Due August 2023?

[AnnieApple123]

It still feels very early but I’m taking a leap of faith and starting a thread here.

Just found out yesterday that I’m due at the very start of August.

Anybody else yet?

Thank you all for the warm welcome 😊

I can’t mention everyone individually but I’ve hugely appreciated all your suggestions on my wedding dilemma. I think bringing it forward is probably most sensible. The venue have confirmed they could move it to April if necessary, and nothing else is booked yet. I am a bit worried about some guests having bought flights already, or fewer people being able to come in April, but I can ask. My hesitation about going ahead with original dates in early July is a) being too tired or uncomfortable to enjoy it, or b) a pre-term baby.

However tricky the solution to this dilemma, it is of course a nice problem to have! I really didn’t think we would be here!

@AnnieApple123 that is a helpful illustration of the home pregnancy tests not being very informative, thank you for posting. I totally understand everyone who is anxiously repeat testing right now. The uncertainty about how things will go is so difficult. Goodness knows how many tests I’ve bought in the last six years but I assume the company CEO has a very nice car!

Personally I find the ‘miscarriage odds reassurer’ website (someone posted further up, but easily found on Google) quite comforting.

@DesertSnow i definitely think the answer is to stop testing but I clearly cannot take my own advice🤦🏻‍♀️ it’s so hard not to panic at the this stage but just try and stay as positive as you can xxx

Thank you for the lovely welcome too! And thanks for the reassurance, I will wait until 6 weeks to be worried about a lack of symptoms (I mean, obviously I will continue to stress about it every other minute until then, but you know...).

How is everyone approaching telling people? I'm not usually one to turn down booze over Christmas and I feel it's going to be very obvious to everyone what's going on when I don't drink at the two work Christmas parties I have coming up, the multiple friend events and then the actual day/period with both our families. Worst timing in some ways, as it feels far too early to tell most people. Any tips on subtly avoiding alcohol/pretending to be tipsy?!

Ladies any of you that have been pregnant before, did you have your hair dyed? I’m booked in for it tomorrow and all of a sudden thought shit, it doesn’t say anywhere that you can’t have it done but now obviously just panicking!

@Gracie87 Can you use the old ‘I’m on antibiotics’ excuse? Or arrange to be designated driver? I don’t drink anyway so am not very helpful on this.

@ChloeN I didn’t dye my hair until second trimester last time. Not because of any hard evidence but just wanting to be super cautious for peace of mind. I’m aiming to do the same this time and am thinking of wearing lots of winter hats and a Santa hat as much as possible over Xmas!

@ChloeN this is from the NHS website which I came across the other day! Seems okay in first trimester...

@AnnieApple123 I wouldn’t of booked it had I have known but tbh I wanted something to cheer me up when ttc! I know my hairdresser so didn’t particularly want to tell her but I’ve messaged saying I could be pregnant and what does she think!

@Mulner88 surely nhs would say not to if it were dangerous then… I might just tell her to be extra careful to make sure it doesn’t touch my skin!

@ChloeN maybe read this bit. It says maybe wait until after first trimester?

@ChloeN sorry attached the wrong one 🙈

@Mulner88 i really should of told her I was actually pregnant shouldn’t I🙈 I only want the bloody ends done as well so I can have extensions🤣

@ChloeN personally from reading that, I wouldn't be too worried as it's just the ends...I think it's more if you are dyeing your hair a lot!!

@Gracie87 I'm having the same dilemma. I've nights out planned with friends I haven't see in ages and I'm never one to turn down a drink either so they'll know straight away, I won't even need to say anything 😂 I also have a family meal this weekend and we would also have wine so that will be suspicious too 🙈

@Mulner88 ahh I’m really torn what to do. I think if I just make sure she stays away from my scalp and the windows are open it will be okay 🤞🏻

Could you say you're trying to conceive so not drinking? With my first I just accepted the wine and drunk hardly any of it and husband finished it and no one knew

@ChloeN From reading that it sounds like a little bit of dye won't be a problem :)

@Gracie87 My colleagues are all too polite to ask 😂 Well, all but one of them haha. She is an older lady and just tends to say what she's thinking but she is so lovely and doesn't mean any harm. We'll see what happens. If she asks me outright why I'm not drinking then I will most likely just cave and say 😂 Our team party isn't until the 15th though thankfully so I will hopefully be more sure of myself by then. The whole company party has been delayed until spring as they don't want anyone to get sick before Christmas <3 I'm quite excited as I missed the last one due to the MMC and it's a fancy meal in a five star hotel.

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Does anyone else ovulate late which throws their dates out? Going by my LMP I'm 5+2 but if I change my true ovulation date (CD21) to the average 14 then I'm 4+2. I'm not sure whether I should lie when/if I come to register the pregnancy.

I didn't do so with my son, was told I was a week behind at an early scan and panicked myself silly for a few days until I realised I ovulated five days later than average that cycle.

Funny thing is though, my next scan was at 12+5 by NHS dates, 12 exactly by O date and yet they measured my son exactly on at 12+5... so it seems he'd caught up a week and my due date was kept at the date my LMP suggested (19 Nov) rather than the 25th of Nov (suggested by O).

Interestingly, he was born today, the 24th, but only by 20 mins haha.

Anyway, my question is, should I lie? Or should I put down my actual LMP date? 🤔

Oh I’m having the same dilemma about Christmas events! Especially the work Christmas party. It doesn’t help that the bloating from OHSS and progesterone supplements means I already look about three months gone 😳

Any have any thoughts on getting the Covid seasonal booster or not?

@xylophone Great that they could accomodate you for April. An April wedding would be lovely! Hopefully your guests can be flexible - or at least the important ones. Mind you I don't envy you planning your wedding and baby at the same time! My wedding was 3 weeks ago today and don't know how I'd have got it done (and our wedding was not a big affair really). I guess people will know by then and you may be showing - otherwise it would be a lovely thing to announce in the speeches! I had the Covid booster and flu jab a few weeks before conceiving (chronic asthma) - I would absolutely have it now if I hadn't already, but understand it's a personal choice.

@ChloeN Totally with you - I should stop testing. A line is a line, and today I am pregnant and that is what matters right now. I think the hair dye thing is probably ok, especially given it's only the ends, but tbh I probably wouldn't do it myself. But I'm incredibly risk adverse!

@Gracie87 Even at 6 weeks I wouldn't freak out about no symptoms. I've read several threads where women barely have any symptoms the whole way through. Re. drinking - I'm not a big drinker but it would be obvious if I decline a glass of prosecco at Christmas - or at DH's birthday, which is a few days before. All being well, we will have just had the 8 week scan so will tell parents and siblings at/over Christmas. For his birthday, I'm going with the antibiotics excuse. Sure they'd see right through me 😂Alternatively, I might use @Diamondbabe's suggestion of saying we're ttc.

@TheBirdintheCave Interesting question about late ovulation. I ovulated on CD18 which is a bit later than the average, but as it's not that significant a difference (I don't think?) I'm sticking with my LMP date - unless the form asks otherwise.

@xylophone I'm not getting my booster currently. I caught Covid for the first time three weeks ago so am not eligible for it for another week yet anyway as you have to wait four weeks following a positive Covid test.

Once that time is up... I don't know what I'll do. I think I'm too scared to be honest.

@TheBirdintheCave I'm the exact same. I have slightly longer cycles (30-33 days) and I also ovulated CD 21 which is currently making me 4+2, although I'm also a week ahead when I put in my LMP! For the reassurance scan, I told them about my later ovulation so I could get a later appointment as didn't want to go too early for them to say they couldn't see anything, but for the booking app form, I will just put in LMP date!

@xylophone I had my flu jab today and I've my Covid jab booked for Monday at my local pharmacy. Personally I would, but understand it's a personal choice 😊

@TheBirdintheCave thank you☺️ I think if I were you I’d do LMP as that’s what they always ask for, and it’s not like you’d panic at the scan because you know you’re a few days behind, if not will it not all get a bit confusing?

@DesertSnow me too, last time I didn’t go on holiday and fly just in case but then I ended up having a mc anyway so it wouldn’t of made a difference! I had promised myself I would try and be as normal as poss this pregancy so I wasn’t consumed by it all so really I should just go ahead with it anyway

@xylophone ive had no covid jabs whatsoever so god knows if they’ll try and make me have them?

@ChloeN they won't make you have a Covid jab, it all choice so don't worry. They will prob just discuss the benefits etc so you can then make an informed choice. To be honest, I'm apprehensive about getting the booster, but my sister had it during pregnancy and was okay so going off that 😅

@Mulner88 oh good I’ve avoided it for this long I’d rather not have it, I only ever didn’t want it because I hate needles but I’ve had to get over that fear lately 🤣

@ChloeN My husband hates needles too. I had to hold his hand every time we went to get a Covid jab, poor love.

In a whirl of bravery I just sent an email to our EPU asking about booking a reassurance scan. Their auto reply said they'd get back to me within a day so I shall see what they say tomorrow :)

Hi everyone,
I’m going to tentatively join the gang because I want somewhere to silently squeee!
should have got AF yesterday but didn’t. Faint line on a cheapie this morning. Trying to resist multiple testing as it’s mad for my mh/my bank balance / the planet.
But if the little blob sticks around then that’s a win for clear blue OPK! Been TTC baby 2 for Two Years! I can’t believe it took me so long to buy the bloody posh ovulation test!
Anyway, enough prattle from me. You all seem marvellously welcoming people and hope you’re all good and I can stick around! 🤞🏽💚

Apologies for the hundreds of exclamation marks!!!! 🤣 guess I’m very! excited!