Due December 2023 part 3

[Justanothercyster]

Starting a new thread as I can't see one, but if there is one please let me know! Will tag as many people as I can remember below

Just went to the toilet to ‘move my bowels’ and when I wiped I was bleeding (from my vagina) what could this be? I’m so scared I’m starting to miscarry.

@99SR how much was it? I had bleeding the other night at 8w+2 but it was just that one wipe and all fine since (no pain either).

Id say if it continues call the EPU - otherwise the bowel movement might have just strained things a bit. I get spotting like that post a bowel movement before my period and my gp said it’s normal.

Just one wipe. Been to the toilet twice since to check and there is nothing. No real pains just the niggles in my sides I’ve been feeling the entire pregnancy. I’m 10+2 today.

@99SR that sounds like mine. I was terrified but I think a one off like that is ok, as scary as it is!

My scan went well! Measuring at 8+5 which is about right. Saw the little hands/paddles moving too which was lovely! Bit of relief for a few weeks now

@Mushroo I struggled to bond until my little boy was three months old, I know that may make me sound awful but it's the truth

@DaisyMay25 that you for your honesty, that’s actually quite reassuring. So many things online make it seem like I should be super bonded already and I’m just not - even references to ‘the baby’ feel odd!

@Charlielechat thats great news! So pleased for you 😀

Just to reassure people I bonded with dd1 immediately on finding out I was pregnant, but with dd2 it was much harder (rainbow baby after a late loss).

I remember googling adoption agencies when she was two days old thinking I couldn't love her and I remember crying to husband when she was 6 weeks old saying I felt like I was caring for somebody else's baby and I cared about her but didn't love her. By the time she was 3 months old I was besotted and I have the closest bond with her now (she's 4).

So basically, even if you don't bond in pregnancy , nor get that rush of love at birth, it doesn't mean you never will so be kind to yourself

@Mushroo with my first pregnancy in covid I was totally unattached. 100% convinced there would be no baby, that something would go wrong and therefore there was no point in even trying to get attached. It was only really late on that k started to really feel positive and that she might survive and be a real person. I think the health anxiety at the time really fed into it as well.

so don’t feel bad and know that it doesn’t make you a bad person or parent. I found it easier once it was a wriggling little body in ther (though that was weird as well)!

Hi, may I join?

I'm due December 12th xx Currently about 11 weeks pregnant

Hi ladies,

I hope it's ok that I'm joining in! Currently 10+4 (after 3 recurrent mc's) with my first and feeling a little worried. Had a scan at 7+2 and all looked great with a HB of 140bpm.

I have been pretty lucky so far that I haven't had too many debilitating symptoms.. waves of nausea (but no sickness), fatigue, sore boobs, peeing in the night etc. but have been mostly manageable. Last weekend we were out for a friends birthday dinner and the whole meal I felt like I was fighting not to throw up at the sight and smell of the food on the table. The day after was worse and I felt absolutely awful all day. Then all of a sudden, come Monday, my symptoms calmed right down and since then have been much like they were at the start of my pregnancy. Boobs still sore, still quite tired but the nausea has calmed down a lot and I'm not getting up in the night to pee. I am now just terrifying myself that this is a sign that I'm miscarrying again (with previous mc's symptoms disappeared 2-3 days before bleeding started). Although my symptoms haven't disappeared, I'm worried that due to me being further along, it would take longer for them to entirely disappear in the event of another miscarriage. I know the placenta can begin to take over around now but that seems like way too logical of a solution for my dramatic brain😂

I know this sounds completely irrational, and I'm annoying myself by worrying about it (I am usually not a worrier!) but I just can't shake this niggling feeling.

Has anyone else's symptoms all but disappeared around 10 weeks?

My symptoms havent disappeared entirely but I've lost couple of pounds this week due to sickness and I'm not showing a bump at all. I'll be 12 weeks on Saturday and still got a week until my scan and getting more and more stressed that something will go wrong. Just wish I could enjoy this time.

@wannabemum38 I feel for you! It's such a difficult time, isn't it? And I don't think it gets any less difficult until you can feel them wriggling around in there. But the sickness sounds like a good sign, if nothing else!

Thanks for the support ladies! ❤️

Got my 12 week scan at 2 this afternoon... So so excited but so nervous!! Going by previous scans I'm somewhere between 11+5 and 12 weeks exactly today... Hoping little one will be measuring on track to that!

Does anyone know how long the appointment lasts? It's been 5 and a half years since my last 12 week scan so I really can't remember 😅 do you have bloods taken afterwards? I had all the tests last time but I really don't remember having bloods taken 🤔

Also... For anyone struggling to bond, don't feel guilty! It's normal! My daughter was unplanned with a "friend" and for the longest time I didn't really know if I truly wanted to keep her... I didn't really bond with her until she was I'd say, around 6 months old. I had postnatal depression and didn't have a partner and was living on my own with her and I really, really struggled. She's 5 now and my little best friend and abolsute world! And I know she's going to be an amazing big sister 😍
Don't feel guilty for any feelings you have/don't have... It'll pass 🤍x

Mine was really quick! They were ready for me when I arrived, even though I was early, and I was scanned straight away. Left the screen off until they saw baby and heartbeat (literally all of 2 seconds) then showed me baby, got some pics, looked around at ovaries etc. I was down sat in the phlebotomy department for my bloods by the the time my appointment was supposed to start.

@FlyingHighFlyingLow wow that's amazing! I've read online the scan usually takes about 20 mins, but that sounds really long? Then I wasn't sure about bloods... Wasn't sure whether to book my daughter into after school club for an hour or 2 hours 😂😂x

I'm having a really hard week this week (10+1 today). I've been nasueas and sick since week 6 but it's really ramped up this week. Vomiting like 3 times a day, feeling nauseas and exhausted the rest of the time. I wfh and can be quite flexible in my role but have been off last 2 days. Ive not been "out" in weeks as every smell is like a kick to the stomach. Its miserable and it feels like there is no end in sight 😔 fair play to anyone who has been through this and had a second child. At the moment I can't fathom how i would ever put myself through this again. Sorry to be a bit of a downer.

I promise it gets easier.
We all forget how awful it was is the honest answer. From the tiredness and sickness to the labour.
I know it is a cliche but you honestly forget about it.
The body can't remember pain and all of those bad things, it's like they didn't happen when you start feeling your baby kick and when you get to hold them.
I remember walking round the car park of the maternity hospital saying my DH was never coming near me again and how did our mums do this 3 times each lol.
You've got this! A few more weeks and hopefully you will start to feel better. Xx

@Kaspery8 have you had medication at all? If not I really suggest you try. I’m on my 4th option and this one is the first to have worked. I’ve been miserable for the last few weeks until I’ve found something to keep the nausea at bay.

the meds are making me very drowsy but I’m told that does settle down a bit later on. Please don’t suffer in silence. There’s about 9 different drugs they can try.

Sorry I've been a bit quiet. I've got some crampy pains today (11 weeks) Anyone else had this? I had cramping earlier on but not for a number of weeks now. I tried calling EPU but they're shut and A and E seems a bit drastic 🤔

@Rainbowdust557 I had a few cramps last night felt bit like period pain but not as intense. I'm almost 12 weeks I believe its quite normal uteurus stretching and that. If it's sharp pain with bleeding then that's more concerning. If it continues and your concerned try calling EPU tomorrow.

@Rainbowdust557

I've had cramping since before I even found out I was pregnant, some days it's worse than others but scan yesterday showed a healthy 13 week baby so try not to worry.

Also with my previous late miscarriage I had no cramps at all until they induced Labour.

Agree with pp it's most likely your uterus stretching

@Mushroo @DaisyMay25 I was the same with bonding with my son... Didn't feel the love for him until around 3 months old. I felt so guilty about it but it can be normal, people just don't talk about it. For me I don't really understand how anyone can feel love for a baby in the womb... Especially when it makes you feel so bloody ill! (Obviously people are all different and some people do feel love for unborn babies). I'm hoping the love happens sooner after birth with this one, but if it doesn't i won't be so hard on myself as I now know it will come!

@Oldermum84 thank you for sharing!

I didn't even kiss him until he was three months either, even on my birth plan it said to not give him to me until I asked. I didn't want him just forced onto me. He went straight to my husband (once clean) which made sense to me as I carried him for nine months it was his turn.
Luckily I was under the perinatal mental health team and they made me feel so normal, it's so hard when in tv everyone seems to have this instant overwhelming love for their baby.