Due August 2023?

[AnnieApple123]

It still feels very early but I’m taking a leap of faith and starting a thread here.

Just found out yesterday that I’m due at the very start of August.

Anybody else yet?

@AnnieApple123 glad you're feeling better! Completely echo your sentiments re. this thread. And I'm sure so many more will join - right now we're still at due dates right at the beginning of August! It's going to get busy😂

@MsRT yep re. the sore boobs! 😂What are we like? (I mean, I guess we're like anxious women looking for any kind of confirmation that this is real).

@UsernameNotPresent sorry about the insomnia 😔Hope you can rest today.

@BoodifulGoose I'm going to a friend's leaving drinks tonight, so time to start being evasive about why I'm not drinking 😅How did you handle it?

I had some really bad cramping last night, convinced I was going to start bleeding. But it went away and still no blood this morning... so I bit the bullet and have just filled in the self-referral form. 5 weeks today so I guess risk of chemical is over? Just hoping I haven't jinxed things, but I guess I had to do it at some point. I need to distract myself I think, I just keep hoping and hoping this works out.

Has anyone had sore stomach muscles? It started today when I was walking around town and now feels kind of uncomfortable when I move about or gently press on it. It's right over where I imagine the baby is. I haven't done anything strenuous so I'm not sure what's caused it and now I'm worried its not muscles and it's actually the baby 🙁

Just found out that I'm pregnant with baby #3 my last AF was 3rd November so presume I'm due around the beginning of august too!

Welcome @somuchtolearnabout !

So sorry to hear you’ve been going through something similar @DesertSnow . The anxiety is just horrible, isn’t it?

I feel bad for my toddler as I’ve been much snappier and less patient with him whilst feeling anxious. Today my cramps are better although I feel generally slightly unwell - a bit sick, a bit lightheaded and very tired.

Now I’ve got heartburn. Surely this can’t really be starting as early as 4+5?!

@AnnieApple123 That's incredibly relatable. I've been snappy and impatient with both my boys today and trying to keep calm but I can tell it's going to be a longgggg 9 months.

I had absolutely zero sickness with either of my boys but today out of nowhere I've felt really nauseous and crampy. I have 2 boys already and my husband would love a girl - and we actually only had sex 5 days before (I think) I ovulation so I'm actually shocked it even caught. We only discussed last month that we wanted another baby so we weren't properly "trying" yet so feel ridiculously fortunate that it was so easy. But I have heard that apparently you're more likely to have a girl if you have sex a few days before ovulation - has anyone else heard this? Selfishly I'd love another boy but I know my husband is desperate for a girl. I got my boys already, I'd love to be able to give him a girl one day!

@somuchtolearnabout Welcome and congratulations! :) I think that thing about sex far before ovulation as a means to getting a girl has been debunked. Chiefly because if it was the case that all girl sperm swim slower, all IVF babies would be boys.

@TheBirdintheCave I've definitely had a bit of a sore tummy. I don't have anything to compare it to as this is my first pregnancy, but I imagine there's a lot going on down there so it's probably normal.

@AnnieApple123 so nerve-wracking! I'm not surprised you were short with your toddler. Try to be gentle with yourself - your body and mind are doing an awful lot! Glad the cramps have eased but sorry you're feeling under the weather. Though a good sign you have strong symptoms!

@somuchtolearnabout Welcome and congratulations! As @TheBirdintheCave says, I don't think that theory holds much water. I think the girl sperm swimming slower etc. was put down to the fact they were examing sperm at different stages of development. I think the only vaguely scientific theory is that some men are more likely to have sons and some are more likely to have daughters - but even that shifts the odds only a tiny bit and obviously nothing one can do about it! If that theory holds any merit, I'll definitely have a boy as DH's side is all boys. But I really don't mind either way!

@somuchtolearnabout So glad it’s not just me who’s snappier!

@TheBirdintheCave Isn’t there some evidence that IVF produces more slightly boys (although the difference is small) as they develop faster and are more likely to be the embryos selected for transfer if there’s a choice? ICSI on the other hand produces more slightly girls. (I used to teach genetics).

@DesertSnow @TheBirdintheCave I think you're both probably right. Ahh well, I guess we'll find out soon enough. Is anyone finding out the gender?

@somuchtolearnabout We found out with our son but this is our last baby so I'd like a surprise. My husband is on the fence 😂

I’m undecided whether I want to find out this time too, having found out at 12 weeks last time (with NIPT).

@somuchtolearnabout I'd quite like a surprise but husband very keen to find out. Expect he'll win that battle 😂

I’m going to have a surprise too, my partner always wanted to find out but he’s changed his mind!

I think I would like to know the sex!

I was thinking about booking 2 weeks to Japan at the start of March - will be second trimester. This is somewhere I have always really wanted to go and the plan was to go next year but (gratefully) conceived much sooner than expected.

For me this is a trip of a lifetime and one that I would very much love to get in before baby gets here. But having never had a baby before, can anyone tell me if this sounds like a terrible idea??

@AnnieApple123 think I’ve just got the heartburn you mentioned!! Never really had it before

@Chocolotandtea im pretty sure flyings safe unless for some reason you’d be high risk?? I guess you’d just need to check if there was any other risks in the country, I thought about going to Mexico earlier in the year and then remembered it’s not recommended when ttc and pregnant because of zika!

@DesertSnow I'm afraid I won't be much help as we just told them 😂 it was my fiance's brother and his girlfriend (uncle and auntie to be 😁)
Too excited not to tell them and figured we'd tell family now as they're who we'd want support from if anything were to go wrong!

However, I do have a few nights out coming up and my plan is to drive (if you do this is the easiest excuse!), or say that I'm stopping drinking for trying for a baby (most people around me know we were going to start and wouldn't expecting it this fast 😂)
Or the classic, on antibiotics, and if they ask why say for a rash on my thigh. Never had a rash on my thigh but they won't ask to see that 😂

Fiance wants to know the sex, I feel like a surprise could be nice, but we'll probably find out!

We’re definitely finding out the gender. For practical reasons more than anything 🤣 we already have a little boy so will be finding out to see if we already have the majority of things or if we need to buy more x

@Chocolotandtea Japan is my favourite place in the whole world! 😍 I've been twice and it's an incredibly safe country and no jabs are needed etc. It is normally an 11 hour flight (recently they've been sending flights via Alaska which made it 16 hours but that could have changed now) so I don't think that would be much fun whilst pregnant but equally I don't think it's unsafe.

Where about in Japan are you going?

We wanted to take our son whilst he was still very small but Covid put paid to that 🙄

@Chocolotandtea I'm a FTM so not you're targeted audience, but if you're feeling well enough to travel at that point I'd say 100% do it as will be a lot harder to do after baby arrives!

Fiance is using the same logic to get a new xBox for us 😂

also, very personal question so please only respond if you don’t mind sharing. However I mentioned earlier in the thread that I recently lost my Mum. Does anyone else unfortunately have experience in parent loss? I’m really struggling with accepting that my mums not here for this pregnancy already x

@DesertSnow no worries if you're too busy or just don't want to but could you expand on the 5 weeks meaning it's unlikely to be a chemical pregnancy?
I've been slightly worried that I'm getting excited for nothing, but I've had no bleeding so that's positive for no chemical pregnancy I think?

I've been so worried about this but don't want to google as I really get myself into a fuss about it with my anxiety!

@MsRT I must have missed that earlier in the thread, but I'm so sorry to hear that.

Not the same, but I lost my Grandma this year, and it has hugely impacted the whole experience for me. I had wanted to have children early so she could meet them, and when she passed this year my desire to have kids, which I've had as long as I can remember, vanished. But it was very much in our plans, and the want came back as the grief eased bit by bit.

I've spent the last 4 days overjoyed and happy, but spent at least 2 hours of each crying about how much I miss her and wish I could share this with her.

I don't have any good advice for dealing with it except to totally allow yourself to feel all the feelings, it's okay. You can be happy and gutted at the same time, or just devastated, but don't try and push the feelings down it'll just make it harder to deal with.

We told my fiances family today, and it was wonderful and amazing, but I cried for an hour on the drive home because I couldn't tell my Grandma. That's totally okay, because it really sucks.

I hated platitudes when she passed away, but I truly am sorry for your loss. But you'll be okay, and you can talk to her whenever you want. If it feels to weird to do out loud maybe write her a letter. I have written my Grandma texts since found out. (disconnected number, but it feels like I'm telling her.)

Sorry if this is no use 💙

Ah lovely that you got to share the happy news @BoodifulGoose ☺️ I think tonight I'm going with the 'i have a headache' excuse - I'm feeling knackered today so may just put in an appearance anyway. Just a hard season to hide it in! 😂

Definitely stay away from Google! Chemicals tend to only happen before 5 weeks - after that it would be an early miscarriage as it would show up on a scan and be classed as a 'clinical pregnancy'. It's silly, because both kinds of losses would result in the same thing, but for me personally getting to the 5 week milestone was a big one as I am (irrationally) worried about chemicals. In reality, my anxiety will now just shift to something else so like I said it's silly. Hope that makes sense, sorry if I caused any confusion!

@MsRT I'm so sorry for your loss, that must be really hard. I don't have any helpful advice but I think what @BoodifulGoose says sounds very wise and I hope you're both ok 💖