Is there a 'Due May 2023' thread?

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For those with bad nausea, I found with my first pregnancy that travel sickness bands really helped. I got them from boots and they really did help.

@Cutie18327 I've ordered some from eBay they were only £3 I think! I've heard good things!

I’ve sent an invite for the FB group too, thanks for sharing ☺️

I am sorry if this is not the right place to post - just wondering if anyone has similar experience and can share tips/tricks. I am 4 weeks 5 days today following one MMC in April and another CP in July. My anxiety is through the roof I am thinking if I should get professional help at this stage. I already had a scan before 4 weeks which of course saw nothing, had HCG taken which did triple in 48 hours. I am having another scan tmw to see if there is sac. I know none of these is healthy I just dont know what to do with myself! I was supposed to be on down reg for our first IVF cycle this month and have all the drugs in the fridge. I already convinced myself that this one is doomed already and constantly calculating when I can go again for IVF as this exact same thing happened to me last time delaying our cycle from April to now. I am even thinking to contact the surgeon who did the ERPC for me last time jesus. I dont have any existing mental health issues so i am sure this is all pregnancy related anxiety. Also I dont feel very pregnant I feel my symptoms are mild which again really worries me, anyone else in same boat and how do you make yourself feel better? Its ironic I actually have a very busy job which in theory should occupy me but this potential miscarriage is all i can think of....

Hi @tiantian1005 I'm in exactly your situation - MMC and CP and now 4 weeks and 3 days.

I'm going between anxiety and then trying to be rational. Haven't had any bloods or scans yet but peeing on sticks constantly to check and they've got darker over the week.

Also have a busy job and am normally a rational person so I'm quite taken aback by how much I'm ruminating on this!

Going to book a scan at the 6/7 week mark. I don't think I could face going earlier and seeing something that doesn't have a heartbeat yet. The wait until the next scan would psychologically be too much! I think when you have a scan that confirms a heartbeat you'll likely settle down a bit hopefully?

My MMC happened just short of 6 weeks so feel like if I get past that point and detect a heartbeat the odds are good.

Glad I have this as an outlet!

@tiantian1005 hey, welcome and congrats. I'm in a similar boat, a CP at 4+3 and MMC at 8wks since Nov last year, now 5+1. I'm generally quite an anxious person, but I've been ok so far. There's nothing I can do that will change the outcome, so I just feel like I'm along for the ride, and what will be will be.

Having had a MMC after no spotting, some nausea, etc, and knowing people who have both had abnormal bleeding and had healthy pregnancies and had horrible nausea and still MC'd just makes me feel like symptom spotting is meaningless.

What everyone says is that you have to stay in the moment - right now you're pregnant, and that's good, and the odds are on your side - datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer

You could try some mindfulness/calming activities?

There's also another thread for due Apr/May after MC, if you just want to vent all your anxiety to people who understand. :)

Hi all, congratulations to all the new joiners! 😊

5+2 today and generally I still feel fine. My main symptoms are sore/bigger breasts, some bloating and a slightly funny appetite. And occasional mild and short-lived period-type pains, usually at night. No sickness or anything else yet, thankfully.

Does anyone know how to go about getting a flu jab? I know pregnant women are advised to get one as soon as the NHS vaccination programme starts this month, but I'm not sure how it all works. I have my booking appointment on 28th September, so might the midwife offer it then? Or is it more likely I'll need to get it done via my GP? I haven't even told my GP I'm pregnant yet, as I self-referred to the hospital. Any knowledge gratefully received!

Hi I’m new here 👋

I got a digital 1-2 weeks positive at 12DPO which was last Thursday. My LMP was 3rd August so Flo has me dated at 4 weeks 6 days but that seems too far along? This will be my first baby so I don’t have a clue about dates!

@Singingloudforalltohear
SO nice to know someone else with similar dates!! How are you feeling day to day any symptoms? x

@tiantian1005 The anxiety after losses is unreal and I’ve been Googling early scans before 6 weeks because I don’t know how I’m going to cope waiting until next weekend not knowing
It is so overwhelming that I told my husband I don’t think I could do this again if I had another loss

I just wanted to say that the way you are feeling is completely normal but if you are really struggling then speak to doctor or counsellor

I don’t even find comfort with symptoms because I had morning sickness the day my twins were both MMC on the scan

It is really scary but we will get through this x

@Laura993 weeks are based on the first date of your last period. So mine is 5.5 weeks but that is how long since the start of that last period. Hope that makes sense!

It does yeah, thank you! It will be 5 weeks on Wednesday since my LMP first day so the apps are counting along accurately.

the apps have my predicted due date as the 10th May.

I had a chemical in June so I have been understandably anxious I also had a little bit of spotting when my period would have been due which made me worry but I’ve had nothing since thankfully. Has anyone else had this? I have pretty bad nausea already as well as lots of pulling going on in my stomach.

@Essexgalhere

Sorry to hear your previous loss, how are you feeling this time round?

Just had my booking appointment through - via SMS. 😂6 Oct, when I'll be about 9+4 I think.

No real symptoms, except I've been wide awake before 6am (this happened last time) and my lord do I want to be napping every hour of the day. Focusing on doing anything is a challenge. Boobs sore, particularly when I remove my bra at the end of the day.

@Owl86 it looks to me like arranging flu jabs varies by trust, so probably first step is to contact GP or midwives and see what they say?

@Essexgalhere with my MMC, I had symptoms (inc nausea) and no sign of bleeding right up to when they did the MVA. It really takes away your comfort that if something was wrong you would know about it. I therefore completely understand the desire for early scans, but as a serial Mumsnet haunter I've read so many posts of people freaking out because they had a scan at 5w that was inconclusive because it's difficult to see anything at that point, especially if your dates are a little bit off.

Obviously only you know what is best for you, but it's worth considering whether or not having an inconclusive scan at 5w would increase your anxiety more than not having a scan for another week?

@tiantian1005 I'm feeling OK. Falling asleep very early, heavy boobs and they're v sore when I take my bra off at night. Minor nausea but comes and goes. Had a bit of constipation which is unusual for me but happened in previous pregnancy too.

I know what you mean about symptoms bot being reassuring - I had symptoms the day that I found out about the MMC too. Was also a twin pregnancy although one was a blighted ovum so had never been viable.

It sound like you're finding it really tough waiting for your scan. You might still feel like that but try to keep really busy - time seems to go more quickly when you're busy.

I keep checking for bleeding because that's how I discovered the last one was a chemical.

How are you feeling?

Sorry to hear you're feeling so anxious @tiantian1005 ❤️ I've also had 2 previous losses at 7 weeks and at 17 weeks. I think I've just detached emotionally now after the late loss and really don't know when it will feel like it's true that I'll be having a baby this time.
Early scans are worth a try to help you but you might find they make you feel more anxious/desperate for another one - im sorry I do have any wise words other than remembering that these things are out of our hands and as others have said the best we can do is take each day as it comes and try to live in the present as much as possible xxx

Had a really bad call with the GP today and wanted to rant. Just rang to say I was getting very faint lines (5 weeks) and they kept saying how it’s still so early, EPU won’t be interested and just kept saying how early it is. But every day i progress in this pregnancy I feel really happy and positive about and then I have them telling me that it’s still so early and “most people wouldn’t know they were pregnant by now”. ARGH.

@OrangeTable well that is rubbish because I went to EPU at 5 weeks last week and they were very helpful. My EPU is a walk in clinic so I just went. Also obviously most women know by the time they have missed their period! What a stupid thing to say!

Does anyone else feel very breathless and fatigued? I had it with my last pregnancy but it overlapped with Covid so I didn't think it was a pregnancy symptoms except now I have the same. Can't make it up the stairs without getting out of breath!

@catc7 thank you for agreeing I thought I was being dramatic! I just felt so dismissed! I thought I’d made progress by getting to this stage and now feel anxious and worried again :-(

Hi everyone id love to join if I can? Just jumped over from the coneption threads as we had our BFP's on Saturday😍 now 4 weeks exactly and estimated due date is 15/05/23!

Looking forward to getting to know you all and going on this journey together!

Hi! Can I join too? Got a surprise BFP this morning and still slightly baffled... DD is 1 year and we had a 12 week miscarriage before then. Don't dare to celebrate this one or even think it's real...!

@mamazac I think we might be due date buddies, if my calculations are right.

@Owl86 On flu jab, your midwife organises it for you!

@tiantian1005 sorry you're having such a tough time. Hopefully having this thread and others to talk to helps. That's good you've got another scan tomorrow and hopefully that helps you.

@Owl86 I know when pregnant with my DD 6 years ago my midwife arranged it. I fell pregnant in September then too so was sand time of year.

@Laura993 my my last period was 5th August and my date calculator puts me at 4 weeks 5 days so similar to you and also due date of 10th May

@Melusina123 that's good you've got your booking appointment through. Mine will be at 9 weeks exactly on 5th October.

@OrangeTable that's awful they treated you like that. Most people definitely know they're pregnant by 5 weeks.

@Cutie18327 I think it's a pretty common symptom. I haven't felt breathless but definitely noticed shallower breathing at times and definitely find my workouts tougher when pregnant.