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Due June 2022 - thread 10! Rolling into third trimester!

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imhereforthecake · 07/04/2022 14:06

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InvisibleDragon · 14/04/2022 14:55

@unknownscot hope you're doing ok - glad you're at the hospital and getting looked at!

@PeeAche2 @destiEos @Vimto1991 I know what you mean about having a connection to the baby that our partners can't share yet. Just feeling him move every day and getting to know him is something that makes the pregnancy feel very special for me, but my husband is on the outside and doesn't have any way to feel the same connection.

I think in some ways this is harder for him than for me at the moment, because he likes to be very organized and know what is going on with everything. But everything to do with the pregnancy and the baby is intangible and out of his control. Of course he can feel the baby kicking, and can talk to the baby, but it's just not the same thing.

unknownscot · 14/04/2022 14:59

No pulmonary embolism and no DVT 👏🏽

Would have been kept in but luckily I work in the department so got squeezed in.

Vimto1991 · 14/04/2022 15:01

@unknownscot hope everything goes okay, fingers crossed for you. Atleast they are looking into it ASAP for you, so even worst case scenario they’d be able to solve for you, but hopefully it’s just pregnancy symptoms that seem like something else and they’re just checking just in case!!

@InvisibleDragon I wish my DH was organised 😂 I’ve popped everything onto an Amazon wish list we may need and he’s not bothered. Think because I’m overly organised he just expects me to do it, and then I come across as bossy. 🙈 but yeah it is a good pay off for everything we go through to have this connection with baby. Even when they’re kicking my bladder through therapy. 😅

My therapist had me jot down what % of a bad mom I thought I was and what I would describe as a bad mom, then talked through the fact I’d score myself a 0% on most categories like I don’t drink or smoke or anything. Out of 100% I’m more like 3% (due to self care through MH), so really helps to put things into fact and perspective and thought I’d share that with any moms who may be struggling, it’s a good exercise to train the brain. ☺️

Vimto1991 · 14/04/2022 15:02

@unknownscot ah posted a second too late! So glad to hear all is okay, just pesky cramps and baby against your lungs perhaps? Pregnancy symptoms aren’t half scary when you try and figure out what’s pregnancy and what’s you. 😩 but good news!! 🥳

4thtimethecharm · 14/04/2022 15:28

@destiEos, hang in there. The good news is: you are on the 5th centile, not below third yet, where things tip into the severe end of the scale. You are also late-onset, which means that baby has had a good chance to do some growing already. Both these things are really positive.

The things they discussed with you are the standard elements they discuss with patients with babies with short femur length. I know this, because I am in the same boat. Firstly, it can be just coincidence (especially if you are not very tall yourselves); it can be IUGR (growth restriction - which means they will likely check the blood going through the umbilical artery and uterine arteries, and likely do a screening to see if you picked up any infections); it can be dwarfism (achondroplasia) (but then usually there are other signs, such as bent bones, etc.); and it can be a soft marker for things like Down's, where again, there are usually other markers as well (like a high score in the combination test).

At the moment, it sounds like they are giving you all those four 'could be's', and are simultaneously trying to tell you that the third and fourth are less likely in your case, due to the absence of other elements pointing at them. The first two explanations explain the vast, vast majority of cases. They will try to figure out in the next few weeks what is causing the short femurs, usually through a process of elimination. So, some tests will come your way, including frightening sounding ones. All of this is routine, and part of that elimination process, in which they also need to exclude the more rare causes.

I know this is very scary, but considering how far along you are, you are doing ok. Being at FMU, means you are in the best hands. If it helps, a FMU consultant told me, that making it to 32 weeks is really great, as the main foetal development has then already occurred. For us, reaching that milestone is our main objective. So you have already accomplished the key bit. You and baby can do this! Flowers

destiEos · 14/04/2022 16:08

@unknownscot - well that's very good news! Pleased to hear it :)

@Vimto1991 @PeeAche2 @InvisibleDragon and probably a few others that are also in the same position, I feel like I'm definitely the one doing all the prep here too. Apart from the actual carrying of the bub and all that involves, I'm reading the books and shopping for bits and bobs and all of that and DH just doesn't seem as interested. I think that'll change when the baby arrives, but it is just so much more real for us as the ones doing the carrying I suppose. I do wish he could have the next one though, because it won't be me!

@4thtimethecharm thank you so much. That was really, really helpful and I've stopped crying for today

Vimto1991 · 14/04/2022 16:35

@destiEos yeah would be nice for them to take the load off. Think they just assume we are sorting it or will leave it last second and go on their merry way. 🤣 yeah if DH can have the next that’d be great. If only they were like seahorses!! Birth would probably be made painless if men could give birth. 😅

destiEos · 14/04/2022 17:38

@Vimto1991 I think they feel a bit uncomfortable at how little it has to do with them and also so physically apart from it all that they don't engage the way we have to. DH has said he'd happily have the next if he could 🤐 LIES! I think a lot of things would be different if men could give birth...

In the meantime I get my shoes and socks put on for me. It's something, right? 😉

Vimto1991 · 14/04/2022 17:56

@destiEos haha yes and tying your shoe lace if it comes undone! Next step is shaving my legs for me 😂

Letsbekindplease · 14/04/2022 18:00

Excellent news @unknownscot. Hope you get your feet up tonight and relax

I feel like I have completely lost my appetite. I haven’t managed a food shop because my PGP is horrific. Could easily do an online shop but I’m too stubborn and enjoy walking around the supermarket.

Just nothing I fancy eating at the moment. It’s a very beige diet. Toast, breads etc
(I’m now drooling at the thought of a French stick bread 🥖 )
I have low iron which this diet won’t be helping.

destiEos · 14/04/2022 18:30

@Vimto1991 DH shaved mine for me last weekend 😂 We were getting photos done and I put on a frock!

@Letsbekindplease ohmygod I'd kill for a French stick 🤤

fiowen45 · 14/04/2022 18:38

Does anyone else suffer with like it feels like your skin stinging just under your boob on right side and like a bruised rib feel ? I thought I’d bruised a rib from coughing as I’ve had a horrendous dry cough for about 8 weeks but I can’t tell if it’s just her ladyship sticking her feet into my ribs and putting pressure on nerves

needarainbow · 14/04/2022 19:25

@PeeAche2

These babies do cause such anxiety.

When I was 5 weeks, I told myself to just keep it together until I'm 12 weeks.

At 12 weeks, I just had to keep it together until the anomaly scan at 20.

At 20 weeks, I just had to hold out until the third trimester.

Now I'm just clinging on until the birth.

After she's born I'll stand over her cot and cry silently about SIDS until she's 6 months old.

... I'm honestly worried that I'll still be just-about-keeping-it-together when she's 22 and backpacking around Thailand and that I'm going to be the absolute worst helicopter parent you can imagine. 😭

This has been my actual life. Just clinging to the next milestone and then moving it once I've reached it. I think that that's just it now... constant worry about this child from the moment I got the double lines until the end of time 🤷‍♀️

For everyone talking about DH/partners experiences (can't remember everyone to tag), I think I'd rather have our end of the deal because we can create that connection with our little ones much easier before they arrive. Plus DH has me to worry about as well at the baby whereas I'm not worried about him at all through this process 😂 We definitely carry the burden of getting organised though. I drag DH into the organisation whether he likes it or not but left to his own devices the extent of his preparation is looking up baby mohawks and finding band logo vests 😂 he's well-meaning but absolutely clueless

C1ueless22 · 14/04/2022 19:30

Re DH involvement I am in the same position as some of you ladies in that I am doing all the organising but then I'm the natural organiser in our relationship and he is so much more laid back than me! However, his interest sparked when we bought the travel system, he was in his element working out where everything went and did say that it was starting to feel real now. Suppose its difficult for them as their not the ones that have been the incubator for the last 7 plus months. I do get all my bags carried for me and my shoe laces tied and he's experiences a few firsts in having to shave my bikini line lol

Has anyone started to suffer from extreme exhaustion, worse than the first trimester (I'm 32 weeks in Saturday). I'm currently off work and FTM so am able to sleep but seem to be sleeping most of the day the last few days. Huge hats off to those of you that have busy jobs and/or other children, I don't know how you do it Smile

Nausea is also back, nausea mixed with being kicked internally is a whole new ball game Grin

Letsbekindplease · 15/04/2022 08:05

Morning everyone

Hope you slept well. Or like me…kicked to death and the worst wind ever lol

Just wondering, when are you doing hospital bags ?

I’m hoping to pack mine in the next couple weeks. I keep having this niggle feeling that I’m going to go super early for some reason. I don’t think I will, but I want to be prepared

ALHCTPS · 15/04/2022 08:11

Beloved really didn’t seem to grasp the concept of the baby with our first until it was here, and then had a lot of catching up to do. And one of the few benefits of the pandemic is that us both being home so much levelled the playing field. Even with this one, I see it slip his mind that I’m dealing with the reality 24/7, as he can check out mentally. Lying in bed spooning earlier, he was shocked at how much the baby moves when I put his hand on my belly. Yup! Try living with that day and night. So much for a nice calm, zen baby this time. No. 2 is clearly another high energy party baby like first born… Sigh. I’m afraid you just have to keep ramming it home to them. Societally, we’re conditioned to have more empathy so find it easier to put ourselves in other shoes, so we need to counteract that (and raise our sons better). Beloved had the gall to snipe at me the other day for cutting corners as a parent because I was shattered from this pregnancy - all hell rained down on him. Every single thing I do - breathing, moving, eating, sleeping, defecating - is compromised by this fucking pregnancy. I do what I need to do to get by.

destiEos · 15/04/2022 08:25

@fiowen45 my ribs are always sore, think it's just the baby pushing them up. Find it feels better if I'm nice and flat on my back, which we're not supposed to be! So I stretch out for a few minutes in bed, then to back onto my side trying to stay quite stretched out.

@C1ueless22 extreme exhaustion seems to come and go. I spent a couple of days last week in bed the whole day, knackered but the last 2 I've been much better even though I've been doing more..?
Also take my hat off to those with kids! As for work - I've not been doing much, but as they've decided to not give me ANY increase in salary based on my poor performance in a year where inflation is going to be at least 7%, they can go fuck themselves. Next year I'll be looking for a new job 😤

@Letsbekindplease Good morning! Slept fine myself, but awake since 6ish... Still in bed though 😬
Little one has been more active last couple of days so more kicking, I'm taking to him more which I think could be why. Also he appears to like Led Zeppelin, which I'm happy about ☺️
I was going to spend this week (I'm off work) doing the hospital bag thing, then decided I'd wait til next scan before I do anything else. But now I'm thinking I may go ahead with using this time to prepare anyway. Nothing else to do..

destiEos · 15/04/2022 08:26

@ALHCTPS "Every single thing I do - breathing, moving, eating, sleeping, defecating - is compromised by this fucking pregnancy. I do what I need to do to get by." This exactly!

AlbatrossSociety · 15/04/2022 08:28

Hi all, so nice to hear all of your experiences with partners etc. I'm also the natural organiser because my husband is so laid back and then I end up feeling really bossy. I'm naturally quite laid back and would rather someone else was organising me so I find it difficult to embrace the organiser role. My husband will do anything I ask him to do, but nothing that I don't ask him to do. I'm finding it quite tiring but if I try and talk about it he gets really defensive.

@fiowen45 I have exactly the same pain in the same place!! Think it is baby's bum pushing into my ribs. I find some pregnancy yoga moves can help to alleviate it, just some hip circles and side bends to make a bit more space between ribs and pelvis.

@destiEos sending love your way, sounds like you're in the best place and doing amazingly

fpeg · 15/04/2022 08:33

@Letsbekindplease I've started to prep mine. Most stuff in there and a checklist of things that need adding last minute. I've been off work this week so decided it was a good time to do it. I'm 33+3 now so really not long! I already know I'm highly likely to be induced early (final decision on this after next growth scan at 35 weeks), so I figured I'd better get on with it.

annie1994 · 15/04/2022 08:45

@ALHCTPS I agree with this!! My partner moans because I’ve been letting my 19mo nap later causing him to be a nightmare to get to sleep at bedtime. I’m sorry I NEED him to have that nap just so I can lie down and rest my back/ pelvis/ hips and if Freddie isn’t napping till 2pm then so be it 🙄 also I’ve been a bit naughty and have been letting him have his dummy a bit more (he only has it sleep time now) but I’m struggling with pregnancy and looking after a toddler!!

4thtimethecharm · 15/04/2022 08:56

@fpeg and @destiEos, I am getting my hospital bag ready, too. I am not even 30 weeks yet (due date end of June), but with all those growth scans and talk of earlier delivery, I don't want to be caught out. (As we live several hours drive from FMU, I think I am just going to put the bag in the car, whenever we have to travel up there for a scan.)

So looking forward to this Bank Holiday weekend. Woke up this morning and weather is gorgeous already. I also finally have been able to convince DP to get a move on with the nursery prep.

Like many of you, I am doing all the baby planning/organising/purchasing in this household - I don't think he feels it is real yet. I have endless lists of things that still need doing (not just baby-related, we were in the middle of some DIY stuff anyway), and it overwhelmed/demotivated him a bit at first. I now just ask him to do 2 or 3 small things every day that work towards the overall goal, but don't burden him with the bigger picture, and how much remains to be done. Have high hopes for this weekend that we can get a few bigger jobs done.

EarlGreywithLemon · 15/04/2022 09:01

@ellecf21 and @PeeAche2i really liked sleeping bags for our daughter. I wasn’t happy using blankets because of SIDS - the couple of times I tried she untucked them straight away with her kicking, and I wasn’t sure they wouldn’t get onto her face. Also, sleeping bags take the guesswork out of what to dress them in at what temperature. There are some very light ones available (0.2 tog) and we have one of those as well as a couple of 1 tog from our daugher.

Northofthebordermum · 15/04/2022 09:41

@PeeAche2 @ellecf21 I bought a sleeping bag for our first but ended up not using it until he was a bit older. He just seemed drowned in it as a newborn! Swaddling saved us tbh- it was the only way he would sleep. I think they like that feeling of being all snug and constrained. I guess all babies are different but that’s certainly what I’ll be trying first with this one.

slowrunningteacher · 15/04/2022 09:42

My daughter was born pretty small - 5lb 6oz at 42weeks. I had planned to use sleeping bags with her, but she was just too small! They need to be big enough that their head won't fit through the neck hole. I ended up swaddling her until she was big enough for sleeping bags. The midwives showed me how to do so. I found having a few large muslins was good for this and in warmer weather (it was hot in June 2020) she didn't have anything on top of her clothes during the day.

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