Due September 2022 (Thread 7!)

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Hiya everyone,

Just starting a new thread for when we need it as thread 6 is almost full! ☺️

Ah no sorry @TurquoiseDreamCatcher hope you're feeling a bit better and you get your GD appt soon

@TurquoiseDreamCatcher I know it feels like forever to go while we are waiting to get to full term, but your little bean will be here before you know it, and then you get to eat ALL THE BREAD AND BUTTER, CAKE AND PIZZA. It will be glorious. Make a food list, get stocked up in advance for the ones which won't go bad. Even food prep and freeze some things that you will want like lasagne for when you have your new one and don't have time. I told myself that towards the end I can stock up on wine and other treats so they are there and I know it is coming so soon. Treat for baby, one ready for mum too x

Thank you ladies, this thread is such a lovely and supportive place xx

Glucose test tomorrow bloody dread this one with every pregnancy I only need it done because my brother is type 1 diabetic doctors have given me numbing cream this time due to my very dodgy veins 🙈 so I am kinda more relaxed about it just hope there is anyone in the waiting area trying to offer me sausage rolls this time it happened in my last pregnancy I wanted to rip her head off 😂 xx

@Sweetbabydust1989 I was dreading it, had the test with my first and it made me feel awful and triggered a migraine. This time it wasn’t bad at all, the drink made me feel sick but I didn’t feel as dizzy after. Ended up with GD this time though! Good luck with it.

@Em85kk this is my third pregnancy hoping I don't have it I am high risk due to my brother having it hoping I dodge the bullet again when I had it done many moons ago it was a 3 hour test glad they have lowered it too 2 hours.

Morning ladies, hope everyone is having good week.

Wondering for any of you who have had csections with previous births, have you had a vbac consultation this time around? I had emcs with my daughter and have been advised to have an elcs this time, but I still have a vbac consultation this week over the phone. I'd love to know if any of you have experience with this?

I also annoyingly feel a little torn - I struggled mentally after my last birth and stupidly feel like there is part of me that wants to try again with vbac as a way of...correcting things maybe? I feel like csection is the safest thing for me but I still do feel like a failure for how things went last time, even though rationally I know it wasn't my "fault". Anyone in a similar boat? Why am I like this 🫠

@Goodgoodthings I have decided to have an elective c section this time. My DD was an EMCS and since then I've had surgery on my bladder so I felt that this would be the best choice for me. The hospital did try to pressure me to go vaginally but I said absolutely no way and they have agreed to my request for a c section.

I had my 28 week appointment yesterday, they have said that I am anaemic and my GP has given me some iron tablets. I've also have another uti, I have some antibiotics to take now. Fun times!

@TurquoiseDreamCatcher thanks for sharing that - I'm glad they've listened to your preference! I think it's hopefully just protocol and making sure they explain the risks. Do you have a date for your elcs? I'm 28 weeks tomorrow so we're close in dates!

Sorry to hear about your anemia and uti, fun times indeed 😣 how are you feeling with the iron tablets? I'm dreading my gest diabetes test next Friday as I've put a lot of weight on (2 stone and counting 🫣 oops)

@Goodgoodthings I haven't had a date for the ELCS yet. I had my meeting with the diabetic midwife this morning and they said that would probably aim for 38 weeks for me but it could potentially be earlier if I have any GD complications.

I have a feeling I will end up with an August baby. I would be happy for this baby to come any day in September except the 5th as that is when DD has her first day at school. The mum guilt would consume me if I missed this special day!

@Goodgoodthings never feel like a failure ever you're getting your baby out the safest way possible especially when certain situations arise.. I personally hate we have to sort of plan births as both of mine never went to plan at all my current pregnancy my little girl is back to back and breech and I honestly think she is too stubborn like her mum to even bother turning I have spoke to my consultant and he has suggested a possible c section I am happy either way as long as she comes into the world nice and safe I am happy xx

Hi ladies. I had a midwife appointment yesterday (29 weeks, should have gone last week but was away with work). Anyway she plotted my growth chart and said baby bump is measuring big. It's still within the right range for me but towards the upper line. I'm only 5ft1 and my OH is 6ft. I asked her would this make a difference and she said not really. Anyway since then I have felt quite stressed and all of a sudden the idea of giving birth is making me want to cry. I think I just feel overwhelmed and very nervous all of a sudden. I am due to go for another scan in 3 weeks to see if my low lying placenta has moved up, if not we might be looking at a c section. Maybe it's all just getting closer and it's overwhelming! Also I'm starting to get quite a bit of pain around my pubic bone. The midwife yesterday said it's normal, it's the weight of the baby pushing on it. No real point to this message sorry I just feel a bit sorry for myself x

@Redapple21 try not to freak out (easier said than done), my friend is 5'2, her husband is 6'7 and she was told that their baby would be 9lbs+ based on where she was on the scale at the third trimester scan and adding the weight per week. She was 7lbs pretty much bang on and born at full term. Largely because of this "advice" she opted for an induction on 40 weeks, and it was too soon for her body, didn't take, and she ended up with a c-section, which was really frustrating for her. Part of me doesn't know why they tell people the measurements on a scale with weight, as it just worries mums to be who have to push this out!

@Redapple21 I no how you feel lovely mine is the other way round my little one is coming up small which was to be expected my boys were small this one is still back to back and breech I am seeing my midwife tomorrow and probs going to discuss a C-section not what I really wanted but I am not going through another traumatic birth again I have had 2 of those already 🙈 xx

Awww really @madeleine85 that's good to know then. I was just a bit shocked I think! You're right though I do hear lots of stories about people being told they are having a huge baby and it turns out to be average size after all. You would think by now they would have more accurate ways to make these predictions! I also hear lots about people being pushed into inductions and not having a good time. There really is so much to think and worry about, no wonder we get ourselves stressed out.

Aww bless you @Sweetbabydust1989 you must feel anxious after having previous bad experiences. An elective c section might make you feel less anxious about the birth, see how you feel when you have your consultation. Xx

@Redapple21 my sister in law had an induction and hated it she said it all felt so forced.. my first was a 2 hour labour and delivery he was way too fast I ended up with ptsd after him I had no pain relief and they forgot to numb me and stitched me up with out numbing it was horrific... second was 16 hours back to back labour in the birthing suit no pain relief and if I had none about the back to back labour I would of asked to be moved for all the drugs my contractions kept stopping it was a nightmare by the time I was going to push I was exhausted and wanted to just give up.. so yeah hoping this time I can have a more controlled birth I think a section might be my best option just the recovery I am not keen on at all... how do you feel about the birth lovely it kinda feels like it's starting to sink in now don't it I haven't even started getting any hospital stuff yet i was so organised with my boys xx

@Redapple21 I get really cross when the midwives dismiss the fact that baby may be larger because of dad. There is such thing as genetics!

I think it's ridiculous how we get measured any way. We all come in different shapes and sizes! Please don't let this ridiculous midwife comment scare you 💕

@Sweetbabydust1989 awww yes they both sounds like ordeals for you. I'm not surprised you're thinking of opting for a c section. Do you know what I don't think I'd given it too much thought until yesterday and now I feel panicked. I think until I have my next scan at 32 weeks it's quite unknown to me as to whether I will need a c section or not. I know what you mean about the recovery but I think even with vaginal births, as you describe, the recovery can be quite difficult. It's a man's world isn't it !!

@TurquoiseDreamCatcher I know, surely it makes a difference as it's down to genetics just as you say! And I also agree that womens bodies are all different and surely we can't all grow our bumps in exactly the same way. It is stressful:(

Thanks for making me feel better ladies 😘 xx

@Redapple21 most definitely is.. I just think I would find it difficult not to drive for a huge amount of time especially when my youngest school is a 20 min drive or 3 buses away 🙈 my other half can only take 2 weeks off he is self employed so cannot take loads of time off he is the bread winner.. I have my next scan next week was suppose to be at 28 weeks (this week) but the dr I need to see isnt in so having it done at 29 weeks then another 3 weeks later then my final one 3 weeks after that.. Yes vag delivery is just as bad I hate being all sore especially when peeing I just Chuck cold water at my bits as iam peeing it really does help xx

Haven't been commenting for a while but still following the thread.

@redapple21 same position here. Other half is 6ft 1 and I'm 5ft 4 😂. Measuring just over 90th centile at 30 weeks with an estimate weight of 9lb 6 and also have a scan to get to check if my placenta has moved enough or whether it will be a c section in 2 weeks. Just have to go with the flow really is how I see it. Can stress and worry about it but in the end can't change anything.... Just have to say prayers for my bits if I do get the OK for a VBAC 😂.

Jokes aside I've had some horrific days with rage, crying and uncontrollable emotions. There's alot going on at home just now (half of the house is torn up with slow renovations going on, getting everything done for maternity leave starting at work, 7 dogs who are just constantly back and forth to the vet right now with different things and my other half is still away working till the start of August). I'm uncomfortable, can't sleep well, can't exercise much and feel gross (my cellulite and double chin have taken on a whole new level). Don't get me wrong I can have my days anyways without pregnancy but I've probably never had such bad days as especially 2 the past week when I've just been a mess. Makes me worry about stressing the baby out and also feeling like this after birth with all the hormones then too 😩.

Anyone losing it?

@Belle2210 I read that as you were having the baby in 2 weeks!! I think I misread and its your appt is in 2 weeks... hopefully! Also feeling generally disgusting, slow (can't exercise to my liking), and no ability to sleep through the night. When my DH fell asleep in my daughter's room last night I just let him stay there so I didn't have to share a bed/have anyone else see me. Weirdly more worried for how I feel after the birth. I remember the last time feeling more disgusted with myself when I still had a pouch after, and I don't think I had taken any time to realise that bodies do not snap right back like those of supermodels. I'm going to have to try hard to practice those "love my body" type mantras. Hoping experiencing this before helps, and i'll be more understanding this time. Re. prepping, I think my head is properly in the sand this time. No hospital bag packed (i've told myself to do it after 32 weeks which is Tuesday), baby stuff hidden in every cupboard, but none out or organised (I guess i'll do this at 37 weeks). I tried a bedsheet on the bassinet yesterday to check the size I got online, and my 30lb almost 3 year old decided she desparately wanted to be a baby and try sleep there. Amazed it is still standing!!

@Sweetbabydust1989 I was induced last time. I started contracting way too fast so they had to stop it all!! Baby's heart rate was dropping so they had me booked in for c section the following morning. Because of this iv chosen to go with a planned c section this time. I have my date and omg it's so real now!!!

Hope everyone is doing well.
Iv lost track of all the comments!
Little one is moving round like crazy now! Breech so my vagina is getting a good kicking most days, such an odd feeling!!!

We are bringing down all baby things from the attic this weekend. I want some stuff to air. Also want to wash the car seat cover.

Boots have 15% off baby event. I got a cardigan for my toddler for £3!! I also bought water wipes, nappy bin and cassettes and a baby sponge. Way cheaper than anywhere else. Thankfully don't need too much with this being baby number 2.

@Butterflytulip i am thinking the same I have midwife today so going to discuss it all with her I no they will try and talk me out of it but after the last 2 births I want something I can have some control over.. what date have they given you is it around the 39 week mark xx

@Sweetbabydust1989 yep it's 39 weeks. I'm happy knowing I have complete control over it all. Also I have another young child in nursery so knowing the day makes it easier to plan as we don't have family nearby and I also don't want her routine to be up the left before she's even met baby. It's YOUR DECISION!! Don't forget that! I was trying to explain to my midwife why I wanted a section and she stopped me and said you don't need to explain to anyone, it's your choice and you are in control.
I know some trusts will try and stop you, Costs more etc but it's totally up to you.

Forgot to mention something else I bought that was super handy were baby size hangers from Amazon! It wasn't until all the gifts came that I started adding to my baby hanger collection.. I found it super handy to have all clothes hung before baby arrived! Also Amazon do size speedsters like 0-3, 3-6 etc and some blank ones for later. These are amazing!

Speedsters ?! Lol I meant spacers they are like round discs that fit round the clothes rail !!