Due September 2023 after miscarriage 🌈

[Furbabymum15]

Hello ladies
I'm 44 and had 4 previous miscarriages..... Found out last wk I'm pregnant and incredibly anxious after so many losses and my age. Lack of symptoms aren't helping besides the stretching twinges.

Is anyone joining me in this journey?

@Pandalovee @Houseelf90 @CaliGirl47 @kl1999 thanks ladies, it really is reassuring to hear others stories/perspectives because I’m totally in the habit of thinking the worst at the moment! I can definitely feel baby moving every night now though which is some reassurance.

@kl1999 hope you managed to get in touch with your MW/your appointment has come through x

@CaliGirl47 sorry think my post was confusing, I meant a week on Tuesday so a week today :) but thank you, counting down the days!

Hope everyone is feeling good today x

@Blueskies4 thats great that you can feel so movement every night! I’ve not really felt much since my scan, but taking reassurance from the fact I am now feeling pregnant!! I’m sure it’s going to get a lot a lot worse but I feel like everything is such an effort now, even rolling over in bed, which feels ridiculous to say!! I’m just cooking tea (other half finishes work at 8 so we eat late) and I’ve had to come and sit down half way through coz I’m feeling dizzy standing over a ‘hot stove’….looks like we’ll be living on ready meals and freezer foods when I get further along 😂😂😂

@Pandalovee @CaliGirl47 @Blueskies4 Morning All, yes - finally got a call yesterday afternoon. Appt is this Friday @ 3.45pm!!

I am very nervous, anxiety is kicking in now. But really hoping for the best ❤

Hope all of you are feeling well and good 🌷

Hi all

Sorry I have been away for almost a week on a little holiday to visit with a friend. Got back yesterday and slept the whole afternoon. Just catching back up on the thread.

Yes my "take 2" dating scan is today so I'm really hoping they can see the baby this time.

Sounds like some lovely positive scans, with beautiful scan photos over the past week.

Funny you've been talking about feeling movements as I just said to my partner I felt something just as I was lay in bed thinking about getting up. I do think it's too early though, only 13+6 but it isn't something I've felt before - it was the bubbles popping feeling someone described. Hasn't happened again though.

@kl1999 sorry about the awful experience you've had, but glad the appointment has come through now. Something to look forwards to.

@pinkpirlie best of luck with your scan today lovely 💕

Thanks so much, I'm really glad my appt has finally come through too. Trying to ease my nerves, but I know it's only normal to feel this way.

Keep us updated! I am just as exited for my baby as I am for everyone else's 🥰 I am having some real tight feeling down my belly and when I walk on the right top side of my vayaya it hurts. Like a stabbing pain? It's fine if I sit down. Anyone else ? 🥺

@Pandalovee I will, don't worry! 💕 I keep telling myself to go into the appt with a clear mind, but deffo easier said than done.

It really does make my hurt burst to see how many of us there are on this thread. You are all so supportive 🌷

It's funny you mention the stabbing pain down below, around two weeks ago, I'd occasionally get random like lighting pain in my whoha when I was sitting at my desk. Nothing I worried about (surprisingly) but only happened occasionally on and off for a day or two and then nothing since.

I get very nervous whenever I sneeze as it just feels so odd in my stomach area whenever I do! As someone said before, you feel like your going to sneeze the baby out lol.

How is everyone feeling in themselves? Has anyone's symptoms eased off a little yet? I still feel sick 24/7, really hoping it goes away soon 🤢

Oh I was the exact same. Went for my 12 week scan they other day and I could breath happily after seeing baby moving on the scan. I always hold my breath. I think we all do! I am 14 weeks today yaya second trimester 🥰 I am thinking maybe my spd is starting? I had this with my son so badly I couldn't even walk without crutches towards they end of my pregnancy. But we will see I am not worried about baby on a side note I started to feel baby last night and I know it's baby. With my son it wasn't until 22 weeks 🥹 apart from still being tired , the pains down below and headaches I am feeling alright. How are you feeling lovely??

@Pandalovee Oh bless you! I can't begin to imagine the relief and happiness you must feel when you see the baby on the screen moving around. Fingers crossed I get to feel this relief too 🤞 Congrats again on your brill scan xx

It very well could be spd. Especially if it's something you have experienced before with your son. Hope it doesn't become to uncomfortable for you lovely 💕

I feel "ok" in myself. But the feeling sick 24/7 is so draining. At this point, I'm begging myself to just be sick! I've had nausea on and off pretty strongly since 7 weeks, but have never actually been sick. It's affecting what I'm eating and drinking, which is annoying in itself. Most comfort food and drinks, I now can't bare the taste of! 😂

The stabbing pains!! I’ve had them for a while with sneezing/coughing but I’ve also started to get them in the last week or so if I stand up too quickly or sit up quickly in bed! It’s so reassuring to hear others are getting the pain too!

My sickness has definitely started to ease. I have radically reduced the amount of anti nausea pills I am taking and I haven't been sick since Saturday (in the middle of IKEA), but it was a hectic and busy day with my friend and her young family.
Sorry to those still feeling poorly 24/7. I hope the end is in sight for you too.

I have just had my scan, and they still couldn't see baby well enough to do the NT screening test so I'm going to have the blood tests instead in a few weeks.
Dated per previous private scan at 13+6.
Best photos attached.
But luckily means I cannot guess sex on nub theory which I am happy about as we really wanted a surprise.
Baby was moving around, looking demonic and being difficult. My mom says they must definitely be a girl 🤣

Hi all! Looking for some advice to keep me calm and sane.. had my 12 week scan all looked good, results back from blood tests no issues.
14 weeks 3 days now and can't stop thinking something is going to go wrong some how!! how do I get this out my mind? ugh x

@Houseelf90 It's definitely reassuring to know we're all experiencing similar things!! Hope it starts to ease off for you xx

@pinkpirlie what lovely news! So glad your scan went well 🌷 xx

@RMS0209 Congrats on a positive scan and blood results - fab news xx
I think unfortunately, we all, at some points more than others, feel negative and will be nervous/expecting the worst to happen. It is entirely normal and only natural given most peoples past experiences. Just know, we all know how you feel and can fully sympathise. Your scan went well and your bloods came back fine, these are huge, positive steps!! Remind yourself often of these positive milestones. I wish you all the best 💕

@pinkpirlie glad the scan went well!

I've just come back from mine and all good but a bit of a shock as I was expecting to be 12+5/6 but was actually 13+4 so due date of 23 September! (was anyone else's baby in a weird position so they had to sort of thrust up their hips and then bang your bum down on the bed?! maybe just me....!)

NT was 1.8mm which I think is really normal and hopefully OK.

My nausea's all gone now, still quite tired and sluggish but hoping by next week might be able to start some pregnancy yoga classes and do some swimming!

@Houseelf90 Ha ha on the rolling out of bed! Lovely to be feeling pregnant, what a nice stage

@kl1999 Great that you have your appointment through and this week.. hope it goes lovely for you x

I haven’t had many symptoms this pregnancy beyond tiredness and it’s still very much with me! Oh I might be a bit of a pain in the ass too with short temper/emotions.. hope your sickness goes soon!

@Pandalovee That’s so exciting that you’re feeling baby, what a lovely time.. happy 2nd trimester too!

@pinkpirlie Congrats on your scan 🥰

@RMS0209 I’m sorry I can’t preach because I’ve been allover the place the last 9/10 weeks since I tested positive! But I can say that it’s totally normal to feel that way and you’ve passed the higher risk part now so fingers crossed it’s smooth sailing from here x

@log51 Glad you’ve had a good scan, so lovely seeing them xx

@kl1999 glad your scan date came through. I understand the nerves all too well, but hopefully you will feel a big relief on Friday after a great scan.

@pinkpirlie haha he or she is certainly not making life easy for everyone. I’m glad to hear you saw lots of movement, clearly baby is having a great time in there.

@RMS0209 sounds like everything is going great! I am 14+1, also had a positive scan and good blood works. I understand the anxiety though. What helps me is to remember that chances are soooo slim anything goes wrong now. And also to remind myself that the feeling that sth is wrong comes from past bad experiences and not from facts. Hang in there, once those kicks starts it’s going to be easier to feel positive I think. 🤗

@log51 fantastic news, congrats! My date was also moved a whole week forward which was quite the shock for DH and I 😁. NT of 1.8mm is definitely very normal.

I stopped my medication on Friday and don’t have that awful all day long nausea anymore but still get queasy after eating if I eat too much. The fatigue is still awful though. With my DD nausea also stopped around 14 weeks and fatigue between 16 and 18 weeks so hoping not long now.

Is anyone planning to get a private gender scan? DH and I booked one for Good Friday, we don’t want to wait till the 20 week scan and it’ll be nice to see the baby again and be reassured all still looks well.

@HopefulBee the fatigue is killer isn’t it..

ah that’s so exciting and not too long away, it’ll be lovely to see baby at that point! I’m not too sure personally… I think I’m going to wait until after my dating scan next Tuesday and then take it from there - definitely finding out gender though 🤗

Good luck to anyone with scans coming up 🥰
I’ve felt what I think is baby move again tonight, which has cheered me up as I’m struggling with a really bad cold at the moment, it’s been on and off for a couple of weeks and has completely floored my today! It’s so frustrating only being able to take paracetamol but worth it to keep bubs safe 🤞🏼

Okay that is so funny! I’m so glad I’m not the only one 😆 I already feel like a beached whale rolling over in bed sometimes @Houseelf90 like my uterus feels so heavy in the night when I’m trying to roll over and it’s like I can feel all the ligaments stretching. I’m gonna be a nightmare when I actually get a big proper bump 😂 Sorry to hear about your cold 🤧 there’s so much going around atm I feel like it’s just a matter of time until I pick something up 🦠 So glad you’ve had some more movements from baby 🥰 that’s lovely.

That’s great that you got your appointment through at your chosen hospital. 👏🏻 I hope it goes wonderfully and brings you lots of reassurance 💗 @kl1999

I have heard lightning crotch can be quite common in pregnancy. I have yet to experience it this time around. @Pandalovee I do hope it eases off for you. Aw that’s so lovely that you are getting movements from baby. 😍 It’s so reassuring and magical each time it happens. ✨ I hope your SPD doesn’t get too bad again. Is it like back/hip pain as well? I tend to get that a lot at night whilst lying down but not as much walking.

@pinkpirlie These kids man they like to keep us guessing straight from the beginning 😂 Nice to know you’ve got a mover in there though.

congratulations on your scan @log51 So glad it went well. 🤗

@HopefulBee That’s so exciting about your upcoming scan. I definitely want to book one so we can find out baby’s gender 🎈and do a little get together with family. 🍰 I think it’s such a lovely bonding experience. 💗💙 personally I feel like it really helps me to start picturing what baby will be like and narrowing down names and you start to get a picture in your head of what kind of a little person they might be. 🥰 Makes it feel so real iykwim

I don’t have any real words of wisdom today, but I can definitely offer solidarity @RMS0209
I think we all have good days and bad days. On the brilliant, exciting, joyful days we feel full of hope and love. Like having a successful scan or reaching an important milestone. But then other days can be hard and a little voice in the back of my head whispers it’s too good to be true, don’t get your hopes up
I have to give myself a stern talking to and tell myself that my anxiety from previous losses does not have to set the tone for this pregnancy.

Today was one of those days for me. I got it in my head that something was wrong with baby because I hadn’t felt any movements (even though logically I know it’s ridiculous to expect regular movements at this stage) those anxious thoughts creeped in that this whole journey was going to come crashing to a stop. Something was wrong with baby and that helpless feeling came flooding back. But I tried to just stay busy and redirect my thoughts and talk to myself like I would a friend. Tomorrow will be a better day ☀️🌼🌷

Something else that I’ve found helpful is repeating a sort of mantra/affirmation in those difficult times. I saw it somewhere here on MN:

“different pregnancy, different baby, different outcome”

Today I am pregnant and I love my baby.
I am pregnant with a healthy, growing baby until I am told otherwise.
My past is not my future and my previous losses do not mean I will have future losses.
Just because someone else is having a loss, doesn't mean that I will. Miscarriage and loss are not contagious, but fear can be.
Hope does not make bad things happen. I cannot jinx my pregnancy by getting my hopes up or by telling someone about it.
There is nothing I can change with worry. Worrying about what's not in my hands does not prevent it from happening.

Sending a hand hold 💐

@CaliGirl47 I am so glad I’m not the only one 😅 god help us when we actually get big!!
Sorry to hear you had a day of bad thoughts yesterday. I hope you have a better day today. All the things you say are so true, today you are pregnant and we have to try and enjoy that and stay positive. I have some days where I wonder if I’m too positive/relaxed about it and am I setting myself up to get more upset if something happens, but like you say that’s not going to make anything happen to baby so we have to try and enjoy it while we can! Sending positive vibes to you 💕

So after that off day yesterday I’ve woke up this morning to some brown discharge. 😢 it’s really freaked me out even more. I don’t even know who to call because at 13+5 I’m at the in between stage. When I’ve tried calling my GP midwife before she just never called me back. Idk if EPAU would see me? It’s so unnerving. I’ve not had any spotting this whole pregnancy but for it to happen now after all those anxious thoughts yesterday has really shook me up that something might be wrong with baby 🥺

Hey lovely. Try not to freak out. I had some pink discharge the other day. Brown blood is more likely to be old blood so no fresh blood. How much was it? Are you filling pads , cramps etc? I would contact your midwife for some advice . But try not to stress a lot of woman do experience some kind of blood during pregnancy pink brown ish blood. Keep us updated

It's pain in my hip and the top of my vayaya mainly when in motion . Walking stretching or even moving to my side in bed.