I'm pregnant again, HELP!!!!

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Hi,

HELP!

It's me again. Yes, I gave birth only 7 months ago. So I have a baby daughter and a recently turned 4 year old.

I was feeling really ill this morning. Literally just took the cheapest pregnancy test that's about two years old from my cupboard. Didn't suspect a thing.

It was positive. Thought nothing of it, sure it was wrong. Then thought again as I threw up once more.

Because I have two young DDs I wanted to make sure that I din't have an illness I could pass on to my newborn.

Purchased 14 tests from boots, range of brands, wanting to keep some for later.

Used all of them. Every single one was positive. Every single one.

I know the night it must have happened. But I was on the pill. The 99% accurate pill.

Can't be more than 4 weeks in. It's only been an hour since that 15th positive test. Choosing my options carefully.

This isn't a good time in my life right now, my cousins are at bad places and my friend's suffering from depression.

But I would never want to turn down a chance to nurture another life.

I thought I'd have kid 3 but maybe in a year or two.

If you are going to ask about the father, don't. Sure, I'll tell him of course! But it's not that kind of relationship. My DDs haven't ever even met him. He's wonderful and all, just not a father or a husband. And we're good like that.

Please reply soon. Sitting on the bedroom floor. DD1 is at nursery for another hour, DD2 is sleeping, phew.

Life's exhausting. Can I do this? Should I do this?

xxx Cora

In your case, I would look at a termination. It’s early enough you can do it by pills alone.

Im sorry you have to go through this alone

I am not sure I could ever do that. I really am someone who feels so much guilt squashing a bug. How long can I afford to wait for? Who to tell?

xxx Cora

Are you doing this alone? Is he the dad of the 7 months old as well? Honestly I’d have an abortion. It’s going to be really difficult to work in your circumstances without a lot of help.

You understand how you get pregnant right?

Thinking through family. My cousins have too much going on. My friend has depression and recently had three miscarriages so. I know that's a possibility for me too. Don't keep in touch with my brother, mum or dad much. Been to DD2's 1st party thing and DD1's 4th birthday but nothing else.

She said she's on the pill and it was a contraceptive failure, that was unnecessarily snarky.

I know. Yes, he's the dad of DD2 but not DD1. Should I call him now? Before I make any decisions.

Of course I do. I have two daughters and am not 11. I know how you get pregnant thank you.

Your child already exists - their life shouldn't be up for debate. Every child is a gift

:) To be honest, I am being grumpy too.

ODFOD.

I don’t think it’s fair to keep having kids with a disinterested father.

I know. It's not my choice, it's theirs. Before today I would of told you that I would never get an abortion, only if it was the very last resort and my life was at serious risk. It's so real.

He's the father of your second daughter who is 7 months old and he's never met her?

Everyone can share their opinion.

Would you take his feelings!wishes into consideration?
Seriously, it's early days. I'd at least see someone at an abortion clinic to discuss the procedure, you can still make up your mind later.

Ok. 1) I asked everyone to please not talk about the father.
2) He is not disinterested. Our relationship is not the thing we are discussing.

How come he's the father of your 7mo but has never met either your eldest daughter or his OWN daughter but you're pregnant again? That's very confusing.

I would say the same thing as I said to @UnaVaca to you

I don’t really see what your friends and cousins have to do with this decision. You are making a decision based on your and your immediate families welfare.

it’s totally up to you. I think you’ve just wasted a tonne of money on pregnancy tests, there is very rarely a false positive.

can you afford to have a third baby and provide it and your 2 other children with all they need? Can you cope looking after 3 alone? They ar e the important questions

So he can meet up with you for sex but not to see his own child ?

I know you say you dont want to discuss it but that’s a really weird situation

Ok, thank you. I'll call him maybe on Thursday cause DD1 and DD2 will be away.

People are naturally going to ask these questions because it's a very unusual situation

Read the message to @UnaVaca

How reductive