Due Feb/Mar after MC 🌈 🙈

[MooBugz]

Hi all,

4+3 according to Flo app, pregnant after a miscarriage in March at 11 weeks so feeling very anxious / scared and needed a safe space to speak about pregnancy worries without thriving anyone of joy!

Feel free to join and share the journey together.

@CNizzle I'm so so sorry and sad to hear your news. It's just not fair at all.💔 Sending you loads and loads of love, make sure you rest and look after yourself and take all the time off work that you need. I hope you and hubby can take comfort in eachother and heal ❤️ thank you for being here and contributing your lovely words to this group, it's been a wonderful support for us too, to have you. Take care and I hope you get some answers that will help you move forward ❤️

Thank you all for your kind words about the scan mess up. I spoke to doctor again but it's a no go at the hospital, they're quite firm about their rules so unless I spot or have pain(hopefully not) I won't be able to get a scan there. I looked into an early scan nearby and you are right@madeinthe80z they are about 45 for the early dating ones. So might do that, will wait till 8/9 weeks I think... I've not had a very good day anxiety wise or covid wise and also feeling a bit of nausea so at this stage just looking forward to an early night.
Thanks to you all for being here xxx

@Lmcc88 welcome to the thread, you are very welcome to join. So sorry to hear of your loss. Your symptoms sound good, although I'm sure not fun to have to deal with! Xx

@CNizzle I’m so sorry to hear this❤️
take care of yourself xx

@Skylark1990 surely that’s a communication issue between the GP and EPU. If they have referred you, then that should be honoured…any issues regarding whether or not you should have been referred should be discussed amongst the practice and the hospital - you shouldn’t be the one penalised for an ‘error’ in early referral. Absolutely shocking.

I am really sorry you’ve been treated this way - it just goes to show the discrepancy and lack of continuity not only across the county but within regions too!

@Skylark1990
I’m sorry to hear about the situation with the scan. It feels very unfair. As a pp said, it seems different gps/epu each have their own ‘rules’.
I think the private scan is a good idea, if it will ease some anxiety❤️

I haven’t started the early morning weaning just yet - dd has been very constipated this last week and a half , so needs abit more comfort then usual. I went to the pharmacy last week to pick up some movicol to try and help her along. Bless her, it’s only started recently, but her little tummy :(

@RedElleJ @MooBugz Thank you,
I rang the midwife and she didn’t seem overly worried, especially as I’d had no pain or anymore brown spotting. She said if it happens again though, to ring the epu and they will get me in for a reassurance scan. Tbh, I am not going going to feel 100% ok about everything till I’ve had my 12 week scan ( even then, not sure I’ll be 100% ok!) When I had the mmc in Jan, I had all the symptoms, nausea, sore nipples etc, no bleeding at all or pain but still mc.

I’m 8 weeks today, so just plodding on, keeping myself busy with my toddler and the house move!

I really do appreciate the support and how lovely everyone is in this thread 🧡
I’ve been on others and they have been good too but sometimes they get so big that it’s hard to keep up or no-one replies to you (probably because they move so fast!)

@CNizzle im so sorry hun. There's nothing to say but take care of yourself, as best you can.

On the physical side of things- none of my three losses ws the same. I lost one t 7 weeks and didn't having a ything worse than a normal period so you just don't know. Keep the neurofen on hand and lots of tea xx

@CNizzle I'm so sorry to hear that. I had a ERPC (d&c/surgical management) when I had my MMC earlier this year, happy to talk you through it if they are offering it as an option. Was quick, painless and nice to have it "sorted" if that makes sense x

Thinking of you @CNizzle
So sorry 😞 xx

Welcome @Lmcc88 Hopefully those symptoms are all a positive sign :) Congrats on your pregnancy!

My anxiety got so bad today I booked another early scan for Monday, where I will only be 6+4. I am really confident about my dates so nervous but with my anxiety levels I need to do something.

I had a bit of an 'upset tummy' shall we say since my pains last night so I am quite worried things are going wrong. Not that, that is a sign or anything but you can't help but hyper-analyse everything.

I am having one of those days where I am just so frustrated and exhausted with trying to be happy with the pregnancy process. I just wish we were able to be happy and positive rather than having to try.

Here's to a better day tomorrow after a good night of rest! x

I am so sorry @CNizzle just echoing what others have said really and look after yourself Xxx

I feel like today has not been a good day for many on this thread (scary symptoms, anxiety etc) hopefully we'll feel a bit better tomorrow 🤞

@RedElleJ good on you for booking a scan for Monday, doesn't matter how far gone you are if you need that reassurance you get it. The alternative is being stuck in limbo wondering was that sore tummy something more.

@OceanbreezeSun My mmc was at 11 weeks or so I thought but the baby had 'died' at 8 weeks (the sonographer has a way with words) so part of me felt betrayed my my body carrying this dead baby around for weeks without so much as a sign.

Do what you need to do to make yourself feel reassured because it's worth it for the peace of mind get booked in for scans every week if need be!

@CNizzle still thinking of you, sending you so much love and hugs your way ❤️

Thanks for all your kind words, nice to know I'm not alone in this.
Think I'm going to go into work tomorrow, and hopefully hide in the office (clinical nhs job, but ive not been patient-facing thru ivf) my manager knows the situation up to now (risk assessments essential for nature of my job) , so if I need time off I'll certainly take it. But until things start moving, I want to try & carry on as normal. I do know my limits though. I had 6 weeks off work last year after 1st mmc, and don't feel an ounce of guilt.

I'll certainly be keeping an eye on this thread to check on you all. (Might even pop a wee message on) Fingers/toes/Everything crossed for you all xxx

@CNizzle good to hear from you and you sound like one strong woman. I hope the next stage is not as bad physically as what you may be expecting and as you say you know to take time off when you need it. Work can be a great distraction at times, here if you need us

Hi all, how's everyone feeling today?
I have some very mild queasyness but not sure if it's because of the progesterone which I only stated taking last night.

Next scan is July 11th which feels like forever away 😶

So my husband's tested positive for covid this morning and I feel absolutely sick to my stomach history is going to repeat itself 😢

Hi @MooBugz and everyone here. I had FET on 14 June and yesterday the nurse called and confirmed BFP after the blood test. I am excited and scared after last year’s ordeal with chemical miscarriages.

My symptoms so far extreme drowsiness and tiredness, last night has hard time finding the position for my boobs as they got quite sore especially the left one.

No morning sickness yet but I am dreading it to come.

@MooBugz I'm so sorry to hear that. Have you had your double jabs? I read that if you are vaxed there's a much lower chance of being sick with it .

Could he move out for a week? That might ease your anxiety a bit.

@CNizzle I hope work gives you what you need/want today. Lots of love to you x

@Gamergirl84 Still pretty much symptomless. My nipples are sensitive but that's about it. I probably am a bit more tired but quite a tired person anyway and the only time I feel a bit icky is if I have some water on an empty stomach. Just wish I could have all the yucky symptoms - sorry to those of you who do have them and are struggling - I just think if I had symptoms I might trust that my body is doing the right thing.

@MooBugz Oh no, I am really sorry to hear he has come down with it. Are you going to do your best to isolate from each other or are you just going to let it run its course? There are so many women who have had successful pregnancies despite contracting COVID but if you are really worried or concerned call a GP/Midwife for some reassurance/advice. Sending lots of love x

Hi @Tryingat47 how far gone will you be? The symptoms will no doubt come and sounds like they are already on course 😊

@Gamergirl84 I'm triple vaxed and was when I caught it earlier this year and it wasn't so much the feeling rundown with it that got me it's that my MC points to that time too as it was a mmc and that's when the baby stopped growing/no heartbeat.

@RedElleJ thank you and I know chances are I'll be fine but it's a major trigger for me but I'm going to try stay as calm as possible and let it run it's course. Pretty sure my son has it too so there's no escaping if I get it I get it just praying that it has no effect on the baby that's all and will be going for my paid scan in two weeks for reassurance more so now than before! Damn you covid

@MooBugz I so hope you don't catch it but try not to worry too much, your immunity will be better having had it before now too. Almost all my friends who've had babies in the last year had covid while pregnant and one had it really badly. All healthy babies at the end.
Im in a super similar position this morning, husband tested positive a few days ago and although I've been avoiding him like the plague I think I may have caught it, had a super squinter positive line on lateral flow this morn but nothing on a second test. Very sore throat but that's it so far. Staying clear of work just in case.
It's been a right morning of testing today, did my first clear blue Digi at 4weeks1day and got 2-3 which is bang on right?
Just hope covid doesn't screw it up.

@Skylark1990 how are you feeling today? X

Hey everyone. @BEL88 thank you, how are you? Are you the same person who was on the other thread and commented right after I started it? Also with a 21 mo ? Just recognised your name I think!

@MooBugz so sorry your husband has covid. I really hope you don't catch it!! Deep breaths and one day at a time. I'm sure this little bean will be ok if you do. It would be such bad luck for it to affect things like that twice (if it did play a part in the MC last time). Sending love ❤️

@RedElleJ I'm also relatively symptom less I feel, I'm 6+1 today. I've had a few fleeting feelings of nausea and my boobs are sore and I'm more emotional but that's basically it. I do expect the nausea to hit properly soon but then all pregnancies are diff. Interestingly so many of my friends who have had babies got hardly any nausea or sickness - I was one of the ones who had it worst - and I didn't have it THAT badly with DD, I mean it was horrible but when comparing to women who were constantly spewing all day etc it wasn't as bad. So some women just don't get that symptom and it's all completely fine (lucky really!). Fully know what you mean tho about wanting the icky symptoms to make you feel it's all happening. I hope the scan next week goes well ❤️ and is reassuring!

@Maya12345 sorry to hear you may be getting the dreaded covid too! So many of us have or or exposed right now... It's just sweeping the country isn't it! Lots of rest, vitamin c and take a bit extra vitamin D, that can help! Worth a Google as to how much. Apparently 2000mg vitamin c ok and up to about 2000/4000iu of D ok if short term. But scary taking anything when pregnant tho isn't it!

I've taken today off work too although had to check in and look at emails this morning as we are v v busy ATM so it's not a good time to be off. It'll be ok tho. I'm definitely on the mend but still tired and just very nervous of overdoing it and somehow ruining my recovery by doing too much too soon. So one more day of rest I think. ❤️

@OceanbreezeSun fair enough on not starting the morning weaning yet, any form of weaning off boob is such hard work isn't it 😅 and poor little thing if she's not v well, that must be so uncomfortable! I'm also a bit blocked up ATM so can empathize with her. DD and I are still in our rhythm of 2-3 feeds a day, generally one at around 5/6am, then one at nap time if she's home or just the one at bedtime if she's been at nursery. I find she really likes oatmilk and if she says she wants milk other times in day she can usually be distracted by oat milk. It's very cute tho she has started to actually say "milkies" now which is what we call it, and she is also playing breastfeeding with her dolls 🥲 so so sweet, I feel sad that it's coming to an end for us most probably soon but just hope we make it till she is 2 in September. Don't think I want to tandem feed. How about you? It's also very painful ATM!!

Glad the midwife wasn't too concerned. Hope you don't get any more bleedin! Will you book an early scan? X

@Maya12345 2-3 at 4 weeks is bang on yes! Woop 👌