Due April/May after MC 🌈

[BellaBella38]

Hi everyone, I know this is might be a bit early to start a thread but after more than 2 1/2 years of trying the overwhelming excitement is real!

Me and my husband lost out first at 10 weeks back in December 2020 and to be honest had kind of given up. I only peed on a stick at 16DPO because a banana repulsed me to the point of spitting it out! Trying not to be too excited or paranoid, but we'll see how that goes. 🤣

I've ordered the Pregnancy after Loss book by Zoe Coates Clark in an attempt to keep my sanity, but the going to the loo fear of seeing blood is real. And I've booked an apt to talk to my GP on Thursday at 5+3 to talk about whether or not progesterone would be appropriate.

Thankfully my husband is level headed and reminds me not to get too ahead of myself yet, but it would be great to meet others in the same boat for a hand hold.

@Mrs173 I'm hopefully 13 weeks tomorrow, scan is at 1030 with a whole load of extra apts tagged onto it.

@BellaBella38 @Mrs173 will be thinking of you both tomorrow! xxx

@BellaBella38 @Mrs173 will be thinking of you both. It's so hard.

@Essexgalhere it's bound to be hard with such a big milestone. There's a whole chapter in the Pregnancy After Loss book about that. Do you want me to take pics of the pages for you?

@BellaBella38 @Mrs173 good luck for the scans today. Hope you get to enjoy seeing your little beans and all is well.

Good luck today everyone x

@Mrs173 my scan is 3rd November, I will be 13+2. It was originally booked for 19th october (my lmp was 24th July, but didn’t ovulate until 16th Aug. So whoever I spoke to took my lmp rather than what I said). The midwife then said it’s too early to check for the nt at 11+1, she said it will be the week after and then the hospital set it back further to 3rd. Even longer to wait. Hope your scan goes well today, and @BellaBella38.

I hope you got on ok @BellaBella38

not great news for us everyone 😭 baby has an NT measurement of 5.3mm which is well over the marker. We have been referred to FM and tests will commence. I’m heartbroken

I’m so sorry @Mrs173
I am not really too sure what a NT measurement means if it is above the marker but I am thinking of you xx

It means there is a very high chance something is wrong and the higher the number the less chance of baby surviving. 1.6-2.4mm is “normal” and 5.3mm was mine which is very very high I hve been told. I’m just devastated and it feels so unfair to have to go through this after 2 missed miscarriages 😭😭 I’m sorry I’m feeling so down right now

@Mrs173 I'm so sorry you have additional worry. It's just so unfair. What are the next steps? Will they do bloods to find out more? Sending love xxx

@Mrs173 I am so sorry
That is so unfair 😔💔

I'm so so sorry @Mrs173 - sometimes I just want to punch the world, this is so unfair

@Mrs173 I am so so sorry. Thinking of you, I know there is nothing anyone can say but if you need any support we are all here. Will they be doing bloods to get a more accurate read - I don't know much bar what I have read but I thought that was the next step?

Hi girls I'm hoping I can jump on here. I guess I'm just looking for some reassurance. This is our third baby I'm currently 10 weeks pregnant. We had a scan at 6 weeks and again at 8 weeks, just because I was so nervous and had some bleeding. Both times seen baby's heartbeat and everything was fine. I have been very nauseas and exhausted up until the weekend. I have suddenly started to feel "normal". Apart from sensitive, sore and hard boobs I don't have many pregnancy symptoms anymore. Is this something I should be worried about? I don't remember when my symptoms faded with my previous 2 children and I'm terrified when I go to my booking appointment they will give me bad news

@Mrs173 So sorry to hear this. I hope you get some further answers soon, I can imagine more waiting must be the worst. Hope you’re able to look after yourself tonight,

Thank you all. I will get the combined results back to
tomorrow or Wednesday as they rush them through especially as I am already 13 weeks. They have told me to expect them to come back as high risk as my reading on the nt was so high. I’ve been referred to fetal medicine at a large hospital and will have to go for another scan and then I think they said they will do a nipt blood test. Then I can also choose an amino or cvs which does come with a small possibility of mc. It really feels very overwhelming at the moment. I also just don’t know how I feel about having a child with ds which is making me feel like an awful human being. I just feel like it would impact my little girls life so much and that my husband and I would have so much strain forever. I really hope I don’t upset anyone by saying that - it’s not something I thought I would have said before finding this out. I also feel like I just knew this would happen even though I never could have known. I’ve just turned 31 too so am not particularly old in terms of high risk for ds etc.

@Mrs173 im so sorry. Hopefully they provide more answers over the next few days.

@Mrs173 it sounds like you will have lots of more information about exactly what's happening within the next week. It's going to be such a hard week while you wait.

It's totally natural to worry about how you would cope with a child with special needs and it doesn't make you a bad person. When the time comes you will make the decision that's right for your family. You're not quite at the point of having to make that decision yet but totally appreciate that it's going to be zooming around your head non stop.

Sending love x

@Jade57 welcome to the thread of panic and anxiety!!! I was worried that I wasn't feeling as nauseous last week so I scanned through all my WhatsApp's to my best friend from my pregnancy with my daughter (poor woman got a day by day account of my anxiety). Lo and behold I had a week where I wasn't that nauseous then and then it came back. So I think these things can come and go. Really hope all is ok for you. When is your next scan?

@Jade57 definitely normal for symptoms to disappear a bit around 10 weeks. I know it's so hard after a loss to feel okay about symptoms disappearing or cramps etc. My brain goes back and forth "omg I feel less sick, what if the baby has died"... "Omg that is a major cramp, what if it's all gone wrong"

@Janefx40 my next scan is in 3 weeks times 7th November so il be closer to 13 weeks than 12 weeks I think. Just judging by the 2 private scans I have had but of course I know my dates could change with the dating scan. Just feels like a lifetime away!

@Jade57 mine will be around 13 weeks too. What was your gestation at your last private scan? Mine was 8+4. However, our loss was at 11 weeks before so still very nervous! Not sure I'll feel any level of peace before 20+ weeks tbh

I definitely miscarried on Sat. Should I ring the EPU and tell them or should I go to my appointment on Weds?

@Mrs173 I'm so sorry to hear about your scan but apparently high NTs can turn out ok as the fluid can be reabsorbed as the baby grows. when I had my TFMR in Feb my little girl had an NT of 4.9. Came back with a very high 1:7 chance of T21. First they offered NIPT as I was 13weeks so inbetween CVS and Amnio. That came back high so I then had an Amnio. Turns out she had T21, heart abnormalities, a cystic hygroma and the membranes between us were beginning to detach. If you have any questions feel free to ask and I will try my best to answer them for you.

@HoneyPea i am so so sorry to hear all that you’ve been through. Life is just too unfair sometimes. I imagine it must have been such a heartbreaking decision for you. I had a miscarriage in June and now this so possibly you in reverse.

i would go to your appointment on Wednesday so they can scan you and check that everything is ok (ie no infection risk) and this will hopefully avoid any intervention needed further down the line.

sending you love and thanks for the info above. I was basically told I can choose between the nipt OR amino/cvs but couldn’t have both? I’m all confused about it now so may call them tomorrow with my questions after some sleep. Xx

@IWillBeWaxingAnOwl I was 8 weeks exactly at my last scan on the 7th of October. I'm so sorry for your loss, that must make the waits between scans seem like an eternity xx