Navigating pregnancy after loss thread 2

[Cruz86]

New thread as we all continue our journeys in pregnancy 🌈❤️

@Sassy144 I think around 6ish weeks? How u feeling today? Are u still testing or now you have your BFP are u stepping away from them? x

@calimc83 I wouldn't get a Doppler just yet I think it would be very hard to find at your stage and would just cause more panic and anxiety! I don't know how people have been finding them so easily! My midwife even said at my 16 week she might not be able to find it and don't panic 🙈 and I don't even think every midwife does it at 16 weeks anymore! Time is going so fast can't believe u have your booking appointment! Only seems like yesterday u got your bfp! 💞 Xx

@Skl2021 those are my exact thoughts! 😬 probs not a good idea for me. Ahh do u think?? I feel like it's dragging! 😫😆 xx

@calimc83 yes we already have enough to stress about 🤣🙈 yes I think it's flying! Probably slow for you though. Think it becomes more real when you start having appointments! And u have booked a scan haven't you? X

@sunnyd67 @Cruz86 thank you, yeah I want to get to the six week mark as that's when I lost it before 🤞

@calimc83 I'm feeling good thanks, crazy tired, I napped for over an hour today and I never nap! I did a second test this morning and it was nice to see a stronger line, I'll try to step away from the tests now I think as it's just added stress!

@Skl2021 yep next week - can't even think about it! 😫😫 already planning on how to deal with the bad news. Argh..@Sassy144 yeah I get that. Step away from them if you can! Glad u are ok - I love a nap! Had one earlier but still feel shattered 😆 xx

@calimc83 I have one next week and I'm doing the exact same! It's so so hard to be positive isn't it 🥺 I feel like a little piece of my soul dies each time I have a loss. I want a scan before I see a midwife though! X x

Sorry to hear everyone is feeling anxious today I totally understand you all, my boobs have felt smaller last two days which had me panicking it's all such a mind game 😞

@calimc83 aww it's horrible how we go through these scenarios. It's a totally different journey after loss. Never had any of these thoughts or anxiety with my other 2 😩 I'm sure all will be fine. We have all felt that way. Keeping everything crossed for you 💞✨ xx

@Tulip1112 I feel like I couldn't cope with seeing an ultrasound again if this baby has passed! Argh 😖 I hope my midwife is sympathetic...gosh it's a real head f**k isn't it @Skl2021 xx

@Skl2021 I was exactly the same, it never occurred to me in my previous pregnancy that this would ever happen to me xx

@calimc83 let's hope it's smooth sailing all the way until we're holding our babies! Keep positive 🤞💞 Xx

@Skl2021 yes!!! We'll be holding them before we know it xx

@aesgriff aw gender scan how exciting and almost 16w then that’s great ❤️
I can’t believe that people would have anything against that! That is very strange behaviour, maybe they are jealous. It’s good to be aware that it can happen, as someone else said maybe I will keep things to myself, can’t deal with any negativity at this point.

@Sassy144 I wanted to have a couple of scans before booking and I wanted to pass the 8w mark at least so I ended up booking last minute at 10w. Would have left it for longer if it wasn’t that I’m aware the dating scan etc needs to be done by 14w and I don’t want to give my colleagues stress by leaving it until the last minute! But it’s a very personal choice so there is no right or wrong.

Feeling so anxious today. Symptoms seem to be going and my heart rate seems almost normal. I hate this stress! Scan tomorrow morning. Ugh.

How's everyone else doing? X

@flowergarden16 morning! Weirdly I feel exactly the same today. My morning sickness and nausea suddenly stopped on Sunday and I've had an awful back ache since I woke up yesterday 😭 I don't have a scan until next Friday (13th yikes) but I am feeling pretty hopeless 💔 as I'm on cyclogest, I was told if something happened to the baby it would almost definitely be a missed im miscarriage so I have a very very long 10 day wait 🤮

Oh @Tulip1112 sending so much sympathy: your scan is the day after mine but I have a private one tomorrow.

It's so awful isn't it. Even my husband doesnt really get why I'm so anxious.

Virtual hand hold for you x

@Tulip1112 hope you’re ok, try to stay positive. Feels like a very odd thing to write to try and give you hope but I was on cyclogest for my last miscarriage & I still had a sporadic complete miscarriage so it doesn’t mean you would have a missed miscarriage (although I was also told this is a possibility) so try not to worry too much about cyclogest disguising things as it doesn’t always. Could you try to bring your scan forward for earlier reassurance? Can imagine it’s going to be a long 10 days for you feeling like this 🥺 xxx

Scan is in a week and two days and the closer it gets the more of a nervous wreck im getting. Last one was a MMC at 11 weeks 5 days and I've found the closer that gets im using my Doppler every day just for that extra bit of reassurance. Feel like I'm turning into an insane level of anxious

@arianasky how u doing today xx

@Skl2021 I'm good thank you, Just full of nerves for Thursdays scan I can't imagine a good outcome yet I can't imagine the worst either it's like I've shut my mind off, how are you feeling? 💕

@arianasky I think that's totally normal especially after what we have been through. I think it's just a way of us coping but I'm sure everything will be fine 💞 try and stay positive I know it's so hard. I'm feeling a bit better it comes in waves! Just have to keep reminding myself that everything is ok hopefully 🤞 xx

I wish we could just make days go a tiny bit quicker 🤯 banging headache today!

I feel the same @arianasky I'm convinced tomorrow I'm getting bad news. I was feeling so positive until a day or two ago, and now I just feel like it's going to be the worst tomorrow :-( this is tough isn't it c

@flowergarden16 I also have a scan tomorrow and feeling anxious too.

My symptoms also come and go however I’m
always so tired.

@Tulip1112 I agree with @speake1 I was on cyclogest on my last pg and I had a natural mc and it did not delay anything. I always try to think as long as I am not bleeding it’s fine - even though this time I had spotting at 6w and it was fine. And I also had a mmc and know that no bleeding sometimes means nothing. It’s just so tough!

I am not really religious but someone who is suggested I pray and I have been saying thank you and praying every day and it’s one of the things that seem to help and make me feel better.