Just for fun - what was your 'push present'?

[AWholeNewWorls]

I'm curious! I've only just come across this term!
What did your partner/husband give you if anything? And for which number baby?

I'm pregnant with my first and our midwife mentioned it in our NCT class, specifically an eternity ring! Apparently it's quite common..? I fit in the 'millennial generation' and apparently have been living under a rock 😂

Our hospital delivered us cheese and cold meats platter after baby delivery, that was divine.
And when I went on Uber eats at the hospital, all the nearby suggestions were SUSHI!
We are in Aus and not having sushi for 9 months was harder than any other abstinence

I didn’t get anything as we had no spare money but people I knew who did got either jewellery, necklace or ring, or an expensive handbag. Something they wouldn’t have bought themselves. But now I think about it I think they were all first babies

I think it's for the gullible. Hope you enjoyed getting the gift after the birth of your baby.

Because I love flowers. Any excuse to get a bunch. I wasn't really thinking in terms of "push presents".

A lovely new handbag (i picked) and a big bunch of flowers ... loved both and certainly cheered me up after 48 hours in labour with our daughter ☺️

@AWholeNewWorls haha this is me I love celebrating literally everything!

Vulgar is an excellent word. Why do you need a monetary reward , it’s like insisting on a present every time you have a period. We’ve not done anything clever its biology. Now a celebration of a hard event over with and a new baby that seems a good idea.

For those saying they think it's tacky and silly, guaranteed they wish they had something, and a partner that thinks they did an incredible job and deserve something they love. But they don't have either, so they say it's tacky, yeah sure, clearly bitter.
No, dear. So, so wrong.

A McDonald’s breakfast the morning after my night on the postnatal ward 😋

I wouldn't expect a present. Just my husband being great and helping me out, which he did. Don't need anything else. We're comfortable but I wouldn't class us a very rich, so I would feel guilty if DH spent money on a ring I don't need.

My dad bought my mum a gorgeous ring with 4 diamonds (not using the term push present!!) representing us 4 kids. Mum had to wait a while though - she was 87!

I'm a jeweller, I'm pretty sure eternity rings have been traditional either after one year of marriage or first baby, well before social media or Instagram.
I've worked on some antique eternity rings and there are DEAREST rings (diamond, emerald, amethyst, Ruby, emerald, sapphire, tourmaline) and REGARD rings (Ruby, emerald, garnet, amethyst, Ruby, Diamond) which are usually eternity ring style.

And if the baby doesn't survive? Then what?

It really doesn't sit right with me to be like horray! The baby made it, have a gift.

MASSIVE cheese baguette from Morrisons - he's a keeper

A baby. And the massive maternity pads he had to keep going and buying for me as I couldn’t leave the house or even walk properly for days!

MN loves to be judgy on this topic, but while the term push present is new the idea of an eternity ring when you have a baby is old as the hills.

After DD1 I got an eternity ring, after DD2 we each got a new watch. Both times the present was given the following Christmas when we'd had time to catch our breath. We're financially secure and they were paid from disposable income. And I enjoyed window shopping online during night feeds!

Gifts on the occasion of a major life event are hardly a radical concept.

Nothing! Stuff like that is only really widespread among people who do NCT (tend to be quite posh / well off) and it's not representative of the general population.

I got a fancier than normal birthday present of diamond earrings the year I had DC1 and got engaged when pregnant with DC2. Kind of push presents I suppose.

My mother, when she was having my sibling 25 years ago, shared a recovery room with a woman who's husband was getting her a car- that's the first time I've ever heard of a push present. This was in a private hospital too so not exactly chavs.

A five (number of letters in baby's name) stone diamond (birthstone) ring

A Cartier Love bracelet. It's never been off my wrist since.

I didn't ask for it, and it's never been referred to as a push present.

My husband is a lovely man who wanted to give me a present. He is generous throughout the year and we are financially fortunate.

Tacky? Ok.

We didn't have baby showers or gender reveals, nor did we even find out what we were having. All I wanted was a healthy baby, which I got. The Cartier was just the icing on the cake.

A lot of jealousy here.

I got the traditional Danish mother baby bouquet. A bigger bouquet and a littler one joined by a ribbon.

My mum gave me one which I wasn't expecting. I opened the paper to find a Stuart crystal box and my hopes were high. I then opened the box to find body shop smellies, which whilst lovely is a rather long way from crystal.

I wear a charm bracelet and DP got me a charm with each child's initial for it after I'd had them.
It wasn't like a big show of giving it to me in the delivery suite or anything like that though. He just gave each one to me a couple of months after the baby had arrived just casually in passing like "oh I got you something today"

The terms awful but it’s a long standing tradition for men to show their appreciation for what the woman has put her body through, it used to be an eternity ring was very much the tradition. I’m 46 and my mother got one when she had me; when our oldest was born 23 years I got a Raymond Weill watch.

Our second was preemie and it was all such a panic I don’t remember getting anything except flowers from dh; I think traditionally it was only for the first child anyway. It’s a British tradition although the term push present most definitely isn’t, but it’s nothing to do with baby showers/ gender reveals etc. traditionally.

A house!