Minster's 9th Side Car - who runs the world? Girls! (Where are all the boys?!)

[larrythelizard]

Babies Due: 👶👶👶

@feliznavidad2 5 July 💗(induction towards the end of June)
@paintfairy 24 July 💗
@Vil10 1 August 💛
@Juno231 11 August 💗
@kaylsd 15 August 💛
@larrythelizard 18 August 💛
@Inkypaper 28 October 💛
@BellatrixK 15 November 💙
@Somatronic 2 Jan ish (I think!) 💛

Babies who are earth side:

Kirky658 11 August 2021 💗
Kate105 14 October 2021 💙
Justanothercyster 10 November 2021 💗
2020Mission 27 December 2021 💙
blackcurrantqueen 17 January 2022 💗
Crazydoglady123 29 January 2022 💗
Haiyaa 1 February 2022 💙
becarefuloutthere 26 February 2022 💗
Lexber 14 April 2022 💗💙
Minster2012 29 April 💗
bez91 8 May 💙
DKDK123 10 May 💗
whatwonder 7 June 💗
2under2 10 June 💗

@feliznavidad2 come on baby!!! We are all rooting for you! Have you had some rest?

Hey ladies!! I haven't been on in so so long, everything has just been all go and we've been so busy with the house and having people in etc, by the time I get in bed I'm shattered!!

Quick update from me, house is coming a long well, the messy job of having the kitchen wall knocked down has been done, just waiting for new flooring on the 9th and then we'll paint over the new exposed plaster etc (getting floor tiles so decided if we get paint on them they can wipe off but don't want to paint then the tiler get grout on the paint because it won't come off), living room fire is done and wallpaper stripped, just need to re decorate, electrician coming next week, nursery is almost done, we'll hopefully be in our bedroom tonight too🤞🏼
Baby update- went for my 34 week midwife app and measured small again, only .5cm more than last time, went for a scan and baby has grown slightly but not as much as they'd have liked at this point, so I'm in for another growth scan on the 8th and she was very honest with me and said if baby hasn't had a growth spurt on the 8th they'll be making a plan to induce me in the following days, or within the week!!! Which I felt so sad about all day, one because for some reason I had a wave of guilt that I'd done something wrong to be causing my baby not to grow properly, even though I know I haven't done anything wrong😫 and two because I really didn't want to be induced! The same happened with my mum, her placenta tired and I stopped growing and she was induced with me 2 weeks early! I know it's so common and these things happen, but my placenta is looking good it's just baby seems small! Then on the the night of my scan I went for a wee and when I wiped I had pinky blood, obviously panicked, was crying trying to shout OH upstairs, so he panicked and rang triage, they were really reassuring and said as long as it isn't red, baby is still moving, I'm not in pain and there's no clots etc it could just be irritation or the increase in blood flow, didn't lose anymore over night but then had brown when I wiped the morning after and then lost more pink on a pad in the morning, rang again as I needed advice and they said the same thing, and luckily I haven't had any since🤞🏼 got a phone app tomorrow with an anaesthetist to discuss my back and labour options etc, but to be honest I just feel so overwhelmed by the possibility of an induction in 2 and a half weeks!! OH is in Portugal 7th-10th so im absolutely shitting myself but told him he needs to go, and trying not to show him that I'm anxious because he won't go!
Sorry for the huge update🤦🏽‍♀️🤣

@kaylsd baby definitely has time to move, get on that spinning baby!! Also the yoga teacher I have told me that rocking back and forth on all fours helps baby to turn from back to back and downward dogs help baby to come from breech!! When I got told baby was breech at 30'weeks I had yoga that night then my 3D scan the day after and at my scan she told me baby was no head down!

@paintfairy what's the update on your babies growth and the possibility of getting her here early??

@Minster2012 @DKDK123 funny you both saying about feeling slightly disappointed about no more babies, people always say that's the case dont they!! I really would still love 3 but who even knows if we'll get a second🤷🏽‍♀️

@Franklydear that's so lovely of those people to give your DS then telescope, the world does have good people in!!

@larrythelizard hope you've had an amazing time away!! Loved the insta pics!

@bez91 oh god what a night you've had!! And definitely not a good day to be spending with MIL, glad Z slept through it all though😂

@feliznavidad2 ahhh come on cervix and baby🤞🏼🤞🏼

Just skim read- no time for a proper reply but I'll do it later.
@feliznavidad2 keep checking in for baby updates! Pain without progress doesn't sound much fun. I hope things are more productive today. 🤞
@bez91 omg. Horrific. Too late to warn us now!
@Vil10 try not to worry as that happened to me and she picked up again. My belly isn't growing though?! But on scans she's still 10th centile weight wise. No decision made and my next one is on Friday. Baby is still oblique though too so not even in a position to come out. 🙈 The scans can also be wrong. I'll be interested to see what mine comes out as - as me and my brother were 7lb 8 and 7lb 10. And my mums sisters kids were both 6lb something. No issues. Perfect babies. Just not huge. (Mum also pointed out back then 7lb was actually pretty normal. None of these 9lb babies you get these days!). Fingers crossed for your next scan.

@paintfairy I keep trying to think that they're so inaccurate but it's hard not to worry isn't it, especially when you have to wait 2 weeks until the next scan!!! So glad your baby girl has picked up though!! Mine was plotted just above 10th centile on my chart and they said if I go full term up to my due date then babies estimated weight will be around 7lb7 which obviously is a decent weight still! I was 6lb10 as a baby and my sister 9lb4!! Big difference, OH was also small at 7lb2 so not sure if both of us being small will factor into that?? I hope baby has moved position for you by your next scan!! Oblique can't be comfy🙈

It's all go with you @Vil10! Induction for placenta stopping growing is scary but SO much better that they've picked up on it and can keep baby safe, at the end of the day the method of delivery is a means to an end. I got sent something on inductions from my preggo yoga lady the other day, I'll have a look and see if it's any good.

Coming has stopped @Minster2012 but no eating yet. To add to our fun, DH feels fainty (he's a big unit so would cause some damage if he properly stacked it) and the plane is 90 mins late. Who'd have thought the nauseous, sleepless (obv DH got more sleep than me last night) preggo is the one in best shape...!

@larrythelizard so my placenta is still working perfectly fine funnily enough as I thought that was the main reason for a slow in babies growth, but everything is still looking good in that department! Baby is just small for no reason🤷🏽‍♀️🥺 I keep telling myself that and whatever is best for baby I'll do 100% I just really really didn't want to be induced, I feel so out of control which for me is scary😂

Here @Vil10 it's about what to ask if you're offered induction -

www.sarawickham.com/articles-2/five-questions-to-ask-if-youre-offered-induction-of-labour/

I feel you on out of control, I found that so difficult in my pregnancy with DS @Vil10

@bez91 oh no, hope she’s ok, but no fun
@larrythelizard could it be just nerves? all the stress of airports, after two years home, ds didn’t have any fun flying, she’s volunteering us all for the eurotunnel next time
@Minster2012 success! Everybody slept, of course you are going to check, but it works
@feliznavidad2 i hope you managed to sleep
oh @Vil10 such a worry, I wouldn’t want him to go, he’ll be gutted if anything happens and he is abroad, hopefully you’ll be ok, keep ringing every time you are worried thats what they’re there for, also @paintfairy has a point, they had predicted ds to be nearly 9lb, and he was 6.2, just very long, he was oblique until the last minute, doctors were talking about manually turning him, which terrified me, my mum refuses to discuss babies birth weights, she insist they are irrelevant, and nobody should worry about that, unless very extreme, 6-8 pounds used to be perfectly normal, but ds was the smallest in the ward, he’s not small anymore, barely 12 I only have 4 cm on him, not even 2 inches

@Minster2012 she is fine I think she'd just swallowed some 🙈 so after Z shitting and weeing on me too this morning I'd seen every bodily fluid by 6:30am! I've told DH he owes me 🍆 woahhh that's a great sleep! Super B! Really hope it stays that way, send some of those vibes this way 🤞🏼

@Vil10 I'm super impressed seeing your posts on IG on how quick you're getting things sorted in the house! Oh darl, hope the phone call reassures you tomorrow, ask lots of questions if you've got options! Nothing you've done and it might just mean you get to meet baby a little earlier and they be small and perfect, I was 5lb 8oz and term and healthy just very small, my mum was petite and slim - as long as you're both ok 💕

Wow @larrythelizard the last one standing holding things together in your pregnant state 🤣 hope DH comes round quickly, you don't want him hitting the deck in such circumstances!

DH is tired, over caffeinated, didn't have a sensible breakfast, dehydrated and it's very stuffy in here so in I don't have that much sympathy for him @Franklydear

@bez91 what a start to your day! I think that gives good grounds for sending DH to MIL with Z alone while you and DD go back to bed catch up on your missed sleep.

@Minster2012 well jealous of Bs mega sleep session last night! E is still very much if you don't feed me regularly round the clock I'm going to scream loudly to alert social services to the fact that you are actually starving me! 😂

@Vil10 glad to hear the house is coming along well. Hopefully they let baby do its own thing, I'm surprised they're talking of induction if the placenta is fine, it's like they can't accept that some babies are just small, especially if both you and dh were small babies 🤷‍♀️

@larrythelizard of course you're holding the fort, mums are superheros 🦸‍♀️ hoping the rest of your trip home goes smoothly and that DH picks up the pace soon to give you a break

Also agreeing with the others @Vil10 that you were fine, as are others' babies who are small (my friend had hers safely at 38 weeks & she's all good) but it's very worrying. Also amazed at how much you e got dibs that's so good!

I know @DKDK123 I'm gonna enjoy it however long it lasts 😝makes me think 🤔 "if we'd have done a dream feed could she have made it those other 2 hours?" But second guessing never works!

@bez91 are you feeling the good sleep vibes im sending??? I'm trying ALL MY POWERS. I'm not sure I could do 🍆at 4am though so you are a better lady than me!!

@Franklydear I love the idea of writing to bestie

Glad it's all out of his system @larrythelizard but really don't want it passed to the rest of you....it sounds like the 24 hour norovirus we had a few weeks ago. You stay strong!

Dilema, so I'll make a little aibu here, please add your vote to the tally of your choice, day 39, 23 days after spotting, 10 days after bfn with a frer of 6 ml at least 3 days late, dh wants me to test again, I rather wait a little
So iabu, DH is right test tomorrow
Ianbu, you would be wise to wait a few more weeks
I will of course will do what I want when I decide what that is, but I want some perspective
Thank you for your cooperation

@franklydear if its going to niggle on your mind as a what if then I'd test, if you're thinking it's just another wonky cycle and it won't bother you either way then tell DH you're not wasting another test.

I feel a bit bad for DD, I let her cry for an hour 🙈 She wasn't alone, DH was looking after her and I was busy sorting stuff out in another room but I know I've fallen into the trap of swooping in when she cries any longer than a few mins so I figure I need to step back and let him figure it out for himself. It started off as an over tired cry then went on to a hungry one but he just couldn't read the signs and wasn't doing the right things. It crushed my soul hearing DD cry and i could hear him getting all flustered but I had to remind myself if I died tomorrow he'd need to know what to do he can't just rely on me to tell him what it is she needs with the different cries.

@DKDK123 I am thinking wonky rather than lucky but obviously don't know, but if I was pregnant now I'll still be pregnant in 2/3 weeks, unless found out otherwise, and yes, yes, yes to DH knowing to fence for himself, I've been preaching to bestie's DH since she got sick that he had to be realistic and prepare to go solo, and then all the better if it wasn't needed, instead of trying to figure out now what needs to be done and how, and even in normal circumstances, my DH wanted to be able to look after ds on his own, to his mother's horror, so I could go away if I needed, or I need extra rest in a flare up and it is very nice to say at 4pm, I am tired I am going to bed, knowing that everything will tick along as it is supposed to, there's disasters sometimes, hence the patio, but ....

@franklydear I’ve started playing music now and it’s amazing to see the movement enhance from the vibrations I presume 🙃 how lovely is the telescope being donated and your DS enjoying the outdoors 😍 cannot beat stargazing on a warm summer night
@juno231 going to try the hot and cold trick! If our staycation walks & yoga poses doesn’t do anything over the next upcoming days! How have you found your antenatal classes? I’ve really enjoyed mine because everyone just was so open and honest no question was a silly question :)
@feliznavidad2 hope everything’s going well as can be for you darling, fingers and toes crossed little one makes an appearance for you soon!
@bez91 I’ve not heard of Vinted before until you commented and just found it wow!!!! Roll on payday Tuesday 🙈 hopefully Z colic is settling 😘
@somatronic ah that must have been a crazy dream for your DH I have strange dreams still I’ve had them throughout.. latest was that I had a c section, little boy 9lb 2 ounces and he had a adult size Willy and that was first thing I shouted at was to look at size of that 🤣🤣🤣🙈
@paintfairy me and you both girl, If you find any tricks of the trade for your little one to turn spin it over my way hunny! They say babies can even turn up to the point of your waters breaking so don’t loose hope because you never know 🙈😘 I think it’s really arrogant of people to knowingly attend events where other people are around if they are unwell just stay at home it doesn’t take much! Sending hugs for baby shower hopefully it’s a nice time when it comes round for you
@soph0105 thank you hunny! Absolutely love hash browns could eat them by themselves espesh the McDonald’s ones just one isn’t ever enough 😍😍
@DKDK123 my MN hated me for about 2 month so I sympathise with you hopefully it starts playing ball for you soon!
@larrythelizard I’m going to try all the old wives tales then if bubs is still breech at 34 week check I’m going to go down the route of acupuncture so thank you for the recommendation!
@bellatrixK I never even thought of kylie for the breech baby playlist: so far it’s dead or alive, I like to move it move it, oops up side your head, turn around Conor Maynard 🤣🤣🤣🙈
@minster2021 this warm weather has been playing havoc with so many little ones espesh my little niece so I can only imagine it’s hard when the warm is stuffy with a baby! Let’s hope it starts cooling down soon!
@vil10 trying the downward dog morning and night the best I can with a bounce every morning and night and a long walk in the day and opting for left side sleeping than right side sleeping 🙈 that and my motivating playlist playing to the little one inside with throwback classics! I’m so proud of how well your doing so far with your house how far you’ve come on the photos it looks beautiful! Just try take it steady as can be sweet as your body may have gave you a sign you was doing a touch too much! Don’t worry about measuring small I think you might just be having a small baby as some do and that’s perfectly normal for you! My friend was same and was induced at 36 week and she ended up measuring bigger than what the scans and bump measurements predicted! Sending you hugs for the bleeding scare xxx

Won’t be able to check in much over next 9 days heading to a staycation with the in law families and the pooches to the seaside and I know the signal is rubbish! I’m hoping when I come back on I can see beautiful photos of @feliznavidad2 little ones and the next one on the list stays nice and comfortable being @paintfairy and hope they turn round soon!
I’ll try get signal best I can to do little checks in, hope you are all okay ladies ❤️

Home all in one piece. More sick on the plane but think he's better now (please no sick tonight!!), no nursery tomorrow though.

Got scan and consultant appt letters through for the next week or so, again despite scans being available in my town having to go one about 30 mins away.

@kaylsd have a lovely time away, I love the seaside! 9 days of in-laws though 😬😬😬

@DKDK123 that's tough but you know no harm came to her and it's necessary to let DH be able to parent her (almost) as well as you do.

@Franklydear i guess it depends how much grief you'll cop from DH over not testing?

@larrythelizard in laws & 5 dogs 👀👀👀 going to be interesting to say the least, thanks hunny! Hope you had an amazing holiday xxx

Ooooo @kaylsd where are you going? Sounds....interesting! I've not really worked out searching successfully on vinted, which is good, as I don't need more stuff! I'm trying to just use it for searching for specific items and then selling. She says. 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

@Vil10 I was having the "no 3rd baby" convo with my friend the other day (the mum of X's friend who is saying I'm having another baby), & we've only really become good mates since being pregnant so we never discussed TTC. Turns out she got pregnant VERY easily each time, first month, & she's a year older than me (weirdly same day birthday! so 39 in few weeks) & she got sterilised during her c section due to a thyroid issue, pre eclampsia for her first & him in NICU, then measuring small again for her second, so not easy pregnancies.
After I told her son "I took a special test & I'm def not having a baby & I def am not again" she asked about babies TTC etc. i have said we aren't having anymore before but we discussed it more so I explained our "indiscretion" a few weeks ago. She also agreed that she still is sad thinking no more babies & understood when I said I still couldn't help feeling disappointed the preg test was negative, she said if it happened by accident of course they'd be happy but no, we don't WANT another. But we don't NOT WANT another. It's just not the sensible thing for us. And I think that's it for us too. It's just not sensible for me, & for us as a family.
And bloody hard work

Sorry that was long!

@Franklydear it's a tough one. Personally id only go on what you want to do. If it would niggle then do it, if not then don't

@DKDK123 It's a really good thing you've done ✅ it is hard though to hear them but he'll learn, you know she's ok really as she have love ❤️

@larrythelizard that's so frustrating on the scans!!! Gone to holiday washing....😬the worst bit about holidays is the washing & unpacking 🤦🏼‍♀️

I got the app version again, so tough, I don't feel like testing, I'll wait a little, DH won't give me grief but he's quite miffed, he's learning about cycles quick and this one doesn't fit in any box, thanks for the answers, I should know better than expecting yes or no form you lot, I do think the bfn was real, 6 ml after being late it should show but I'll wait a little longer, might have to test after all
No tagging on the shitty version

Baby girl was born 2125 this evening weighing 7lb 7.5oz after a fairly fast labour in the end, waters broken at 1730 and dilated quickly from then. Absolutely mental! Will put a piccie on IG in the morning. x

@felfeliznavidad2 This was the news I was hoping to see! Massive congratulations 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳 Hope you and your baby girl are doing well and have had a great first night together ❤️