Due January 2023 ❤️

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I know this is very early but I wanted to start a thread for those with a January 2023 due date.

I got my BFP 2 days ago and am about 4 weeks pregnant today. I already have a little boy born in November 2020 and I’m super excited for him to get a sibling but I know it’s early days and have had 2 early miscarriages in the past so slightly nervous too!

I'm 4w2d and mine looks just about the same, it's a good sign 😃

Hi, right there with you, this is my first ever pregnancy after trying for 2 years and my anxiety eats me up everyday. We will be fine, one day at a time ☺️

Hello!

Can I join please.

Going by my app due 3rd January.
This is baby number 2. I have a beautiful 2.5 year old DS.

Don't have any symptoms except sore boobs a bit and an slightly achy back in the mornings!

Mine looked like this too at 4 weeks. I remember DS's being really strong. Took another a couple days after and it was strong x

We're due the same day ♥️

I've never told work before the cut off for maternity pay (20/23wk maybe?), but I really like my privacy so just make up the hours.

If you want the money and don't mind saying then tell them earlier. Be ready to do a risk assessment when you do. And remember sick time when you're pregnant is recorded separately so if you need time off other than appointments then it can be worth doing.

Most people go with just saying it's a Dr appointment for the first couple I think, I don't know if they pay you for those.

Also I'm due 3rd Jan, I don't post often but it's reassuring knowing you're all here.

Aw congratulations lovely! How exciting 💕

Can I join too? Had an IUD removed a couple months ago and one cycle where I ovulated, DTD once and got a BFP today, almost 5 weeks. Feeling nervous because I had two early miscarriages before DD. I’m having sore boobs, but not nearly as sore as with DD which is making me nervous! Very bloated which is making me nauseous! The cat has also been sleeping on me which he never does?! Debating whether to book an appt or wait a week or two because of the previous MC.

Hi Ladies, I would love to join, EDD 11/01!

I've been getting positive tests for the past few days, still knicker twitching though and worried as usual.

I think I'm 4w 2 days.

How's everyone else's symptoms?

@AnxietyForever hey! Congratulations!!! My symptoms are non existent at the min apart from backache! X

That's wonderful to hear, also lovely that we're only a day apart!! Definitely taking it as a good sign that it's so dark ❤

Ok I think I'm ready to join. I've been silently following since I found out on Saturday that I'm pregnant. I think I'm 17 or 19DPO & just done another FRER & can definitely see line progression🤞🏻
I'm 37 & lucky enough to have 2DS 16 & 12. Been trying 3 years for this one, I did fall pregnant in Aug 2020 but unfortunately lost it at 5wks. Not a sniff of a BFP since, until Saturday, so a long 20months later 🥹.
I'm petrified that this is going to go wrong. Taking it day by day🤞🏻🌈
Just waiting for the dredded sickness to kick in as I suffered with it bad with the boys. I should be grateful that I'm not being sick yet but lack of symptoms is worrying me. If I go from my last period I'm 5wks & 2days, & would be roughly due at the beginning of January 🙈
I look forward to sharing this journey with you ladies & hopefully we'll all be cradling our newborns in 9months time 🥰💛

@aquarius36 congratulations lovely and welcome to the group ❤

UK based mums to be, when do you tell your GP? Do you need to wait until 6 weeks?

I'm worried about jinxing things by letting them know too early, but at the same time I'm also currently in the process of being referred to a fertility specialist (hence this being such a shock 😂) so may need to tell them soon that it may not be needed after all!

@Janey3090 so with mine you just go and fill a form in and they contact you, I think from what I remember they do a booking apt at 8 weeks, normally takes an hour and they go through loooooads of questions and do bloods, but I'd contact before 8 weeks as they take ages round here x

@Janey3090 Depends on the region/trust whether you need to. Round here we self refer to midwives with an online form (even if consultant led) so never tell GP. Either call GP and ask the receptionist how to get referred for antenatal care or Google 'maternity care [trust name]' and you should get something.

But generally anytime before 8wks is fine to make contact, they won't do anything before then (unless there's complications) but they'll take your details from when you get a positive test (so from now).

Personally I wouldn't want to cancel that fertility appointment without advice to do so first, so maybe speak to the GP about that. But that's not the same as informing them of the pregnancy, where they probably won't make the connection on the system.

@mrsgtobe97Thank you 😊 keeping everything crossed for you! I'm getting a bit worried as the lines on my tests are not progressing as I would have hoped at this stage and my symptoms have died down a lot since yesterday. Hoping I'm just being overly anxious and it will be okay but it's so hard not to worry! Must take each day at a time as you say.

Hi all! Congratulations! I got my first ever BFP this morning (three in fact, as I didn't believe the first haha) and we are so excited! My estimated due date is January 6th 2023.

Unfortunately, my wonderful husband will be deploying at the end of the year and will not be back until at least March 2023. He will miss the birth and at least the first few months of baby's life. This baby is very much wanted, but I only stopped my BC a few weeks ago and we thought it would take longer to get pregnant (in an ideal world, we were hoping to get pregnant right before he deployed so he'd be back for the birth... clearly baby has other ideas!). I feel very lucky that we were able to get pregnant so quickly, so I really am not complaining - I'm just nervous.

Is anyone else in a similar position, where they might be facing giving birth alone? I am so, so happy to be pregnant and can't wait for everything that is to come, but I'm also so scared of the thought of my husband being away for the last few months of pregnancy, the birth, and the first few months of baby's life.

@Janey3090 Thankyou 💞 it's worth maybe ringing your GP just so it's on your medical records. I had to ring the midwife today & get the ball rolling, because they normally like to see you around 8 weeks & definitely before 10wks. & unfortunately I'll be on holiday in Egypt all around that time🙉 so they've had to book me in for when im around 7wks. The midwife said that she would contact the doctor for me.

@Jellybean4774 i completely get your anxiousness over the tests. I panicked one day when my FRER looked the same as the day before, luckily it was darker the next day so hopefully your test will be darker by tomorrow 🤞🏻

@plantflowersforbees congratulations 💐 that's going to be hard for you emotionally if he's not around for the birth & first few months, I feel for you. Have you got supportive friends & family close by? My situation isn't quite the same, but my ex husband is in the Army, & the day he flew back from Iraq I went into labour 12hours later!🙉 He then had to fly back when our son was just over 4weeks old. He didn't return home for another 4months after that, so missed a fair few months of DS growing up. It's sad for the dad aswel but 16years later that all seems like a distant memory now, & looking back he's only missed a small fraction of his sons life on the whole if that makes sense?
As your husband can't be there for the birth do you know who you will have instead? You could always have him on FT in the hospital room on an iPad or phone when you're in labour? I know it's not the same but it could be the next closest thing to him 'being there' without actually 'being there' 🤷‍♀️

@aquarius36 thank you so much for your lovely message. Unfortunately we actually moved 500 miles away from our friends and family last month, so I haven't really made any new friends here yet - but I'm going to try lots of clubs etc to meet people! I haven't told my family yet but I hope my mum would come up if she can get time off work. I'm waiting till 8 weeks to tell her though, but I know she'd do her best to be there to support me, even if it wasn't until after the birth.

F/T or call is not an option unfortunately. I can't give much info about my husband's position over the internet, but when he deploys he is 100% uncontactable the entire time - we don't even get to know when he's coming home until he's back in the country. Sadly for him, this means he won't even know the date the baby is born, whether or not we are both healthy etc, until we are reunited. If we don't find out gender before he leaves, he won't even know our baby's gender or name until he meets them (though of course we will pick out a boy name and girl name before he goes so he gets full input).

That sounds so stressful! Did your son still bond to him quickly when he returned? And were you able to speak to your husband on the phone much when he was deployed?

Very very cautiously joining!
Have had 4 losses since July last year so am filled with anxiety but going to try stay hopefully.
I didn't test until 14dpo and got a dye stealer straight away luckily.
Taken a ridiculous amount of tests since, just because.
EDD would be 11th Jan which is my nephews birthday.

@aquarius36 Thank you! That's really reassuring to hear yours got darker eventually 😊 I've decided I'm going to (try to) not take another test until this weekend. I technically don't know when I ovulated but I think I'm either 3 weeks 5 days or 4 weeks 2 days (I reckon more like 3 weeks) so its still very early really. I've almost convinced myself today that its going to be a chemical and stupidly then did a clear blue which was barely detectable as a positive compared to the FRERs so that did nothing to put my mind at rest! No signs of AF though which isn't due until Saturday I think so I'm hoping for the best and giving myself a break from the FRERs for a bit! Think I've been a bit too over excited by the positive result after so long and I suffer from anxiety as it is - need to try and relax a bit! 😅

@PossiblyPertunia congratulations! Those are lovely strong positives. So sorry to hear about your losses though, that's really tough. Hope everything goes well for you this time x

@plantflowersforbees oh jheez you have it bloody tough! No contact😲 wow can't imagine how hard that is for you! You must be one strong lady🥰 & yes definitely see if you can get your mum to be with you, you wil need the support especially if you ended up having a C-section. & great idea about joining some clubs.
Yes I was lucky we could have telephone calls, there was no FT back then. Yeah they bonded just fine🥰 & even though I'm not with my DS father now, they have a lovely relationship. Having a dad that goes away for months on end is all he's ever known.

@PossiblyPertunia congratulations & sorry on your losses. Your tests look really strong for your DPO so all looking good so far for you 🤞🏻 the anxiety will never go I don't think, so we're all here holding each other's hands taking it day by day🤝🌈💞

@Jellybean4774 its soooo annoying isn't it when your not sure when you ovulated🥴 I'm either 17 or 19DPO, but I think I'm swaying more towards 17DPO🙉
Test lines are always darker on the FRERS because they're more sensitive, but we know this & yet we still put ourselves through the torcher of testing with a higher HCG test knowing full well the lines won't be as dark🙄😂 keeping my fingers crossed for you that you get past AF date as I find that that's the first hurdle🤞🏻

@aquarius36 Not sure if I'll be strong when he's deployed but it's a little easier when it feels so far away right now haha! I'm trying to join clubs this week, and luckily there are lots of partners in my position on the base so there's lots of support groups.

That makes sense, I'm hoping my baby will have a similar attitude to your DS when they're older too. He sounds very strong! Congratulations on your pregnancy too by the way! When are you due?