IVFers Due Mar & Apr 2023

[EasterBunny7]

Hello! Welcome to all who got their BFP after going through fertility treatment. Join here for a shared understanding of the struggles faced by some women to get pregnant. Due date: March 2023!
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Well I am out for sure, 8w rescan at EPU this morning showed it hasn't grown at all since last week and if anything has shrunk. Is now 3.6mm vs 4.1mm last week. Unfortunately there is still a very slow heartbeat so they can't do anything to help manage it and even advised to continue all the meds! Booked in for another scan in a week.

They said it is definitely a miscarriage and it is just a case of waiting for it to come to an end, but they can't say to stop the meds as that could be seen to be interfering in a live pregnancy - she did apologise and say it's really mixed messages but that is what they have to say. I've been given a pot to collect it if anything happens during the week so we can send it for genetic testing.

I think I will stop the meds now anyway, it feels like it's just prolonging the inevitable.

@EasterBunny7 and @EmzieMurf1987 thanks for all your support the last few weeks - I hope things continue to go well for you!

@ButtercupGarden hope you have better news than me or at least definitive. Sending hugs xx

Update from me:
9+2: had a big bleed which scared the crap out of me. It was expecially disconcerting as the last big bleed had happened after a transvaginal scan so I put it down to the pressure of that, whereas this time nothing had happened and the spotting had actually gone down to near nothing for a week or so. My immediate reaction was to go to A&E but I've done that before and they don't scan you in the evening/nights so it would have been a waste of time. I had a scan coming up the next day, so I held on for dear life.

9+3: follow up ultrasound scan with EPU for subchorionic hematoma issue. Baby alive and well, thank God! Measuring three days behind. Bleed still measuring 18mm, despite big bleed previous night. Got contradictory information: the bleed will disappear in 2-3 weeks, but if that was the case, why hasn't it reduced at all/disappeared in the last two weeks? In the end, was just told that I can do nothing to resolve it and it needs to be continually monitored.

9+3: midwife booking in appointment. Coincidentally, assigned on the same day as EPU appointment. Just about made it, with timing being tight! I personally found the session long and tedious. Being told about what foods to eat/not eat towards the latter end of first trimester is just very late! They asked about my education level, property ownership etc which I found wholly irrelevant for having a baby. The questions were standalone and making insuniations rather than actually asking: are you ok financially, do you have space at home for a baby, are you mentally ready etc. There were several elements I found useful though: I got to change my dating scan on the spot, and I was booked in for a gestational diabetes test in advance, again to my liking of timing. I was given a whole host of leaflets to read through and it's a little bit overwhelming because it seems so far into the future, but I will slowly read through them. Oh, yes and I did all the bloods and urine test that I was worried was getting too late. Midwife also mentioned that she will recommend that I get my cervix checked and in case I need stitches, just a precaution.

9+4: today: having a medication crisis. I haven't been able to pick up pessaries for the last two weeks because of stock issues at pharmacies - plural! Now, I get to add crinone gel to that list, for the same reason! I am getting anxious because I run out very soon and I need to get three weeks worth. A little bit frustrating!

@Amy00 I'm so sorry to hear your devastating news. I was not live on the thread whilst I was writing up my (long) post, so I'm sorry if I've now come off as insensitive posting my message up next to yours.

The waiting game is the hardest, I recall it well. I get how they cannot intervene as baby is technically still alive. But, you should do what is best for you. For me, I wanted to claw myself out of limbo and move on and try again. I have the outmost hope that it will work out for you, and I wish you the very best! Take this moment to grieve, wallow and treat yourself.

@Amy00 I'm out too. Had my follow up scan today (8w) and there had been no development, still no heartbeat and this time we couldn't actually see the embryo. So sad but also slightly relieved to finally know what is happening and be able to move on. I've been told to come off all meds and wait for a natural miscarriage. It's absolutely nightmare timing as we are going on holiday tonight and it's been touch and go as to whether we go. We decided in the end that we would go as I can't imagine any more time moping around our house waiting. Hopefully this is the right decision.
Thanks to all the ladies in this group that have been so supportive during this tough time. I'll duck out now and keep my fingers crossed for next time.

@ButtercupGarden @Amy00 I'm really sorry to read this sad news, sending you both lots of love, I hope you are surrounded by lots of love and kindness from your friends and family 💜💜 go easy and take care of yourselves. Xox

@Amy00 and @ButtercupGarden I’m so sorry to hear what you are both going through. I hope you both have lots of love and support to get through this awful time. Thinking of you both xx

@EasterBunny7 im so sorry to hear about your bleed! It’s the scariest thing that can happen but I’m so glad all appears to be ok with baby, but it still doesn’t make it any easier, your constantly second guessing everything and scared to go to the toilet but then feel you have to check what’s going on down there every 30 mins!! I’ve still had brown spotting and when on wiping for nearly 2 weeks now! It stopped for a few days then started again but it appears to have hopefully stopped again now. I finished my pessaries on Sunday so I’m hoping it was just those causing irritation.

have you joined a group specifically for SCH? They may have more insight and knowledge on what to expect going forward. I’m glad they are monitoring you closely though!

oh wow your booking appointment sounds very intrusive! Mine didn’t ask any of that! They just asked what we did for work and if we took drugs 😂😂 nothing at all about our housing etc 🤷🏼‍♀️. I have an obstetrics appointment booked for Wednesday so I assume this is my twelve week scan? It came by txt and that’s literally all it says lol

have you managed to sort out your meds? Asda is usually pretty good? That extra stress really is not needed right now!

we are off to Ireland today to surprise DHs family! I’m so nervous!! For one I’m a terrible flier - usually I can’t get on a plane without a large vino and some diazepam! Obviously can’t have either today so I’m on edge to say the least. And secondly I never thought we would get to surprise our family with a pregnancy! So feeling a little overwhelmed right now! Thought we would never get to experience a pregnancy announcement as I honestly never thought it would work for us.

has anyone else got any announcement plans coming up soon? Xx

@ButtercupGarden so sorry to hear of your loss. Wishing you the same sentiments as Amy00. I really hope it works out for you next time. Ivf can be a heartbreaking journey.

@EmzieMurf1987 thank you for the supportive words. I didn't actually think to find an SCH specific group but it's maybe better I don't for my mental health. I still don't feel 'excitement' yet, I'm always just cautious waiting for the next update.

Your announcement trip sounds very exciting, I hope you have a lovely time with your family.

The cyclogest has arrived this morning, which is great. Now, need to wait on the crinone until Monday.

How are you doing @flowersinmay ? And all others still active on this thread?

@EasterBunny7 I'm sorry to read about all the stress you've had, really hope you get your medication sorted - such a pain and extra hassle you just don't need right now! Hope you're doing ok today today and there's no bleed?

@EmzieMurf1987 how exciting you get to tell your family face to face! Hope your flight goes smoothly and you have a lovely time! Let us know how it all goes! I've already told my parents and a close friend, will tell a couple of other friends this weekend because they are coming to visit from afar and we don't see them very often. Then I think I'll try and wait as long as possible before I tell anyone else! Like around the 5 month mark or so!

No major updates from me really, my next scan is next week so got a few days to go! Slowly easing myself off some of the ivf medication I was on, but still going strong on the pessaries. I am 10 weeks today so sat in bed this morning reading about all the developments of an embryo at 10 weeks and feeling all emotional! Felt horrendous the past few days - sickness, headache, tiredness, but since Thursday have been feeling a lot better so hoping that's the end of it!

I definitely have a little bump, do you ladies? I can't wait for a bigger stomach as it still doesn't feel real!
Xox

Had my viability scan with the fertility clinic today. Was surprised they went in transvag, but we got a really lovely view. Peanut has had a bit of a growth spurt and is now measuring 1-3 days ahead of where I thought we were. And they were SO wriggly! Really didn't expect to see so much movement so soon (10+2) but I think the size and movement started to make it actually feel real. We saw arms and legs moving about, and then when we tried to take a nice picture after the measurements the stubborn bugger turned their back on us! Takes after its mother! DH got emotional again when we heard the heartbeat - is now claiming peanut has a nice strong heart like its dad! Healthy rate at 157 bmp. Definitely feeling less anxious now.

We're thinking of getting the NIPT test, has anyone had any experience with it?

@NymphaeaX aww that's lovely news! I am also getting the NIPT test in a few weeks, but no experience with it ever so will be curious to know how you get on!

@flowersinmay thanks for asking after me! Today, I managed to get hold of the last of my medication. I'm now sorted up to 12 weeks, thankfully. Had another (medium sized) bleed this morning. It's a little bit of torture each time, but my nerves calm down a bit when I see that it doesn't continue for long. Just have to wait for the next scan. Again.

Glad to hear everything is progressing well with you, and symptoms are dying down. A bump too! You can start having some fun looking at maternity clothes. I've been told what I have is a bloat bump, but nonetheless it is very noticeable. Not helpful when trying to keep things quiet.

Hello all. As we don't get much footfall on the IVFer March thread (and neither does the April thread), we decided to combine the two so that there's more of us to support each other. Hope that's all ok with everyone?

Hoping you don't mind a few of us joining ye all. I'm 6w tomorrow after my first FET following an IVF adventure of many many medicated cycles, multiple embryo banking rounds and a cancelled FET so very very glad to be in with a shot at last. Due mid April so a bit behind ye all. As it happens headed for an impromptu scan in the morning following a bit of a bleed at the weekend so hoping for the best. Anyway that's me. Hi all 👋

@Gracie2021 welcome and good luck with the scan today. Sorry to say I'd lost track of goings on recently so I missed that you had a bleed. Really hope it's not impacting baby. You may have seen I have SCH bleeds/spotting and although it's not fun, hope it can be a source of reassurance.

I also wanted to mention that I've not had the traditional symptoms of nausea, vomiting, craving etc. I could refer to maybe the odd day when my stomach felt a bit funny for an afternoon but not enough to call it nausea. I definitively had it by 6.5 weeks in my last pregnancy. I have had other symptoms: SCH being the big one, constipation, on and off ligament pain (currently my hips don't feel stable and can get painful), and on and off tiredness. I'm currently 9+3 and the last few days had a tension headache/grogginess bubbling away.

Thank a mil @EasterBunny7 all went as well as it could. On track for 6w exactly to the day and measuring 4.7mm. The crazy thing is we were able to hear the heartbeat which I hadn't expected at all! So so relieved. There was one patch that she said it was possible the bleed had come from so she measured that to compare to the next day but other than that just instructions to mind myself and no heavy lifting, exercise etc.

Really reassuring to hear of other people having bleeds even though I wouldn't wish the anxiety of it on my worst enemy. Have you had any more since Saturday or has it slowed? I'm kind of the same with symptoms. So far a lot of what I have could be out down to the progesterone but I think the start of nausea is creeping in. 9 weeks is great progress. Do you have the date of your next scan set?

Hi all, @EasterBunny7 thanks for rallying the troops and including April IVFers! @Gracie2021 so happy to have you here too! ☺️ best of luck at your scan today!

Hope everyone on this feed is doing ok?

@EmzieMurf1987 how did your weekend with the family go?

I am just back from a scan. Happy to report that everything is measuring on track - it was amazing seeing the little bean wriggling around! My partner came too and he finally believes it's real and I'm pregnant as he has seen the baby 😆 science and nature are just incredible! Can't get over it - never had a baby before so this experience is so new and amazing. My due date still remains 17th March. I've got to go back in around two weeks time for blood tests and another scan to check for abnormalities / Down syndrome etc. so that's the next worry! I have to say I am feeling a little less anxious now after this scan. Trying to stay positive that everything will be ok!

Sending love to all on here, looking forward to your updates xoxo

Morning ladies! I thought the group name had changed 😂😂 it makes sense to merge it as there isn’t many of us.

@Gracie2021 glad to hear your scan went well today! I also had some bleeding from weeks 9-11 but since stopping the pessaries it’s all cleared up so I’m convinced it was the pessaries irritating my cervix as they never saw any reason for it on the scan I had. I love the feeling after a scan that all is well ❤️

@flowersinmay aw thank you for asking, it went so well, there were a lot of happy tears for us as they know we were having IVF just not the specifics of when etc. now we just have to tell my grandparents on Friday and it’s all out in the open!! Thank god! This bump is growing by the day!! And what a beautiful scan pic! Is that 3D? Looks amazing!

I had my 12 week scan today!! It was amazing! Although the scan pics are terrible quality compared to the private ones we have had 😂 munchkin is measuring perfectly and seeing it kick its legs and rub its face with its hands was adorable! NT measurements all in normal range, now it’s just a waiting game for the blood results 🤞🏼🤞🏼But everything looks as it should.

I have a telephone appointment with the consultant in 2 weeks due to having a rather large fibroid and my 20 week scan is also booked in!! It doesn’t feel real still!!

come Monday il officially be in the second trimester!! I hope I start to ‘glow’ soon 😂😂😂

Congratulations on your 12 week scans @flowersinmay @EmzieMurf1987. I'd say it's amazing moving into the second trimester and knowing the risks are so so so much lower. Lovely to see all the legs kicking and wriggling around too. Delighted for you both. Sounds like it'll be ramping up and a bit more scan activity going forward which will hopefully keep things moving. Love that you're having a Paddys day baby @flowersinmay!

@Gracie2021 I think our messages crossed earlier! So glad your scan was good- you must be super relieved!☺️ ... good point about st paddy - maybe I should call it Patrick if it's a boy and Patricia if it's a girl? 😂

Congrats on your scan and telling your family @EmzieMurf1987 !! Can't believe you're almost over the finish line for the first trimester!

I can't believe we are actually having babies! Im honestly starting to get a bit more excited now. My partner is going to finally tell him mum tonight. As you say - bring on the glow 😂 need to look less pale and tired and more "amazing blooming beautiful mother-to-be"

Does anyone else have a vibe or feeling about gender? Me and my partner are absolutely convinced it's a boy for some weird reason! In my mind it's a boy, I'll get a shock if it's not (don't mind either way though! As long as it's healthy!). Bump is definitely growing (still just look fat and bloated though, not pregnant)

Xox

Hi,
can I join? Currently 9+3 so due around 24th March. Haven’t wanted to join as I can’t quite believe it’s actually happening!! Have been feeling pretty rough but nausea has eased a lot this week. Obviously I’m pleased but also makes me worry! Have read it could be the placenta kicking in but who knows! Has any one else found their symptoms easing?
I have a scan next week which I can’t wait for!

Hi @Nancy155 and welcome to the group!! I think it’s totally normal for symptoms to come and go so try not to worry! I felt horribly nauseous from weeks 7 until about 9+5 when it eased massively. Now 12+3 and and the last few days it has creeped back in the evenings 😩😩. So when you feel good take advantage and enjoy it! Also I had a scan at 10+6 and my placenta was formed , so most likely yours is well on the way to developing 🙌🏼🙌🏼 Best of luck for your scan next week!! Sooooo exciting!!

@flowersinmay i can’t actually believe it either!! We are doing something so amazing growing little humans!! How did it go telling your partners mum??

I’m 90% sure we are having a boy 💙 although purely science based as I read fast developing embryos are 3 times more likely to be boys and we had a day 5 hatching blast put in and the Chinease birthday calendar also said boy 😂😂. DH and my dad think girl though and ramzi theory says girl too, but il be shocked if it is!! We are deffo having a surprise so no gender reveal here, it will be fun to guess until they arrive 😍😍 also think it will help get through the labour 😬😬.

anyone else having a surprise or planning to find out gender??

hope everyone is ok xx

Thank you. It’s hard not to worry! I hope I start feeling sick again tommorow 😂

We aren’t finding out the gender either. Nothing more magical than finding out after being pregnant for 9 months and giving birth. ❤️

Hello everyone, hope you don't mind me jumping on 😊 I think most of you are a little ahead of me as I'm only 8 weeks and due at the beginning of April. My early scan at 7 weeks showed twins after a double transfer so they're more than likely be arriving a bit earlier than that all being well! Can't quite believe I'm finally here and just desperate to see them on the screen again! My next scan feels so far away!