Due Feb/Mar after MC 🌈 🙈

[MooBugz]

Hi all,

4+3 according to Flo app, pregnant after a miscarriage in March at 11 weeks so feeling very anxious / scared and needed a safe space to speak about pregnancy worries without thriving anyone of joy!

Feel free to join and share the journey together.

I’m so so sorry @Skylark1990 , it’s absolutely heartbreaking and just isn’t fair. I hope you can take the time you need to heal and you’ve got support to help you through it. Wishing you all the strength and love for your recovery xx

I’m incredibly saddened to hear what you’re going through @Skylark1990 - there are no words 💔

@Skylark1990 I'm so sorry to read your update.

Oh @Skylark1990 I am absolutely gutted for you. Sending you lots of love and hugs. Please feel free to share anything with us, we're all here for you xxx

I’m so so sorry @Skylark1990
I’ve been thinking about you and was hoping for the best, we all were.❤️
Not sure what else to say, it’s not fair. Sending lots of love and hope you are back home soon x

Really sad news yday from @Skylark1990 and exactly why this group is needed we don't have the same joy and hope when we find out about pregnancy after experiencing max or multiple..

I hope everyone else is doing ok today and good luck to everyone else who have scans booked in soon. I have mine a week on Monday. I seem to be having some light pain/cramping mostly at night but think this might be gas/trapped wind. My nausea has been awful this week so much worse than I've ever experienced before as it seems to be lingering all day, anyone else? Any tips? I've come off junk food completely which is. A good thing of course but so strange how hormones can change your feelings towards food just like that isn't it

MC* not Max

Hi @MooBugz
i have my scan Monday too - feeling really nervous as I am still pretty much symptomless.

I can’t really help with the nausea - the only time I get it is if I have water on an empty stomach so I just avoid it first thing and have a cup of red bush ☺️

I got cramps last time - like growing twinges I guess- but nothing this time round. Not going to lie, I am really not feeling hopeful at the moment

@RedElleJ I had no symptoms with DS, it was an ivf pregnancy and I didn't feel pregnant until about 20 weeks. Symptoms are a good sign but no symptoms aren't a bad sign, if that makes sense. I have days now where I have zero symptoms too and I forget I'm pregnant.

My scan is also Monday 11th @MooBugz Feels like forever away. I'll be approx 7+5 by then so the expectation is high of what the sonographer will see.

And I agree that this group is extremely important- all of us k ow first hand what it is like to lose (some of us multiple times) and to have people understand our trepidation about being pregnant again is invaluable.

@MooBugz My DS woke in the middle of the night and I went into him. Sat down in the chair in his room. Moments later I was almost doubled over with horrendous stomach cramping that appeared out of nowhere. Had a panic and called my DS. But then I broke wind a couple times (sorry if TMI) and it seemed to pass within 5 mins and there was nothing else. Was checking for bleeding etc. I realise it has to have been trapped wind as I'd experienced it on a lesser scale earlier in the day. But OMG never had that when pregnant with DS. I realised thus morning that I drank A LOT of 7up yesterday (don't usually drink fizzy drinks but it seems to help with the nausea).

For me, the only way I can manage the nausea is sleeping as much as I can and making sure I don't get too hungry. Doesn't help having covid on top of it as its hard to tell the difference between what's pregnancy related and what's covid related atm.

Hey everyone, just want to say thank you so so so so much for all of your beautiful, kind messages. I've read through them a few times over the last 24 hours or so and they have always fortified me. You're truly a lovely bunch and I'm really sad not to be on this journey with you anymore, I would have loved to stay in touch (maybe I still can 🙂). I will honestly treasure your messages and I wish you all healthy, full term pregnancies and beautiful babies ❤️

I don't really know how I'm feeling - I'm really sad but also feel numb a lot of the time. It was good to come home and be with DD and my family. The doctors were also amazing at the hospital, going over everything with me and explaining various things and they've referred me to the recurrent miscarriage clinic, where they will do lots of tests. Although this could take over 3 months. They've said if I get pregnant again in the meantime to take progesterone right from a BFP, and I've read elsewhere it's good to take from 3dpo so I might do that even.

I just can't believe this has happened, everything looked so good and felt so right before the bleeding started, and seeing the baby and heartbeat one day to then lose it the next was just a level of heartache I can't even describe but I know you will all understand ❤️💔 this miscarriage feels different to the others, which were both before 5 weeks and though incredibly sad and awful, I could kind of see why potentially - I was run down, still bf loads, etc. Who knows what caused them really but I felt like I could maybe understand more why they happened. This time tho I have been much healthier, more rested and it just felt like it would happen. Until covid ofc. But even then I had it mildly. But maybe that's the problem, my immune system was too strong and as well as fighting covid it decided to fight the pregnancy. I just don't know, I'm theorising of course. There are absolutely no clear answers, it's unfair and doesn't make sense. I guess what I'm trying to articulate is that this loss feels different, potentially caused by something else. I'm not sure if that's reassuring or not tbh. And anyway it may be the same thing, but somehow this one hung on longer.

Part of me (a big part) wants to try again straight away. I feel almost desperate to be pregnant again. But I am also scared that if we get pregnant again quickly, it'll cause issues again. I know many people do though - @STom2 did you get pregnant before you had a full cycle if I remember rightly? Were there any risks or just issues with dating potentially? Also I guess maybe it depends on whether the losses are recurrent or there's just been one.

The doctors have told me to wait at least 3 weeks which I think effectively means wait till I've had a period then I can try. So I'm not sure. I think I'll do a test in a couple weeks and if negative then I'll consider trying from there. But maybe I should wait a good couple months. 🤷‍♀️

We are going away this weekend to Norfolk so I hope that is healing, I want to swim in the sea but not sure if it's ok during a MC.

Sending so much love and luck to you all, thank you all so much. Sending lots of good luck to those with scans in the next few weeks xxxxxxxx

@RedElleJ I didn't have symptoms in previous pregnancies until nearer the 12 week mark so try not to worry everyone is different and you hear of people who don't even know they are pregnant till late on sue to no symptoms!

@Gamergirl84 that's nice to have a scan buddy! I'll be 8+6 at my scan. It does seem ages away doesn't it 😩

@STom2 LOL not tmi at all in fact I'm finding a good fart seems to help during the day 😱🫣 so bad but so true! Thanks for the 7up tip will try that, not much of a fizzy juice person but water and dilute juice just seem to make things worse right now can't get any drinks to feel good.

@Skylark1990 so good to hear from you and of course you will stay in touch your still very much a part of this group and you touched a lot of us.
I understand you wanting to try again so soon I was very much the same but was upset when it didn't happen the first few cycles when you hear of people getting pregnant so quick after a mc as your meant to be more fertile. Take the time to feel your body strong again it's a massive ordeal a mc the physical toll really isn't quick I feel personally.
I hope you stay in touch and I wish you all the positive vibes in the world for whatever lies ahead and a little break sounds like a great start to healing, you are stronger than you know and this time was not your time but it will happen and when it does you will look at your baby and know it was very much wanted and loved and prayed for ❤️

@skylark1990 Really good to hear from you. Yes, I did get pregnant before having one cycle. I started to miscarry around 4th May. Bleeding lasted a week maximum I think. Then I ovulated around 24th May and got pregnant again. There aren't any risks so to speak. From what I've read it's more about accurate dating of new pregnancy and that you can be more fertile immediately after a MC. That said, I genuinely didn't set out to get pregnant again so quickly. And I believe there is a lot to be said about giving your body a little time to heal. As a MC is a lot physically, not just emotionally. But fully understand your desire to get pregnant again quickly.

@moobogz I think the 7up when sick is an Irish childhood thing. Any time you had a stomach bug you were given flat 7Up. So now I get it if I'm throwing up (usually hangover rather than pregnancy related 🙃)!

@MooBugz the nausea is real over here too 🧏‍♀️ when I was pregnant with my daughter, I felt fine all day until 4pm and then bam. But this time....all mother chuffing day. I keep gagging.
I bought some anti sickness bands off amazon and they helped last night. Helped me last time too, I would definitely recommend them!

Thanks for the reassurance @Gamergirl84 and @MooBugz - I did get a little bit a nausea today before I had breakfast so that's something.

Good to hear from you @Skylark1990 - I think swimming in sea would be fine as long as you have stopped bleeding. As they advise not to go swimming or have a bath until the bleeding has stopped. I am glad you are allowed to take progesterone from the very beginning next time and who knows you might not even need the recurrent miscarriage clinic. I waited for my 1st period after MC before trying again - mainly because I bled for quite a while and had to have medical management after surgical for retained tissue. If you feel ready to try before your missed period then there is no issue other than accurate dating as @STom2 said. I hope your time away in Norfolk is helpful to the healing process and I truly hope that you don't have to go through any of this ever again x

@STom2 I bought some Lilt today but should have got the 7up aswell so need to add it to my list for next time!

@madeinthe80z I had the urge to buy rich tea biscuits when I was in the shops earlier and found it to curb the nausea for a while so would recommend trying that!

Side note, now my colleague who sits across from me has tested positive too. So that's my husband, two kids, colleague ...I must invest in a hazmat suit right about now 😅

@Skylark1990 its good to hear from you. I’m glad you are back home with dc and dh.
I hope you can find some small comfort being in Norfolk with your family❤️

@MooBugz If you had it recently enough you'll probably still have antibodies and dodge it this time around. Hopefully you do anyway as I've had it for days now and it's extremely unpleasant when morning sickness is thrown in on top of it. Currently nibbling gingernut biscuits and have ordered some anti nausea bands and boiled ginger sweets. Hopefully they help. The nausea definitely wasn't as bad with DS but I think the covid is just making it worse atm.

@MooBugz
The nausea for me gets worse around 4/5ish.
I only feel like beige food tbh, crisps, bread, crackers, but also really enjoying nectarines randomly. I’m afraid I don’t have any good remedies - ginger never works for me. Dry, bland flavours seem to work ok for me though.

I do get abit worried sometimes as the nausea is not as bad as when I had dd but I also never got sore boobs , where as this time around, they are noticeably fuller and sore, I’m also burping more( I’m not really a burper!) I have a noticeable bump now, could just be from bloating though. I’m trying not to overthink things. Symptoms can be reassuring, but lack of symptoms is normal too and they can come and go.

@STom2 I had it back in February but so did my two children and they've got it again! Even though one is vaccined too 🫣 I'm not really thinking about it because overthinking then I go crazy and freeze.

@OceanbreezeSun I definitely didn't have nausea this bad in the past but today has been the best day so far with Diet Coke and rich tea biscuits helping greatly. Must be a bland food thing similar to you. I have been craving pickley/spicy foods too which is not ideal as the nausea comes back with vengeance lol

Ditto on the bump but again could be bloat 😩

@OceanbreezeSun I'm with you on the plain foods- I'm eating toast and scrambled eggs, rice salmon and broccoli on rotation almost exclusively.
I'm off dairy so been drinking ginger herbal tea.

Been queasy for the past couple of days but not sick. Its irritating more than anything but I find eating every couple of hours helps.

Really hoping the scan shows something positive for us on the 11th because it would be a real kick in the teeth to feel like this for the two weeks for nothing 😑

I'm soooooooo worried since this afternoon. I've taken time off work due to my history (4 recurrent miscarriages of unknown reason) so I've been pretty chilled at home the past week.
However, today, we had a training so I went to work for the training thinking "how hard can it be?".
Please note that I've been having symptoms this entire week (I'm 5+1 today).
During the training I was all the time nervous in case anyone would understand or in case they would ask me a question on the course. I could feel the tension in my body constantly. Also, I had sandwiches that they offered there and one had cold turkey.
Since I came back this afternoon I've felt no symptoms whatsoever. Even my boobs are not at all sore anymore.
I'm so worried that I made the worst decision to go there today and I've affected the pregnancy to end either because I was so anxious that I could feel it in my body or cause I ate that cold turkey sandwich. 😥
I feel terrible if this pregnancy will end!
I have my ultrasound on the 11th of July (6+3) but how can I wait so long now that I started worrying so much?

@Lilipa My symptoms pretty much stopped over night when I hit 5+2 but they are now gradually coming back a week later. It’s weird how they come and go and I thought it was a bad sign but after copious amounts of googling I have discovered it’s apparently perfectly normal. Try not to worry too much, they’ll be back before you know it.

Hello,

Congratulations! I hope you’re feeling ok.

I'm due in Feb. We've been trying after two years of miscarriages and IVF. I'm high risk, so feeling anxious.

I'm feeling very blessed to have another chance...

Hiya @Mrscapatan and welcome.

@Lilipa have you spoken to your GP about how you are feeling? It's easy enough for us to say not to worry and a turkey sandwich is fine, but as we know, all of our individual anxieties don't like to listen to that! It sounds like you may be having a particularly hard time though? That may be something a doc would be able to help with x