Due April/May after MC 🌈

[BellaBella38]

Hi everyone, I know this is might be a bit early to start a thread but after more than 2 1/2 years of trying the overwhelming excitement is real!

Me and my husband lost out first at 10 weeks back in December 2020 and to be honest had kind of given up. I only peed on a stick at 16DPO because a banana repulsed me to the point of spitting it out! Trying not to be too excited or paranoid, but we'll see how that goes. 🤣

I've ordered the Pregnancy after Loss book by Zoe Coates Clark in an attempt to keep my sanity, but the going to the loo fear of seeing blood is real. And I've booked an apt to talk to my GP on Thursday at 5+3 to talk about whether or not progesterone would be appropriate.

Thankfully my husband is level headed and reminds me not to get too ahead of myself yet, but it would be great to meet others in the same boat for a hand hold.

@HoneyPea I’m so sorry for your loss. I would go on Wednesday so that they can check you for retained tissue etc to prevent infection 😔 xx

@HoneyPea I'm so sorry. I would also say go to scan, as it will be good to check whether there is anything remaining that shouldn't be.

Does anyone else have cervical cramps? They're not bad, maybe a 4/10, but really worrying me as I keep thinking does this mean cervix is opening? I guess could maybe be irritation from cyclogest? Considering calling EPU but not sure if that's nonsense behaviour.

I’ve just had a bit of light bleeding and cramps, just come back from my lunch break walk at work cramping and I am light bleeding
I’m really stressing and worrying
I feel like I’m not bleeding enough to rush myself to epu but at the same time I’m freaking out

@Essexgalhere it's impossible not to worry when you see light bleeding but remember it doesn't have to mean anything bad. Lots of women bleed in pregnancy and are fine (and I didn't bleed and miscarried). It's disconcerting but there is a lot going on in there so would be surprising if there was never any blood. I actually bleed more since my miscarriage - I bleed on ovulation and I bleed as this one was implanting.

It's natural that you're panicking so maybe contact the EPU if you haven't already to see if they can resssure you. Sending love xxx

@IWillBeWaxingAnOwl a bit of cramping is normal. Cyclogest definitely irritates. I'be probably said this before because I am a broken record on this one but cyclogest works best rectally - it takes a moment to get used to doing things up the bum (!) but it absorbs better, doesn't come flooding out, doesn't cause spotting and doesn't irritate! Hopefully that is all that is causing this x

@HoneyPea I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending love. I also think you should go for the scan next week because you deserve the support and clarity on the situation may help a litre xxx

@BellaBella38 I hope your scan was ok yesterday. No pressure to share but don't feel that you can't share if yours went well. I know it's hard when others have had tough news but we're still hoping things are going well for you x

Thank you @Janefx40 - I think I'm going to switch to rectal in case it is that causing irritation. I also might call EPU tomorrow if I'm still getting cramping, more just because it's worrying me than anything else.

@Janefx40 thank you
I am being scanned tomorrow by epu, she thinks I’m bleeding and cramping due to placenta taking over… I am trying to not panic tonight and just see what happens the best that I can
My twins due date in 20th, I just can’t believe this is happening x hoping all okay

@IWillBeWaxingAnOwl when I had my booking in appt yesterday I said I was anxious and kept wanting to ring EPU for stuff but wasn't sure what warranted it - she said just call. That they'd much prefer to help out where they can even if it's just to alleviate our fears. It can't hurt to ring.

@Essexgalhere good luck tomorrow, hopefully it's all good news, do your best to relax tonight if you can.

@Janefx40 I had the same with an ovulation bleed the month after my MMC - never had it before (or since!). Human bodies are weird!
I'm waiting on blood results and swab after my weird yellow discharge but after some intense internetting I stopped taking my huge vitamin c tablet and I seem to be all white now discharge wise.

So instead I'm stressing about no nausea today and less sore boobs. Honestly, is there ever any peace!?

Hi all, I've been on the due May thread with @IWillBeWaxingAnOwl who mentioned this thread. I had a missed miscarriage in June (our first). Medical management failed so I had an MVA. Found out at about 9.5 weeks that no heartbeat and stopped growing at 7 weeks.

Currently 10+1 weeks. Had a panic at 7 weeks when I had brown coffee ground discharge and EPU scanned and told me it was twins. We rescheduled our early reassurance scan to this Friday which I'm hoping will reassure me and then it's 10 days til the 12 week scan.

Nausea is absolutely kicking me - I've been prescribed cyclizine it's been so bad. Sod's law that yesterday I felt much less sick and panicked all day. And now I'm back to nauseous.

I daren't feel excited because I'm just waiting for it to all go wrong! I'm so hopeful that I might feel better after the 12 week scan.

@MO22 am I allowed to smile about the fact that your yellow discharge might be caused by vitamin c tablet?! 😆 The things we put ourselves through and then it can be such a simple cause!

@Myotherusernameisaferrari welcome x

Hello @Myotherusernameisaferrari 👋. Glad to have you join us.

I am genuinely considering another scan as 3 weeks just seems so long.

@MO22 that is good advice and honestly I might call tomorrow just for some reassurance

@Janefx40 I hope you can more than smile, we need a laugh during this bloody horrible first trimester! I get the swab results on Thursday so will definitely lol if I'm clear of thrush or anything...

@IWillBeWaxingAnOwl call the EPU, get a scan. Do what you have to in order to feel more in control and less stressed honestly. That's what the EPU is there for surely!

Have my scan in 40 mins
No bleeding or bad cramps over night so trying to remain hopeful

I hope everyone is doing OK today xx

@Essexgalhere 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

Crossing my fingers for you @Essexgalhere - hope all is well

Thank you, my scan went well and baby is fine
EDD is the day before my birthday!

So glad to hear that @Essexgalhere !

@Essexgalhere phew and yay! So pleased you had a scan and that it was reassuring xxx

@Essexgalhere really pleased for you 💗 hope you can relax a bit now.

@BellaBella38 i hope everything is ok for you? Xxx

I’ve just had a call to say I have a 1 in 2 chance of Down’s syndrome. I’m heartbroken about it all and can’t stop crying. Still having to work as can’t get time off (family business and family member having surgery today) it is a good distraction at times but now im
hiding in my car after the phone call. I have my appointment with fetal medicine on Friday where I am hoping to have a cvs done. I just need to know for certain. I was dreading this ever happening and I feel like an awful person for not wanting to raise a special needs child 😭😭 it’s not that I don’t want to - it’s just such a complex situation for my job and also have to think of my little one and how much it would hugely affect their life never mind how on earth id cope.

sorry everyone. Just needed to write it down.

@Mrs173 I am so sorry, I can't imagine the pain you're in. Vent whatever you need to vent ❤️

@Essexgalhere that's great news!

@Mrs173 So sorry to hear that. You must be feeling so torn.

I don't think that you should feel guilty. The reality of life for many babies born with down syndrome is not a walk in the park. Whilst some can do very well, some are profoundly disabled and there's no way to tell in advance.

Do what is right for your family and don't feel guilty. It's fine to put your little one first.

If it makes you feel better, I'm going to have enhanced screening even if my risk is low because it's not something I'd choose for myself or for a child. I know that people have different views but you definitely don't need to feel guilty for how you're feeling. You're going through enough so be kind to yourself.

@Mrs173 I am so sorry and please feel free to message / chat about anything and we will of course all be here for you
I can’t imagine how you are feeling right now, and please don’t think you’re a bad person for worrying about how this could affect your job/life in the future. It is a huge shock to take in xxx really thinking of you right now

Thank you @Singingloudforalltohear 💗 I am going to go through with the diagnostic tests as I too wouldn’t choose to bring a child into the world that will suffer somewhat no matter what. I know I have “a 50% chance” that everything “will be ok” but it’s such a high chance and my Papp-a is 0.49 which from some Googling is still considered low - ie higher chance of late miscarriage / still birth etc. it’s hard to not let the numbers run away with you. It just feels like it has been such a struggle to get here and I can’t believe it’s all so difficult now. I don’t think I can put myself through this ever again - the agonising wait/scans/tests and I’m now very upset at the idea of only having one child which in itself I know would be upsetting to people that do not have a child yet and may not understand the desire to have 2 and for me to be upset I can “never complete my family” it’s very hard to not upset people with these things when we are all at different points. I just keep looking at my scan picture and it’s so hard when I am just desperate for this baby to be healthy.