Due September 2022 (Thread 7!)

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Hiya everyone,

Just starting a new thread for when we need it as thread 6 is almost full! ☺️

@ChloeH06 congratulations! We're having our 2nd, but have one girl with a boy on the way. Praying that a boy is easier (or just this one)! I think it's less on the sex, and more on the actual child. Some friends have very relaxed, easygoing daughters... not ours! She is amazing and so strong, but absolutely exhausting. I am very definitely stopping at 2 :)

Hi ladies,

It seems a few of us are now struggling with the aches and pains of the third trimester! I've also had a couple of Epsom salt baths @madeleine85 @TurquoiseDreamCatcher and yes dr Google says ok! I think they put the pregnancy disclaimer on everything! I've just been drinking water the last few weeks and my OH came home from the shops yesterday with what he thought was a 'nice drink' for me ...it looked like a vitamin filled one until I saw the word 'energy' - read the back 'high in caffeine, not suitable for pregnant women' bless him, he felt so silly. Anyway my little bubba must be growing some longer legs and is really starting to jab me in the ribs. Last night I had to come to bed early and just hug my pregnancy pillow as they were really aching. Still another 11 weeks to go too! I've also had covid the last few days but thankfully it's just felt like a cold and I'm starting to feel better now. Lovely to feel the baby kicking away, it's so lively these days! Hope everyone is doing ok. It seems so near but still so far to the finish line.

@Redapple21 ohhh I think I might treat myself to an Epsom salt bath then. Comes to something when that's what you look forward to 🤣

@TurquoiseDreamCatcher I know, sometimes a bath really is the highlight of my day haha!

Was you and down the hospital Friday and Saturday reduced movements they did a quick scan and it was my little lady not playing ball whilst on the machine so kept failing 🙈 finally past it yesterday morning after 2 hours on it.. she is still breech and back to back lovely combination this will most definitely be fun I am asking for a section if she don't turn rather that then them manually turning her my boys were so much easier 🙈 xx

Thank you for all the talk about Epsom salt baths, I had one this evening. My goodness, do my legs feel better! I've just ordered some more salts from Amazon.

@TurquoiseDreamCatcher that sounds heavenly! Maybe tonight I’ll try. We cut out my 2.5 year olds naps this weekend and she finally went to bed before 10pm. Those 3 extra hours at night would go well with serene soak baths ❤️

@TurquoiseDreamCatcher I did the same tonight and it was actual bliss. So stupidly happy for the small things like baths!

@madeleine85 it was the best feeling! I enjoyed going to bed without my legs being restless and uncomfortable. My DD also didn't get to sleep until late last night, she is 4 but had a danger nap in the car in the afternoon. I certainly needed the bath by then!

Hello, I'm 26+3 and due my first on the 30th September, hope I'm ok to join?

I just wondered if anyone has felt lonely during their pregnancy? And how they dealt with it.

DH is supportive but also can get very tied up in his work and he obviously can't relate to everything. Work are being very understanding but I feel slightly "othered" constantly being asked if I need to sit down or if I can make it up the stairs etc instead of normal work chit chat, I also have the concentration of a goldfish. I have a great friendship group but most don't have kids, and I'm having to pull back from costly social events due to the cost implications of having a baby, which I don't think is reflecting well on me. Not sure if it's my hormones but my DM is driving me insane being such a nag and know it all, to the point of being rude - I'm struggling not to snap back at her. I even tried a pregnancy yoga but it was VERY intense baby talk, to the point where I felt so alienated I gave up after a month.

I feel like I'm becoming a hermit

Hi @Paprikapommes welcome! Of course you can join ☺️

I feel you on lots of this. For me I felt a bit lonely before pregnancy as my closest friends did have kids and it was hard to get involved with the chat, especially when we were TTC and having trouble. This time in our lives just feels so hard doesn't it? It's such a period of change.

I feel like it's a really big end of a chapter for me and I'm almost mourning my old life. It's a strange feeling.

I'm hoping that when baby arrives I can start a positive new routine and make some new mum friends and just embrace it. And also, once I can, find some time to go out with my old friends without children and do something really fun that makes me feel like me again.

You can come chat with us any time you're feeling a bit lonely! ❤️

Also - I have NO CONCENTRATION left AT ALL 😫

@Paprikapommes welcome to our thread. I found that once I had DD that my friendship groups completely changed. There were friends who had kids who I thought I would see more but they weren't interested! It was ok though, I made some lovely friends at a baby club and nearly 5 years later they are my closet friends.

My new Epsom salts have arrived and I'm looking forward to bathtime 🤣

What do Epsom salts do please? Someone gave me a bag but I don't really do baths!

They relax muscles and in my case stop my restless legs at bath time.

@Paprikapommes welcome :) yes pregnancy can be a bit lonely, I joined an NCT class last time which was nice, but wish I'd gone to more mother and baby groups to get to know people that were closer by.

@TurquoiseDreamCatcher awesome. I may have to use them then as I'm starting to get cramp in the night now!

FFS I keep typing out a long reply to you @Paprikapommes and it keeps getting deleted!!

Just wanted to say I agree, I have found it lonely, particularly when it comes to my DP. Just feel like he doesn't really give it a second thought and I'm the one constantly thinking and stressing about the things we need to do/get for the baby.

I was also happily sitting on the grass at a beer festival at the weekend and was forced into a camp chair by several people, which annoyed me. I am not sick!! Just leave me alone.

Yes GlitteryGreen exactly how I'm finding things. I don't want to just become "mum", I'm still my own highly capable person.

Next week will be my fourth week I'll have had an appt, emergency or test of some sort. As soon as I mention any symptom everyone pressures me into getting it checked out just in case. It makes me feel massively guilty if I don't. I feel like I'm a pin cushion and it's so stressful having no bodily autonomy - everyone's got a ruddy opinion!

I'm not sure my DH can win tbh. He tried to be helpful and take the lead on the pushchair decision, because he's "more mechanically minded" and I totally lost it at him. Massively patronising and quite frankly why does he get to pick/stick to his comfort zone whilst I'm TOTALLY out of mine atm.

I know everyone means we'll but I feel like my head's splitting in two

And quite frankly if anyone wants to pander and faff over me, I don't need my handbag carrying or assistance up a single flight of stairs.... but they can give me a deep tissue back and shoulder massage whilst hand feeding me mango any day.

I completely agree and understand @Paprikapommes

I am so fed up of people telling me to 'be careful' or 'you shouldn't be doing that, let me'. I will decide what I can and can't do, if I need help or to change something then I will ask. And people just don't give up and I get to the point where I have to either do as they say or really snap at them, and I don't want to be rude!!

I know what you mean about your DH not being able to win as well!! I don't want mine to take over or dictate any decisions as primarily it will be me using the majority of the stuff we get, at least at first, but I'd just like a bit more interest than he's showing.

I feel you ladies. I was told I couldn't carry a box of paper from the repro room. They were all you CANT possibly carry that!

I have to carry my nearly 5 year old almost every day at some point and she sure weighs more than a box of paper!

I feel sorry for myself today. I had an appointment for my anti d injection. The letter for the appointment failed to mention that they would be taking my 28 week bloods today too.

I started feeling shaky after I had the bloods taken and my urine showed I hadn't eaten enough this morning. I explained I'm still confused because I have GD but haven't been up see the diabetic clinic yet. The midwife took pity on me and gave me some biscuits and water.

Then I had the anti d injection which immediately made me burst into tears. I feel so daft! I've been tearful ever since. Right now, I really miss chocolate and cake.

@TurquoiseDreamCatcher aw mate. I'm an emotional eater so I get you fully! Take it easy tonight xx