Baby January 2023!

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Anyone else due January 2023?! Found out yesterday I'm pregnant with baby #2. If my dates are right, I'm 3+6, due 27th January! My daughters a Jan baby, but was due feb (she was 3 weeks early). May just must be a very fertile month for us! We fell pregnant last May too, but never met them😢.

Has anyone been told they're going to be on their own on the ward this time?

For my son, I was very lucky and my boyfriend was with me the entire time. The whole delivery, stayed overnight on both nights, there all day for the three days I was there aside the morning - so us ladies could have privacy. He got to go to the canteen and have a full English the lucky devil 😆 I was also allowed family visits.

This time around I've been told my son's banned, Partner is only allowed for the delivery then he'll be kicked out. Then he's only allowed for one hour for visiting. No other family allowed. No matter how my birth goes, that's how it's going down. I'm absolutely terrified. Especially if it ends up being a C-section. I understand completely it's because of COVID but I'm awful with hospital stays and I had a panic attack last time WITH support let alone none.

Been told the nurses will be there but I barely saw anyone last time - and they all had an attitude. I'm in the same place so same staff.i imagine. I'm terrified of going through the first part of postpartum alone, possibly days on my own aside one hour - my partner is devastated he can't help and support me.

Has anyone else had this in place with previous births? How did you manage? Especially if you had a C-section.

I have a daughter and I can hand on my heart say it’s the best ever. She is super loving but I am as well so I think she’s got that from me. Also I don’t necessarily think it’s down to gender but their personalities! You never know what you’re going to get. My friend has two girls and their the complete opposite of each other! It’s so bizarre because I have a girl already I can’t imagine having a boy! Strange isn’t it, but I know as soon as their born all our worries will disappear. I don’t know what I’m having, it’s a surprise so very exciting and nerve racking!! 🙈 good luck with everything lovely. Don’t listen to negative opinions. Just think you’ll soon have a little girl bestie and you get to experience both. Girls can definitely be high maintenance! But again I just think it’s down to each individual baby, don’t stress! Xxx

Wow guys, it's all happening now. I'm in Peterborough Cambridgeshire.
I am almost 36 weeks on Weds. My first baby at 40years old and still breech. Midwife app tomorrow so hopefully changed. If not Weds is scan and consultant app so if still breech will have to try EVC than maybe c section. Like to avoid if can. I'm planning on a epidural in any case and as BMI high and age I'm under consultant care not midwife.
I know my baby is about. I got a nephew and neice so I'm okay with either. They are so excited about baby. Still stuck in names but said will know when meet him.

Hello! Sorry I've not posted here for a while, wow congrats to those who have had their little ones already omg!! So exciting. Please don't be afraid to spare all the details about labour I love hearing about it 😁 I'm 38 weeks now on Friday I can't believe it, I'm getting quite anxious going to bed now sometimes as I woke up in labour with my first and I guess I'm expecting that to happen again. Also they keep hitting my cervix which I don't remember with my first but it's so uncomfortable, they must be really low down at this point. I'm the same with names VgerEdney, we couldn't find a name we liked in our old book of 5,000 names so I've bought another of 100,001 and still nothing at all I've seen so far feels right :(

@VixenAndKits No I haven’t been told anything like that yet. I asked a few weeks ago at my midwife appointment whether I can have my mum and partner there and she said yes. Hopefully it’s not changed! I really hope that what you have been told isn’t correct though. You need support throughout and it’s such a special time even for dads too. I wouldn’t feel comfortable asking a midwife to get something out of my bag for example like I would ask my partner because you think it’s trivial and you’re wasting their time. Bloody Covid is never ending!!!

I go to bed thinking what if this happens or this happens and then start googling or looking on mumsnet 🤣 eg if I have an epidural will that increase chances of forceps or a c-section.

@VixenAndKits sorry to hear that this is the current visiting restrictions within your hospital, is this all stated on the trusts website or did this come from the midwives?? My local trust is 9am-9pm for one birth partner and then one other visitor 3-4 and 6-7 but they have to be the same two visitors if that makes sense xx
its crazy how all the trusts vary!

I'm not in the UK but only the birth partner can come in. They can stay most of the day but have to leave at night (postnatally) which I think is OK. I don't fancy a few nights on a ward full of strange men anyway, and DH would like to sleep in a bed I think!

Thank you for all the kind messages guys ❤️
Me and baby are doing fine thank you. I was 35 weeks so we weren’t expecting our new addition for a little while yet, we have no Christmas presents for poof bubba ☹️

So yeah I phoned in sick to work that morning and I was sent home from the hospital in the afternoon as not in labour! To be fair I wasn’t in complete agony at that point but we wanted to get there in good time as my first labour progressed very quickly. It felt quite different from my first labour so I thought maybe it was just a bad bug. I felt really sick and my back and stomach were killing my, couldn’t keep still had to keep walking around and leaning against things.
DH was really worried that it was appendicitis, he had it last year and it very quickly went from him casually saying he wasn’t feeling well to being curled up in bed groaning into a pillow and pushing me away when I tried to come near him which is exactly what I was doing. Being pregnant makes it hard to know where the appendix actually is with everything being squished with the baby but it didn’t hurt any more or less with being touched so I was convinced it wasn’t that. It was ridiculous really, we were having a full on argument about what the hell was wrong with me, DH was saying a bug shouldn’t hurt that much and I was shouting at him saying he hadn’t known the difference between a bug and an appendix at 27. I stormed off to the bathroom still totally convinced it was just the bug from hell and a few minutes later I could feel the baby’s head coming. Amazingly the midwife did actually arrive just in time to see baby being caught in a towel by DH. Our DS was asleep in his room through the whole thing!
We have a baby girl born at 23:57 on 17th December weighing 5lb 10oz. Not at all how we planned it but she’s here safely which is all that matters. I wasn’t even meant to start maternity leave until Christmas!

Good luck to the rest of you ladies and hope you’re all doing ok ❤️

@VixenAndKits That sounds awful. I had DS May 2019, so before Covid, and they were tight even then. DP was allowed to visit between 10-8, I think, but had to go home when I needed him most. I was utterly exhausted and really needed his help and support for the night feeds and I was alone. It was so hard. I appreciate some women do not want men on the wards but I wish they had wards where partners were allowed and others where they were not. The thought of you not seeing DS for a few days if you're kept in makes me so sad 🥺 I'd be so upset if I don't see my DS whilst in there. I'm not sure what our rules are.

@VgerEdney I hope your appointment goes okay today and that baby has turned. @Kerryw93 is also breech and they've mentioned the possibility of c-section so you could be a good support for each other ❤️

@icecreamgirl94 OMG I have shivers reading that birth story! How absolutely incredible for your DP to help you safely deliver her here, and hats off to you doing all of that with no pain relief and a sleeping bubba in the next room! You are incredible. Congratulations on your baby girl. A fabulous weight, too! Have you been allowed to stay home or have you gone into hospital?

I have a friend who is a midwife. Given I've got Covid and they've cancelled my appointments and won't see me until the New Year, she has very kindly offered to come and check baby's heartbeat, my blood pressure, baby's measurements and to see if she's in a good position so long as we both wear masks. We're going to give it a couple of days until I'm testing negative before we do so but I'm so grateful for that offer.

@icecreamgirl94 wow 😮 well done to you for staying calm like tokenginger said your story literally gives me shivers! You've actually got me googling now what to do in the situation that baby comes while I'm still at home I'd never even considered that. I had a quick labour with my first (6 hours) and I've been quite worried about this one being even quicker; we live far from the hospital too. You sound like an absolute champion comparing it to a really bad bug you must have handled it so well. How was it different from your first labour? and how is your DS finding being a new big brother! 😁

@icecreamgirl94 wow, well done you! What a mad birth story! I'm delighted you're all doing well. My niece was born on Christmas night in the downstairs toilet 🙂

@TokenGinger thank you 😘 We went to the hospital because she was early and because they had concerns I might go into shock because the birth was so fast in the end but we’re both doing great and were allowed home the next day. Our DS was also born in the bathroom nearly 2 years ago so if I ever get pregnant again I think I’ll just spend the whole 9 months in there!
@Razputini thank you 😘 As I say, my first was also born at home and was a much quicker labour than I was expecting but it did build up over time and I think I didn’t get to the hospital quickly enough because I didn’t know what it should feel like if that makes sense, whereas this time I knew what to look out for but didn’t get any of the “classic” feelings I thought I would. The first time I had back ache for a day before contractions started which were dull pains in my belly that built up to be more and more painful, but this time I had a constant bad pain in my back and belly. There was respite between contractions in my first labour but this time the pain was constant and I literally couldn’t stand up straight which is exactly how DH was with his appendix. It seems stupid now that I was insisting it was still a bug right to the end! DS seems very pleased with his new sister so far, he’s being so good and careful with her 🥰
@Somatronic oh my god that sounds like an incredible birth story! Did her labour come on fast?

Anyone else having period.pains that they think are contractions??????

Not me. Do you think you might be in labor? 😮

No but I did wake in the night the other day with the worst back pain that kept coming in waves and I wasn't sure if it was the start. Luckily was just the one night as I'm only 34 weeks
Are they regular tightening pains that you can monitor to see if they get closer?

Yes! I've been having them on and off for about two weeks now. They feel so severe at times that I really think it must be coming!

How are you feeling now?

Morning @TokenGinger hope all is well with you

Not doing too bad, I have finsihed my course of antibiotics but my chest is still a little mucus, but definitely way better than it was.

I have been having the cramps @lilroo87 and r@Razputini a lot and then I feel like oh maybe this is it. And then they fizzle out
One was really strong the other night but then again nothing after. He will come when he is ready. Hope you're both doing well.

I am just so anxious ladies, because I am Muslim and don't celebrate Christmas and am worried i will start having contractions or my waters will go on Xmas eve or something. I worry because my relative isn't Muslim and does celebrate it and she has made big plans with her children and grand children. And I worry I will go into labour on Christmas and then she will say she can't have the kids, as she will have loads of relatives round or something , or if she says fine, then the kids have to go round and be confused with all the Christmas stuff and celebrations. Fwiw I am a revert of over.10 years now so I stopped celebrating Xmas ages ago as its just not part of my life anymore.
I am honestly considering a home birth if that happens. I'd understand if someone who was non Muslim felt that way about Eid. And we were having a big bash with family.
If push comes to shove I might just consider a homebirtj, but the midwives dont really want that as I am a size 16-18 with a high bmi and under consultant care. They said they would prefer me to be in hospital incase I heavily bleeding after delivery with it being my 6th baby, but every other baby I have been completely fine.. ..
I'd much prefer a home birth if it does happen to fall on Xmas. I am bang on 38w today! I also have long labours which is another reason I am worried about having a home birth.
What do you all think? Sorry for rambling on...

@PopsicleHustler totally understand your worry. However, Christmas is just one day and it will be over and done with soon, try not to stress or worry. The main thing is you and baby are well looked after. And I’m sure even if it does start and falls on Xmas day, the people watching the kids will understand and still watch them for you, you didn’t choose it, the baby comes when they are ready. Plus the kids might just see it as a normal party and love all the festivities. Also glad your starting to feel better too!

I don’t really think I have had any pains/braxton hicks but I’m not really sure what they are like with this being my first. I do get the odd cramp occasionally but it disappears so maybe these are them?! I have really started to suffer with bad lower back ache though meaning I don’t have a good nights sleep. Sometimes when I get up it’s a nervy pain near my bum and down my leg and I struggle to walk.

Hope everyone is doing well!

I haven't posted in here since near the beginning! I hope everyone is doing OK?

So I'm 38wks tomorrow. My last scan a week ago today showed that baby is measuring big, so I had a consultant appointment on Wednesday where they've booked me in to be induced on the 7th Jan (this is my actual due date) they've also said I can have a sweep on the 30th December at my next midwife appointment.

Last two days I've had period type pains and felt fairly sick, thinking these are just braxton hicks as they've not developed into anything more regular or got stronger.

Has anyone else had a sweep done and it brought on labour? Or am I better off just waiting to be induced on the 7th? This is my first pregnancy so not sure which option to go for should I not have gone into labour naturally before either above date.

I've had 2 sweeps and went into Labour two days later and lost my mucus plug on that day after the sweep, with baby number 4!
My last sweep was baby number 5 and done dueing Labour to speed things up just before they broke my waters. So I find them very helpful

@PopsicleHustler fingers crossed it all works out for you and you don't labor at a time that'll make it difficult. I know the feeling I was depending on my mum being available to take my toddler while I labor but because of circumstances she won't be around. Now my sister is my only option but if the baby comes on new years I'll be screwed because she won't be available then. I just keep imagining being in labor having to take my toddler with me in the car while she tantrums or asks mummy what's wrong, mummy why are you sad, mummy are you sore 😵‍💫😵‍💫 it's stressful but I'm sure if either of us were to go into labour on a bad day for it we'd come up with something and power through it

@Razputini oh my goodness. You cant being a toddler to the Labour ward, really you don't have anyone else so sorry to hear this. Is it because sister wants to go out nye?

Morning ladies, merry Christmas!

I am joining the 35 weekers as baby boy decided to make his appearance at 35+1 yesterday on Christmas Day.
Extremely unexpected especially as we are visiting family over 300 miles away from home.

Baby weighed 5lb15 so not a bad weight but has been struggling with some wheezing due to a bit of fluid he can't clear off his lungs so he's currently in the neonatal ward on antibiotics and being tube fed. I'm expressing some colostrum so that's good and they expect us to be in here for 5 days minimum.

Definitely not the Christmas I had planned and I haven't seen DD since 5am yesterday when I rushed out of the house to get to the hospital but my parents made sure she had a brilliant day without us there!

@lilroo87 congratulations on the arrival of your baby xxx
my boy was born at 35+1 too if you have any questions or just want to talk please reach out xx
I know it’s such a whirl wind xx how you feeling?
are you able to stay with baby xx

Oh my goodness! @lilroo87 congratulations! Are you okay. How are you and baby doing? Merry Christmas!!!!! Xxx