Minster's 9th Side Car - who runs the world? Girls! (Where are all the boys?!)

[larrythelizard]

Babies Due: 👶👶👶

@feliznavidad2 5 July 💗(induction towards the end of June)
@paintfairy 24 July 💗
@Vil10 1 August 💛
@Juno231 11 August 💗
@kaylsd 15 August 💛
@larrythelizard 18 August 💛
@Inkypaper 28 October 💛
@BellatrixK 15 November 💙
@Somatronic 2 Jan ish (I think!) 💛

Babies who are earth side:

Kirky658 11 August 2021 💗
Kate105 14 October 2021 💙
Justanothercyster 10 November 2021 💗
2020Mission 27 December 2021 💙
blackcurrantqueen 17 January 2022 💗
Crazydoglady123 29 January 2022 💗
Haiyaa 1 February 2022 💙
becarefuloutthere 26 February 2022 💗
Lexber 14 April 2022 💗💙
Minster2012 29 April 💗
bez91 8 May 💙
DKDK123 10 May 💗
whatwonder 7 June 💗
2under2 10 June 💗

Ah ok @paintfairy I do think trapped wind is one of the most painful things, pleased you worked out what it was though.

Tough day for you @Minster2012 - try and remember that they won't always be like this! Hope Queen B remembered she liked milk (DS was always a pain to feed, none of this chugging a bottle malarkey - with the exception of the dream feed!)

@Soph0105 sort of a similar role - there are many less women doing sales roles in IT which means i seem to be a little in demand?! They know im not available until May or June next year and still want to chat which is interesting...!

Poor PTSD and poor you @Soph0105! We've given up any hope of protecting the sofa!

Oh @DKDK123 that's so tough, poor little mite that that's how he thought. Sounds like DH needs to learn how to manage DD better asap so you can spend even more time with your boy. At least he's able to tell you what's on his mind, I think it shows amazing emotional maturity to be able to articulate that.

Scan was fine, baby measuring big as expected, fluid and stuff all fine. Crazy amounts of hair already - heartburn off the scale today despite the omezeprole so suspect that is a contributory factor! Placenta is still low but not scary low, I think it'll just affect where they slice me.

Now off to have an argument with an annoying Portuguese man at work who has over committed something on my behalf...guess who gives no fucks at all?!

@Minster2012 and @Soph0105 honestly think that fish finger sandwiches are my favourite food during this pregnancy. @Minster2012 Hope that you’re okay - your night, and morning, sound difficult. How is B now?

@larrythelizard interesting on the accidental interview- how was it? Glad that the scan was okay!

@Soph0105 i hated all those bits of selling a house. Good that it is progressing though- less good on smelly poonamis!

@paintfairy I’m glad that the pain is gone and that you’ve worked out what it is. I had trapped wind early on and actually cried out in pain once, so I can’t even imagine how bad it is in later weeks. Pregnancy is such a scare all the way through. Your shower sounds pointless as well… I mean who bans presents on someone else’s behalf?!

@DKDK123 you’re doing a wonderful job. It’s very natural for older children to be jealous at this stage i think. Once, on Christmas Eve, my 6 year old niece cried because everyone loved the babies more than her. She had a 2 year old and baby sister. We were ALL massively showering her with love and attention, way more than the little ones, but she still felt jealous. That is absolutely ridiculous about the HV- a total joke.

I had a terrifying experience today. My car just stopped accelerating and very slowly started slowing down on the motorway. I managed to get off the motorway- I was close to my work anyway. It seemed to be fine after, but I went to a mechanic who couldn’t see any issues and said to go back if it happens again. It better not! It was awful!

@DKDK123 thats very poor, they cannot expect you to just sit at home waiting
@Minster2012 i think we better furnish that under patio, some will be spending considerable time there, did you get your appointment ?
@larrythelizard so how was the scan? having decided on an elcs will make it easier the rest of the pregnancy
@paintfairy wind is awful, see if they can review that, the shower, in very bad taste, don’t throw it if you don’t want to, nobody asked you
i am ok, funeral on Friday so not testing will be done before that, dh is pulling faces at me on regards of how long to wait, aim for two weeks after previous test so maybe the weekend after next, meh

@larrythelizard i can give you a few choice words in Portuguese, from indignities lady to making a trucker blush level of rudeness😂

@DKDK123 agree with @larrythelizard , dh needs to pull his fingers of his ass, ds needs him to parent dd properly, it’s not all on you

Oh no @BellatrixK that sounds really scary! Car stuff scares me shitless because it's one thing I really don't understand 😂

Also oh no @DKDK123 you're doing an amazing job and DS will be fine, he's just pushing boundaries a bit. It's shit that it hurts though!

Talk me down lads, thought we were coming out the other side of this hellhole when PTSD projectile vomited EVERYWHERE when I was putting him to bed. I'm talking hosing us both down, carpet cleaner, the works. Of course H wasn't home so couldn't call for reinforcements. FML just doesn't cut it!

@larrythelizard all sounding good on the scan. I get asked constantly if I got heartburn cos of B's hair & I did but not horrendous it's weird isn't it! Sounds like you truly are a lady on demand, go girl! I had to fix a mess created by our sales manager promising something impossible. Bloody hate that shit when it's not your mess. 🙄xander used to chug a bottle, Bronte usually takes it ok but at a steady rate so feeding feels like it takes an age but atm she's just using it for comfort then acting like she's starving & gonna call NSPCC

@Franklydear I got an appointment (telephone!) for mid august!! They are far too busy clearly. When is yours with the nurse at the surgery?

@Soph0105 I don't understand "looking busy" you were busy, busy pandering to PTSD's every whim whilst he shat on you...please tell me he shat so smelly whilst the surveyor was there?! 😂we've had shits today too (yes, Bronte & me) so I sympathise

@BellatrixK omg that sounds terrifying! Do you have to go that way all the time? 😬it's been an unsettled day here, puking & almighty shitting having been constipated yesterday so not great, bedtime took over an hour for her with DH starting then me taking over so I guess I'm in for a long night.

@DKDK123 that sounds so incredibly hard but I echo @larrythelizard he's articulating it really well to the point where maybe he's saying that cos he knows it will cause a reaction /upset you, they can be manipulative little things these kids. Def don't chase the MW that's so rude!

At the rate the planning reports etc are going we won't be able to afford a patio to put DH under so if you see a pic on Insta of our lovely old cedar tree with a pile of freshly dug earth under it you know nothing ladies 🙊🪦🔫

Ahhh @Soph0105 I just saw your update. Makes me laugh but least it's sold & the surveyor is done & the buyers would prob want new carpets anyway 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

Oh wait, she's just gone one sleep cycle & now woken up. I'm in bath trying to wash hair & DH running. I'll be with @Soph0105 necking alcohol

@minster I'll chase the nurse Monday, I don't have anything concrete yet, might just test before in case of ooops(not happening)
Blunt link to make it easy for you to show the love, please iknittedthis.etsy.com

I can't get into Etsy atm I'm afraid @Franklydear

Wasn't a horrendous night here after all, she was unsettled but she went back to sleep a few times so that's good, kicked her blanket off though constantly so I don't know if she was actually hot or cos she was unsettled?! Who knows 😂

Crying on the bus is becoming a tradition, I'm ok, just alone with my thoughts

@BellatrixK how scary, my car did that too years ago, it just suddenly stopped accelerating as I was mid way pulling onto a 3 laned roundabout, it was terrifying. I can't remember what was wrong with the car in the end as it was about 10 years ago but it definitely was something that needed fixed as after that first time it did it a few more times randomly but worked fine other times. Don't want to scare you just wanted to make you aware incase it happens to you again too.

@Soph0105 oh no on the projectile vom* *🙈 Hope you had a less messy rest of the night!

@Minster2012 may your day be filled with caffeine, good luck and think of the wine at the end if the caffeine doesn't get you through 😂

@Franklydear big hugs for on the bus

On the DS front, he's in a far happier mood today and they're back to being the best of friends. I'm lucky he is really good at being able to say how he feels now, we had to do a lot of work with him on this as he used to fly into complete rages that he couldn't get himself out of when he couldn't express himself properly. Now that he can talk things through we get a lot less of the rages. As for DH I wish it was just a case of asking him to step up more to solve the problem but he's already doing it. By the time he comes home from work one of us takes the kids while the other does the dinner, after dinner we'll go for a family walk or do board games with DS, then we take a child each to do their bath and bed routines. And weekends we each have a mix of 1.1 time with each child and family time so while he doesn't see it from his perspective, DS does still get showered with lots of love and attention. It's just during the day when I'm on my own with both he's struggling as he hasn't had to share me before and now that hes not got nursery its now an extra 3days of having to share my attention with his sister. When I say DH doesn't know DDs cries that's my fault as if she cries any more than a few mins when he has her I usually shout from wherever I am "She's hungry/tired/got wind etc" as I can tell the difference between the cries and he can't as I always solve it for him, hence why I had to force myself to let her cry and let him learn for himself the other day as I know I have a tendency just to jump in and tell him. We'll all get there it's a learning curve for everyone in the family adjusting to a 4th member and sharing time and attention.

@Franklydear big hugs for you, I promise I shall look at the Etsy bits later when I've sorted my password

@DKDK123 tbh that sounds like us, I said had to step in to take over brontes bed time last night, DH started & after an hour with X being a knob "helping" being really noisy in her room cos daddy was there he asked me to help, if I weren't there then X wouldn't have been like that. we had a conversation the other night about DH needing to learn the diff cries etc but I'm still learning too & at night I'm still unsure often what will settle her. We have learnt though that a dream feed isn't a good idea as she has to be really burped to then be comfortable so actually feeding her more makes her more uncomfortable in the night & makes her wake more. I'm so pleased we have stretched hours for X & he's actually in more over the summer which helps us when his school morning drops

@bez91 might that theory help you? Feeding less making more comfortable for the night?

@larrythelizard how you feeling?

@Somatronic how are you feeling now?

@Franklydear you poor thing - we're all thinking of you.

@BellatrixK my goodness how frightening! I'm glad that you were OK after the motorway ordeal.

@Soph0105 poor you. You're really having a week of it in terms of bodily fluids.

@Minster2012 thanks for checking in. After a bad start to the week I'm feeling pretty OK today and yesterday so can't complain. Feel very bloated still which is a wee bit embarrassing because I look way more pregnant than I am so I'm fighting a losing battle trying to suck it in every day at work! Time is dragging again - maybe because my 16 week appointment with the obstetrician isn't til 19 weeks almost so I'll be 7 weeks with no appointments. Thyroid is good which is a relief. Just have to keep getting bloods every 3 or 4 weeks to keep an eye on it.

@Minster2012 don't get me wrong I'm totally still learning them too......I'm just better than DH at it 😂 I found the same at night, during the day she takes 5oz, night feeds are only 2-3oz, the only problem is she gets hungrier quicker so is up more but she feeds and goes straight back to sleep after each feed at night so I cant complain too much whereas if she gets a bigger feed she's up for hours with reflux. The bit I struggle the most with is trying to settle her when she's over tired during the day if she refuses to nap or wakens up too early from one, I've not found the trick that works with that yet.

@Somatronic don't be embarrassed with the bloating, it's all part of being pregnant it'll seem worse to you than everyone else.

Shit @BellatrixK that is petrifying!

Might need some Spanish and Portuguese words off you @Franklydear - the whole team are doing my head in...! Trying to be polite until I get permission not to be 😬. Sorry for the tears on the bus, hopefully tomorrow will start to let you process and move forward

Poor PTSD @Soph0105 like @Minster2012 said at least you've sold the house now!

To be honest @DKDK123 it's balancing DS and the new one that is my biggest worry, it's so natural for the big ones to feel pushed out but I don't want it for DS either. He'll get there, he knows he's loved, it's just a period of adjustment.

The problem with learning the cries etc is that every time you think you've cracked it, they change @Minster2012! I found it hard to let DH do a lot with DS to start with before, wonder if I'll be the same this time?

Sickness bug has gone but appetite not quite returned and I have MEGA heartburn with eating almost anything. It's like the omerzerprole has stopped working! Have to speak to the Dr tomorrow to get another prescription so will mention it to him and see what he says. But back to a really limited diet which is annoying.

Sort of interview went well, we agreed I'd drop him a line when I'm ready and we can do the formal recruitment process, I wasn't going to make any decisions just yet anyway!

Oh @Somatronic don't worry about how you should or shouldn't look like, all bumps are different and I bet colleagues think it's way less noticeable than you do. Can you get away with floaty dresses at work or is it very formal work wear?

@Somatronic
I agree with @larrythelizard you are prob more aware of it than your colleagues! (Except the one who stares at your cankles of course). I'm pleased you are feeling better though, I still look more pregnant now than straight away after birth at the minute

@larrythelizard do they not just put it on repeat prescription for you?! God my surgery is so lax then! They just put it all on repeat 😂glad the investigation chat went well you are def a lady in demand ❤️and you probs will be the same

@DKDK123 straight back to sleep would be fab! We def don't have that here but we do only have one wake up mainly now 🤞🏻

Thank you ladies, you really are helping me to get through this, unfiltered

Thank you for the likes in Etsy, just trying to get things started for the autumn

@dkdk it's a process and you'll get there, change does that to children, bestie's son is trying it on with mum would have let me to things she would absolutely not, he doesn't mean any harm, but it's difficult to hear, dito @minster the days go slow but the years go quick
@larry look at you, hopefully nice job after maternity
@somatronic never mind the looks, you're growing a baby, stab that colleague with a pencil in the eye

I can't tag properly so I'll call you all what I normally call you, not full names

I'm on my second brand of carpet cleaner but I don't think it smells any more, just the stains to oust... and only one tiny vom today on the kitchen lino so I'm taking that as a win. He's in bed, I have wine, H is out tonight so house to myself. Ahhhhhhh

Also Mr Fox's evil twin has arrived. He's very silky soft compared to the original, who has clearly had a lot of loving already, so currently cuddling him on the sofa to make him less fluffy. What is my life 😂

Sorry I'm being crap, trying to read and keep up but things have gotten very hectic round here and we are off on holiday tomorrow which isn't helping.

However! @Soph0105 I have a solution for your carpets!! Literally did this a couple of days ago to clear up many cat sick stains (don't ask). Sprinkle the stain with bicarbonate of soda, cover with a tea towel in a vague attempt to keep kids/pets from it, leave for 30 mins, vacuum it all up and then spray the area with white vinegar blot it with kitchen roll to soak up some of the excess, then dab it gently with a clean, damp white cloth and leave to dry. If it works on acid yellow car sick stains I figure it'll work for kid vom too 😄

Excellent, thanks @InkyPaper . Will try that tomorrow if round 2 of the nasty chemicals haven't worked. I don't suppose your cats have ever sicked up chorizo? I think this is the main culprit in my case 😂😂😂

Still reading ladies, just struggling to reply, we're in a bit of a sleep deprived newborn bubble. Feeding is going much better than last time so far, F is a tiny bit jaundiced but doesn't look bad by any means, midwife is coming to weigh her tomorrow so will see what she thinks.

Glad to hear you're OK @feliznavidad2, hope DS has taken well to his new sister! 💗