Due November 2022 Thread 3

[NotAdultingToday]

Hi everyone! I looked but couldn't see a thread, if there is one ill ask to get this one deleted. I hope everyone is ok!

Hello all, my God am I feeling pregnancy right now. This week has been soo busy and physically taxing. My spd is on fire. Even laying still it hurts. I'm struggling to drive my car now (it's a large 4x4) but noticed I'm fine driving my sister's smaller car. I may swap with her till I can no longer drive. I've just hit 30 weeks and feel so happy to see the number 30 on my app 😅.

I've got one crazy week left and then can finally relax. Had a lovely soak with some mummy friendly bath salts and oils and feel much better although still sore.

Hope everyone else is well!

Is anyone doing any hypnobirthing or labour prep? I struggled reading a hypnobirthing book last time as some things were way beyond me but I did find some of the pain relief techniques help. This time I'm reading a pain relief book instead and thinking of ways to try and limit the pain I felt last time round.

Honestly I feel like I am the least prepared person for labour.

I tried watching videos on hypnobirthing but I feel like its something more like meditation and my brain does not relax very well to meditate (ever).
I've not been exercising for easier labour nor have i done any pelvic floor exercises at all 😫 I feel like all I do is work and sleep. Working till the week of the due date as well so time is flying like no other..

Sounds stupid but I also start to feel a bit worried because I don't feel so pregnant at 33 weeks. I got a belly but not really any pains or braxton hicks. Baby movements reduced about 4 weeks ago and we went to the hospital they said baby looks perfectly fine, but the baby remained much more passive since then (until then was kicking like a lil martial artist). Had a midwife appointment 2 weeks ago and the heartrate was perfect, she said if its relatively same since my visit to triage then it should be fine.

Got another scan next week and cannot wait, feel like i need some reassurance. My mum brain makes me so anxious about every little thing 😬

@LittleJumpingBean I'm 34 weeks and haven't felt any braxton hicks either. Is everyone meant to get them? I'm not really exercising either just some short walks, but can't really manage much as my knees have started to hurt alot!

My God @LittleJumpingBean how are you working till due date!! I stop 5 weeks before and cannot wait.

I never had any braxton hicks with my first @Elle1709. Nothing at all till my water broke so I wouldn't worry too much. Rather enjoy it lol.

OMG. Had a midwife appointment today and she said I am 3/5 engaged. Doesn't mean I will have an early labour at all apparently so I'm not worried but hearing her say it made me realize how close labour actually is now 😳😳

@LittleJumpingBean I feel you with not feeling prepared for giving birth this time.

It's so strange by this point in my last pregnancy I had a pram, cot & mattress for when my daughter was old enough to go into her own room and everything else sorted! This time I have no double pram and no cot 🙈 I still have a snuzpod that goes next to our bed from last time, but I've still got so much to sort out, I'm 31+3 so still got a bit of time although my daughter came 3 and a half weeks early last year so I need to get ordering some bits asap, just incase I have another early baby!

Thanks everyone for your kind comments, sorry I didn't reply sooner, I came down with a vomiting bug the day after the accident. Think we caught it at a birthday party the day before it. Still waiting to hear about the situation with our car. Been pretty horrific and my second sickness bug since being pregnant. Having a toddler is a nightmare for these things. I am feeling better today but finding it hard to know what is the bug and what is just pregnancy discomfort. Baby definitely feels more like a baby moving around in there now, getting poked so much. I don't remember my son moving this much.

I wish I was on leave now, although I only have another 5.5 weeks to go and I am working less which I'm relieved about.

I never had any braxton hicks and first time round I could have easily worked to my due date and felt great, not the same story this time. I also need the time to get things ready. I would recommend doing pelvic floor exercises, you realise after birth how much you need them. That being said despite doing a fair amount pre birth I was shocked post birth last time how much effort I still had to make to build up my pelvic floor muscles again.

@LittleJumpingBean I think even if you can't get the meditation side of hypnobirthing, try the breathing as I found it so helpful during contractions to concentrate on. I'm a big fan of the Freya App for this, keeping you focused on something when the pain starts. Also really liked a tens machine but they need to be used from v early on in labour to help I think.

@roobearbaby it does make it seem v real doesn't it, my son was engaged early and still 6 days over. Just never know do you!

@OtiMama Im sorry to what about your accident and you’ve been so unwell, hope you’re on the mend.

I’m totally freaking out today that we still don’t have a name for this baby. Currently drawing up a list that I know my husband will dismiss them all! These hormones really play with us don’t they, I mean it’s not the end of the world but it’s made me feel so stressed out!

I think baby has moved position today as I’ve not felt them as much today, really big movements this morning but this afternoon the big rolls on my ribs have stopped and they are more kicks deep in my pelvis. I’m not concerned though.

Sorry to hear some people are having a tough time with it all 💐 not long to go ladies!

I was doing fine until last week or so (31 weeks now) and really starting to slow down. Straight into bed after work to rest, 4 weeks til half term then MAT leave.

Baby is so ridiculously active. My belly is constantly like that scene from alien. Feels like I’m bruising and my belly button is going to rip open. This is my first so I don’t know what’s normal. But OH has two kids from previous relationship and is shocked at how much they move. Anyone else experiencing this?

@smsmiles39 yes I know exactly what you mean. I have to rest a lot more now and the movements are bonkers! It definitely feels like he is trying to bust his way out of there!

This is a bit of a sensitive issue but has anybody's partner/husband stopped showing you any kind of affection now that you’re pregnant (since you developed a bump)?

@CurlyNo2

My partner found sex tricky, particularly further along for fear of "hurting" the baby. I think its fairly common?
Or do do you maybe mean since gaining pregnancy weight? X

I don’t know. Since I became ‘larger’ my husband doesn’t show any form of affection. No hugs, no kisses, no cuddles in bed, no holding hands or arm around my shoulders. Nothing.

I don’t know if he finds my pregnant body a turn off. I can’t remember it being this bad when I was having my son. I do know he finds the idea of a baby ‘in there’ freaky.

It makes me feel so unloved, unattractive and basically rejected. I haven’t spoken to him yet as I just don’t know what to say.

Oh, sorry to hear..

I do think it is fairly common for partners to feel a little spooked by a baby being inside us, particularly if they haven't experienced it themselves!

It might be worth speaking to him about as he may have no idea that you feel this way..

Or maybe even perhaps initiating a hug or hand holding and go from there?
I definitely went through a phase during my second trimester where my sickness was so awful I couldnt bare to be touched and snapped at my partner anytime he tried.

I had to really let him know when I felt better that I wanted to be touched again! X

Thank you, you’re right. He can’t fix it if he doesn’t even know there is a problem. I’ll try and speak to him.

Thanks, I am pleased to say I'm feeling better and so far nobody else has caught the sickness bug.

@CurlyNo2 definitely speak to your husband. There may well be nothing you can do but atleast you could understand his reasoning. Things do change don't they, but the time will also go so fast.

We don't have a name either, we don't even have a list of names! I feel more relaxed this time, even if baby is born without a name we will find one.

@smiles39 all babies are different. I have had a baby before and swear he didn't move this much but then I wonder if I can't remember. They are meant to have a pattern so if it's gone from not much to tonnes really quickly it may be worth checking in but if its built up over the weeks you probably just have an active baby there. Mine is affected by certain foods, cold drinks etc.

Just catching up on this thread. I wrote a reply on my phone a couple of days ago about birth but lost it. Had a 1-2 week break from insomnia, now it's back. Mostly waking early, on my back, and I want good blood flow to baby. I have back pain often after eating now.
Not lacking affection from DH but opposite. Hes a light sleeper and likes to cuddle in bed but it's not always comfortable. And I'm not happy with him his parenting style and he makes some comments that are controlling. He got pissed off when I woke up as I had gone to sleep with my back pressed against him, he'd shuffled away and I woke almost on my back. I tried to get comfortable, he cuddled up and I got out of bed and moved his clothes from the wall so I could lie on my left side with cushions and my back pressed against the wall. He got pissed off for my messing his clothes and waking him up on a work night. We finished the argument constructively but then, after feeling more comfortable from farting i went to bed. He slept but I felt hungry so have just come down for a snack but heard him wake up 10 minutes later.

Hi everyone, been lurking on here a while but have not posted yet. I'm currently 33+5 with a DS, this is my second pregnancy and it's been a tough one with HG. Really looking forward to baby making an appearance and not being pregnant anymore! (Also sleep has been awful recently but has improved since kicking DH onto the sofa 🤣)

Welcome @hayu19 - second pregnancies are tough aren’t they!

I know what you mean, I moaned throughout my 1st pregnancy and how much I hated it. But as soon as my son was born, I missed everything about it.

This will be my last pregnancy so trying to enjoy it but it’s so bloody hard when it’s a struggle!

@hayu19 I'm so glad I'm not the only one who has been contemplating kicking me husband out and onto the sofa haha! I sleep sooo much better when he's not there. I can spread out, and move around without worrying I'm waking him!

My husband*, not 'me' husband 😂

I'm a bit of a lurker too... Currently 33+3 with our second, don't know what we're having yet. I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes at 28 weeks which is controlled by metformin and am really struggling now. Noting really diabetes related, but heartburn, painful ribs, out of breath, bloody exhausted etc. I've found a hot bath is the only thing that brings any real relief, so dreading our energy bill!

Baby's head and abdomen are currently on the 97th percentile, so I've been told I'll need to be induced or have a C-section between 37-38 weeks, which right now can't come soon enough! I'm worrying a lot about their size, whether there's anything else going on.

As negative as I sound I can't wait to meet this baby, and it's so reassuring to read others are suffering the same aches and pains!

Another one with the bad sleep. If I sleep on my side my ribs burn, if I sleep on my back I can't breathe. Most nights I wake up on my back even though I have a sausage pillow behind me (not the technical term but you catch my drift).

Today was hard, reduced movements, finally got to triage and baby started moving. It's turned breech again so I wasn't feeling my usual movements or strength 😩😩😩. So stressed, need to turn it back again. My pelvic pain is also so bad but working 12 hour shifts is not helping.

What a moan bag I am today

I've just woken the entire house up (as well as myself) screaming in pain, not because of early labour, but because of leg cramp. I swear cramp is far more painful than giving birth! I've now gone down the rabbit hole of online leg cramp info, which lead to perennial massage and pelvic floor exercises. Now my 5:30 concern is that I'll turn myself inside out whilst giving birth as I haven't been doing either of these...

I had bad leg cramps with my first and did neither the massage nor the exercises due to bedrest. Again I can't do them till 37 weeks. DS came out fine and I had an unfelt second degree tear which healed so quick. My pelvic floor has been so weak since though so I'd definitely start on those if you can.