if your baby doesn’t like to be put down x

Thanks ladies, I think because it's free and not been used we'll take it with the idea of using it downstairs and a next to me crib for by the bed for the evenings. See how we go

Oooo yes @youaremysunshine03! Great shout on the carrier! I didn't get on with the fabric ones at all, but I love my Ergobaby that I couldn't bring myself to get rid of after DD and still have luckily!

I have my first scan tomorrow at 8+4, I am absolutely petrified. I have never had a successful/positive scan before. Symptoms really reduced last week, had some nausea the last two days, but i think its more anxiety about the scan than anything else. Breast tenderness, really fluctuating now and not as frequent as earlier on. So i cant help but think the worst, again!
Scan is at 8:30 in the morning, so at least not waiting around all day or anything.

@WitcheryDivine Great news! So many women have symptoms that disappear and are fine so it’s annoying when you go on pregnancy sites and they say things definitively that your symptoms should be increasing for week X. I’m sure it worries a lot needlessly.

@User22 Best of luck for scan. And yes it’s good it’s in the morning as waiting around is frustrating.

Threw up again today, first time in about a week but my BLT from the bakers is hitting the spot today. First bit of meat I’ve actually enjoyed in 9 weeks.

Scan on monday! Although I have a feeling it might just be too early to do the screening. They’re basing it on LMP so putting me at over 12 weeks for the scan but I ovulate a week late so I’ll be more like 11+3. This happened with my first too and I had to go back a week later. Kinda hoping that does happen as then DH can come to the second one. But I also want my results asap cause I really want to tell my new work that I am pregnant so they can get organised. I work in tax so January is our busy period and my due date is also bang in the middle of it 😂

Thanks everyone you're really kind. Best of luck for yours x

Sorry it didn't tag @User22 x

I have the same - scan is on Tuesday because their dating is just based on first day of last period, which would put me at 12 weeks that day, but I know my cycle was 37 days (it was longer but regular!) so the nhs calculator puts me at 10+4 for that day.

Crazy that the system the trust uses for self referral doesn’t just use the nhs calculator…

theoretically the dating/nuchal scan can be done any time between 10 and 14 weeks according to the nhs website so hopefully will be fine 🤷‍♀️ If they make me come back I might as well set up a camp bed, I’m in and out so much now they’ve decided I need to be on levothyroxine while pregnant 😂

Completely agree about a sling being so useful. One tip though - as people are all different shapes and have different preferences etc, a sling that works really well for one person may not work for another. Many areas will have an NCT sling library where you can try several, get one fitted and hire it for a week or so to see what works for you. Also really helpful to get them to advise on the proper position for baby. They are quite an investment to buy so I found it great to be able to try first. I have a kahu baby which I love both because it’s comfy and because it comes in lots of pretty patterns!!

So many women have symptoms that disappear and are fine so it’s annoying when you go on pregnancy sites and they say things definitively that your symptoms should be increasing for week X. I’m sure it worries a lot needlessly.

Yep @ThomasinaLivesHere I had no idea that symptoms could just disappear (most of mine went by 8 weeksish although have been very tired and gag reflex terrible) and it could be fine. Last time I was so nauseous right up to the 12 week scan but I'd had a miscarriage - so symptoms/no symptoms are a really REALLY unreliable guide.

Can someone send a link to the FB group? would love to join now if possible

Oh wow, how funny that there is three of us all quite local. We're not actually in Shrewsbury but my 11 year old goes to school there and youngest is due to start at a school there too. We've only just bought the house we're in now but planning to move to Shrewsbury in the next few years.

@Booklover88 My younger two were both premature (32 weeks and 25 weeks) and despite finding antenatal care a bit lacking with Telford, the Neonatal team are absolutely fantastic! Hopefully you'll not need them this time but if you do you will be in very good hands 🙂