Due August 2023 (Thread 2)

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Can’t believe we’re onto a second thread already. Hope this doesn’t put any newbies off, as I don’t think we’re even halfway through possible due dates yet. Anyone welcome to join in.

I wanted to start off by reassuring TheBirdintheCave that I have no nausea either and had none whatsoever all through my last pregnancy. Thinking of you and hoping your current fears turn out to be for nothing. xx

@girlshelpxx I didn't have much by way of symptoms until the middle of week six and now (7+1) I am very nauseated every day and currently munching some dry crackers to try and calm it down x__x

@marleyandme @BoodifulGoose I’m totally with you. I keep getting waves of feeling really blue and worried that I won’t be able to cope. We starting TTC assuming it would be a year+ or even might never happen for us, so in my mind I still had all those 2023 holidays lined up for us, which have now gone out the window, and that gets me down. One was a big 3 week camping/hiking trip which is ridiculous to try pregnant, but also I need to save everyday of my holiday next year to add on to my pretty terrible Mat leave package.
I agree, you read some pretty shocking things about parenthood on MN which also scare me that life as I know it is over.
Im not missing food/booze as much as I thought I would, although having said that I had a total emotional melt down in an Italian restaurant because I couldnt order red wine with my pasta 😂

@LMM91x best go get some! 😍

@CityKity If it helps, our general lives started to settle back to a 'normal' routine once our son started sleeping through and having a proper bedtime. We still go for board game nights at our friends houses and just bring the travel cot and pop the toddler to sleep in a bedroom there.

Holiday's haven't changed much either. We're huge travellers and not ones to just sit on a beach so we didn't see why that needed to change just because we had a baby. This year, with the toddler, we did a week train hopping around the Emilia Romagna region of Italy in June and then a week exploring Granada In September :) We had planned to do the Greek islands next June but (hopefully haha) that isn't an option any more!

So, yes, our lives have changed, but it's more a case of finding ways to adapt what we normally do to make sure we can bring the baby rather than dropping activities because we have a baby if that makes sense.

Hi! I finally decide to try to join you all. I'm 6+2 today, due date would be 6th of August.

I'm trying to be hopeful, but at the moment I'm more like "let's see if I'm still pregnant next month", just trying to protect myself... It would be my first baby, we have been trying since the summer 2021. I had a first miscarriage in September 2021 at 7 weeks, and then another one at almost 11 weeks on Christmas day 2021 🥺 it was so awful, and with Christmas coming soon it all comes back and I'm so worried the same will happen again. It took almost a year after that to get pregnant again and I was really loosing hope (especially as I'm 38, so don't feel I have lots of time), but finally so happy to be pregnant again!

I take it day by day (and they seem soooo long 😅). I booked a scan the 30th of December when I will be 8+5, and hopefully after that I can feel a bit more confident if everything is well! I don't have too much symptoms at the moment: sore boobs, some nausea that comes and goes, and last week I had a few episodes of period type cramps that scared me, but are gone for now.

I have seen you have created a Facebook group, I would love to join it, but I think I will wait at least my first scan!

I also already miss wine and cheese 🤣 but I can survive with melted cheese 😋

Hi everyone decided to join and meet some new people I'm 5wks+1 and due date 14th August, not felt too bad so far just very tired but threw up this morning for the first time 🤢 and felt dizzy and my nipples seem to have become very nippley and tender almost overnight. 😄 this is my first baby so very new to all this and not entirely sure what to expect lol just taking each day/week as it goes!

@Createcomet I don’t want to put a downer on it at all but if it was me I’d rather someone be honest just in case, the sensitivity on that digital is really low, like 10miu/ml so I got a positive on that at 9dpo when my lines were really faint still. But if you’re getting a positive on the digital it’s good news and hopefully all is okay!xx

@cococat88 welcome !!! ‘Very nippley’ has tickled me because I know exactly what you mean hahahaha!!

@ArcEnCiel2022 congratulations and welcome to the gang! 💕

@sally16 my bloat is so bad, even leggings seem to hurt my belly 😑🤣

@TheBirdintheCave good luck for your scan today, I’m sure it’ll all be perfect ☺️❤️

@TheBirdintheCave all the best today💕💕💕

Welcome @cococat88 and @ArcEnCiel2022 congratulations xx

@marleyandme i had the same feelings before I had my first, and I’ve had a bit of them again this time round too. We always said we’d have kids to fit in with our lives, and not the other way round. Travelling is my big joy in life so I made my husband promise we’d still do that and we managed two weeks in Disney world (big fans here!) when she was 7 months, and then a road trip from Boston to Vermont when she was almost 1. We were never big nights out type of people, and much prefer to use our weekends for nice walks around where we live with nice food. We still do that with her and get plenty of nice food, just more for lunch rather than dinner! I think it’s definitely possible to still live a good bit of the life you had but adapt it to suit 😊 our daughter is 14 months now and we love her to pieces and she’s turning into such a character!

@TheBirdintheCave good luck 😙

@ArcEnCiel2022 welcome! We’re due date twins! I’m also trying to protect my feelings and just taking this week by week. This is my first time pregnant and if I’ve learned anything from thread so far, it’s sadly how common early loss is. I’m so sorry you’ve been through 2 already and I really hope that this pregnancy goes smoothly.

@TheBirdintheCave your message gives me so much optimism! I don’t want to feel like my life is over just that it’s adapted. I’ve got some incredible mum friends who have done some amazing trips with their babies so fingers crossed we can still have some adventure in our lives too. You really do hear the worst of it on MN I find.

@CityKity Yeah it's totally possible to slot a baby into your life :) The start is, of course, always going to be a massive shakeup but once the newborn stage is over it gets much easier.

We'd originally planned to go back to Japan (our happy place) when our son was six months old but the country didn't open in time and now we're going to have to wait until he (and the next one) are old enough to sit reasonably happily for 11 hours on a plane which probably won't be for another eight years or so :(

@Sjw30 @LMM91x thank you for the welcome 😊

@CityKity yeah due date twins! 🤗 Yes, sadly early loss is very common 😥 I didn't really realise it until it happened to me, as usually people don't really talk about it... My approach to this pregnancy is so different to my first one, when I felt I was so naive and didn't know anything! Will you have an early scan? I didn't with my 2 losses and had scans only when I started bleeding, so scans have always been bad news for me. This time I booked it as I feel I would like some reassurance.

@TheBirdintheCave good luck for your scan 🤞

@ArcEnCiel2022 i felt the same about loss, you really never expect it to happen to you until it does! Crossing my fingers that everything is okay for us all this time ❤️

Sorry, I don't think I understand what you're trying to tell me...You think the digital is probably wrong? I'm really confused!

@TheBirdintheCave good luck for your scan today!

@ArcEnCiel2022 I know of two IRL friends that have had early miscarriages at around 6 weeks, but I’ve only found out later as people tend to keep these things private. Pre-pregnancy I was all guns blazing on needing to talk about loss more and get rid of the taboo of miscarriage, but now I’m in early stages of pregnancy I do want to keep it private between me and DH for now, and deal with the future as it comes.
Im not having an early scan, so unless any bleeding happens I’ve got to wait at least another 6 weeks to see what’s going on in there! Roughly end of Jan, it feels like ages away but Christmas/new year is a great distraction!

@Createcomet no no it’s not wrong. It’s just you were concerned your lines were faint, and the sensitivity on the digital test is really low because it’s an early one, so it’s likely to show up positive even if your hcg is low. So if I were you and concerned about my lines I would probably get a clearblue weeks indicator or do another line test to get some reassurance that they are progressing xx

@ChloeN Exactly ❤️ fingers crossed everything will go well for us all!

@CityKity Yes, it's a difficult subject because I think it shouldn't be taboo, and that would have helped me to know I was not alone, but at the same time, I feel like I myself don't really want to talk about it except to one or two very close friends. Actually, we announced to most of our friends and family about my second pregnancy, because after the first loss we thought that if something was going to be wrong again, we might need their support. But at the end it was even worse (for me), because when we had a loss again, they all wanted to help and talk to me, which was lovely and I'm really grateful to them, but I just wanted to be alone and don't see anyone... Everyone is different though, that's just my experience! This time I don't want to tell anyone until at least the first scan.
6 weeks is a long wait, but as you say, Christmas should help 😊 I already have the date of my 12 weeks scan, it will be 23rd of January!

@ArcEnCiel2022 I think that’s why I want to wait so long to announce this time, I really hate people feeling sorry for me if you know what I mean🤣

@ChloeN Exactly that 🤣

@TheBirdintheCave Japan is my happy place too! Can't wait to take the littles there - we were thinking the optimal age to explore the Ghibli museum would be about 6-8, so not for us for a few years yet. Hope your scan goes well today.

Regarding brie and other soft cheeses - I would treat this as an in moderation, not never, but everyone's risk tolerance is different. The risk with soft mould ripened cheese is listeria, but checking the UK government website the only current outbreak of listeria is in ready to eat smoked fish (e.g smoked salmon). Women in France aren't told to avoid soft cheese, so different countries take different approaches here. But a lot of the pregnancy guidance is a bit dodgy and not particularly well updated based on recent science. If anyone is feeling particularly anxious, the Expecting Better book by Emily Oster is pretty reassuring. Similarly, not sure if this helps or not, but there are websites (e.g. https://datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer ) that can estimate your risk of miscarriage - roughly starts off at 30% and then decreases by a little under 1% each day, so by the time you reach 8 weeks, your risk should be about 5%.

@Recoba thank you! I’ve actually just had Expecting Better delivered this week so going to find some time to actually read it soon hopefully 🤣