Due Feb/Mar after MC 🌈 🙈

[MooBugz]

Hi all,

4+3 according to Flo app, pregnant after a miscarriage in March at 11 weeks so feeling very anxious / scared and needed a safe space to speak about pregnancy worries without thriving anyone of joy!

Feel free to join and share the journey together.

Hi @mrscapaton congratulations! How far along are you?

@Lilipa I got really anxious with my ivf baby- the stomach turn overs, full body sweats, the lot. I went to my midwife and told me, 'you categorically can not worry your baby to death.' Please try not to panic.
Women in have been having babies throughout wars zones most of history, they are very well protected in there.

I read an article from the BMJ which said there's very little a woman can do to affet the outcome of a pregnancy and the baby will either make it or won't. This comforted me bit.

I'm 6 weeks

Hey lovelies, thank you for your replies @MooBugz @RedElleJ @STom2 @OceanbreezeSun ❤️ and for sharing about when you tried again after miscarriage and why ❤️

We are in Norfolk but going home tomorrow. It feels weird to write here when I'm no longer pregnant, but this group also feels like home (my Mumsnet home 😂) and I just wanted to check in and say thank you again, and I'll try to check in every now and then too.

I am feeling mostly numb ATM with occasional sadness. I think my mind has gone into protection mode. Still in shock I think.

Sending you ALL lots of good luck for the week ahead (and beyond). You are all so strong, kind and amazing. ❤️🌈 xx

Lovely to hear from you @Skylark1990 i hope you're holding up OK. X

Hi everyone,
Just after some advice from those of you on progesterone pessaries please. All been going fine on them until this morning when I went to the loo, there was a fair bit of brown discharge in my liner and when I wiped. Have you experienced this on the pessaries? I'm so nervous mc is happening again 😢 I don't have any cramping or anything just the brown spotting. I've read the pessaries can do that but I have so much dread.
Thanks x

Morning all,

Hope everyone is doing ok, that's just one week to go till my reassurance scan so just need to keep myself busy this week 🫣
The nausea has been awful but had a somewhat good day yesterday and found eating little but often helped as someone had suggested.

@Skylark1990 lovely to hear from you and please do check in when you feel like. Thank you very much for the good wishes I've been thinking about you a lot and hope you are doing ok. Protection mode is good it helps process things rationally until you are able to properly feel. Sending you all my love and please please don't be hard on yourself as we all know there is absolutely nothing you did that gave that outcome, Ian's nothing you could have done differently ❤️

@Maya12345 sorry your having a bit of a scare there I can't help as I don't have experience of that but I'm sure some of the other ladies will. From what I've read in here it is a common effect from using the pessaries

Hey Everyone,

Sorry for the radio silence recently. How are we all today?

I had my scan to day and baby is measuring more to my dates of 6+4 than the 7+3 they got from my LMP (dunno how they got that as my LMP was 17th May). She said she wasn’t worried in regards to what she was seeing so that’s good and baby had a heartbeat. I cried throughout the entire thing but she was lovely and gave me lots of kind words and encouragement.

Good to hear from you again @Skylark1990 - we are here for as long as you need us 💕As we all know emotions come and go and can hit us when we least except it! So keep being kind to yourself - you are doing amazing x

Could you do them anally instead? That's how I do mine. Some women find they irritate the cervix if done vaginally.

@RedElleJ congrats on the scan!

@Skylark1990 nice to hear from you. I hope norforlk has healped start off the metal healing process.

After my pessimistic scan last week where I was measuring with an IVF pregnancy at 6.0 instead of 6.3 with no heartbeat, I had one today at 7.2 and am measuring at 6.2 BUT there is a good heartbeat. When pushed the nurse said she thinks we have a 50/50 chance. We're feeling happy at the moment, although I'm sure my emotions will be up and down for another week.

I have to go back next week

@RedElleJ and @seven201 Congrats on getting to see a little heartbeat today. Even when dates vary I've read that seeing the heartbeat early is a positive indicator. Appreciate @seven201 that you will still have doubt for the next week until your next scan, but there is a tiny bean in there, still growing. x

@Maya12345 further to my message below. I'm on another thread with a lady who's had quite a few early bleeding incidences (some light, some heavier I think) and once she stopped using suppositories vaginally they stopped happening. She's now in the second trimester. It could be coincidence though.

@STom2 thank you! Hop your sickness is under control at the mo.

Thanks @seven201. Nausea still in full swing here. 20 month old walked in on me earlier projectile vomiting. I found that fruit pastilles ice lollies are really good for helping (I'm sure any ice lolly would work), but same 20 month old wrestled it from my hand and firmly refuses to give it back. I dont have the energy to argue. Currently googling toddler friendly alternatives.

Thanks so much @MooBugz and @seven201 my GP didn't seem worried at all and said it was probably irritation. Just need to keep an eye out! Hope you're both OK xx

Hi all, great news @seven201 on a heartbeat! How wonderful to see it on the screen 😄

And congratulations @RedElleJ on your scan too!

Sorry you have such bad sickness @STom2 must be incredibly difficult having a toddler running round and dealing with it.

I'm still getting nausea on and off throught the day but eating helps throw it off course for a bit.

One week exactly until my next scan where I should be 7+ praying for that heartbeat. @MooBugz I feel time drag so slowly.

@STom2 luckily your toddler is too young to be scarred for life! Not what you want though. It's so hard looking after little ones when you're feeling ill, especially when you just have to go be sick!

@Gamergirl84 thank you. It feels like such a long wait doesn't it! Sorry about your sickness.

Aww @STom2 that's a shame! I'm getting the nausea without the vomiting so I don't know what's worse 😩

@Gamergirl84 I know but just think this time next week it'll be the day! I'm 8 weeks tomorrow and this is a nervous week for me as this is the week the baby stopper growing last time and I didn't find out till week 11. Strange feelings especially with covid hanging around me I'm getting a lot of horrible deja Vu feelings which I'm so far being able to shake as I've not personally caught covid yet. I've been sanitising like crazy since the whole household except me has it and lady across from me at work has it. Roll on next Monday where I can hopefully get some reassurance and relax a little 🫣

Ah this is great news @RedElleJ and @seven201 !! So happy to hear this. How are you both feeling after seeing the little heartbeats?

@Skylark1990 so lovely to hear from you! You’ve been in my thoughts none stop since we heard your news!

I have my scan tommorow. It all hit me on Saturday when I had a little bit of discharge with a little bit of blood but to be honest I think it’s from trying to go the toilet. As there’s been no more since. You can imagine I was up the wall with worry. Today I’ve just been really teary with the thought of tomorrow. I think I will be pretty much like you @RedElleJ Dreading it to be honest. Everytime I think of it I’m just gone with tears. My nausea has still been really bad but managing with my ginger cubes 😂

All going well tommorow I’ll book my booking appointment. Haven’t done that yet due to fear!

Awww @Rubes1234 good luck at your appointment tomorrow 😊 the nausea as ugly as it is, is a good sign!

@Rubes1234 thank you. I'm feeling positive, but probably too positive! Not sure how long that will last.

Good luck for tomorrow. The lead up is just so painful. I'm also not going to book to see the midwife until (hopefully) my scan next Monday.

I have piles! Anyone know what you can use in pregnancy? I will Google too of course.

@seven201 my mum suffers really badly with them but if you get like a small sitz bath to go on the loo and add Epsom salts this shrinks them really well.

@Skylark1990
Thinking of you ❤️
I hope you are doing ok and doing what you need to do to get through it.

I was very numb after my mmc in Jan too. I even felt guilty, like I should be grieving more, but I just wanted to not think about it tbh. I had my moments, of course.
There is no right or wrong way to process everything.

@RedElleJ @seven201
Lovely news, you must have been so happy and relieved💚

Not much to report here! I’m 9 weeks today, my booking appointment isn’t till next Monday ( I got my dates mixed up!)

My nausea isn’t as bad recently, still get waves throughout day and worse at night but overall, not too bad. My boobs look enormous though (need to buy some new bras!) dh obviously notices but dd said last night ‘mummy, your boobies look very bigger’ 🤣

I’m still feeling pretty anxious about what’s going on with little bean in there. When I had the mmc (sorry if this is triggering) they think the baby passed away early at 6 weeks but my body carried on thinking I was pregnant and I had nausea and sore nipples right up till week 11. I can’t bring myself to have a reassurance scan though, I guess I’m burying my head in the sand abit.

How is everyone else feeling?

Omg sorry that was so long 😵‍💫

Hey @OceanbreezeSun 9 weeks that's great 🥳 I'll be one day away from 9 weeks when I go for my reassurance on Monday. I was swaying between havin the private scan and not for the very reasons you chose not to but in the end I knew I would struggle with the wait and not knowing in the end.

I just feel so tired this week I woke up feeling a burst of energy yday and cut the grass then a few hours later I was ready for bed haha 😆

Thank you, I'll look that up

Morning ladies,

Thanks for all the congratulations - I think it’s reassured me that things look good right now but obviously still got a way to go yet. I’m glad I know my dates as hearing 7+3 would have freaked me out. However, I saw last night they took my LMP down wrong (4 days earlier than what I told them) so it should have been an estimated 7 weeks. So, I am only 3-4 days behind that but bang on my 6+4/6+3 which all adds up as I ovulated on CD 18 rather than 14 when they use their estimations 🎉

Glad to hear baby is growing and has a heartbeat @seven201 - keeping my fingers crossed that baby keeps going for you 🤞🏻

Sorry to hear you are feeling so rough @STom2 - I know some people like to have boiled sweets…hopefully your little one can’t prise those out your mouth 😂🙈

Good luck today @Rubes1234 and if you end up crying I wouldn’t even worry about it. I imagine they are so so used to it and completely understand that having scans reminds us of past trauma. My sonographer was amazing and I’m sure yours will be too. Just make sure you’ve got an easy day ahead of you afterwards - wishing you all the best today and sending lots of love x

@OceanbreezeSun completely understand not having booked any scans yet - I was tempted to walk out when I arrived yesterday. Everyone is different and if you decide you really want one you will and you will do it in your own time ☺️ I’m glad the nausea has eased a bit for you.