Due Feb/Mar after MC 🌈 🙈

[MooBugz]

Hi all,

4+3 according to Flo app, pregnant after a miscarriage in March at 11 weeks so feeling very anxious / scared and needed a safe space to speak about pregnancy worries without thriving anyone of joy!

Feel free to join and share the journey together.

@STom2 ok thanks! I really hope so! 🤞🏼🤞🏼

I can go for a scan on Friday to the EPU but I would be just 6 weeks, I’m so terrified to go because of how it went in Jan, but so want some reassurance too! I think it would be better to wait until next week so the chance of a heartbeat would be stronger but I don’t know how to wait!
is anyone else a total ball of anxiety!!!!???

@Skylark1990 thanks! I’m glad I’m not the only one that’s worrying over it! I just got a big bout of nausea there and was so happy 😂

Hi everyone, I’ve been lurking on this chat for a week or so reading the comments and thought I should finally join in. My husband was told he would never be able to have children naturally. We were ok with that and made a good life for ourselves. Then last year came a very surprise pregnancy and we were over the moon. However, we discovered we had a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks. We thought lightening wouldn’t strike twice so started to explore adoption in April. Then came another surprise earlier this month, I was 4 weeks pregnant. We were both scared but really happy. Nausea and sore boobs were my friend, weirdly providing reassurance my body was doing what was needed. The nausea and acid stopped on Sunday and I now very rarely get them. I’m such a mess because I no longer trust my body, although pregnancy tests still show really strong lines I don’t believe the baby is growing. I’ll be six weeks on Friday but I don’t want to go for a scan til 7 weeks, to make sure there’s no doubt in our minds if something is wrong. I am trying to be positive but it’s so hard, when the worst has happened before how do you focus on the good side? I have to keep telling myself there’s no signs of a miscarriage. Rational me knows we’re not out yet but the neurotic pregnant me where I can’t seem to apply logic is freaking out. 🤦🏻‍♀️

@ChangeHtotheP Welcome to the group and sorry to hear about your previous loss. It is tough to learn to trust our bodies again. But if it helps, I am someone who had a very straightforward second pregnancy after having a MMC with my first.

I had my scan this morning ladies and all looking well so far. Baby in right place and I could see the heartbeat. They reckon my last MC was due to the pregnancy trying to attach to my caesarean scar, so made sure to check it wad nicely tucked away from there this time around. Measuring about 3 days behind what I was guesstimating, but I'm not overly concerned about this as the sonograpger was very happy with how things looked and I haven't had a menstrual period since my last MC. Obviously I don't feel anywhere out of the woods yet, but thought it would help offer some reassurance to others on here to hear some positive scan news.

@ChangeHtotheP i can’t help I’m afraid but to say I’m in the same boat, feeling ok this morning after a week of nausea - and I’ve had 2 losses this year and after MMC I just don’t trust my body either - I’m 6 weeks on Friday too- my sister is 17 weeks (unplanned and no losses, compared to my 2 years trying and 2 losses- I just find it so so hard) and I’m a mess over it all, I don’t know how I will cope if this doesn’t work out well!

@STom2 that’s great news about your scan, congratulations!! How far along are you?

@STom2 That’s such good news about your scan, seeing posts like that give me hope so please keep them coming!! 😄

@JoKB Looks like we’re at exactly the same point then. It’s weirdly reassuring to hear that there is someone else in the same boat and we’re both feeling quite similar. I ended up doing a digi this morning as I was driving myself crazy, it came back saying 3+ weeks, which I’m thinking shows something is going the right way. I’m trying to focus on the positives and dare to believe but it’s so hard. Are you driving your partner crazy? I am trying to stop myself saying ‘if everything is ok’ or ‘if nothing goes wrong’ as my husband gets upset and it’s causing tension between us.

I'm sorry to bring bad news to the group again. I had some bright red bleeding with a small clot this morning so we rushed to a&e. They've given me a scan but not till next Thurs. I asked about progesterone due to the Tommy's advice saying if you've had one or two miscarriages and bleeding in a subsequent pregnancy this should be offered / explored. The emergency doctor was initially reluctant to give me a blood test but she's now gone to gynae to double check. So just waiting some more. Feel devastated, think it's probably a miscarriage. I haven't had a lot more bleeding - not enough to fill a pad yet- but am having dull period like cramps so think it's probably just a matter of time. I'll let you know how it goes. Just feeling completely floored and confused and sad.

Hey guys, quick update. I think due to my questions about progesterone they decided to send me to epau and did a scan. I'm so I believably grateful because we just saw a tiny baby with a strong heartbeat. No idea what is causing the bleeding and pain. Waiting to speak to doctor. I guess not out of the woods as bleeding isn't a good sign but it was such a relief to see that little thing beating away. Just a lesson to push for what we need... If I hadn't questioned they just would have sent me home! 😥

@Skylark1990 How frightening for you!! Glad that you pushed for the scan and got to see that heartbeat. I have read its very common to have bleeding like that in first trimester so try not to worry too much about it. Especially if baby still looked happy and healthy in there. x

@STom2 and @Skylark1990 - I'm so pleased about your positive scans! @Skylark1990 that sounds like the most stressful morning but so good it has been good news. My sister in law had red bleeding at work during her pregnancy and rushed to A&E and got a scan and all was well so it might just be done of those things that are there to cause us more stress. Well done for advocating for yourself! It's annoying to think we have to.

I don't know if it helps @ChangeHtotheP and @JoKB but I lost all my symptoms late last week for like 2-3 days and got so scared but I had my viability scan on Monday and there was baby with a little heartbeat measuring just on 7 weeks. And now nausea is back full force and also my sense of smell seems to have gone crazy. Everything is making me gag. So fingers crossed (?!) it'll be the same for both of you

@Skylark1990 Oh god, how stressful, what a morning for you. I’m so happy you pushed for a scan and saw the little beans heartbeat.
I know you will still feel anxious but it’s really good you saw a heartbeat❤️You already know, but bleeding isn’t always a bad sign. I hope you find out what caused it & everything is ok.
Thinking of you x

@STom2 I’m so glad you had a good scan, I hope it gives you some relief🧡

Welcome @ChangeHtotheP @JoKB
I’m sorry about your past losses.
I don’t know if it’s possible to not ever feel anxious, especially in these first few months. You just do what you need to do to feel less anxious/stressed - like @MooBugz said, if you feel you want more reassurance scans, do it, meditation, swimming, nature walks, speaking often with the midwife, or even just keeping yourself busy ( like I try to do) they can all help. I try to get out of the house everyday with dd (even with the nausea and generally feeling icky at the moment!)
I know it sounds abit matter of fact, but i also know that if the worse happens, there’s nothing I could have done about it. I’m just thankful I’m still pregnant today and I just take it one step at a time.

Welcome @JoKB - I definitely have days where I feel like I am experiencing more symptoms than others. I don’t have many to be honest though but yeah, totally normally for them to come and go. I have a scan when I am supposed to be 6+4 and feeling the same as you…it’s anxiety central over here! Hopefully, it is all good news of you on Friday though, if you do go that is.

Welcome @ChangeHtotheP - goodness, what an emotional journey you have been on. I am sorry about your loss but hopefully this is the one for you. I think with a missed miscarriage even not having signs of a miscarriage doesn’t offer much in the way of reassurance. I am finding some days harder than others but I think that is just part of the course.

Congrats on the scan @STom2 - that has brought some well needed joy :)

@Skylark1990 - what a day you’ve had! How are you feeling? I am glad you got to see a tiny baby with a strong heartbeat - I hope that is given you some reassurance despite all that has been going on. And well done on advocating for yourself - I literally fist pumped the air when I read that. It just goes to show how important it is to stay in the know. So so pleased they got you in for a scan. x

@ChangeHtotheP welcome and sorry about your previous loss but what a lovely surprise and wish you all the best this time round

@STom2 great news about your scan today so pleased for you I hope that have you the reassurance you needed

@Skylark1990 oh what a rollercoaster of a morning you've had! So so happy you were able to see your little baby and a heartbeat that must have felt Samsung after feeling that horrible feeling of mc initially this morning. Hopefully the bleeding is nothing to worry about

Hi girls, I hope I’m okay to join ☺️

I’ve had 3 previous mc and have a 7 year old son, I was on contraception and it’s failed so here I am, I’m 8+3 and had a scan at 6+2 as we didn’t know how far along I was then had another scan a few days later as I was having light bleeding but baby had a strong heart beat but they said yolk sac was small and not sure what it means? I’m on progesterone suppository twice a day until I’m 16 weeks now

Hi everyone, I hope you don't mind me joining. I have seen some of you at the Feb/March group.

So, I have a 4 year old daughter and after her I have had 4 recurrent miscarriages... The last one of which was with a perfectly healthy embryo, since it was PGS tested IVF embryo.
So, I feel anything can happen! And this is why we tried naturally again this time and here we are.
I think I'm 4 weeks 5 days but can't be sure because my cycles are very unstable.
I have an early scan at 6 weeks 3 days, on the 11th of July and even though I'm looking forward to that, I'm also terrified because our miscarriages happened between the 6th and 7th week and after we had heard a heartbeat. So nothing can give me full reassurance as you can imagine.
I don't know what to do in order to stop worrying about having symptoms/not having symptoms or about feeling cramps often... I keep going to the toilet to check if I'm bleeding.
I'm not currently working which is on the one hand good because I can sleep during the day (boy I'm much more tired and take naps every day!) but the days are quite long as I have all the time in the world. I prefer to not work, though, as this helps me take "me" time whenever I need it in the day.

I saw some had blood and had early scans which showed a heartbeat so I'm so glad to see this and I'm hoping all will progress well.
Did anyone else have scans or is planning to have one soon?

Also, does anyone know: when we are part of the recurrent miscarriage clinic of our hospital do we get offered a scan at 8 weeks as well or just at 6 weeks? I remember reading somewhere that we get one at 8 and one at 6 but don't remember where I saw it so it'd be great if someone knows.

I'm so grateful we gave this community here to talk openly about our worries and experiences! My husband does not want to talk about it at all. He pretends I'm not pregnant and this is only because he's not managed to overcome the trauma from the previous miscarriages...

Thanks all for your words of support. I'm home now. I'm feeling really rubbish tbh, I'm still bleeding and there has been a few more small clots in the blood this afternoon. I petrified the blood is just going to increase and I'll miscarry. I don't understand how baby can be fine when this is happening or why I'm still bleeding. My partner isn't dealing with it well either, he's being distant emotionally,and working frantically and basically I think trying to compartmentalise. When I need him and of course need him even more to help with our DD ATM and this is all going to pile on him which I feel guilty about, but he's also going through the stress and I guess remembering the previous miscarriages. Plus with covid having recently hit us it's not like we have full cups ATM. It all just feels crap and I feel quite alone. I just wish the bleeding and cramps would stop 😥😥😥

@Skylark1990 I understand how you are feeling but you are certainly not alone. Think of all of us who have gone the same loss over and over. We all understand you and are here to answer to any thoughts you have.
It is very worrying when you're bleeding but you had a strong heartbeat and they didn't tell you anything worrying at the scan so try to focus on the fact that the baby is fine. If they had seen something worrying they would tell you. Did you talk to the doctor?
Also, can you get another reassurance scan since you're still bleeding? If not with NHS at least privately?
There are so so many women bleeding during pregnancy and it all goes well. I think you are one of them and there is nothing to worry about 😊

Thank you @Lilipa that's very sweet of you ❤️ I hope you are right. I really hope everything is going to be ok. And yes of course I have you all and we have all been through similar things. Really sorry to hear of your losses too, that must have been so hard 💔 my fingers are crossed for you this pregnancy 🌈🤞❤️ in terms of when they scan you, I think it depends on which NHS trust you are with. Or are you going privately?
They said they would only scan me again if the bleeding gets heavier or continues for a lot time. I might book a private one for when I'm 8/9 weeks, as long as the bleeding stops soon... 🤞 I'm 6+2 ATM.

@Skylark1990 fingers crossed for you! The bleeding will stop and you'll see a strong heartbeat again in a couple weeks! 😊
Keep us posted. 💖

@Skylark1990 i hope you are going to be okay, it’s good they’ve seen a heartbeat. Did they check you for infection? Or to see if cervix was closed? Xx

@Skylark1990 I don't blame you for feeling like crap I would probably be the same. But try to focus on the positives which is that you are already further gone than your last mc's and also that you saw your little fighter of a baby on screen and a lovely strong heartbeat to match ❤️

Sending you all the love and hugs you need and hope you get another scan soon and that the bleeding stops. The cramps side I can say I have had cramping this week and I'm 7+1 today so hope that helps

6+5 here and also getting cramps off and on all week. I recall getting these through pregnancy with DS so I'm not too concerned. Definitely just things stretching.

Welcome to the new ladies.

Congratulations to @STom2 on the scan.
I'm glad you saw the heartbeat @Skylark1990 . I'm so sorry the bleeding has continued. I do hope it's just one of those things and just stops and doesn't bother the baby at all.

@Lilipa my possible pregnancy is with a pgs tested eupaloid embryo, but yesterday at the miscarriage clinic they explained that if I do miscarry then I'll need to collect a sample for it to be sent off and tested, as pgs tested embryos can still be abnormal apparently. Bit depressing! I hope your pregnancy runs as smoothly as possible for you.

@seven201 I recall that the PGS is 95% accurate but it is very strange to think that we've been unlucky 4 times in a row and all the small chances happen to us.
I really hope your PGS tested embryo sticks. You definitely have very high chances it does! 😊How many weeks are you?