Minster's 9th Side Car - who runs the world? Girls! (Where are all the boys?!)

[larrythelizard]

Babies Due: 👶👶👶

@feliznavidad2 5 July 💗(induction towards the end of June)
@paintfairy 24 July 💗
@Vil10 1 August 💛
@Juno231 11 August 💗
@kaylsd 15 August 💛
@larrythelizard 18 August 💛
@Inkypaper 28 October 💛
@BellatrixK 15 November 💙
@Somatronic 2 Jan ish (I think!) 💛

Babies who are earth side:

Kirky658 11 August 2021 💗
Kate105 14 October 2021 💙
Justanothercyster 10 November 2021 💗
2020Mission 27 December 2021 💙
blackcurrantqueen 17 January 2022 💗
Crazydoglady123 29 January 2022 💗
Haiyaa 1 February 2022 💙
becarefuloutthere 26 February 2022 💗
Lexber 14 April 2022 💗💙
Minster2012 29 April 💗
bez91 8 May 💙
DKDK123 10 May 💗
whatwonder 7 June 💗
2under2 10 June 💗

@Vil10 thank you darling, I am focusing on getting jobs done, the way she would like, the funeral helped a lot and after her ashes are scattered we'll have a memorial and picnic on the spot, other school friends would like that so it might ending up being quite a few families too, I put some pictures of her on the wall, and ds likes to look at them, my next step of grieve is to stress about all the mum help her dd will need and how we breach the gap, she’s 9, so you know we’ll have first period, crushes, boyfriend, contraception all the things you don’t want to talk to your dad about..... I might being horrible but don’t have much trust in her aunties (and uncles) they did take charge of the arrangements, which hubby appreciated but some decision were a bit questionable, but nothing major, but nobody is looking into them on daily basis, hubby is been left to get on with the gruesome daily stuff, he’s not alone but that’s not the point, I would be making sure my niece and nephew have clean uniform, breakfast, lunch and dinner and clean beds to sleep, I mean I know cos I checked and they’re not even mine, hubby is slightly annoyed with me for doing it, but only because my behaviour reminds him of her, she would absolutely do the same if the shoe was in the other foot.
oh the weird knitting insta is also me.

First pokemon pictures on Instagram, go look!

@Vil10 more scary car stories god so pleased you are ok and weren't in the car 🚗. You should be ok with a hire car for a car seat it's only very old cars that don't have isofix points because you'll have the base that needs to go in right to match your seat? So it's just the fixing points? The baby shower looked amazing so pleased you had a great time, def don't worry about stretch marks, I think there are very few women that don't have them. Do you have everything for baby now?

Happy birthdays to @larrythelizard and @DKDK123 hope you've managed to get some time in to relax @DKDK123, I'm not sure that's massively possible but we can but hope 😝

@Juno231 how's the build coming along? Any more pics for us? We met with our friends yesterday who are doing a huge million pound restoration with his mum of an old Georgian farmhouse & it's motoring on & they had samples of all their kitchen & flooring/carpets/bathroom bits with them & I was soooo jealous. Mind you we can't afford what they can but I had looked at the wood flooring they are having previously when looking myself & said to DH "we need to find THAT but at a third of the price!" Obviously they are having it 😂it's gonna be amazing

@Franklydear I’m glad that the funeral was fitting for your bestie. It’s lovely that you went for coffee with her friend, even if she’s not someone you expected to get along with. Sorry about the BFN, definitely contact the nurse. And massive congratulations on the craft club choosing your work for its photo. That’s such an achievement. The picture album also sounds perfect, such a lovely thing for bestie’s children.

@Minster2012 whooop! Excellent for B sleeping so well! Definitely enjoy her independence! Can’t believe the euro millions win as well, what will you spend it on? 😂 the bath shit and sick is just balancing out after all your good news! Although that sounds like a a lot to deal with. Ohhh, that renovation is my dream! I’d love to do something up from scratch like that with little budget limitation. One night last week I couldn’t sleep and was planning something similar in my head 😂

@bez91 oh no! Even worse that he’s straight back to sleep and you’re awake. Although another euro millions win!

@Soph0105 I would try to see the positives, at least they’re not your carpets! I’m sure the buyers will just assume that was what they were like when they viewed the house.

@Vil10 whooo! Not long at all to go. I think you’re definitely right to slow down. It’s hard work to work and do house renovation. There’s a lot going on in your house at the moment. I cannot believe your car… just terrible timing! Oh, I’m the insta add! On the stretch marks, my mum had none so I was hopeful, but I already have some at 20 weeks. But, like you say, I’m growing a baby, I’m accept them as best I can!

So, I went to the garage with the car and he couldn’t find anything wrong. He’s a great mechanic and really was reassuring. Just maybe a bit of dirt or something in the fuel. I am really worried it’ll happen again, but to be fair, I’m starting to forget it happened. Maybe ignorance is bliss! I am getting slightly (we’ll, actually, very) nervous for my 20 week scan on Tuesday. Might need a hand hold!

Sounds a fitting send off @Franklydear and your picnic sounds a lovely plan too.

Love the phrase crotch gremlins @bez91! Also very impressed someone could BF and exercise! Have you had ECG results?

Explosive poo could be the rotavirus vaccine @DKDK123?

Your friends are not great hype women @Somatronic, we can do that for you! All sorts of hormones flying around so yes from this point forward (if not the past however long), the answer is pregnancy is at fault!

😂😂😂 @Minster2012 that is all. Oh, I read on. At the poo in the bath not the sick on the bed, no one needs that!

It's ALWAYS a phase @Soph0105 just some of them last longer than others!

Loved your baby shower snaps @Vil10, final countdown now! You sound like you've done insane amounts in the house in such a short time. I think stretch marks from making a baby are absolutely fine, I'm covered (they're all silver now) in ones from where I got fat as a teenager. Would love to remove them, I don't mind the few on my belly from DS!

Definitely here to hold your hand @BellatrixK - scans are scary! I was bricking it for my scan last week even though baby doesn't really stop wriggling!

DH and I went away for a couple of nights as a sort of pre-baby/birthday escape and did very little, was relaxed and quiet and bliss! Lots of yummy food too! And on Friday I even slept through the entire night without waking up! We now have name shortlists although he predictably vetoed the boys name I wanted (it's Welsh, my mum would be too annoying which I think he's probably right about). Not sure we're quite there with the boys name (also there's a couple of boys due before I am) so need to do a bit more thinking, and also middle names.

One more month at work for me, and a HUGE to-do list around the house!

Happy birthday @larrythelizard and @DKDK123 🥳

I'm feeling so good today. Sat down in a huff and wrote a list of all the things I do round the house and with PTSD whilst off on mat leave, then left it for H to find. Then we had a proper adult conversation about splitting the jobs when I go back to work and how that's all going to play out INCLUDING SPLITTING NIGHT WAKE UPS FINALLY HALLELUJAH THIS IS WHY I STOPPED BREASTFEEDING YOU DICK

So anyway I know it's easier said than done but this feels like a good start! Plus I have a paper trail if he reneges on his side of the bargain 😂

Happy birthday @larrlarrythelizard @dkdk
Thank you all, your support is amazing
Finished the Minecraft Steve blanket

@Vil10 your baby shower looked lovely. As did you 😊 I think you do well to get away with 0 stretch marks. I have lots this time round which I'm going to have to learn to embrace! All sounds systems go on the house, you need to do some slowing down though. What doesn't get done doesn't get done and that's fine too 😊

@BellatrixK handhold from me to you. I found they never got any easier but we got you lady!

Happy birthday to you too @larrythelizard 🎉 sounds a lovely break with DH!. Me and DH only agreed on Z's name and there were others I preferred so it's hard. Doesn't DS have any suggestions? 🤭
Yes got ECG results back, I have "frequent ectopic beats" apparently can be normal but the GP offered me medication when discussed last week, I'm still deciding as still got the 24hr ECG to do and I'd prefer to know if I actually 'need' the medication but this weekend they have seemed to ramp up quite a bit which is worrying me but palpitations can obviously be brought on by stress and sleep deprivation anyway and here we are living on little sleep 😆 Postnatal check with GP tomorrow so may just ask for the prescription 😫

@Soph0105 sounds like DH is in for a shock 😆 I think you have to just end up winging it together! I'm contemplating getting someone to iron for us when I'm back at work

That's awesome @Franklydear must have taken forever!

About 7 months but I also made many other things in between

Thank you for the birthday wishes ladies (and happy belated birthday @larrythelizard ) My friends from back home drove up to spend the day with me so it was a lovely (albeit completely sleep deprived) day. Well most of it was a lovely day, DSs behaviour was driving me demented. Despite all my friends making sure they gave him lots of attention, not just the baby, he was being a complete nightmare. As bad as it sounds I actually can't wait till he goes to my mums tonight to give me a bit of respite from him as he's been so challenging this week, it's like having a teenager in a 4year olds body and if this is him now then I am totally dreading the actual teenage years already 😂🙈 I hope once school starts it gives him something else to focus on and things balance out again.......only another 6 1/2weeks to go 😫 However when he is being good he's back to the lovely sweet and caring boy that I know and who loves his sister to bits and is fiercely protective of her so I try to hold on to those moments to save my sanity!

@bez91 I can't remember what happened in the post natal check with DS, can you let me know if yours was of any benefit today or whether its fine to skip it. Phoned up GP when DD was 6 weeks to arrange it and they said I couldn't arrange it, the health visitor sends them a form and they post me out an appointment. Only given I haven't seen a health visitor in weeks and she's now 8 weeks old tomorrow I'm not holding my breath that I'm getting the postnatal GP check up. I'm not going to chase it up if it's just a useless ticky box exercise tho as I can be doing without dragging 2 children with me to the GP for nothing.

Had my post natal check on Friday @DKDK123 & it was basically just "& how are you?" Well what am I meant to say to that? I did get a prescription for piles out of it though & the number to arrange the coil so you can def skip.

@bez91 so the ecg is that classed as ok then?

on the names thing, the 2 that we went for are the only 2 that we ACTUALLY both fully agreed on. All others would have been a compromise from either of us & im very aware we were lucky to find one name of each that both of us def did agree on.

Day with both kids again today, as my parents still away who usually have X for almost of Mondays, so far...since 6am we've had a bit of tv time whilst breakfast, walked dogs, B had a small nap, played superhero lotto, read 50 million books, played with kinetic sand for 2 mins (not tidied away), written a note to his best mate, done a hand print,
trashed the playroom I tidied on Friday, & lined all his vehicles in size order.

Bearing in mind I have plans to be out from midday onwards for lunch to his swimming lesson again at 4pm (3 of us going swimming again from 3pm) that's our "trip out" today
I've now given up & cracked open one if his birthday toys for 3 weeks time to occupy him for the next couple of hours or so. Or at least maybe 30 mins of that time 😬😝😂

Oh and @DKDK123 mine was over the phone

Need to do a proper catch up. But spent all weekend cleaning the house properly. It needed it before the baby comes. But also the health visitor was coming at 9am this morning so it made me do it earlier than I was going to. Of course though, no one has shown up so I'm not happy......
Had a growth scan Friday. Sonographer was useless and not thorough at all. But everything seems to be on the same track. I have the consultant calling today. I also have a normal midwife appointment tomorrow. 37 weeks now- seems scary! This week and next left at work. But I am starting to feel half prepared now. I still need to watch through my positive birth company stuff. Tried yesterday but fell asleep. 🙈🤣 And last night I didn't sleep at all! Was so uncomfortable. Combination of iron tablets (even though I'm now doing every other day), baby pushing about and lightening crotch. 😫
@Vil10 baby shower photos look lovely BTW! And the weather looked OK?

I think it's different everywhere @DKDK123 today was my postnatal check and Z had a check plus jabs. So went through contraception etc, how I'm feeling blah blah. Was useful as discussed my heart and also piles @Minster2012 🤦🏼‍♀️ checked my BP. Checked Z's eyes, neck so basically repeated the newborn check then jabs and I bloody forgot to get his prescription for gaviscon and they haven't put it on repeat so cue I'll be now pissing about all day! So unless it's for both of you and you have no issues I'd say skip too.
Btw what coil are you going for @Minster2012 i explained I didn't want any hormonal contraception at the moment as it made me feel shitty and she did say the mirina coil although hormonal because it's close to where it needs to be the progesterone levels are low. Still not sold yet and will just use condoms because although DH has said No3 is not on the table (now) he says he isn't ready for a vasectomy yet so I'm not sure where he's at 😆

Busy morning @Minster2012 I'm also solo with 2 today. Doesn't sound bad you willing some time apart from DS. I can't wait til DD starts school tbh and she's at nursery 3 days. It's hard atm to occupy her with a newborn.

Sounds like you're getting there with being organised @paintfairy what's the purpose of the consultant follow up today? Do you not see them straight after the scan?

@Minster2012 I don't blame you for cracking open one of the birthday toys today. I've got a bag of toys/books I've been buying on sale in the cupboard for just such occasions this summer when I need to bring one out for the 10mins peace the novelty of something new will bring 😂 Hope swimming goes well, my scar has only just finally fully closed over so I think we may go swimming this weekend, but I'm not brave enough to tackle it with both myself like you yet so it'll be Sunday when DH is off!

@paintfairy you're so close to the finish line, how exciting! Glad all seems on track with your growth scan. Hope your HV eventually turned up this morn.

@bez91 now does DH feel he's not ready for a vasectomy because there's a flicker of maybe wanting a 3rd or is he putting it off because its getting done to 🤔 DH is supposed to have booked his by now (I have been steralsied but because me falling pregnant again could be fatal we decided he'd get done too just to doubly make sure!) but he keeps conveniently forgetting to book it. I keep reminding him that having the snip is a walk in the park compared to pregnancy and childbirth so he's to stop being a wuss and just suck it up get it booked!

Well about half an hour after my post this morn I got a call from a different HV asking if anyone had came out to see me last week, when I said no she apologised and said she'd come round this morning. She was a lovely woman and today was her first day back from her mat leave. And when I mentioned E had decided she wanted to breast feed again but was only really doing well at night the days were still a hit or a miss she put another date straight in her diary to come out next week just to spend some time with me seeing what we could do about the day feedsshw was so helpful 😊 Onky problem is she's only my HV till the end of the month then it's someone else again 🙄

Sending you good vibes for an entertained X @Minster2012 !

Just on a different take on the contraceptive chat @bez91 I ended up with the implant. Again it's minimal progesterone and I have to say so far so good, haven't noticed any real impact on me in terms of hormones etc... mind you, periods haven't come back yet post BF so I will update if that changes 😂 only thing is it's soooooo weird to feel it there in your arm! And I had a nasty drug addict bruise for ages after they put it in 😂

Great shout on the secret toy bag @DKDK123 you are a genius! Great news on the new HV too 😊

Last Monday of mat leave. WUT

Also I vote skip the check up unless you need to speak to someone about an issue @DKDK123 mine was in person but all they were bothered about was my contraception plans 🙄

@DKDK123 I did that with toys and books & craft things heading upto the lockdowns I went scouring the charity shops for bits & hid them it's a great idea. I have to do book & toy rotation here otherwise he gets so bored. Still not drowned a child so I'm pleased! Hope you get to go swimming on the weekend it's great fun

@bez91 yeah the mirena coil I think. We get a telephone conversation first with a nurse so I'm going to discuss it as in theory there's no real need as DH will get the snip though he's not done anything bought that yet, it's more to stop my periods? I hate them. But again I'm not sure whether to wait & see & have a few periods first?? As they weren't regular it's more cos of that. Do i trust myself not to "hope" I don't get pregnant? Maybe my head is where your DH's is @bez91. Maybe I should just get booked in then. Hmmmmmmm

@paintfairy you sound nearly ready! Can't believe we are gearing up to the next round of bus babies! So exciting!

Yet another lady in town today peering in the pram "can I see her, is she asleep?" Yes she is asleep so I'd rather you.... oh I won't bother with the end of that sentence 🙄the funny thing was xander went "she WAS SLEEPING & you've woken her up now" really loudly! That's my boy! 😜

@DKDK123 maybe a flicker? It's weird we've both changed stance a few times. I always wanted 3 and he wanted 2. We then had the miscarriages and it made him go the other way wanting 3, life's precious and that and I said 2 - couldn't do all the possible heartbreak again. Now we have 2 I change my mind on the daily, perhaps even hourly depending how stressed I am 😂 and he is on the fence too but more learning to never again - so we shall see! Honestly though, the blokes really need to man up and get the vasectomies booked, DH said immediately after labour "I don't think I could watch you go through that again" 🙄 imagine how much men would whinge if they had to be the ones to do it!
That HV sounds ace, that's brilliant although not so brill that you won't have her soon! I find any feeding whether breast or bottle has always gone better at night 🤷‍♀️ if she's got it at night though that's promising you can do it in the day too if that's what you're wanting to do!

Thankyou I will look at the implant @Soph0105 boooo to last Monday of Mat leave 😫 are you changing your hours much from before?

@minster2012 you must have a welcoming face. I've managed to fend off most pram pokers for now. I think me and @paintfairy discussed previously we must have resting bitch face aka do not approach because no strangers made a beeline for my bump either. Glad you've got X on side that's great 😂

@Minster2012 i always say X is fab, I mean he’ll put you through the ringer? but he is fab

I found a goth knitting group in Facebook, hello darkness my old friend

God imagine if they did have to do it @bez91 they really couldn't!

I really don't think I look approachable, and certainly a pram where the hood practically touches the top of the carrycot doesn't but hey ho!

X's so far this morning as I said about 20 mins ago "go run in the garden darling so the dogs run round after you please, go run the dogs" he said "what, whilst you do nothing???" Errrr "no darling, whilst i make your packed lunch then change your sisters nappy, pack your bag & hang the washing out, I'd love to do nothing" 🙈

@Minster2012 X giving a piece of his mind to that woman for waking the baby is hilarious 😄What a great side-kick.

Any advice on mad pains in my lower tummy? I had a few in early pregnancy then they went away but they're back now in the last few weeks and seem to be getting worse. I get pain every time I sit, stand, walk. I'm fine in bed and when sitting down other than some shooting pains occasionally. There are several different pains - some shooting, some duller. I thought it might be constipation but I'm taking stuff for that now and the pain suggests something else.

I presume it's probably round ligament pain? I checked the HSE (our NHS) website and they said if you've pain like this you should contact the GP? Could that be right? I feel a bit silly contacting him about pain that I'm pretty sure isn't sinister but I suppose it could be a urine infection or something that I need to treat. Any advice is appreciated. My next appointment with the midwife is in 5 weeks.