Due June 2022 - thread 10! Rolling into third trimester!

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Thread 10!
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Nearly there everyone.

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Also thanks so much for the replies re:movement. He was back to trying to break through my skin last night and this morning so I'm happy he's fine, these babies cause such anxiety don't they!

These babies do cause such anxiety.

When I was 5 weeks, I told myself to just keep it together until I'm 12 weeks.

At 12 weeks, I just had to keep it together until the anomaly scan at 20.

At 20 weeks, I just had to hold out until the third trimester.

Now I'm just clinging on until the birth.

After she's born I'll stand over her cot and cry silently about SIDS until she's 6 months old.

... I'm honestly worried that I'll still be just-about-keeping-it-together when she's 22 and backpacking around Thailand and that I'm going to be the absolute worst helicopter parent you can imagine. 😭

My daughter at her first sports day:

Hi everyone - I'm on the Facebook group but haven't posted on here before! Just wanted to comment on the disproportionate sizing - my scans have consistently shown a little head (10% percentile) and massive abdomen (up to 96% percentile)! I keep asking the sonographer and consultant if that's an issue and they always reassure me that it's nothing to worry about - it's about the rate at which they're growing rather than the measurements at any one time. So @destiEos - try not to worry about a one off scan result!

@PeeAche2 this has been my mentality all the way through! Each stage I thought I’d be calmer by the next, but I’d create new goals!!

DH booked flights and a hotel in Spain last night to his friends wedding in august. I encouraged him to go, but I didn’t want to go with a two month old nor leave the baby with someone else. I think I got jealous and it turned into sadness about things I can’t do, but realised how easy it is for the man to still do stuff. We definitley lose a ton more independence than the father which does make me sad, I love this baby, they are planned and wanted, but think it’s setting in how real this is now and how different my life is about to be! I was crying because of sadness then crying because of guilt, then crying because my mind was at war with itself. Now I just feel guilty and a shit mom this morning 😅

@Vimto1991 I totally understand where you're coming from, you certainly do lose a lot of freedom being a mamma. BUT it's not forever!! You do get it back! We've enjoyed a few weekends without our son, and he's currently with his grandparents for the week, it just makes the times you have child free all the sweeter!

@Prema112 @Vimto1991*@fpeg @PeeAche2* @JAR1981*@Rolledthedice @Brightsmoke* thanks everyone, I know I shouldn't worry, but can't help it. Had a wee cry this morning and just hoping the little one will try and stretch out a bit over the next couple of weeks :) He was jumping around like a lunatic last night and even had a bit of stretch this morning - he doesn't usually do anything in the early hours, so at least he's letting us know he's awake. It is the Fetal Medicine specialists who'll be scanning and seeing us at the new 34 week scan, so they are taking it quite seriously. I'm hoping DH's stocky stature is to blame. In the meantime, I can't bring myself to book/order anything else right now and am annoyed with myself for buying things so early, horrible thoughts of having to get rid of everything.

Sorry for doom and gloom, I don't really want to talk to anyone else about it and get them worried too. It's going to be a long couple of weeks :/

Anyway, last day of work for me for 10 days, so there's something to look forward to. I shall spend lots of time chatting to the little one, like he's a plant and I can make him grow

@Vimto1991 I completely agree. My husband doesn't get it at all.

On top of the fact that my body, career and free time is going down the pan I appear to have developed this "what about the baby?" mental load, that he doesn't shoulder equally. No matter how hard he tries. And, to be fair, he does try.

He thinks we can go to a concert when the baby is 3 months old. I explained that HE can. So he is.

He told me a few weeks ago that he'd actually love to be the one that grows, carries and nourishes the baby but it's an experience unique to women. And it did get me thinking about how it feels for the men. And how lucky we actually are to have this bond with our babies.

I think that "pull" to not be far from them and the "sense" that we anticipate their needs so acutely is inexorably linked to the biology of growing and birthing them. And men can't have that. They just physically can't.

Every day I feel my baby do this thing where she stretches out very long and thin and then curls back up again. (It hurts!)
When she's Earth-side, I'll watch her do it in her cot and think "that's the thing!"
What I mean here is, I already know her so intimately. And so, I do get frustrated at the way my life is changing so irreversibly when it seems to impact my husband far less. But then I think actually I'm the one that has lucked out here.

No amount of concerts, trips to Spain, pints of beer or unhindered promotions at work could ever live up to what is going on for me right now.

Not a shit mum, Vimto... just going through an enormous life change! ❤️

@destiEos crossing all my fingers the next scan shows the previous were wrong and it’s all okay! I know it can be pretty hit and miss if baby is sat strange so keeping you in my thoughts for then. Hope you have a lovely long break, definitley keep positive, I wouldn’t immediately go negative and regret buying anything, just take it one day at a time, baby is moving all happily and unaware in there. :)

@Prema112 yeah and it’s not even just freedom from the baby, it’s just freedom to do stuff with the baby! DH and I are going to go somewhere for his birthday in September. I’m just worried there won’t be anything for me to do with them as I remember I’ve spent two and a half years stuck at home, I can’t deal with that for another year so will explore where I can take baby. :)

@PeeAche2
100%, I know we are the one that goes through all the negative symptoms, labour, aches and pains, etc, but I do love the fact I can feel them moving, the fact I will nourish (hopefully) them with my breast milk, and that I will automatically have a stronger bond. I think there’s some aspects to having a baby your mind won’t process until it’s close to happening, so that’s where my mind is right now, overloading haha! I can’t wait until their born, I want to spend as much time with them as possible, I’m not sad I’m not going to Spain, it’s more I can’t go with the baby, because logistically it wouldn’t be fair or would work well for any of us, so it’s not that I want to dump the baby somewhere, I just almost wish the wedding was over here so I could take baby with me. 🙈 I just want to experience all these things with them, and I know I will be able to eventually!

Well said @PeeAche2! My mat replacement started her first email to me with 'congratulations on the occasion of experiencing the greatest miracle in life' and I though 'Wow yes, what a privilege it is!'

@destiEos Aw love, I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I'm praying it's all completely fine but I understand you can't just turn off the worry. Thinking of you and hope you can have some good time off in the next few days x

@PeeAche2 - I hadn't really worried much about anything until now, so am having my first wobble. I was more worried about me up until yesterday, so I guess that's a lesson for me..

@RooSut25 it wasn't until I typed out "roo" and the autocomplete kicked in that I realised there wasn't an 'L' in your name :D

Thanks for sharing, I think unless the little one goes under 5th percentile on any measure they don't really worry. We still do - of course. I was a bit concerned at last scan which was 11th percentile for femur but ignored as they didn't pay it any attention but this time (below 5th percentile for femur and same for humerus) they're concerned too :/

@Vimto1991 So good to hear that you are feeling better and that you managed to bring your mat leave and hols forward. Not much longer ☺️
@destiEos I'm thinking of you. Try to stay positive. He is probably just growing at his own pace. My ultrasounds in week 28 and 29 were already quite different. Sending you a hug.
@Prema112 😂
@PeeAche2 My partner actually said the same. Being a bit sad that he will never be able to share that experience of growing a human.

How can you tell they are having hiccups? Or when did it start? Not sure I have felt anything like that yet.
I will finally request physio. My sciatic pain is killing me. 😣

@Annabell1 thanks! ☺️ Hiccups are like little kicks that almost feel like a heart beat, they are rhythmic unlike actual kicks and can go on for quite some time! 🙈
I woke at 3:30 to pee and baby had hiccups. I feel so bad for them haha!
They’ve been quiet - or I’ve not noticed them much this morning since I’m at work, although they kicked up a storm at 6am when I was woken by the cats 🙈 stupid animals.

With everyone on the anxiety front am finding this last bit so nerve wracking especially with movements I was in with reduced movements on Monday then very active Tuesday Wednesday and seems abit quieter today but still getting movements so going to give him abit of time as he was very active at 5am this morning.

Well I'm off for a CT scan as they are worried about a clot 😕
Fingers crossed all ok

@unknownscot good luck hope all is ok. What has made them think you have a clot ?

@unknownscot hope you're ok x

I've been very short of breath, and now have a swollen and crampy leg.

Had a chest X-ray and a CT just there.

@unknownscot Thinking of you and hope everything is ok xx

@unknownscot I hope you're okay.xxx

@unknownscot Good luck! Aargh, what a medical roller coaster ride this is.

Should I be buying my baby a sleeping bag? I haven't.

What's the "done thing?"

I'd like to know the answer to that too @PeeAche2 - with our babies being born in the summer I have no idea whether a sleeping bag is necessary or not. Found the gro company guidance really helpful though, can't remember who posted but thanks for that!

I totally understand the feeling like it's all on your shoulders, DH can't fully understand of course. Funeral for his nan is in a couple of weeks and I don't want to go and in fact really don't want him to go either - at 34 weeks I'm just worried about - well everything now! And he's insisting he's going. I'm hoping the next scan is fine 🤞🏼, if it's not in putting my foot down.

Thanks @Annabell1 appreciate it, am pushing through today and then I can spend a few days chilling with baby and hopefully getting him to stretch and name himself longer 🙏🏻

@unknownscot is everything ok? Hope you're doing ok - am sat in the dentist's office thinking of you 💕

Also baby has hiccups right now and I'm worried people can see him pulsing in the dentist's waiting room 😂😢