Due Jan 2023

[Moosh18]

New thread as other was full!

Have got an early reassurance scan tomorrow. I’m so anxious about it and can’t help but think the worst. Have barely any symptoms which isn’t helping , I know it’s early, but can’t switch the feeling off 😞

Question for those who have had scans at 6-7 weeks - the email I have says it will likely be an internal scan, but did you go on a full bladder anyway? I know you don’t need one for an internal scan but just wanted to check what others did.

Easier said than done but try to stay positive - there is no reason for anything not to be ok! I totally understand though as this was me last week. The sense of relief will be worth all this stress!

I was told by my consultant it would be internal so I literally went for a wee in the waiting room and then when I got in there he was like 'let's try an abdominal scan first!' 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ but actually my bean was as clear as anything so I wouldn't worry too much either way maybe just don't do what I did and wee just before - just in case! Xxx

Hi @Moosh18, dates could be out slightly, but over 2 weeks seems a bit of a stretch hmm. I don’t have any nausea either, just slightly sore boobs. I’ve read that embryos often stop growing at 6 weeks if a miscarriage is imminent because that’s when lots of vital organs start to develop. If the “blueprint” is too off at this point it won’t go further. If this is the case for me, I’d much rather it was early on :)

At your stage it isn’t accurate at all you need to have a TVS… I hope you get to have one as the wait and not knowing is awful - so sorry you are going through this

@Diamondbabe don't feel weird about commenting 😊 I think I recognise your name when I was lurking on ttc boards 🙈

I stopped bleeding 2 days before the scan yesterday and I'm hoping they say it will pass on its own those tablets don't sound good at all.

The thing I'm not dealing well with is the ongoing pregnancy symptoms😢 I was sick last night, my boobs are like rock and am so exhausted. All for no reason. Ttc all seems a bit too raw for me right now I think my body needs a break (can't even face DTD)

Thanks for your comments it feels like a lonely road. My best friend knows but she's never experienced miscarriage and it's hard to explain ❤️

Thanks @Leila2022 💖
@MrsGrealish I feel you, it does feel lonely at times, and my bf isn’t great with emotions/affection which doesn’t help. Only my mum and brother know and they’re overseas. Is there a person you could share your situation with who has experienced something similar? It’s wonderful having our connections on here, but maybe it would help to have someone in real life to connect with too 🌺

It is a deeply lonely feeling - I have been there a few times :(. Especially since you have been left in limbo not knowing anything for certain.

I treated myself to a facial and a pedicure and made me feel so much better .. and just took some time for myself and did my best to keep busy as there are constant reminders around you all the time.

But do bear this in mind - a doctor told me at the time and didn’t seem to helpful when she told me - but in reflection was very good advice. … and that was your body always knows what is best and sometimes there is nothing you can do in these situations

I hope you get a proper scan then you can know for sure, as I know for certain only a TVS is the only way to diagnose anything that early ! I am shocked they didn’t give you one !

Do you take any vitamins prior trying to conceive ?

@PinkTiger86 I don't know of anyone. It's the taboo of early miscarriage and I'm as guilty of this too for not sharing my story with any other real life person (except DH and my best friend). A girl I work with lost her baby in the second trimester which I couldn't even imagine and my situation is so different than hers. She felt her baby kick and said last week that she would have preferred an early loss. I truly understand this but it's still a shit thing to happen xx I'm being admitted to hospital tomorrow there might be support groups I was so blindsided yesterday I didn't think to ask

@Leila2022 the midwife said much the same to me yesterday. She said there's so much that needs to go right for an embryo to be viable and the viable embryos are very resilient.

Ahhh 😅 I honestly feel like a zombie in between the sickness and the exhaustion! To top it off my 20 month old has lost all 6 of his dummy's in the past 3 weeks, went to Asda sainsburys Poundland and boots today for them to say they can't get any in stock due to supply issues! He's so picky and refuses every type bar this one specific one. Bedtime in an hour and I guess night 1 of no dummy. Going to be even more exhausted tomorrow 😂

That is true !
When I was pregnant in 2019/2020 with my little boy I had really bad hyperemisis and was so unwell and sick- I could barely eat or drink and I was so frightened it would cause a miscarriage or loss and the Midwife told me … little babies in utero are so resilient … at most stages of development - She said they have mums who are anorexic / drug users all sorts of things etc etc and the baby is not harmed… as they are so resilient and not to worry… and said things generally go wrong when there is a problem you can no control over.

As long as you had enough folic acid b your diet / took vitamins prior and during pregnancy there is not much you could have done.

Your body deals with it the best it can and knows what it is doing, I had many MC and it’s t is so upsetting, emotionally draining and lonely and that advice really got me through it … that my body knew something wasn’t right.

I do take progesterone now and that has helped but even when I have been taking it I have had a MC.

XXX

I’m by no means sayings it’s ok to lead a hedonistic irresponsible lifestyle whilst pregnant … but I think what the Midwife was trying to say was babies really are so resilient

I called the miscarriage association on a few occasions - they had a helpline they were so helpful and listened to me for over an hour … gave me lots of answers

@MrsGrealish just wanted to let you know you aren’t alone. I had a MMC in October and a chemical in April. It definitely feels lonely and I remember many people giving advice and input (in good faith) but it wasn’t sensitive or helpful in the moment and actually hurt even more. I could always tell who had never had a MC based on their responses. I know nothing I can say will make it better but if need to chat or vent feel free to message me directly. Take care of yourself and grieve in the way the feels right for you—there is no wrong way. Sending love your way ❤️

@freckles503 ❤️💔 Xx

Hi all can I join the thread please? I was on the old one, due 01st Jan x

Just had an early scan and saw a heartbeat 🥰 measuring 3 days earlier than I thought at 6 + 1 but everything looks as it should so it’s put my mind at rest for a little while at least!

@sparklyhippo congratulations!! It's such a relief seeing their tiny heartbeat isn't it? I have another scan next Sunday and I'll be 8+5, so nervous but excited to see how much little bean has grown!

Hi ladies, I was just wondering if anyone knew, I've got a terrible sickness and stomach bug, along with the rest of my house, I've honestly never felt so ill.... would this effect baby at all? Xxx

I had a scan today seen the heartbeat all looking great 😍

You need to keep hydrated and keep checking your temperature… if you get a temp over 37.5 (I think) you need to call NHS

Keep your temperature down with paracetamol

and keep really hydrated

Also tomorrow ask your GP if you can have a urine test just to make sure all is ok

usually you will be ok but always better to do the above to be on extra safe side

importance is drink lots of fluids and paracetamol if you feel you have a temp xxx. You should be fine but do call GP

@Leila2022 temps never really risen that's been fine, just the sickness and stomach, I've managed to eat some toast today and drank plenty so really hoping I'm over the worst of it and baby is okay in there x

You and the baby should be fine :) as I mentioned just keep an eye on temp and also keep plenty hydrated

but do give your GP a call tomorrow mainly for peace of mind - happy you’re over the worst of it :)

But again do ask for a yr Be test just to rule out any infections which can be picked up from a bad stomachache - in the case of a virus or even food poisoning - but I’m sure you’re okay

if you think about mums to be with toddlers - you will constantly pick up bugs … so it’s ok :)

Hello,
Ive been lurking here for a while but not written anything yet.
I currently should be 8 weeks 5 days but today had a private scan and only measured 8 weeks 2 days. There was a strong heartbeat. This was an abdominal scan.
I had an IVF frozen transfer so no mixing dates up. I had a transvaginal scan at clinic 2 weeks ago and measured a day behind so now fallen a further 2 days behind. I live far from clinic which is why i went private this time but i’m worrying so much now.
I have had 5 miscarriages between 6 and 14 weeks in the past 5 years and have no living children and i really thought this was my time as it was a euploid embryo.