Due Jan 2023

[Moosh18]

New thread as other was full!

@Glowen 148bpm is a strong heartbeat! Mine was 154 and the sonographer kept commenting how strong it was

Finally had my booking appointment with the midwife today! One thing that's so confusing is I explained that I had an early scan due to previous miscarriage and no period inbetween so I know exactly how far along I am which is 8 weeks exactly today, she said they have to go off my last month period so she has put me at 9 weeks today and changed the due date. I mean I know it's not accurate until 12 week scan anyways but doesn't that mean I'll have my 12 week scan a week early if that makes sense so baby won't measure 12 weeks? Or am I just overthinking it 😂

Also she said due to previous preterm baby born at 35 weeks im consultant led. How is this any different can I ask? I forgot to ask on the phone haha

148bpm is a good heart beat

if it was below 120bpm then that “May” be a cause for concern - but not always - but 148 is V good :)

I would speak to a midwife through NHS if I were you as private scans are not properly regulated at all - but by looks of what you showed me all seems ok

It’s better ! You will probably have more scans and be monitored closely, you will also be under direct supervision of the consultant … be happy about that

This pregnancy my early scan was 154bpm too

I have been asked to come in again this Thursday - don’t know why if there are no issues … so a bit nervous about that … and discovered via my NHS I am part of some clinical trial that I haven’t even given my permission for ! Maybe that’s why they called me in again - for their research data

Hi all,
This is my first time pregnant and I'm currently 6w 2d and due Jan 30. This is from an fet and is one of two embryos that we were able to make after 7 rounds of ovarian stimulation. All went through pgt, as I'm 41 and my husband is 51.

I. Am. Terrified.

I've been trying for five years, and the stress of this and covid and losing family recently has put a massive strain on our relationship and its not looking good. I'm very concerned that I'm going to miscarry and he won't be willing to try again. We haven't even spoken in 4 days.

I keep getting wicked cramps. Sometimes it's the normal stretching cramps that I can tell are pregnancy cramps and seem benign. When they're bad I can feel them go down my legs and into my feet and tailbone - like endometriosis cramps that I get. At the same time, I'm doing ivf in Egypt, and I think I picked up a water borne infection so I've been running to the toilet for 8 days, and maybe the cramps are coming from that? No real nausea except if I don't eat, and it's really difficult to keep eating when my nerves are so frayed. I'm trying to just focus on being happy, but I feel like this baby is going to be snatched away from me at any moment and it's all a sick joke.

I've done three hcgs, first at 12 dpo was 164, 2nd 48 h later was 511. I tested again a week later in week 5 because of my nerves and it was 9514 - a full 2000 over the range for fifth week. My first scan is on the 12th, although I think I might try to have one Thursday just for the reassurance. I'm afraid of the high hcg being twins because it would be so difficult at my age to carry them and both or either survive. It shouldn't be downs because the embryos all had genetic screening and this is supposed to be an euploid embryo, but now I'm concerned about that, too.

I'm lonely, and it would just be wonderful to have anyone I could talk to about these things. Anyone experienced anything similar to what I'm dealing with? Older first time moms, or anyone with endometriosis or at the end of the line with ivf?

Best of luck to all of you here ❤️🍀

Well after my cramps this morning I'm now getting brown spotting when I wipe 😔 I know it might be nothing but I had a mc in March and I'm terrified this is happening again. If the pain gets worse or bleeding becomes red I'll phone the maternity hospital but feel like I'm just sitting waiting just now

Hi @Brynnjulia firstly congratulations on your pregnancy ❤️ it sounds like you are dealing with an awful lot at the moment. I'm afraid I haven't been through similar except the normal pregnancy anxiety post loss and I'd say if bringing your scan forward will help then do it. Do you have anyone you can offload to? It may help. If not then this group has been helpful to me as well as the Facebook group. Every time I have an irrational worry I post there and the ladies have reassured me every time xx

Oh no 😩 I think with the pain you had last night it would be ok to ring EPU or 111?

@Frida9 I'm sorry for your stress I'm going through similar and it's awful, they say brown blood is old, so could just be the cramps shook it loose! How far along are you? X

I’m wondering the same! I have my booking appointment tomorrow at 6+4 but my LMP was nearly 8 weeks ago as my cycles are longer than average so imagine I’ll be in the same position scan wise!

I'm 6+5 today, phoned the epu who have me booked in for a scan on Saturday. Hopefully things don't change before then, if I miscarry this time they'll start investigations though which is something

Hi @hopingfor23 , thanks so much for your reply. I'd love to join that Facebook group but all the links that were posted in here to join didn't work for me. I think it would probably be easier to navigate. Is there a recent link for it?

It's so helpful to have this forum. Only one person knows what's going on, and I really can only talk to them once a week so I don't overburden them.

Thanks again ❤️

I’m so sorry for those who have had bad news (I don’t know how to tag sorry), I hope you get the support you need x

I’ve felt genuienly awful this past week. Still not been sick but just feel sick/ hungry all the time but still nothing I fancy to eat, although I am managing to eat but not enjoying it. I only feel ok if I lie down and trying to do anything needs multiple sit downs. I’ve just had a little cry and I feel so guilty because I am very grateful to be feeling like this. I also have increased discharge which panics me as it keeps feeling like bleeding.

i think I’m going to call in sick at work. I work nights in healthcare and whilst it’s not been too bad, I don’t think I’ll cope if I have a busy night and I’m definitely not coping in between shifts. I dropped my booking form in clinic so just waiting to hear from them soon hopefully.

I’ve told a few people as I feel I need the support we are waiting until after the scan next week to tell our parents. I can’t wait to tell my mum, I’ve just been wanting her support whilst feeling so rubbish.

That’s exactly how I feel

I feel sick, but haven’t been sick… feel i
hungry but the thought of eating anything other than creamy peanut butter snickers makes me feel sick

My pregnancy with my little boy I was so sick from week 7 until I gave birth … so surprised this one I’m not that sick ….

I have another scan on Thursday so hoping everything is okay

I also take cyclogest so not sure if that’s causing me to feel nausea

I hope you tell your mum soon it’s such lovely news :)

We had it confirmed this morning that our babies heart stopped beating two days ago... it's a perfect beautiful little baby, but it's heart just gave up for some reason, I am totally broken, we should of had our 12 week scan next week and been telling people.

I will be coming off this thread understandably, I genuinely wish you all the happiest and healthiest of pregnancies. Thank you all for your support over these last couple of months. ❤️

@Moosh18 I am so so sorry lovely, take care of yourself and take some time to heel xxxx

OH @Moosh18 I am so very sorry to read your news. This is the nightmare and I'm so sorry it's happened to you, I really hope you are surrounded by love and support. I'm sure the people you've told will be a great support to you through this, dealing with it alone wouldn't necessarily be better. Hoping you heal fast and the pain fades as soon as it can. Sending love

@Moosh18 I'm so sorry to hear that, I really hope you have some good support around you. It's absolutely devastating to lose a baby.
Sending you all the best wishes and hugs.

So sorry to hear this :(

Take care XxxxX

@Moosh18 I have no words 💔 this is the cruelest journey and I'm so very sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby. Xxx

Thanks ladies it really does mean a lot.

@MrsGrealish thank you lovely, I hope you are doing okay xx

@Moosh18 I am so so sorry to hear this.

@Moosh18 I've stayed on this thread to follow the journeys of people who were kind to me before it gets too painful including you lovely @Moosh18

I've started telling real life people. I lost a pregnancy. That loss is part of me. Xx

I’m so sorry @Moosh18, sending you so much love xx