Evening all - hope you are enjoying your Bank holiday weekends - shame the weather isn't better, but at least it is warm!
Greedy - should really try and explain death to Ellis in a simple way - there are probably books you can buy that broach the subject in a subtle way. I've heard that the worse thing you can do is say that you're not going to die, as heaven forbid anything ever does happen to you, your DC have more trouble coping with the fact that you lied to them, than the fact that you've actually gone. Oh sorry gone a bit morbid sorry - just we're having the same conversations at the moment with DD due to my friend's baby dying. She's constantly wanting to know if X's baby is in heaven? Being looked after by Jesus etc - think I've told you all before? also she's asking if we will die, to which we simply said yes we are, but hopefully not for a very very very long time. I think at this age it is easier for them to believe in life after death, which makes death less frightening for them - think how magical Father Christmas is for them and you get the idea of it all (we obviously do go to Church regularly, so DD firmly believes that God is there looking after us - she's having difficulty understanding that he doesn't sleep though at the moment, so we've settled on him having a short afternoon nap!!)
It was emotional last week seeing my friend. It was their first child and she'd already had 2 early miscarriages before 12 weeks. They currently have no idea why she died, but are waiting for the results of blood tests. I think seeing Toby was hard at first, but better as he is obviously not a newborn anymore and a boy, so didn't look in any way like their daughter (who was absolutely beautiful by the way - so lovely seeing the photos). Really have no idea how they are coping, but my friend said that I've helped a lot by just being there at the end of the phone, so that was good to hear. I think the hardest part for her was seeing her mother cuddling and cooing over Toby, which must have been awful for her. But I imagine her parents are also grieving for their first grandchild. I've no idea if they will try again - the worry for the whole pregancy would be just dreadful, but I'll be there to support them whatever they decide to do.
Anyway, on to brighter things..... how was Angelina Ballerina? DD would love to go see that, is it a touring version? Should try and find out if it is coming anywhere vaguely near us! Those patients of yours sound weird and wonderful! Can't be a dull job you have there!
Rainbowy - great to hear from you. Can't believe you are seriously considering DC4!!! Remember how clucky I was in the first few months? Totally worn off now! I love my two very much, but can't wait to move onto to our next stage of life (and get a reliable night's sleep - DD's almost as bad as Toby at the moment, so we're all shattered!). Also I've definitely heard of breast-fed jaundice, both mine had it! I was told it was due to an enzyme that some women produce in their breast milk that prevents the breakdown of the baby blood cells, so prolonging newborn jaundice. So although keeping the baby hydrated is how you flush the system of the old blood, by breast-feeding you are actually delaying the process even more. I was only ever slightly encouraged that bottle-feeding might be the best option, but was then reassured that as long as the levels of bilirubin didn't get too high then it was doing the babies no harm. Treat them like a tomato plant in the window all day and keep feeding. Toby was yellow free by 7-8 weeks, while DD (who needed phototherapy in the beginning) was still a shade of yellow around 3-4 months! All fine now though both of them (although Toby is a strange shade of orange most of the time, I assume due the amount of orange food he eats!!).
Chooster - really hope Theo gets better soon. Never heard of people becoming temporarily lactose intolerant, but if it sounds feasible, it probably is worth investigating further? how is MrsMc by the way? Have they moved to spain yet?
We're all recovered from last week and caught up my sleep now. Toby is still teething, i think his top two teeth are nearly through, so he's still not sleeping very well at the moment. Gave me a real shock last night - when I went into him at midnight, I couldn't find his head and panicked in the dark until I realised he'd turned a full 180deg around and I was trying to pick him up by his feet!. He will not keep still and is definitely a boy wanting to play with all things electrical! I'm having a small mental block about how to get him to eat finger foods and what to give him and what size pieces to offer him. All this talk of chips etc has me worried - do you really offer them whole chips and let them bite off bits. Toby seems to take massive chuncks of say banana and then choke and I panic, so I've stopped giving him whole foods and he's back to mashed stuff, but I have to start somewhere - any tips? Can't believe I've done this before, I just can't remember how and when I started with DD (all I remember is she was sick as soon as she came anywhere near gagging on something!).
Right - think I've talked long enough - sleep well all
xxx