Due October 2023 - thread 4

[Soda123x]

Hi all another new thread as the last one filled up fast again.
8wks3 here according to early scan. This may change at the 12 weeks scan xx

@LaVitesse2022 I've always explained to people I struggle with the word sorry/accepting apologies.
As a kid you're never pushed over by a big brother or food nicked off your plate by a little sister. With mum then kneeling down and telling them to say sorry, and then asking if you accept their apology.
So now if someone's malicious (I understand mistakes) I literally just cut them off like they're nothing 😂
I've never had to understand what sorry means so don't be a dick and we'll get on fine. Boyfriend is one of 6 boys so the complete opposite to me. I've lived a very quiet life with a dog as my best friend

Ladies, wait until you have a huge bump and then DtD, that’s when it gets really weird 😂 although my partner wouldn’t last time as he was seriously creeped out by the thought!
I always thought I wanted loads of kids, like 4 or 5 but now I’m pregnant with number 2, I really think this will be my last. Motherhood is EXHAUSTING!

Hello! Marking my place 💜

I’m 8+2 with my 2nd one. Today, for the 1st time since finding out, I was hungry, so I guess the nausea is starting to ease, or maybe I’m just having a good day. I do, however, have strong aversion to coffee (coffee lover, 1-2 cups/day) and some of my other favourite food…

I'm 36. 8+5 pregnant with #2. Had DS at 33.

Deffo pros and cons to having babies young & older. Personally I was never in any rush in my younger years to have children. I have lived a very full life. Holidays, worked abroad, career, married, home owner etc ......
But tbh when is the perfect time ? I have friends who made amazing mummies when they were only 16/17 themselves. Age is just a number. As long as the baby is well looked after and loved that's all that matters xx

@Soda123x difference is when you have a child young they grow up as almost a friend.
Lots of my peer group at school had kids pretty young and now their kids are driving them round and they're having drinking selfies.
And here's little old me still obsessed with my dog 😂😂😂😂

@Soda123x not a bad difference I'll add.
But maybe that's because my mates who have had kids in their 30's still have toddlers 😂

I’m currently 10+2, with my rainbow baby following a miscarriage in December. I had an early scan a few weeks ago due to some issues I’d been having and was beyond happy to see a little 8wk jellybean with a nice strong heartbeat. I have a scan this week and I’m ridiculously nervous about it.

Today is the first time I’ve actually wanted to eat something despite being constantly hungry, really struggling with the nausea, I’ve been happily living off plain foods and seem to do nothing but sleep.

@Alexandra07 and @SnookyPook - your write ups on being older mums are really lovely - thanks for sharing. I'm 38, will be turning 39 during the pregnancy if all goes well with the little one. For me being older is definitely mostly upside, but I could see there being thing that would be a delight as a young parent. The main one is that it would be nice to feel like you had time to breath between kids instead of feeling like you have to have them in as quick a succession as you can bear. Anyways, young and with kids was never the way my life was going to go, and it works for me, too.

@Ss32 we thought the same after DC2, but here I am, doing it again!

HUGELY underestimated how tired I'd be this pregnancy though, first time was easy, second was during lockdown so although worrying, there was no work (teacher so signed off the second the government said it was dangerous!) and got to spend all day with DC1 gardening and crafting...this time round with DC5 & 2, and working is killing me.

Was sat playing with DC2 earlier and could feel myself falling asleep at 2pm - I miss caffeine! 🥲

Has anyone had more than one early scan? I had one at 7 weeks and I'm trying to talk myself out of getting one on Wednesday when I will be 10+2. My symptoms are easing (which should be nice to feel normal-ish again) but it's causing me such anxiety

I've had 2, one at 7 weeks and one at 10 weeks which was part of the fetal harmony test.

@VictoriaBlossom @LaVitesse2022 do you mind sharing why as only child you want to have at least two children? I would like to see your perspective. I never thought about the sorry situation before, interesting to hear that. I have a brother, and although we could not stand each other for long periods, I think the daily friction/life and compromises we both had to do, taught us something. And when we are not around, my DD will not be by herself My DH has a sister but he would be happy just to have only one.

@Alexandra07 i think only children are wired differently, we are thrust in to an adults world because our company are adults.
I wouldn't say it's a bad thing, I've been very successful and driven in my career because I have a straight focus that I think I learned very early from my parents.
I struggled with making friends when I moved schools and started with no one, was left quite bullied and alone. And I used to think, I really wish I had a big brother or sister to teach me about what to expect. I mean yeah it's a lot on the older sibling, but it's just having someone that isn't your mum or dad to vibe from.
Im definitely not a spoiled brat, and I feel parents of only children are so aware of not wanting a stereotypical spoiled brat, they push us into being the complete opposite.
I'm an empath who will absolutely sacrifice their own self happiness to please others, whether that is to do with my dad being an abusive narcissist too, maybe.
But every only child I know, is an empath filled with self doubt. Complex beings in my mind,
Ok maybe a bit deep and emotional for a mn reply but that's why I don't want an only child, cos I would hope they won't end up as emotionally complex as me

@firstlittlefrazzleontheway I had one at 8 weeks last week, and I'm tempted to have another in a week or so. It depends on your finances I suppose. I don't think £65 is too bad for peace of mind.

@blebbleb they're only £50 in my area but I feel like my partner will say I'm being silly and wasting money if I tell him I want another (especially with my nhs scan being a week on Thursday) but because I'm panicking the anxious side of me is saying "what if I get there and somethings wrong then what will I do because he doesn't know I went"

Omg ladies I’ve just weighed myself and I’ve put on half a stone 😱

Nice to see so many in their later 30's here! I've just turned 36.. we've been trying for 5 years, so as time ticked on I got really worried I was 'getting too old'. That and my daughter kept asking for a sibling and there will now be a nearly 8 year age gap 😕

Anyway, major scanxiety for me this morning- 9+6 today, and found out 2 weeks ago it was twins but massive difference between the size of both, though both had a heartbeat, so I have to go and see of it's stopped growing and been reabsorbed, or still there, or my worst nightmare that both have stopped growing. Though the bigger twin was measuring exactly the date it should, so I hope that's not the case. Bricking it.

Me too and wasn't skinny to start with !!

@BeaKind so have I 🙈😂

Morning ladies, for those of you that have had your booking appointment and bloods taken, have you got your blood results back? And if so, how did you get them?

I had my booking appointment a week ago but my midwife was unwell so I saw a temp midwife. I’m sure it’s all fine but I haven’t had the bloods back. Assuming no news is good news, but I know for sure I am rhesus negative which would have come back in the bloods but no one has contacted me yet. What’s everyone else experience been?
For those of you that are rhesus negative did your midwife call you?

@Hopefulx in my area we have a app for all our appointments and any messages/ test results all go on there. I am also Rhesus Negative and have to have bloods at 16 weeks to check baby’s blood group. And then an Anti D at 28/40 weeks if baby is positive. Do you not have a email address for your midwife that you could just query it? X
@firstlittlefrazzleontheway do whatever eases your mind. I’m only 9 weeks but have had 2 scans with the EPU as had some cramps and with previous MMC I felt extremely anxious. I do feel the same if I’m honest. When I’m having a good day with symptoms I think oh no somethings up. But I just have to remind myself this can happen. Someone on here recommended doing affirmations and this really helps my anxiety.

Girls I’m after some advice though…. How do you brush your teeth? I’m throwing up every time and becoming really put off brushing my teeth!

@Fifianne I have to take a deep breath then hold my breath while I brush my teeth- also have to take breaths as I'm constantly gipping

@Hopefulx my results were uploaded to the nhs app within 48 hours and had the phone call about sickle cell after 72 hours

@Elttek best of luck for your scan. Hoping for good news for you ❤️

@firstlittlefrazzleontheway I've paid for 2 scans at £80 each. IMO it's worth it to have peace of mind and my husband understand how anxious I am after 2 MC's. Try to explain how you're feeling. If you can afford it £50 is a very good price for peace of mind xx

@Alexandra07 for me it's not so much that I'm worried about the personality of an only child or that I think an only child is lacking when it comes to character. I think I turned out fine and my parents didn't spoil me, quite the contrary. It's just that an only child doesn't get to experience sibling love which is a very specific type of love and companionship. I would like to give my children that, even though I know it's not guaranteed and families fall out and yada yada. I was lucky enough to have very close cousins so that has filled the gap somewhat. But my child/ren won't have that luck (as I'm an only child!) as my partner's sisters live in different countries. So they'll be more dependent on our nuclear family and I'd like that to be a decent size to provide different relationships - hence the 3 children.

@Hopefulx I had my bloods done on Sunday and got the results yesterday through a website Patient Knows Best. I registered and there they were! I'm also rhesus negative so will have to have the anti D injection sometime after 28 weeks. Midwife said not so much to protect this baby but to protect future ones if my body starts creating antibodies to fight a positive baby, chance os miscarriage in future pregnancies increases.