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@midnight90 @MrsMay19 @JMill13 @YfenniChristie @EastMidsGem @morphe @Sarah239 @fejkalove @Mummyingetc @Orangesunshin @aNewYorkerInLondon @Bubbasmama2017 @GinnyBee @Lavendersblue42 @Honeymint @YummyMummyXoX @K834baby3

Hey all if I missed anyone please add. Noticed last board is almost full.

We have the BT something video monitor and it does what we need it to! I like that it comes with a parent unit and not just an app so I don’t have to have my phone always logged in, but it does also have an app so I can check it if I’m out of range for the parent unit (or keep getting millions of notifications during a dinner with other mum friends and can check to see my husband desperately bouncing the baby)

@aNewYorkerInLondon have you tried the Bubble app? A friend of mine has used it a lot for ad hoc childcare and have been very happy with all the babysitters they had, bar one who just put the baby in front of the TV for a few hrs! But all were safe and the kids had a great time with them, except that one!

Thank you @Zibidee and @GinnyBee !!

Struggling to keep on top of housework going back to work. My lovely MIL has said I just need to put him in his high chair while I mop up- did babies used to be more obiendient or is mine just demanding? He wants me to be with him at all times! I can just about make some food and unload the dishwasher if I am entertaining him at the same time.

Some babies are more compliant than others! One of my mummy friends suggested I put mine in the high chair while I cook and narrate my cooking show for him. It works for her baby, but mine HATES all containers unless he has a reason to be in one - so he’ll sit in the high chair when he’s eating, or tolerate the pushchair when we go for a walk for example, but doesn’t let me park him in it anywhere. And he does not sit in anything just to watch me do chores!

My baby is the same. I often wonder how other mums manage to do anything cause he wants to be held or entertained all the time!

Now he can crawl he’s a bit happier being sat in front of a cupboard and pulling it on the floor (I’ve made one especially with lots of plastic spoons and boxes he can play with) but not always!

it’s actually nice to hear that other people struggle too cause I was starting to think it was only me! My friend did so much baking in her maternity leave and there’s me who lives off cereal when my OH is as work!

DS is the same. I'd try to pop him in his walker while I did the dishes and he screamed the house down. He's far happier if you carry him every where and try to do things one handed.

He's also started walking in the last month and now into everything so we can't take our eyes off him at the moment.

Question for you ladies:

I've got a pile of maternity and nursing clothes that I'm no longer using 🥺

The few fancy things I plan to sell on eBay (a couple of dressy dresses from Seraphine I bought for events while pregnant), but I'm not sure what to do with the everyday stuff.

My question for you is:

Would you buy a bundle of maternity / nursing clothes as a group on eBay without every item being individually listed/pictured?

For the small amount I'm sure it's go for, I don't know if it's better to just donate it (which is the way I'm leaning), but as we can all use every ££ we can get these days, I thought I'd ask your opinions.

Hope everyone is having a lovely, long holiday weekend!!

I’m bunging mine onto Vinted. Baby clothes sell easily, but I haven’t got round to listing maternity yet. You can enable bundle discounts so if someone wanted to buy several items from you they get a bit of a discount and you only need to send one parcel. But even if things sell separately, the buyer pays postage on Vinted so it’s not much extra hassle really.

What about selling it as a bundle on Facebook marketplace?

I buy a lot of stuff on there as there’s no extra postage! (Although you do have the option to offer posting it to reach more people)

Sorry everyone… I have a sleep question!

LO is now 11 months. Still on two naps a day, gets around 2-2.5hours day sleep and around 10 hours of sleep at night. He is still waking very frequently throughout the night (bad night can be hourly, a good night might have a 3 hour stretch in there) but we co sleep and I can normally just feed him back to sleep quickly.

it’s the getting him to sleep that is the real problem! We cuddle him and bounce on a yoga ball and it works really well. My issue is he’s now 11 months and I don’t really know how to stop it! He is not one to get sleepy and snuggly and drift off. He NEVER sleeps any other way… hates the pram and the car so no chance of him falling asleep in there.

I don’t really want to sleep train. Have you guys? How do you get your LOs to sleep? What is their sleep like?

We're similar @TunaJacket that I BF to sleep or carry and bounce if he doesn't fall asleep at the boob, and wakes frequently still. Not keen on sleep training so I don't know how to change it, but it's working for now. If it becomes a problem then I'll try something else.

Hi everyone!
I haven't been on this thread in a longgg time but just skimming through it seems like all your babies sound like mine which is reassuring! @TunaJacket @GinnyBee @YfenniChristie ! Putting in high chair to do house work?! You must be joking. I am considering buying a playpen now my lg is crawling but I can't find anything for less than £40 and I'm about 90% sure she will just hate it... seems like a waste of money. But baby proofing everything seems such a faff!
We cosleep too. @TunaJacket I'm sorry I don't know, are you breastfeeding? I side feed my baby to sleep in bed. It has become more difficult since she's been crawling and pulling herself to standing. But I'm not about to give up the most reliable way to maximise my sleep 😅 pretty sure I'd be up and down like a yo-yo if she was in a separate sleep space. No thank you! I'm not going to sleep train either. If what you are doing works, keep doing it!

Hi ladies

Glad to see you back!

Thankfully this time round I have a great sleeper but my eldest has legit only just reliably started sleeping through in the last 2 months and he'll be 3 in august. We tried so many different sleep training methods over the years but nothing ever stuck. He'd never sleep in our bed either unless sick. Wasn't until he was 2 and we needed to free up the cot, moved him into a single bed that he'd actually sleep with one of us beside him (in his bed) so we ended up doing that basically since Callie was born and finally something has clicked and he sleeps on his own (most of the time). So anyone with poor sleepers you have my sympathy and empathy.

Whatever method you choose just be consistent with it (apparently) and one day it'll stick.

@aNewYorkerInLondon I bought a bundle in Facebook marketplace of maternity clothes when I was pregnant. I haven't bought clothes that way before but it felt a fuss free way to get a set of clothes that fit when I couldn't be bothered shopping!

@Luckygreenduck , thanks!!!

Hi guys, I have gone back to work and I am struggling. Wondered if anyone here can relate? Logically I know I want to be working and I am finding the days with him hard as well so don't think it's a simple I want to be a sham. I just feel really flat and sad that maternity is over. I am so jealous of people with new babies or pregnant.

@Luckygreenduck , I go back in a month or so and I am feeling very sad about it.

I did a work training as a refresher these past two weeks and had a nanny at the house with him. (He'll go to nursery when I go back properly.)

I think for me it is a matter of missing him and wanting to be home with him; however, when combining baby time with the stress of returning to work, I think baby time also becomes stressful in a way that it wasn't when I had no other major obligations.

I hope you feel better about it all soon! ❤️

@Luckygreenduck I’m going into my last week of maternity and am really dreading going back to work. I think it’s a combination of this being my second, and last, maternity leave so feeling very sad I won’t have the time again. Plus with my first he really struggled starting nursery (Covid baby), he was distraught when I took him to nursery and I was also in tears on the days he went, I’m trying to mentally prepare for another load of tears, but hoping it won’t be as bad as my little girl is much more sociable (non Covid baby!).

I know I don’t want to be a SAHM, full respect to those that do as I think it’s much harder than going to work! Mum guilt is relentless!

Hi all

I went back to work in January, and I promise it does get easier. It's shit in some aspects but good in others.

I love a work day when I can have a coffee that's still hot, go pee without an audience/having to announce it to the house. Evenings are a bit harder because they've missed you all day and then I only have about an hour before they go to bed and I've the 2 to juggle making sure they both get a bit of time with me before bedtime.

I'm going part time from next week though because full time got way too much for me and it works out better financially than paying a nursery. I couldn't be a stay at home mum full time or I would go insane and I really am in awe of anyone that does it.

Happy Birthday to all the babies this month! My DD ended up being an April baby as she was born a week early. We had her birthday last week. Can’t believe it’s been 1 year already. It’s gone so much quicker this time with her being my third. Hope you’re all doing well.

Yes, Happy Birthday, May babies!!

like @MarmaladeToastAndAMarmaladeCat , my May baby ended up an April baby. I just can’t believe he’s already one year old! This year has absolutely flown by and has been the best year of my life. ❤

My May baby was an April baby too. Totally feel the same- it has gone so fast and being the best time. Difficult but never felt like my life has been so worthwhile and full of joy. Can you tell I am broody for another? (But practically won't for another year at least!)

Hi everyone sorry I've been quiet have been reading through the thread every so often but life has gotten busy with being back at work and things!
Is anyone still breastfeeding? Baby girl has been combi fed since around 5-6 months and now on cows milk and breast feeding around 2x a day and whenever she wakes in the nights. It's the nights that are getting me down I want to stop those feeds but not sure I'm ready to stop completely? Any advice? Or anyone in the same boat?

I’m still breastfeeding, but I’m keen to keep it up, especially as LO is starting nursery soon and will get all the icky sicknesses.

I’m trying for an early morning 5am feed before work, then a right after nursery 5pm feed, then bedtime, and one overnight.

we’ll see how that goes.