IVFers Due Mar & Apr 2023

[EasterBunny7]

Hello! Welcome to all who got their BFP after going through fertility treatment. Join here for a shared understanding of the struggles faced by some women to get pregnant. Due date: March 2023!
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@EmzieMurf1987 I'm on progesterone until 16 weeks I think! That's just because of past issues though, as a precaution.

@handslikebirds aw congratulations on your scan! That's fab!

@ChristmasJumpers one out of 25 - what a little fighter you have! Totally meant to be 🥰 I only got 5 eggs which I was gutted about but ended up with 2 blastos - it does seem totally random.

@Twittwoo2020 congratulations on your scan as well! So lovely to see all this news! And 5+6 too! I have my first scan at 6+0 and am anxious it might be too early! Ahh 2nd sac must be a bit of a strange thing to get your head around. Sounds like nothing to worry about and you can focus on your little ticking bean 🥰

@EasterBunny7 do you have your scan tomorrow? Thinking of you and have everything crossed it goes well! X

@Twittwoo2020 oh congratulations and amazing news on your first scan! Glad it’s all in the right place for you! Now just to wait till the next one! I caved and booked a private one for in a few weeks time 😂😂

@Amy00 wow 16 weeks is a long time! I’ve finished my lubion a few days ago so just carrying on with the pessaries and will slowly taper them off purely to reduce my own anxiety about stopping 😂😂

@EasterBunny7 🤞🏼🤞🏼 For your scan I really do hope all will be ok for you. Thinking of you today 😘😘

Joining very tentatively as I’ve had some bleeding and unfortunately some of it is red. The clinic have said to wait and see and it feels agonising. Trying to rest and keep my mind busy at the same time.

I had originally joined a non IVF group but it’s too hard being around people who (the majority anyway) are so relaxed and carefree about their pregnancies, when I feel so much anxiety. I really do wish them all the best but oh my goodness I envy them too.

Sending extra love to everyone here.

So.....there was a heartbeat! I cried all the way to the appointment, adamant that it was a no-go. I arrived half and hour early and was seen 45 minutes late. An agonising 75 minute wait watching other women get their news. I saw the difference between the woman who came back in floods of tears in comparison to the two who had an envelope in their hands and sat back down in the waiting room. I started calculating the odds of me getting an envelope now, but miracle of miracles - my first heartbeat, ever! I could not believe my eyes, I just cried and cried. But, there's always a little something to contend with: my bleeding alongside with fluid that could be clearly seen within my uterus is cause for concern. So, I have to keep monitoring it and they insisted that I must go to EPU this time.

@Greatfyl welcome and congratulations on your ivf pregnancy! I am having bleeding for going on two weeks now. I hope my story may give you some hope.

@EasterBunny7 I am overjoyed for you!! What wonderful news! That wait sounds like a trial, I can imagine your heart was in your chest. Really wonderful outcome.

I’ve just had my scan and it was good news. I am measuring one day ahead at 6+4 and we saw a heartbeat.

im going back next week for another scan.

it was only 1 baby so the second embryo mustn’t have implanted or not stuck around. I am a bit sad just because I’m also grieving for the lost embryo at the same time.

@Greatfyl I know what you mean about the general pregnancy groups! Really hope the bleeding calms down for you. When is your first/next scan? How far along are you?

@EasterBunny7 ahh such great news you saw the heartbeat!! 🥰🥰 what an awful wait you had though! When do you have to go to EPU? Do they mean like ASAP or in a couple of weeks to monitor?

@XjustagirlX yay!! Another heartbeat 🥳 and a day ahead - sounds like a super strong one 😊 that is sad to think of the possibilities of two. It must be so so common (doesn't make it any easier) with ivf pregnancies to transfer two and have only one live birth. If it was me I would try and focus on the one that has stuck but take some time to grieve xx

I had a crazy dream last night I went for a scan and we saw the baby's hand like super clear zoomed in like it was in a fish tank?! I was happy though in the dream 😂

My 6w scan isn't until next week, booked privately, today is OTD#2 (🙄) for my clinic and got a dye stealer so they have booked me in for a scan at 7w. Just counting the days. 6 more sleeps.

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Spent three hours in EPU because I woke up this morning with an almost full liner of fresh blood.

A definite increase from the usual spotting.

I consoled myself that it was probably from all the probing and pressing from the transvaginal scan yesterday. I had found it very painful indeed.

The EPU I went to did not scan me (not even abdominal) and just told me to monitor the increased bleeding for a week and report back if needed. I didn't want a transvaginal scan but it would have been reassuring to see/ hear baby's heartbeat via abdominal scan.

Feeling all dizzy and headache again this afternoon.

@XjustagirlX congratulations, it is a special moment indeed to know there's a heartbeat. But I am sorry for the loss of your second embryo.

@EasterBunny7 I'm sorry you had to spend 3 hours at the EPU only for them not to scan you?! That must have been awful. Why wouldn't they do a tummy scan?! Hope you're feeling better today and taking it easy this weekend. I forgot what you said you do for work - are you on your feet usually?

I'm feeling crap today as I can't seem to get a decent night's sleep. I wake up to pee around 4am and then can not get back to sleep at all. Takes me ages to fall asleep in the evening as well. I think it's a side effect of the steroids I'm on to suppress my immune system so I can't complain but wow I'm tired 😴 not sure I'll cope well with the sleep deprivation if/when a baby arrives!

@Amy00 welcome to the insomnia club! It’s also a pregnancy symptom and I’m sorry to say it might go on for a while 😢 I’m still struggling badly! I toss and turn for what feels like forever then I’m up and down peeing 5/6 times in the night. Since I found out I’ve literally had 2 nights where I can say I’ve slept well 🙈 I’m really hoping once the placenta takes over things will improve 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 Nausea is deffo ramping up too, I’ve had days where I cannot move for fear of vomiting - luckily no actual vomiting yet though! Good luck for your scan next week xx

@EasterBunny7 thats amazing news on your scan I’m just so sorry your still having bleeding and EPU didn’t scan you!! So annoying and upsetting!! I hope things are starting to settle xx

@XjustagirlX also amazing news on seeing a heart beat on your scan! I’m sorry one of your embies didn’t stick, it’s bound to be upsetting and ofcourse feel sad about what could have been. Thinking of you xx

@Greatfyl welcome to the group! I’m sorry to hear you are having some bleeding it must be so worrying! I hope everything is starting to settle? How far along are you? Have you had your viability scan yet? Here to support u always xx

So me and my husband has a massive row last night and I got so stressed and screamed. I’m now so anxious that I have messed up the baby as it’s only early.

im wondering if the stress hormones running through my body have sent a signal to the baby that it’s not safe so it should stop growing.

im probably being silly but I feel like I have less symptoms today and I have had weird twinges in my stomach.

An update for those who have tagged: unfortunately mine was one the cases where the bleeding didn’t work out and I’m not longer getting positive pregnancy tests.

I’m so sad. I was anxious but a big part of me let myself believe this was it and that next March/April we’d finally be holding our baby. I had such a clear image. It’s tough trying to come to terms with the fact that won’t be happening.

Back to the clinic next month and then hopefully try again straight after.

Thanks to everyone for the support. I wish everyone here all the best, I really do.

Hello ladies!! Sorry I have not been here for a while, I decided to stay away from the internet since i was driving myself crazy. I tried to read as much as I had missed. @EasterBunny7 sorry to hear about what you have been going through. It’s awful. And congrats on seeing a heartbeat. What a joy that must have been. Really hope the bleeding has stopped. How are you feeling today?

How are you all doing today? I am 8+1 today. Had a scan at 6+6 and everything fine, second save still preset and growing and still empty, heard the heartbeat and all. We are thinking of booking a reassurance scan for 9 weeks as we have no idea what is going on and our scan is on the 30 of August. I feel nauseas all day. But feel fine so far today.

What symptoms are you ladies having and what do you do to get some. Relief?

@Greatfyl so so sorry to hear your news and glad that you are able to start your transfer process as soon as possible. Wish you all the best. It's very worrying as I keep wondering how far I'll make it. Sending you lots of love.

@Greatfyl I'm ever so sorry for your loss. I feel your pain. 3/4 times the bleeding was a miscarriage for me. I just wanted to give you a bit of hope that 1/4 times it wasn't (well so far). It's really good that your clinic allow you to do back to back cycles. Mine have made me wait anywhere from 3-6 months to try again. I hope that the next attempt is the one. Take some time to grieve and do whatever it is you need to do.

@Justhopeful nice to hear from you. Really glad for you that you got to see a heartbeat. I'm currently not having many symptoms apart from the spotting and the odd severe cramps in my sleep. Last time, I had nausea by 6 weeks, but no sign this time. Makes me think it might be a boy.

Anyone else got a feeling about what gender their little embryo might be?

@Justhopeful forgot to add that yes, we've still got a very long way to go. Just read yesterday that a TV personality had two miscarriages at 12 weeks. I had just relaxed a little and then my anxiety spiked again.

@EasterBunny7 you are right, I have heard that about boys. Don't know why I have always thought I will end up with a boy😊

How is everyone doing? Anyone have viability scans this week? Any new symptoms? Any plans for the summer whilst pregnant? What are your next steps regarding your pregnancy?

Our group isn't that big (I counted 20 but we lost a few along the way :( ), but I still manage to lose track. Hoping that those that don't get to regularly post updates are doing well in their pregnancies. We're here if you want to share or chat.

@EasterBunny7 our group does seem a little bit quiet. I had a viability scan last week at 6+3 and saw a heartbeat. I’m going back this week on 7+4 for another one.

i have started with nausea. Nothing too bad I just feel hungover all day.

i haven’t informed the nhs midwife yet as I am waiting to get discharged from my ivf clinic this week and then I will move into the nhs system. I’m actually really anxious about that as I will then have to wait until 12 weeks for my next scan. So a full 5 weeks of wondering if something has gone wrong. I think I may pay for a private scan around 10 weeks just to relieve some anxiety.

@EasterBunny7 hope you are doing okay?
I booked a reassurance scan with window to the womb for 9+1 as not really sure what is going on, read a couple of posts with ladies who had full on morning sickness going for their scan to see they have had a MMC. At what point does one feel safe? A little bit at least.

Difficult to make plans for a holiday though we discussed it yesterday, maybe in a couple of months.

My symptoms seemed less yesterday so was able to go out.

@XjustagirlX you are right the thought of waiting till 12 weeks is scary. Mine first NHS scan is at 12+2.

Hi everyone, I've been very quiet as nothing much to report. I did my last FRER last Thursday and got my dye stealer so have decided not to test any more. Has anyone heard of the hook effect? I saw something about it on another thread and it's scared me into no more testing!

I still don't have my first scan for another 2 weeks, I'll be 7+5 by then 😩 in the meantime I'm just tired, hungry and worried that I've got 2 more weeks of not knowing what's going on!!

I can't really express to anyone else how scary it is as I just get "think positive" from DH and DM.

Hey ladies, glad everyone is getting on ok! The nausea is really starting to take its toll now, I just feel constantly sick all day and can only stomach bland foods and fruit. Literally forcing the fruit and some prunes though as also very constipated 🙈🙈.

I have a phone call with the midwife tomorrow then my face to face next week. No 12 week scan booked yet though. I’ve also booked a private scan for 10+6 also with window to the womb for reassurance and also because when I’m 11+4 we are flying to Ireland to tell DH’s family in person that we are finally pregnant, so we want to make sure all is well before we tell them 🤞🏼🤞🏼We have some scratch cards to give to his sister to reveal all and have brought a personalised card and baby grow for his parents to open ❤️❤️ I just pray I’ve not jinxed myself by buying this stuff 🙈🙈

@Justhopeful i totally agree with you when will we feel safe??!! I just keep reading horror stories of MMC and it makes me feel like it’s sooooo common and I’m just waiting for it to happen to me if I’m honest. I can’t even bring myself to feel happy or excited because I’m so scared to lose this little one.

We have a holiday booked for when I’ll be 15 weeks if i make it that far! I booked it in the 2WW as I was convinced it wouldn’t work and wanted something to look forward to 😂😂 I think we will all need a baby moon to de-stress and relax a bit 🏖🏖 we deffo deserve it after all we have been through!!

Hi everyone! I just need a place to vent... I'm 5+6 today and going for a scan tomorrow. I have major anxiety that we won't see a heartbeat and that it could be because it is too early or that it could be because it isn't viable. I've read lots of mixed things but medically speaking it seems the heartbeat is supposed to start during the 5th week (so should be there by 6 weeks) but the variability on scans comes in based on ovulation dates and implantation dates, and possibly some variability in the ultrasound technician skill as it will be so small.

Obviously with IVF we know our transfer date but there could be some variation in implantation date. I got a faint BFP 5dp5dt so not a late implantation. So if things are on track I would hope to see a heartbeat.

I've had numerous early losses - 6 if we count chemicals, 3 at 5-7 weeks. We saw a heartbeat once before at 6+5 but it was measuring a week behind and didn't end well. One of my losses we waited to 8 weeks for first scan and it was an "anembryonic" pregnancy or a blighted ovum, where there was a sac and placenta but no baby - I had merrily been bonding with a non existent baby and the shock when we found out my body had basically been lying to me was horrendous. This is partly why I am going super early now!

Feeling hopeful as this time we are on an immune protocol so feels different, but also I feel like it's gone wrong so many times before then it is inevitable this one will also be lost. Wildly fluctuating between dogged optimism and teary despair!! Pregnancy after loss and now particularly with the added pressure of ivf added in is SO HARD!!!

Hope everyone is doing ok - I don't want my post to worry anyone - my situation is unusual as I have an identified immune issue which they say probably caused the previous losses.