August Due Date Crew - Trimester 2 (Thread 7)

[AnnieApple123]

As always, newbies are most welcome.

Apologies if I’ve missed anyone. Do shout if so. Ditto if you have any changes or updates.

July
26th @MidnightSunshine12
27th
28th
29th @DesertSnow @Mulner88 @Porcupette @Loudmouth1 & @overwork
30th
31st @AnnieApple123 & @BusyBushBaby

August
1st* *@ChloeN @CityKity & @SnowL2021
2nd @sprollie11
3rd @PumpkinEverything @Chl0o@Miraclesdohappen88 & @LS88
4th @BMK @Alpacabag22
@Amme18 & @UsernameNotPresent
5th @LBF2020 @Desperatelyboredhousewife & @BoodifulGoose
6th@buttercupbee@somuchtolearnabout @Rowanandremy & @TattyTil
7th @marleyandme
8th @RGxo13
9th
10th @VickiGo& @Sjw30
11th @tax19@nadsc& @@Rose05
12th
13th @sally16 @newmummie & @@Nic2908
14th
15th @Gizzyanne
16th @Recoba
17th @Narwhal88, @jollydollyirl& @cococat88
18th @sommeliermama& @EsmeSusanOgg
19th @Firsttimemomma1 @P1pk& @allgoodthings84
20th
21st @BCxx
22nd
23rd @MinnieFirstTimeMum
24th
25th @unluckyinlife
26th @MummaYoung2023 & @Wife2b
27th
28th
29th
30th
31st

September
1st @froglou

Also @SkullCollector. Apologies, I don’t have a date for you yet.

I m 18 weeks with my second baby and I always had nausea and dizziness, all of sudden it has stopped I know it's normal for symptoms to go away at 18 weeks but I haven't felt movements yet! So I m bit worried something is going to be wrong 😑

Hello Everyone,
I m 17+5 weeks pregnant with my second baby and my due date is August 28th!!

@CityKity totally! I wanted to do it last time but it was still kind of covid so thought I didn’t really want to have everyone round. I still ended up having all those people round in twos though and it was one of the worst things about the recovery after my section 🙈 I can’t let myself just look a state so got dressed and makeup on every time and tried to wear something that didn’t make me look like a burst couch but it’s exactly how I felt! Would rather just get all that out the way in one go! 😂

I think you've got on a great idea there between you! My flat is far too small to have an open house and a BBQ is obviously out if the question too, so perhaps we should have a picnic in the park, come along if / when you like, and meet the baby.
I wish whoever mentioned sushi hadn't, that is now all I want.
Hi @Shinea

@BCxx brilliant idea with the BBQ! Totally going to borrow that idea and have a bbq open house day with no pressure to turn up if people don’t want to!

I like the bbq idea too! Genius x

@BCxx Im the same and don’t like to be in a state for company, so having to pull myself together for one social is perfect!

@overwork sorry for mentioning sushi! If you’re close, Wasabi does do passable vegan sushi which does help with cravings! Apparently you can still eat very high quality sushi pregnant (according to a friend) but tbh it’s not worth the risk for me.

Welcome @shinea! @DesertSnow is doing the list for the next thread and I’m sure will see this and add you.

I’m another who wouldn’t be keen to have a baby shower for lots of the reasons mentioned. My friends are so scattered these days it would probably have to be on Zoom anyway. And @ChloeN you're not alone - I think they depress quite a lot of people.

@BCxx I actually loved having a baby in lockdown and having so much time to focus on just getting to know him without the distraction of others around. I’m honestly quite keen to recreate those conditions as far as possible this time too, mad as that may sound. I know everyone is different though. There was a girl in my baby group who said she’d thrived on the constant stream of visitors and party atmosphere with her first.

Had my 20 week scan , all looked good and baby had he arm under her chin .

Oh my goodness @BCxx BBQ is such a good idea!! Also your description of being anti social to non immediate friends etc!*same; but probably same for everyone! It's enough to recover and adjust to life with new baby without the male traipsing through; and teh worst is when.you end up kind of entertaining: "would you like tea,how many sugars/milk,anything with it" and trying to be presentable and cheery yourself and trying to clean house etc when again: exhausted!

@AnnieApple123 re working vs SAHM: I'm not surprised at all and actually quite excited (probably wrong term) that you got so inspired/ignited by those interactions. I did say earlier that you're one of the most organised people I have encountered just by the level and extent of things you seem on top of and have researched and your references to all your notes even of your previous pregnacies. You're almost a pregnancy oracle so the attention to detail translates perfectly for those kind of professions etc and are v brain/detail heavy. Would you not do some online degree or start it online and then launch yourself into it. Or you're the perfect person to start your own business just re the level of organisation and ability to multitasking!*perhaps not starting it with new baby,but you know what I mean.

without the malee traipsing through is what I meant to say above.and I didn't mean the bold text!
@CityKity thank you for well wishes and congratulations on yours and I'm amazed at you and @Amme18 and @AnnieApple123 and anyone else who's holding out until the big day to find out!! I could barely wait until yesterday so definitely don't have your willpower! Congratulations on your positive scansrelief all around including @buttercupbee and @newmummie.

I know we all get what is right for us in the little soul and character that comes to us and whereas I always wanted a girl in my past 2 pregnancies both were boys and I have to say they are just the most angelic beautiful little shiny,happy souls who can't do enough to help and they exude joy and wonder including picking me flowers at every opportunity and landing kisses on me. However I am absolutely delighted!!!!!! to find out that this baby is likely a girl!!!! I know others have said that this shouldn't matter but it does to me. I have always wanted a girl and every time I look at the girl clothes with noone to buy them for and my other half doesn't want another child so that would be a big issue with us if this were another boy,so am so very delighted. Sonographer couldn't say 100% and said maybe penis could be tucked up or hidden but even I thought I could see 3 lines and no sign of anything else. She did say girl a few times but also said couldn't be 100% ,but I'm taking it for now. Also,if it were boy I would still be happy and looking forward to having him, but to finally get a girl is amazing!(hopefully!*also as all boys in OH's family so odds were against!)

Sainsbury's Tu have 20% off baby stuff until tomorrow night on their website (not sure about in store) just incase anybody wanted to get any bits x

The stories of all these constant visitors with first babies is making me feel lucky we had ours during lockdown!! I was basically topless for weeks doing skin to skin and mastering breastfeeding... Not sure how I'll do when people want to visit...

@MinnieFirstTimeMum the Sainsburys offer is in store as well! Plus I had a 500 point voucher with £20 TU spend and there’s £9 off £90 spend on the nectar app! Was quite a savvy shop all in. Picture of some of the baby clothes we got!

@BMK glad it’s not just me! Aw totally. We had a family gathering to go to today (my husband’s side) and everyone was having a few drinks. It was one of those things where you’re mingling in the kitchen and there’s only so many times you can make the same small talk but we haven’t seen them in ages so felt like we had to stay a while. I was so glad of having my toddler as an excuse to leave 🙈 I don’t know if I’m worse since covid but I just get so exhausted at those kinds of social things. When you’re drunk you wouldn’t think twice about it but when you’re sat there yawning and sober it’s a long day 😬

@AnnieApple123 I was just at the tail end of it last time so felt like I didn’t really have the excuse of covid but at the same time still really didn’t want anyone to give my baby covid. I think I would secretly have loved to have had him right in the middle of the lockdown!

Welcome and congrats @Shinea, I'll add you to the list.

@newmummie congrats on your little boy! How lovely 💙I'll update you on the list when I do the new one.

@CityKity To be honest I think they could say they think they know what it is for boy or girl. Sorry they said that and made you feel a bit deflated about the surprise though.

I'm in awe of all of you on team yellow. Having been told by the sonographer that she thinks it's a girl as she couldn't see any boy bits, DH and I have booked a private scan on Thursday. I was fine when I didn't know either way but now having been told that I feel like I want confirmation one way or the other. Interesting what you said @overwork about not just using absence of male genitalia to say it's a girl - I wish I'd asked the sonographer how sure she was and if she was really just saying it because she didn't see any boy bits, or whether she meant she had seen something to indicate girl...

@DesertSnow thanks for the kind message. I’m still brooding over it and even more naffed off today to be honest. I saw a friend for lunch today, who has 2 kids (boy/girl) and found out gender both times and I asked her if the gender was obvious from the scan and she said in her case it was clear when she saw boy bits. I then told her the story and she also immediately said ‘awww congrats it must be a baby boy’. Now, I almost wished we had found out as I hate this limbo of reading so much into one stupid comment.
To make matters worse DH really wants a girl so has been in such a mood all day and I’m just so annoyed at him for it. He hasn’t had to endure any of the pregnancy, yet is miffed when it’s not going the perfect way he imagined. It’s just making me feel like a disappointment which I know is ridiculous.

@overwork I’ll continue to heed your wise words. It’s crazy how a single innocent side comment can put you in a total head spin. I’m very lucky that health wise everything looked good, which is why we have the bandwidth to focus on such a minor point, but right now this has really upset me. I’m so glad that you advise your students to have a bit more discretion!

@CityKity That sounds really hard, I'm sorry. I totally get what you mean about the limbo - when you think you might know but aren't sure. Would it be worth getting a private scan to find out and at least put your minds at rest? I know you wanted the surprise, but given that you're feeling this way, it might be worth considering? Though honestly, I do think it could go either way still. I get the whole 'it's more obvious to see boy bits' thing, but surely if you're looking in the right place and there are no obvious boy bits, surley it is almost as obvious? And didn't the student say 'I "think" I know what it is", rather than being 100% sure? (Which I imagine they would have been if they saw definitive boy bits?) I would say it's far from a foregone conclusion, but really sympathise with how you feel. That's really rubbish that your DH has been in a mood about it. I really hope you don't feel like a disappointment - you are doing something incredible that he can't even do, and he should have nothing but awe and gratitude for you. Sending good thoughts ❤

Oh love. Desert snows suggestion to have a scan for the sex might be an idea, rather than having you stewing over it for the next few months.
It will still be a surprise whenever you find out, but I'm so sorry it might not have happened the way you want it to.
As for your partner wanting a girl, I doubt he really minds that much either way, it's just a vision he has in his head. If he is that bothered, well, it's his sperm that determined the sex so the only one at fault here is him!

@CityKity just remember with her having had training could be just as much that she thought she saw girl parts! I genuinely don’t think her saying that equates to meaning boy! Still a 50/50 what she meant! If it was someone who didn’t have a clue I’d say yeah they probably meant boy bits but not someone who’s being trained on what to look for! xxx

@CityKity thats a shame it’s still playing on your mind. Maybe give yourself a bit of time then see if a private scan would be worth getting. You could go for that and they could say girl though then the surprise at the end (of what he wanted) would be spoiled early 🙈 but if it is a boy it would give him more time to imagine having a little boy. It’s funny because I think a lot of men want a boy rather than a girl! When I got the sneak peek blood test early on and it said girl, when we already have a boy, I was kind of hoping it was right, purely because as you say you’re then thinking one way so would now feel weird about someone telling you the opposite. It was right anyway but is often wrong for people. For me I just needed to know in advance with both so I fully knew who was coming 😂

Thanks ladies! I realise I’m being melodramatic over something so minor, but I just can’t shake the comment! You’re right, I think I’ll give in a week and see if we can put this behind us or whether we just go for a gender scan. I’d still love a surprise so I’ll do my best to just assume I can’t read anything into it.
@Amme18 she honestly seemed like she didn’t have clue! It was her first time observing a sonogram so was asking a lot of questions that made it clear she was very inexperienced, hence the assumption she saw boy parts. If the sonographer had said ‘we know what it is!’ as @overwork has mentioned, I would read zero into that comment as they’re highly trained to know exactly what to look for! They were amazing and only told us when to look away and when to look back.
I’m surprised DH has such a strong preference too! I truly don’t mind, but his mood is affecting mine and frankly I need to tell him to get a grip.

Anyway I hope you all have lovely relaxing Sundays!

@CityKity no I would be the same - not melodramatic at all! It’s hard enough to stay team yellow as it is. My other half also really wants a girl (we have a boy already), I genuinely don’t mind but do find his preference a bit of pressure on me like if baby comes and is a boy he’ll feel disappointed and I’ll feel like it’s my fault which I know is daft!