Due March 2023 - Thread 7

[TeddyBeans]

Lucky number 7! We were so chatty last thread that no babies arrived! Though we do have 3 on the FB group!

Role call

23/2 - @botleybump💓
24/2 -
25/2 -
26/2 - @TeddyBeans💓
27/2 - @Ubbee💙
28/2 - @BabyNumber3OnTheWay💙
1/3 - @Clarps84 💙
2/3 - @BethBeef 💙, @Cams50 💙
3/3 - @LittleAcorn20💛, @LaForza101 💙, @SammyJay5 💓, @pamplemousse19 💓, @Lauren11x 💙, @Whatsforpud 💛
4/3 - @EastyBaby19 💙, @Cdoc💙, @Katdemar 💙
5/3 - @Babynum2 💙, @hopingforarainbow27 💓
6/3 - @allthingssparkly, @Thirdtimesacharm3 💙
7/3 - @GreenIsle 💓, @Noodle20, @Pickles23 💛
8/3 - @Splashh, @June628 💓, @BabyLimey 💛
9/3 - @Penelope_2023, @91mana
10/3 - @iratepirate 💛, @PeonyPops 💓
11/3 - @Chloe1896
12/3 - @Katlouise24 💓
13/3 - @ToffeeEl 💓, @Franklin321 💓, @paulinesmithson 💓
14/3 - @beatingheartbaby 💓, @rainbowbaby233 💙
15/3 - @Hrf1503 💓, @TTC24 💙
16/3 -
17/3 - @Room4onemore 💓, @Cuppasoupmonster 💙, @broomfig 💙
18/3 - @XjustagirlX 💛, @CristinaNov182 💓, @Shep21 💓
19/3 - @Dreamingof3 💓, @alotoftutus 💙, @AK93 💙, @hellosunshineagainxxx 💙, @Allthegirls3 💓
20/3 -
21/3 - @FirstTimeTryer93, @LifeOfRiley1 💛, @Rose429 💓
22/3 - @mrshenny 💓
23/3 - @Choc2022 💛
24/3 - @whydotheyallhaverubbishwheels 💙, @Charlothevet88 💛, @Mrs2022 💛, @Blocklynn 💛
25/3 - @Whywhwhy 💙, @Missy95 💛
26/3 - @purplerain555
27/3 - @Cats23 💓, @firstlittleone 💓, @dmb91 💛, @AGirlsNameIsAryaStark 💛, @hol92 💙, @Amy1303 💛, @Bobduncan 💛, @OonMP 💛
28/3 -
29/3 - @Perexi 💙, @SenecaFalls1848 💛
30/3 - @ChristmasJumpers 💓, @Moonlighting 💙
31/3 - @Baby2iscooking 💛
1/4 - @diamondbutterfly 💓

@havanamama you seem to be missing off the list!? I'm so sorry I missed you 😱

I figured I'd tag everyone this time so noone gets lost 😊 I'm really sorry if I missed you!

I've got lots of experience with 3-12 year olds, but with newborn,baby and toddler age it is 0. 😄

I've not had a full hard tummy, just felt her arch her back/bum against my skin, but that's been just in that one side of my bump.

I never had BH with my first 2 either but had them loads this time. It doesn't hurt its just a tightening sometimes it feels like a rolling feeling it's very strange. I didn't realise I was having them until I was on the machines when I was admitted and the midwife asked if I could feel them.

Oh it probably was BH then!

Has anyone claimed the free bounty bags from Boots/Tesco? If so what was in them?

Boots card members also have this offer at the moment just a heads up! Does seem dependant on a spend?

@Cuppasoupmonster I didn't find anything that useful in them during my last pregnancy so haven't bothered to pick them up this time around.

36 weeks today and I found out a photo of me at 36 weeks last time so naturally did a side by side comparison. She's lower down than he was but I think my first bump is bigger and I was skinnier

So many stretch marks too 🤣 they're gonna come up a treat when she's out

Just tested positive for covid so guess I’ll not be going for my scan on Thursday:(

How long are you allowed to stay in the delivery room after giving birth?

Would I be given time for skin to skin and a shower in the en suite before being taken to a different ward/the shared rooms?

@TeddyBeans that’s a lovely round bump though! Weirdly enough with DD my bump was lower and more like your girl shape - whereas with this boy it’s been higher. It’s an old wives tale but still interesting! I’ll see if I can find some comparison photos to dig out later…

@Rainbowbaby23 oh no, fuck off covid! ☹️ if you’ve got a negative lateral flow by then could you still go?

its hard to say. There’s a chance you may end up in theatre (like I did!) for either instrumental or CS, in which case with me I was taken straight from there to a small recovery bay before being transferred to the ward. I’ve heard other women say they’ve generally been allowed an hour or so in the room first to do the first feed and get themselves together a bit. Sadly delivery rooms are so in demand I don’t think it’s very long ☹️

@Cuppasoupmonster im going to call and ask as I need to do a covid risk assessment anyway, but as far as im aware you need to test negative on day 5&6 before coming into hospital for appointments

@Rainbowbaby23 oooh rotten luck ☹️ hope they can do something for you and that you don't suffer too badly/feel better soon ❤️

@havanamama I've just had a look back through my photos, DS was born at 5.35am and the first photo I have on the ward was taken at 9.19am. I had my stitches done in the delivery room so that's probably why I was in there so long. I can imagine that they ship you out pretty quickly like Cuppasoup said

I think we were kept in delivery room for about six hours after DC was born. We went straight home from there but had had plenty of time for skin to skin, shower etc.
It was mid pandemic so I think maybe they were keen not to transfer to other places unnecessarily.

@havanamama I didn't have a bathroom in the room for the first delivery so I got taken to a bathroom and then to the ward straight away but had skin to skin while being stitched. Second time I had a bathroom and was in there then round to the ward within couple hours
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if I give birth naturally I have to have a drip for an hour to help my uterus contract and control the bleeding so I stay in the room until that is done. Always had a shower before leaving the delivery room

How likely am I going to be able have a c section if I ask for one as I want to be sterilised

@Room4onemore I would have thought pretty likely, saves resources having two operations in one go

@Rainbowbaby23 I'm not well and I'm meant to be in hospital tomorrow for iron that I spent so much time sorting so I guess I won't be allowed to go in for that now and it will be delayed :(
I meant to do test yesterday but didn't, you've just reminded me and it is showing positive
At least you're not alone in this! We can feel rubbish together! Just hope it goes a lot quicker than the 9 days I suffered with it 2 years ago x

@AK93 Awh no hope you’re feeling better soon!
Im usually a nervous wreck when it comes to tracking babies movement’s but think with having covid, and having nothing else to do the next few days will make me hyper aware of them and will worry myself for no reason🙄

@TeddyBeans i hope so, I want to go back to college as well and don’t want to have to worry about getting pregnant again

How long do you wait to have visitors for the newborn baby?

My due date is 21/3 and my family has a history of going over the due date. Eg. I was born bang on due date, my sister 3 days late and my brother 10 days late. Obviously I can’t predict anything as this is my first baby.

My in laws including PILs, SIL, her fiance and 2yo niece is thinking about visiting over the Easter bank holiday which is from 7-10th April. Of course I’d love to have them meet the baby but I always find their visits intense for many reasons (not because of who they are).

We live 7 hours from them, so once they’re here I feel obliged to entertain them eg. find things to do with them, go for walks, stay in our tiny 1 bed flat for hours just chatting. We also have to eat out a lot in our expensive city which we can’t afford. I can imagine their visit once the baby is here would be overwhelming for me, not a quick drop by to say hi per se.

@Rose429 you have every right to only meet them somewhere public for a couple of hours, not host them at home, etc. They should respect that you have a newborn and you're going to be exhausted. Make sure your partner is on the same page and can advocate for you, they're his family after all - he needs to keep them in check

@Rose429 more to answer your question, we lived with my parents at the time so we went straight back to company. Pretty sure we started visiting ex's family a the following weekend but we went to them so could leave whenever it suited us. First visits were very short - 2 or 3 hours max for a good couple of months

@Rainbowbaby23 I hope you are too! I had chills, headache and higher temp though it's stayed down without paracetamol today so the and headache are mostly gone too. My ears hurt and I feel generally grotty but hoping everything will be ok! Baby has been moving what I'd say is normally but with being in bed a bit more not been in the position I feel him best in.
Obviously hard not to but try not to panic too much and call midwife/maternity unit/111 if you are worried! xx

@Rose429 oh god. I honestly wouldn’t commit to anything right now and say you’ll see how it goes - don’t let anyone pressure you into firm dates or plans at the moment. Now is the crucial point for boundaries and establishing that for the next year or so plans will have to work around you rather than vice versa. I find if you give relatives an inch they take a mile at this point - they always say they’re ‘coming to help’ and ‘won’t stay long’ but in my experience they just plonk themselves on the sofa for hours, expect hot drinks and basically make the atmosphere awkward by refusing to hand the baby back.

My PIL were a fucking nightmare when DD was born. I’m not usually a ‘boundaries with family’ type person and got on with them well until that point, but I hated their guts for about a year - everything they did was planned to sneakily get their own way and ride roughshod over anything I wanted. I really wouldn’t have predicted any of it, it was a horrible time - my SIL warned me MIL goes nuts when there’s a baby in the picture but I didn’t really believe her and just assumed it would all be ok 😬

In your shoes I would say I can’t commit to anything right now so please don’t cancel or not make other plans on my account; we will see how it goes and arrange something nearer the time.

Yes I agree whatever you do do not host!

Whatever people promise they usually go all weird when there’s a newborn there and suddenly see it as ‘their time’ to cuddle the baby and take photos.

I don’t know if anyone else gets this but I also had this weird aversion to anyone else holding DD when she was a newborn, it’s like it made my skin crawl 😱 of course that didn’t stop me handing her over, but I’m sure it’s some kind of hormonal reaction.