I'm pregnant with my second baby. I found out the sex of my first because I was hoping for a boy and had no patience. This time around, I thought I wanted a surprise but I'm finding myself looking for clues on the scan, asking others for their opinion and thinking about finding out during my 20 week scan🙈
What are the benefits of not finding out? How did you feel when your baby was born or was it hard to find neutrals?
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Is a surprise worth it?
CJones11 · 31/07/2022 11:45
NatMoz · 31/07/2022 11:49
I didn't know but didn't find it hard to find neutrals. The magical moment of my husband telling me i had a girl after waking up from C-section when i thought all along i was having a boy is something I'll never forget.
My mum went out and bought loads of dresses within a week
Coco9910 · 31/07/2022 11:50
We planned to not find out with our first but as we got towards 20 weeks we both started to get curious and we couldn’t say why we weren’t finding out. It’s a surprise whenever it happens, and in the end we said it was going to be an amazing experience when the baby is born so we decided to find out. I also felt it’s helped me to bond with the baby. But if you think you can wait, it would be worth the wait :)
Mlexapet · 31/07/2022 11:59
My first pregnancy ended in a loss at 23 weeks and we didn't know she was a girl. We didn't find out with my second pregnancy and he was a healthy boy. My third pregnancy ended in a loss at 24 weeks - I was convinced we were having a girl but he was a boy. With my fourth pregnancy, we did find out he was a boy. It really helped me bond even though I didn't want to because of our losses. Our 'surprise' was whether this baby was coming home with us, not whether he was a boy or a girl.
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