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Due October 2023 - thread 3

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Soda123x · 01/03/2023 02:37

Hi everyone the thread seemed to fill up fast.
Here's a new one to keep us going ❤ xx

Currently 6+2 think due 23rd October #2
No major symptoms apart from tonight I have extreme restless leg syndrome and insomnia 🙈 xx

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LWestYorks · 06/03/2023 15:01

Has anyone got no patience for their other half? He’s actually asked me today if I want to be with him because I keep snapping at him and just look unhappy 🤣 I don’t think he understands that’s I’m just exhausted and feel bleurgh!

Parisbluecat · 06/03/2023 15:33

Hi all, anybody got any experiences taking progesterone? My obgyn prescribed it to "help the embryo stay put" since i have had some spotting which is a threatened miscarriage. However, I´ve read that progesterone doesn´t really do anything? I would be worried about potential secondary effects (constipation, drowsiness, sore breasts), wondering whether anyone has any views?

Parisbluecat · 06/03/2023 15:35

LWestYorks · 06/03/2023 15:01

Has anyone got no patience for their other half? He’s actually asked me today if I want to be with him because I keep snapping at him and just look unhappy 🤣 I don’t think he understands that’s I’m just exhausted and feel bleurgh!

It might help to get him one of those books meant for dads where they explain the ordeals that we pregnant moms are going through week by week (and how to take care of us during this difficult period). My partner got two such books and we found them quite helpful.
Some good communication would help: explaining to him that your hormones are all over the place, that you are experiencing also physical discomfort and that you will snap at anyone - he just happening to be the nearest target most of the time.

Koalawhala · 06/03/2023 15:56

@Parisbluecat I have never taken it but I saw an acupuncturist during my last pregnancy after a few miscarriages and when I started spotting she told me to go to my gp for some progesterone. GP looked at me like I was crazy though, and wouldn’t prescribe so maybe not the norm in the Uk? I think there are mixed findings of whether it works

Midnight00 · 06/03/2023 15:57

@SillyOldBear3 Good top about testing, I'm trying to resist. I've had a really similar scare this morning - the tiniest of pink in discharge first thing. All day I've expected more blood but nothing atm. I also feel like I'm imaging cramps, it's hard to know what real and what's not. I've got my booking appt later this week, so going to hope I get through till then at least 🤞

Koalawhala · 06/03/2023 15:59

@LWestYorks I was like this during my first pregnancy, I just found him so annoying. I bought him a pregnancy for men book but it didn’t go down well! Not feeling like that this time round, I’m only 6 weeks though so there is still time!

Pregnancy brings such big changes mentally and physically though and hormones can really mess with our emotions x

LWestYorks · 06/03/2023 16:30

@Parisbluecat @Koalawhala ill look into a book - thanks! Although I’m not sure how well it’ll go down 🤣 I just feel like I have no patience with him…he’s useless around the house too which pisses me off! I’m 8+4 and the last week is where my hormones have really started to mess with my emotions.

EMcG3 · 06/03/2023 16:41

@LaVitesse2022 - no car here, have an older child (3, doesn't like walking/other modes of propulsion). We are on London, maybe 20 meters from the entrance of a tube station and 8-14 minutes from busses that go other places. We have always primarily used a pram/buggy. I haul the pram, with my daughter in it, up and down the stairs of the tube all the damn time. Like, probably 12 staircases every weekend. For this, I strongly recommend a yo-yo. It is light, you can carry it yourself if you are relatively strong. It is also narrow enough to go on escalators and not block the walking half. I must say that because of the pandemic I never took baby with bassinet on the tube, but I am willing to bet I would have done the same, so long as the bassinet felt securely attached. Yo-yos are fine to navigate on the bus, though sometimes the gap is a bit big to get on, but again, then you life the whole thing up, baby and all, and put it on the bus. We walk miles with that thing. It is not the most sturdy pram out there, but in my opinion it does a very good job for city life.

You can get little fold up travel car seats when they get older (I don't know exactly, but I reckon less than 6 months probably wouldn't work for little fold up guys) and we use those when we travel, but I cannot underscore strongly enough how infrequently we drive, and how this infrequency contributes to my relative ambivalence about whether they are the safest thing to use. When we go to my in-laws (a few times a year, extremely car oriented society) she has a proper car seat, partly because they would not hear otherwise, and partly because she has a same aged niece who lives next door to the parents in law. When we have visited my parents (once per year), again, very car oriented place, I think my mom has borrowed a car seat from a neighbour.

We borrowed a newborn baby car seat from a friend. I would have otherwise bought a used one from a source I felt was fairly reputable (someone I work with, someone at the nursery) because, given how infrequently we used it, say, 4 times driving slowly on London, that risk profile was fine for me. I would feel differently if I drove even, say, monthly, with a baby in the car.

I think the best way to think about it is to really assess how you live your life, how often you go places, how muddy the places you go are (yo-yo wheels suck at mud), what options you have for borrowing car seats, and then make a decision from there. Your mobility system could look really, really different from other peoples/advice online, and that is fine! Make sure and the way you think about storage, ease of clipping a car seat in, robustness of pram, size of pram, weight of pram, agrees with the life you actually live. Also, you can legally take a baby in pram in a black cab without a car seat if the only thing you are worried about us getting home from a hospital. I hope that helps!

EMcG3 · 06/03/2023 16:46

Oh, I didn't comment on the sling. Some babies like it, ours hated it. We therefore have basically always used a pram. It depends on your kid. Also, they get heavy before they are necessarily keen on walking. You may be able to find a local sling library where you can try on a bunch of different slings and see what you find comfortable. Again, your baby will have a preference around sling types that may not match yours.

Parisbluecat · 06/03/2023 16:52

LWestYorks · 06/03/2023 16:30

@Parisbluecat @Koalawhala ill look into a book - thanks! Although I’m not sure how well it’ll go down 🤣 I just feel like I have no patience with him…he’s useless around the house too which pisses me off! I’m 8+4 and the last week is where my hormones have really started to mess with my emotions.

In any event, I would not recommend just presenting him with a book out of the blue, but rather talk to him in terms of what your impressions are (I have the impression that I do most of the work in the house, and I am already so tired growing a baby inside my body), and then also tell him how this makes you feel (disrespected, neglected, sad, unloved...). As part of a potential solution if he really does want to make a change and do SOMETHING (since you´ll be doing the bulk of the work by growing the baby, giving birth to it, possibly breastfeeding it afterwards, etc) you can then discuss ways for him to get involved and maybe a book can help.
It can be the case that men feel alienated from pregnancy/childbirth (as they are not the ones doing it and don´t see how they can help), and you can help him understand how he can be involved and support the baby and you (for instance, by doing household chores when you dont have the energy, by helping you eat healthy, etc).

I also read about a book called "Fair Play" that comes with a set of cards. Each card has a household chore in it, and the idea is that each person takes the cards for the chores they do. You can then compare your respective piles of cards (usually the woman ends up with twice or three times the size). Quite eye-opening.

SillyOldBear3 · 06/03/2023 16:52

@Midnight00 Hope everything's OK, I was exactly the same last night, almost imagining cramps. So far I've been fine today. I think lots of women have light spotting early on, so try not to panic (easier said than done!) How far along are you?

Elttek · 06/03/2023 17:00

SillyOldBear3 · 06/03/2023 16:52

@Midnight00 Hope everything's OK, I was exactly the same last night, almost imagining cramps. So far I've been fine today. I think lots of women have light spotting early on, so try not to panic (easier said than done!) How far along are you?

Can I join the spotters club 😣 I had some a couple of weeks ago which lasted 10 days, then it stopped for nearly a week, then I had some more last night and this morning. It's always (so far) been light brown and scant. But feel like I'm imagining cramps today- so hard to tell if they're real or wind, or just psychological. Already have a scan booked for tomorrow morning since the last spotting episode, so so scared they'll find a MC 😣

EMcG3 · 06/03/2023 17:29

@Parisbluecat - awesome advice.

We had a spreadsheet where we set out all the chores /baby raising tasks, then assigned them and tried to make the time spent relatively even. Made everything more visible and quelled my burning rage while (relatively) fairly redistributing work. Would recommend addressing it pre-birth as post-birth you may not be less emotional.

Needtobuildabridge · 06/03/2023 17:43

@LWestYorks If a book isn't right for you, there are loads of Apps. My husband downloaded one called 'Daddy Up' which gives a week by week guide to what's going on, as well as how we might be feeling. I remember week 6 saying something like "With all of the extra blood in her pelvic region, she is going to need the toilet more regularly. Yes she did just go, and no she can't hold it!" It made us laugh, but also helped that a 'man app' was explaining things for him.

I've spent the afternoon in A&E after being sent there by my midwife. I took a blow to the stomach this morning and I've been cramping since. The first available scan appointment is Wednesday 😫. It's going to be a long wait.

SillyOldBear3 · 06/03/2023 17:59

@Elttek it's so stressful isn't it! Brown spotting is apparently very common though. I know exactly what you mean about cramps, I feel like mine are most probably psychological! I've tried to keep busy today and also stopped myself from Googling as that was making me anxious. No spotting today and still have the usual sore boobs. Keep us updated about your scan tomorrow! xx

katherine123x · 06/03/2023 18:03

@Needtobuildabridge rest up as much as you can!!!!!! Will have everything crossed for you x

PastyPrincess · 06/03/2023 18:03

@Parisbluecat I've taken progesterone pessaries with both my pregnancies (currently 10w). I got offered it as I have pcos and the doctor mentioned sometimes progesterone levels can be lower. I think progesterone was measured as part of initial appointment and came back okay/lower end of normal so I will stay on until 12weeks or so. Friends with the same doctor have been prescribed it based on previous MCs. I didn't find anything against taking it so I will continue. No side affects for me.

SillyOldBear3 · 06/03/2023 18:26

@Needtobuildabridge oh no! Hope you're OK, have plenty of rest. Can't believe they can't scan you until Wednesday 😞 take care xx

Chanteuse · 06/03/2023 18:27

@HistoryFanatic no plans for an early scan here! I am 9w today.

I have my booking in appt tomorrow morning so hopefully she will give me my scan date 🥰

Midnight00 · 06/03/2023 19:05

@SillyOldBear3 I'm 9wks. I've not had anything else since this morning so just going to keep a careful eye. Reminds you how quickly things could change though.
@Elttek Oh, what a worrying time. Fingers crossed for your scan - from what I've heard it's normal to spot and doesn't necessary mean MC

Midnight00 · 06/03/2023 19:07

@Needtobuildabridge Gosh, that's a wait. Hopefully it will go quickly and all will be fine.

PrimarilyParented · 06/03/2023 19:26

@Elttek it is stressful. After going to the EPU last weekend when the bleeding started I’ve had tinged CM all week and am trying to just accept that I’m someone who spots in early pregnancy, but honestly it is still worrying me.

@Needtobuildabridge i am so sorry to hear that happened, I really hope everything is ok. Wednesday is so far away but hopefully by then the cramps will have stopped and all will be well.

Alexandra07 · 06/03/2023 19:45

@BeaKind you can give any date you want. I would probably go for the corrected date so that I actually have a scan at 12 weeks instead of 10, I would like to feel confident the first trimester is over and Everything is ok. The 12 week pictures are also nicer.

I got spotting the last few days too. Just once per day on the paper. Twice i noticed it twice. I can't stop thinking that's a matter of time that this is short mc but I try to be positive, as far as I know I am still pregnant! I got a dye stealer today with a cheapie, stronger than last time I tested, something to give me hope. I had no bleeding at all with my DD, so hard to get spotting now.

Elttek · 06/03/2023 20:02

Alexandra07 · 06/03/2023 19:45

@BeaKind you can give any date you want. I would probably go for the corrected date so that I actually have a scan at 12 weeks instead of 10, I would like to feel confident the first trimester is over and Everything is ok. The 12 week pictures are also nicer.

I got spotting the last few days too. Just once per day on the paper. Twice i noticed it twice. I can't stop thinking that's a matter of time that this is short mc but I try to be positive, as far as I know I am still pregnant! I got a dye stealer today with a cheapie, stronger than last time I tested, something to give me hope. I had no bleeding at all with my DD, so hard to get spotting now.

I did a cheapie last night too, and it was a pretty good dye stealer. How many weeks are you? I had no bleeding with my daughter either, which makes me worry more.
I'm hoping it's just my irritable cervix- I get spotting a few days before my period too, and spotted for ages after my HSG, twice as long as they said I should. Will find out tomorrow anyway. Luckily the hospital is an hour away so heading off straight after school run and won't have long to wait.

VictoriaBlossom · 06/03/2023 20:13

Anyone with low symptoms getting symptoms yet?
Hunger is the only thing I'm getting daily. Sensitive nips.
Working back at 7w2d I think

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