So sick of being pregnant...whingers welcome!

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I am 31 weeks pregnant with DS2, due end of October. While the pregnancy has no complications (I'm lucky, I know), I had a rough first trimester and now the third trimester has gifted me with sciatica.

All I want to do is lay on the sofa and sleep. I can't though, because DS1 is 27 months and really pushing boundaries. I've got him watching way too much TV, but it's the only way to get through the past couple of weeks.

I hate being pregnant. I want to skip ahead to when DS2 is finally here, when I won't be quite so enormous, when hopefully the sciatica will subside, and when I will be able to properly parent DS1 again (and have cuddles with DS2).

Anyone with me?

32w with dc4 and absolutely done with pregnancy. I'm grumpy, I'm enormous, my back hurts and my dh is walking on eggshells

Phrenologistsfinger and MayISuggestSomeThickCutSteakChipsToGoWithThat Why come on the pregnancy board to make people feel guilty? I’m so very sorry for your problems, but it’s not fair to assume because some pregnant women are uncomfortable, in pain, or struggling through their pregnancies that they are not grateful.
This should be a safe space to talk freely about all things pregnancy.

This thread has brought a smile to my face as I'm in my first trimester and between morning vomits! There have been times when I've felt really guilty for not being happy to be pregnant. I've hid myself away for weeks with the sickness so now am also really lonely. I've decided to tell some supportive friends and family early, but looking forward to when we can properly tell everyone. My midwife has been so lovely and told me that many women with hyperemisis feel so crap they report considering termination when they're at their lowest - which I actually found really reassuring that I wasn't being OTT about how I was feeling! Pregnancy can be really hard and it's made me feel so much less lonely for reading your stories so thanks for sharing 😍

I'm 29 weeks and sick of the emotional ups and downs as well as the physical stuff like not being able to bend properly. Some days I'm so hormonal I just want to cry all the time and it's so awkward at work

@WDWY im just back from my morning vomit as well, horrible as it’s just stomach acid. At least I wasn’t up at 4am to vomit like night before last I suppose 😕 thinking the cheese sandwich I forced down before bed managed to hold it off for a bit longer. It’s absolutely miserable - are vomiting I have about an hour before I start to feel nauseas again and have to either eat (which helps but doesn’t stop it completely) or throw up (which stops it for an hour). Feeling really down.

I’m 40+2 with DC4. I’m so over this. I feel like I’m so stressed with the other 3, running around all day, that I’ll never go into labour. I just want to try and establish our new ‘normal’ and get on with it.

I’m so anxious this whole pregnancy and just want it done, done, done!

(It hasnt helped that I was convinced I’d go early because… #4!)

@Recycledcurtains On the bright side, the baby can't stay in there forever and you've definitely got less than 2 weeks left! In reality though, that totally sucks and managing 3 when pregnant is serious supermum behaviour!

Whitney port did a good you tube series, it was called something like love my baby but hate pregnancy. I think lots of people find it hard but feel like they can't speak about it which is a shame.

I’m only 17 weeks and I am not enjoying it. Hospitalised twice with HG, had weeks where I couldn’t do anything and although it’s now better than it was I’m still pretty much constantly nauseas, have massive food aversions and am completely weak and exhausted. Due to the vomiting I’ve barely left the house in 12 weeks and feel like a massive hermit. Really hope things improve.

Why have you come on this thread then?? Nobody here is ungrateful but trying to share experiences of the hard time they’ve had. I almost died due to HG and have felt physically and mentally awful, am I not allowed to say that? My baby is 100% wanted, loved and we waited a long, long time for this pregnancy. You have zero right or understanding to suggest anyone on this thread is somehow ungrateful.

Im 28 weeks today, this pregnancy has been harder than my first and i forgot how much i hate being pregnant!
I also have covid atm so feeling thoroughly sorry for myself.
I feel bad for ds as it feels like i have spent most of the summer surviving (first the heat then covid) and not giving him better attention. Though we have been out lots and done quite a bit considering

I'm 32 weeks today and feel like my organs are being squeezed and I have indigestion. All of a sudden very uncomfortable and nothing is helping. I also have no motivation or energy to do anything remotely active. Can't wait to meet DC and feel like myself again! I'm meant to be working until 39 weeks 🙄

28 weeks tomorrow and the last two weeks have been hard. I'm on my feet for 9.5 hours at work and by the end of the day everything is so painful. Bump feels tight and sore, back hurts and I've got what I suspect is the start of sciatica in my left leg (luckily only when I've been standing for that long). I've taken yesterday and today off sick to rest a bit (as I was literally coming home and crying with pain and exhaustion) and I feel so guilty because (genuinely) nobody else is able to cover my job. But I've had no days off sick all pregnancy and I even had the good grace to get Covid on my long awaited week off so I didn't actually miss any work.

I'm worried about the 8 weeks until maternity leave and that I'll either have to be in pain every day or give in and be signed off. There's nobody to cover me so my clients just end up being let down when I can't be there.

I'm 32 weeks and feel like I've had enough. I have been sick from 6 weeks. Luckily not constantly but between 1-5 times a week. From 16 weeks I started with sciatica which is now pains round my hips/pelvis and back. Over the last 2 weeks I have been sick nearly every day due to indigestion, I can only eat/drink a very limited amount. Anymore and I burp it up which then means I am vomiting. I have also had covid and a stomach bug thrown in the mix which left me feeling really poorly and in bed for a few days each. And to top it off I feel like I have a constant water infection (I havent- I've been checked so many times!) as I constantly feel like I need to wee, the pressure is so intense sometimes it causes pain in my bladder. Roll on 8 more weeks - hopefully sooner!!

I'm joining this thread, 32weeks pregnant with a DD26 months at home, and I'm currently lying in bed having palmed her off to a friends for an hour. I'm so fed up of feeling tired and achy, back / hips etc. All I want to do is lie in bed all day. All I want to do is not have to get up every morning at DD beck and call. I'm lucky to have had relatively complication free, but I am still very much CBA. Am going to take a couple of days sick leave next week to catch up on sleep and rest my back / try to shift this pain whilst DD is at the child minders. That's terrible, I know. I never take sick days, but I have just got to the end of it.

35 weeks and the pain in my groin at night is unbearable !! Baby is still breech for me so currently dealing with a head lodged in my ribs and the top of my bump completely numb !! I feel like i can't have a wee moan in real life without all the daft responses back, I am super grateful to be pregnant with a healthy wee girl but pregnancy is difficult.

31 weeks and feeling like a beached whale. I've got a huge bump, swollen cankles, sciatica and everything hurts!

It's also terrible that 2 people have come on here and tried to make you feel guilty. We've had a 10 year infertility journey plus a 20 week loss in October last year. It's hard not to be envious of pregnant women sometimes but you don't know what their journey has been like to get there! Also, I still whinge all day, every day about being pregnant because it's bloody awful!

I didn't realize sciatica was so common! It hasn't even been mentioned by my midwife.

@sayanythingelse Congratulations on your pregnancy. I hope the next few weeks go as smoothly as possible for you!

I’m only 7 weeks and already floored by nausea. No toddler and am really just answering urgent emails work wise. I keep crying because I feel so crappy and I just want to enjoy this pregnancy (which I have longed for since a MMC).

Some of you sound like absolute super women.

20 weeks with baby number 4. I'm so drained so so tierd. I feel like I'm the most boring person on the planet all I want to do is sleep. Going to ask for a blood test see why I'm so tierd if its medical or just pregnancy

35w today and I'm flagging. Mine has been fairly uneventful but after a MC late last year and it's definitely taken its toll on terms of anxiety throughout my pregnancy. Realised today that I'll have basically been trying, pregnant or MC for the last 15 months but the time baby arrives. I'm so very tired.

I've reached the point of not coping day to day. Disturbed sleep isn't helping either I've had terrible pelvic sciatica and acid reflux. I was woken by a mouthful of acid after vomiting in my sleep which was scary.

Work is a shambles, I cannot focus. Still so much to do baby wise and trying to balance it all is overwhelming me.

36+5 with ds3 here. Fellow dance teacher who'd also have loved a girl (though loves my boys and wouldn't swap them now). One of my boys enjoys drama, but it's not the same! I'm still debating going for #4 despite hating pregnancy!

Hyperemesis here too, though thankfully it's now just nausea. I still haven't reached my original booking weight though. It swapped from the vomiting to SPD at about 25 weeks, I've been on crutches since then. So ready to be done!

I've started losing my plug so I'm praying it's a sign things are starting to move. We're being induced at 39 weeks if he doesn't arrive before then and I'd much sooner avoid that 🤞🏻

This is so nice to read and most people in real life say how lovely it is being pregnant and then I feel really bad for feeling how I feel.

im 34+3 and counting down the days. I have a lot of water retention, huge feet, ankles, calf’s, hands, face and lips have blown up something silly! Can’t walk as everything aches, hips, back, legs & feet. I have acid reflux and heartburn and can barely eat as baby is frank breech and has been for about 10 weeks, need to get him to move but I can’t see it happening just to have him
lower and not up in my ribs would feel like heaven.
I absolutely can’t wait to meet him and i’m looking forward to having him in our lives but I’m totally done with being pregnant.

I have SO much respect for women going through this with existing children. I don't have anyone but myself to take care of! And an incredibly supportive husband who's put up with my terrible conversation whilst I constantly forget words in the middle of a story. Does anyone get the feeling there isn't a great deal of sympathy for pregnant women because it's viewed as a life choice? And I suppose being pregnant itself is viewed as a state of health (as you've managed to conceive and grow a foetus) even though it can feel like a state of illness? 😂 I certainly don't like the idea of going back to the Jane Austen days when pregnant women were ordered to rest for the duration, but my work output has not been good in this first trimester (thank god my boss takes off the whole summer and hasn't realised)...

Aw I'm a few months behind you but more of less same - 18 weeks with a 22 month old.

It's tough. Rest when you can. Do you have a partner who can take the toddler out? Mine has taken DS out all day so I've had time to relax, take myself out for lunch, read and about to have a nap