Navigating pregnancy after loss thread 2

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New thread as we all continue our journeys in pregnancy 🌈❤️

Argh didn't realise there was a new thread! 🙈😆...so need some advice/opinions. We're due to go to Greece in May when I'll be around 11 weeks. I lost my previous baby at 9ish weeks and found out at a private scan around 11 weeks...Do I go away, oblivious and hope nothing happens when I'm away. Or do I have a scan before I go and then if it's bad news I can get treatment sorted before I go?? I hate to think of miscarrying abroad...not sure there healthcare is as good as ours..or am I overthinking this?!! 🙈 xx

Thanks @mrshodgy21 @aesgriff appreciate it. I had hardly any symptoms when I was pregnant with my son but the MMC has just changed everything x

Welcome back @calimc83

If it was me I'd try and get the scan before I went so that I could go and enjoy myself.

If the worst happened make sure you have travel insurance then you'd be covered to move dates etc but you'll be fine, 🙏🏻🙏🏻

@aesgriff amazing news so so happy for you 💕🌈 I'm ok a little anxious I know Thursday I'll be a mess but I'm trying to not think about it too much although easier said than done 🙈

@aesgriff oh wow that is alot 🙊. But we pay it for the reassurance! Haha yes if only that could happen! Would be lovely if epus helped us without a fight! 🤦 Xx

@calimc83 I would probably have a scan before I went just so I wasn't worrying. How are you doing? Xx

Thanks everyone for the reassurance, I'll try and grab my boss for a chat, he was very understanding after my miscarriage and if I explain the situation I'm sure we can come to some agreement.

@Skl2021 @flowergarden16 Thanks for your input ladies! Nice to be back ☺️ yeah am ok, told a few people now about the pregnancy but that's about it..still such early days. How are u both doing? Xx

Guess who's just tested positive for Covid?! 😫 There is a vvvfl but my mum and sister say they can't see one but my line eyes say otherwise!

I have my scan on Tuesday. The odds are I won't be going to that will I? Not sure whether to ring EPU and get it pushed back to the end of the week or not?

@scoutcat I tested positive last Friday and I was negative again yesterday so you might make it 🤞 don't give up yet! First time.i had it I was positive for about 13 days! Hope you feel ok xx

@calimc83 I still need to tell people Im too scared! 🙈 I'm struggling lately in a anxiety filled bubble! My head is convincing me something is wrong! Hate this feeling! X

@Skl2021 I'm telling really close friends and family as last time, I found it harder to tell people I was pregnant but I'd lost it...when's your scan? Xx

@calimc83 I haven't booked a private one yet and my 20 week one is 5 weeks away xx

@Skl2021 ohhhh not long!!! Have u felt any movements yet? Xx

Having a really down day ☹️ I'm 11 weeks and having a private scan tomorrow, but can't shake off this stupid feeling something has gone wrong, I had a fever and bad cold two weeks ago, thinking something is not right, however, there is no indication that something could be wrong.. this is my fifth pregnancy and first time getting this far. I keep talking to the baby and saying everything is okay and they are health and safe, but negative thoughts keep coming back ☹️

Hi @sunnyd67 I had a bad day like this the other day I think it’s par for the course for people who have been through what we have. But I also don’t think it’s necessarily a premonition of something terrible to come.
You’ve gotten further than ever before and the odds of it going wrong for you now are sooo slim. Hope the scan goes well I’m sure it will xx

@calimc83 nope I haven't I know it's early but it's making me worry even more 🤦 x

@sunnyd67 we have all been there. It's horrible what our minds do to us after miscarriage it's constant anxiety and worry. Keep thinking positive 🤞 hope your scan goes well tomorrow ❤️ xx

@Skl2021 so early!! Try not to worry- easier said than done I know..x

Thank you for your kind words @Norberta and @Skl2021
I'm really hoping everything will be okay and I will see a wriggling baby with a heartbeat tomorrow 🤞🤞I had a scan at 9 weeks and it went okay, I had the same feelings then as I had brown discharge before hand. I guess scanaxiety is hitting me hard ☹️

@sunnyd67 you are describing what I feel before a scan and what a lot of women that have been through this describe. It must be the trauma playing on our minds. You've had a positive scan at 9 weeks so your chance of everything being healthy is like 98-99%. I knew this but still convinced myself I'd get bad news. I think it's a form of ptsd. I've had good news at every scan. This is a different pregnancy.

@calimc83 go for the scan pre holiday so you can go and enjoy your holiday. I did this (also thinking like you how to prepare for worst outcome) honestly. Our brains need rewired. Here's me out here thinking the worst and inside my uterus baby is doing somersaults and a tap dance!

When I say about rewiring my brain. I think our experiences do something to our mind /Brain that wires it to go straight to worst outcome and causes us skm much anxiety. I thought I was alone in that til hearing from other women. I wish the medical community would take the mental health toll a bit more seriously. It's like endometriosis, they just expect us to suck it up and get on with it.

@Raindrops2015 your right! After miscarriage my head goes straight to worse case scenario! But if I hadn't of had one then I wouldn't be worrying right now! It definitely takes a toll on your mental health 😩 xx

@Raindrops2015 totally agree, my MH has really shattered since the MMC and I'm petrified about everything this time round 😔 my nerves tonight are so bad there's knots in my stomach thinking of tomorrow's scan 😬

Had my midwife appointment this afternoon - haven't bled for a week and then started spotting red blood an hour before the appointment 🙄 so have had to be referred for another scan. Midwife said they don't do heartbeat at 16 weeks anymore but due to the bleeding and the fact I needed a scan anyway she was willing to try. Found the heartbeat in 1 second so got everything crossed all is ok. Just hope I can get a scan tomorrow or fri ahead of my flight sat. Been referred to perinatal mental health too xx

@arianasky I'm sure everything will be ok try and stay calm 💕 positive thoughts. Were all here for you ❤️ xx

@Bridgey8 so glad your appointment went well 🙌 hope the spotting stops soon 🤞 sounds like you have an amazing midwife and epu ❤️ xx

@Raindrops2015 Thank you lovely, I think I will xx