Due Feb/Mar after MC 🌈 🙈 Thread 2

[MooBugz]

New thread following the almost full last one! Sorry if I missed the tag for anyone 😬

@Ally256 @madeinthe80z @Lmcc88 @OceanbreezeSun @doingitalllagain @RedElleJ @STom2 @WonderWoop @LittleLottle @Skylark1990 @Rubes1234 @Hagster @JoKB @Gamergirl84 @Franklin321

Ps @OceanbreezeSun how exciting that we are in your due date month aaah!! 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳

@doingitalllagain
I hope all is ok - Little one has done well to stay put up until now. I know it’s cliche but you are in the best place and you will both be well looked after. They will have a better idea on what steps to take next with monitoring ❤️

@MooBugz Eeek! It’s getting closer and closer, I have days where I’m ready, then other times, I feel nervous!
Only just packed my hospital bag (yesterday) I kept having dreams about it the night before, think my subconscious was telling me to get a move on🫣
I need to finish babys bag too!
Pram and car seat arrived last week, just need to set up the Snuzpod, Dh got it out of the loft & I’ve done about 4 loads of baby clothes washing. It’s all systems go, now that Christmas and New Year are over.
Dd keeps commenting on how big my belly is but says baby brother has to stay in abit longer🤣

We have another growth scan on Friday - depending on what they say (if the polyhydramious is still there) then I think we will book the induction date in.

It feels like a life time ago we were updating each other on the 12 week scans, doesn’t it!

@doingitalllagain hope tomorrow goes well, keep us updated!

Don't suppose anyone would be happy to share hospital bag list? This is my second but I can't for the life of me remember how many clothes etc to bring. I remember having too much of everything last time so def going to try to keep it light and send DH for more of whatever he needs. But for example how many nappies even?!

@MooBugz yes, having mum around at this time is so comforting! She is on her way now.. will be here Tomorrow morning🥳 glad your husband is of help!

@Gamergirl84 just a week more to go xx

@doingitalllagain eeeek the baby is definitely in the rush to meet you🥰 hope everything goes well for you both xx keep us posted!

My hospital bag is half packed.. yet to do the clothes as my mum is bringing some and she wanted hers to be included too😁

@doingitalllagain good luck hun 🧡 thinking of you!

I will write a hospital bag list later and share. It will have half the stuff my first had in, I know that 🤣
I remember packing a different bag for labour and then one for baby and after.

Got another scan today to check on placenta and fluid because of small baby.

I've brought my mat leave forward so I can actually start preparing, particularly for if they're gonna induce me at 37 weeks 😬 so one week left for me!

Had a scan and I've still got a decent amount of fluids left, so it was just a leak not all of it thankfully. His growth has picked up a bit too so he's over 4lbs now. They've booked me a section for 37 weeks so 23rd January but I'm sure I'm in early labour, having mild contractions and backache etc and still leaking some fluids so we will see. They said if I go into labour beforehand just come straight in and they'll deliver. I better go get my hospital bags organised 🙈 too many false alarms with this baby!! He's putting me through the ringer.

Hope everyone's doing ok.. soon this will all be a distant memory!

I was awake most of last night and ended up on mumsnet for something to read. I saw your other thread @doingitalllagain. Can’t imagine how stressful this is for you. Wanting him here safely but wanting him to stay in there as long as possible must be so conflicting for you. Stay strong and glad you finally got a midwife who took you seriously.

I was awake last night as couldn’t sleep due to annoyance. I had an appointment with an obs consultant and also a diabetes consultant yesterday, like a tag team which is quite useful. However, I felt so dismissed and not listened to. I was told that my sickness is causing spikes in my bloods as I can’t eat in a morning so eat in an afternoon and I need to be on medication for my diabetes. When I asked why as my readings are all within the recommended levels and her growth is fine I was told (bluntly) I’m risking a still birth. As soon as she said this I said I’d go on it then the other pipes up with I need to try another medication first because she doesn’t think my sickness is Hg, she things it’s acid. Even though I’ve never seen her before and discussed my sickness, I’ve never suffered with acid and it’s movement that triggers my sickness in a morning. And it makes me feel ill, not just sick. I didn’t want to try this, I wanted to go straight for diabetes medication if the risk of still birth is there. But nope, have to try the acid medication first to see if I can eat earlier in a morning. Tried them last night, retching as soon as I got up this morning so don’t hold out much hope. I’m now so conscious of every movement and trying to make her move because they’ve petrified me about a still birth.

I asked about the blood thinners and how this would impact the birth and the response was ‘you won’t die if that’s what you’re asking, you just can’t have an epidural and will need a general if you require a section’ there was no explanation about what other options are available to me. I’m not medically trained and have never been through this before so have no clue what will happen if I go into spontaneous labour, I don’t think either of them could understand this. I was just made to feel like an inconvenience for asking questions.

Rant over….I just needed to get that out!!
Hope everyone else is doing good and cracking on with packing hospital bags. 😄🧳

@doingitalllagain Looks like we were typing at the same time. So pleased to see that update! Glad you have a plan in place and also have them recognise what happens with spontaneous labour. Sounds like you’re in good hands now. 😄

@doingitalllagain that's a good news! Hope the baby bakes for a while more..

I don't have very good news from my side... For some reason, baby's growth is really slowing down.. she has fallen to 50th centile already... Also bit of lazy today, not moving much... Had been to hospital in the morning

Scan all normal except fetal weight; ctg normal.. hence I have been advised to have two scans a week to check blood flow to the baby and placental function... Baby is weighing 4lb 6oz as of today

Now they are aiming small; first I should make it to 34 weeks, which is 4 days away.. later to 37 weeks if everything is alright.. if at any point anything is compromised, it's an emergency section for me..

I am feeling so miserable; scared what is going to happen to this baby 😭

@drV How worrying for you!!! I can’t believe how stressful these last few weeks are, I thought the first 12 weeks would be the worst. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I think there’s a few of us who are now more scared than any other emotion, because of things that are completely out of our control. I have everything crossed little baby keeps on cooking away and grows nicely. It’s good they are keeping such a close eye on things. 🤞🏼

Oh gosh, you're right, these last few weeks are not very straightforward are they!

Good luck everyone, hang on in there and if something doesn't feel right, shout up and make yourself heard xx

@doingitalllagain sending you lots of luck! Keep us posted. Sounds like your LO will be the first to arrive (but hopefully not too soon, hang on a little longer baby!)

@ChangeHtotheP I'm so sorry you went through that at the appointment. As a doula I'm afraid to say sometimes medical professionals do not treat pregnant women well, and do not give good advice. It's difficult as we need to trust them, but sometimes they are wrong, and there are policies in place that do not take into account the individual. Scaring you with the still birth talk is not on, especially as your levels are good. I would ask to speak to a consultant midwife perhaps? They can be a bit more human and still highly trained. To get another view and reassurance.

@drV sorry to hear you are feeling anxious. That does sound worrying. If it helps at all, my friend just had a section due to baby's growth apparently stopping. This was at 37 weeks. They said he was 3rd percentile. When he came out he was 30th. She'd had regular scans due to previous baby loss, and still the scans were wrong. It's really hard to get an accurate measure of baby esp once they start getting bigger. 50th centile is good. I don't know your full medical history of course, so perhaps there are other reasons to worry. But stress won't be helpful so I hope you can find some reassurance in that the scans are not gospel! ❤️

I'm doing ok over here! Very jealous that you are all so close to meeting your babies! April doesn't seem long away but also it seems ages 😂 although hopefully the time flies.

I'll be popping back of course but just in case any babies arrive shortly.... Best of luck to everyone! You've got this 💫💫💫💫

Hi, hoping to ask for a bit of advice. I'm due at the start of next month and my husband has just informed me that his work have asked him to go offshore next week. I'm really not happy because during my whole pregnancy he said he wouldn't go away after Christmas because it would be do close to my due date.
I had a MC at the start of last year and his work flew him home the same day but it was still about 6-8 hours after I initially told him what had happened. Am I right to be upset about this or, as my husband keeps repeating, should I be grateful that he'll be bringing money in?

@doingitalllagain that's really good that a plans in place for you for either avenue and also kind of exciting that you might be the first of us to meet their rainbow baby! I hope everything goes well for you and your getting your scans so your in good hands 🙌

@drV likewise it's good you are being looked after and something in place you just have to try not to stress and take it one step at a time because there's nothing more you can do it's out of your hands and you've come a long long way and hope everything be will a distant memory when you meet your little one 🥰

@ChangeHtotheP I can't remember if this is your first baby or not? I find the health professionals were very poor my first time round and contributed to my eldest and his disability as they didn't listen to me when I knew something wasn't right. But I've learnt to go with my gut from them onwards. Listen your your instinct it's very much real and demand to be listened to and change your midwife if you find your not being reassured.

How horrible that they mention stillbirth then fob you off like that.

@Skylark1990 it's be April before you know it too!! What a journey you've been on in so happy for you and hope you are feeling the stress come away now and enjoy the pregnancy progress ❤️

@Lavenderleopard it's a tricky one but I'd say if you had already discussed it then it really shouldn't be happening. Pregnancy after loss is hard enough to deal with and support counts for a lot especially during the birth and lead up/after it. Maybe try talking to him again and see if he can understand where you are coming from

Hey @Lavenderleopard didn't want to read and run as I am in a very similar situation with my husband. He is military and we don't know if he will even be able to make the birth now. Unfortunately, 'needs of the service' come first in our instance and as frustrating and upsetting as it is, it isn't something either of us have control over.

I am not sure how much control your husband has over the situation he is in but you are absolutely entitled to feel upset with the change. Personally, when I am venting I always make it clear that it is his work that I am frustrated with, not him personally. I don't want him to feel attacked when really he wants to be with me too.

We do have a welfare support network that we can speak too, which is what we are going to do. However, there is no guarantee that they can make sure he is home. So we have just made the decision to get as much ready before he leaves in a couple of weeks time to take the pressure off me a bit. If he doesn't make it back from the birth, it is absolutely not ideal but mentally I need to make sure that I am in a good place to try and get a positive birth experience despite everything that is going on.

If he has a choice in the matter, I would absolutely have a discussion about him staying. However, if he doesn't, I would reach out to any support you might have with him being an offshore worker and mentally prepare for what labour may look like without him there. I know that may seem like a horrible thought but, if it is a possibility, it needs to be something you are prepared for.

Hi all, sorry haven't been around much, colds and snotty noses over Christmas had me tied up so basicallyni was looking after two toddlers- my actual 2 year old and my.husband.

I had to go on to hospital for low movement the other day. All was fine but I was kinda dreading it. The last few weeks of baby #1 were exactly the same and I was in four times before they decided to keep me in. Really worried this will go the same way.

I have a midwife app on Wed to discuss birth plan which will be a week 39 ECS unless they decide to get baba out early.

Also Braxton Hicks are plaguing me right now, not painful just uncomfortable. Anyone else experiencing this? I didn't have them at all with my first.

@doingitalllagain hope all is well 🙏

Hi all! Thank you all for your kind words ♥️ it has been a stressful week, going in for twice weekly scans; had my 34 week midwife appointment and scheduled for a growth scan on Thursday... Baby is doing fine, so thankful for that🙏 hoping to reach the 37 week goal safely!

I have packed mine and baby's bag and put them in the boot.. taking them with me to every hospital visit just in case🙈😅

@Gamergirl84 i have been getting frequent Braxton Hicks too, mostly in the evenings and night... As you said, they aren't painful but uncomfortable for sure!

Hope everyone else is alright!

Hi @Gamergirl84
glad to hear all is ok with you and baby.
Hopefully baby will behave & won’t give you any more reasons to go in for monitoring! 🤭

I think what I’m experiencing is Braxton Hicks, but I’m not 100% sure. I get very tight and uncomfortable in the belly area but rather than coming and going, it lasts about an hour or so at a time. I’ve got it now actually and it’s making my ribs and back ache. I’ve had this for the last few months though.

@drV also glad to hear baby is doing ok & you are being monitored closely, despite it being stressful.

It’s good to be prepared for any eventuality, good idea to pack yours and baby’s hospital bags and have them ready in the boot.

@doingitalllagain I hope all is well with you and baby? X

How is everyone else doing?

I had another growth scan last Friday - fluid still quite high but has gone down slightly.

Baby doing ok in there, thankfully😊
but because the fluid is still in the high side and I’m physically very uncomfortable now - belly is large and I can’t walk far at all.
(I’m not sure I could make it to week 39 tbh!) the consultant said she thinks I should bring the induction forward by a few days, so it’s been booked in for next weekend, where I’ll be 38 + 5 days ( that’s if I don’t go into spontaneous labour myself!)

It’s so soon! I feel equal parts relieved, excited & nervous about an induction but do believe it’s the safest route for baby & I.
Trying to stay positive about an induction - they get a bad rep but there are lots of positive induction stories out there, so I’m focusing on them rather than the negative ones.

@OceanbreezeSun wow that's so soon! Crossing fingers that everything goes well for you and your baby 🤞🏻

Can anyone suggest a good pair of leggings for postpartum?

Aw were all getting so close! Glad to hear everyone's doing ok apart from the general crappiness of the third trimester!

We've had a few more hospital visits, no more big gushes of fluid and still good levels around the baby and his heartbeat etc have been fine throughout. He's slightly small, compared to my previous baby atleast (born by EMCS at 37+5 weighing 7lbs 3!) this baby is 4lbs at the moment and they're expecting no more than 5lbs at 37 weeks which is when I've got my section booked. I'm feeling really nervous about it and hoping that when we get to that point they'll let me push it on a day by day basis just to give him a bit longer to grow. But if not and he is born on the 23rd atleast we made it to term. I keep thinking labour is starting, I've got cramps and lower back pain but they said it's not as there isn't a regular enough pattern and I'm not in enough pain! It's kicked my arse into gear, got all the baby stuff out the loft and washed, car seat washed up and ready, next2me set up, hospital bags done, nursery finished and all clothes washed and away - I'm ready and waiting!

Hi everyone! So nice to hear how everyone is doing 🥳

Omg @OceanbreezeSun you are literally SO close I feel excited for you!!

Everyone else is not far off either. I finish work on Friday and aim to have my bag packed for this weekend too. I feel so unorganised like time has just crept up on me out of nowhere 🙈

I've been stressed from family stuff (in laws as per) and just general business of life so it'll be good to wind down after this week and get everything finalised for baby. Still need to get the crib out the loft and car seat cleaned but will do this Monday. I've got a growth scan for 30th jan and a final wax booked for 2nd feb. I need baby to stay out till 2nd feb haha then I'm good to go anytime!!

Everyone is so close! And I'm not nearly prepared enough. My section is booked for start of second week of Feb. This week I did get all DS baby clothes down from the loft and sorted through. I've realised he had a ridiculous amount of clothes so definitely don't need much new. Have started working my way through the laundry.

Car seat is all cleaned out thanks to DH and we have a new bigger car seat for DS. So that's ONE thing done at least. Oh, and a new pram raincover haha!

No idea what size this LO is as my growth scan is still 10 days away (pretty late at 36+4). So assuming/hoping all is well.

We did finally agree on a name for LO I think. As of yesterday. So this is a big step!!

Reading so many inductions/sections have been booked and coming so quickly is so exciting yet so scary……it’s all getting so close! They’ll be here before we know it! 👶🏼😄

I don’t think I’ve experienced any braxton hicks yet….which I’m pleased about. I need to start collecting colostrum soon so have read that may prompt some.

Good idea to have bags in the boot @drV. I was waiting for an appointment the other day and saw someone getting whisked off for an induction when they’d only gone in for an appointment so I’m sure they wish they’d pack them. I have mine kind of packed….everything is in them but they are left open on the spare bed. After being admitted for sickness very unexpectedly weeks ago my husband is trying to make sure we’re prepared as much as we can as he was very stressed trying to find everything I wanted from a text message I sent. 😂

Random question…..how many baby grows is enough? I bought some thinking it would be sufficient but now I’m thinking I’ll need more, unless we want the washing machine going every day.

@ChangeHtotheP i guess 10 baby grows are sufficient.. that's what I have heard from new mums.. and they said they would only wash every other day..

Because I am not sure how big/small my baby would be, I have got 5 newborn size and 5 0-3 months size... And could order more of them online if I need a particular size !