Due September 2022 (Thread 5!)

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Continuing on from thread 4!

@amorningperson I'm definitely over eating too!! I really need to start back on my fitness pal. Also starting pregnancy yoga from next week. Definitely going back to the gym too and also swimming.

@petitlapin1 what sort of pain you having? I had a huge dinner last night and then lay down, was being so lazy and I had stomach pain last night which stopped me from sleeping. I think tho it was stomach pain from overeating and then not moving.

@SoOverThisCrap go for the scan for your own peace of mind. The worry isn't worth it. I don't think men understand we think about it 24/7!!! I'd go yourself xx

@petitlapin1 I don't have any experience of this but I hope all goes ok. Abdominal pains may well be to do with everything stretching and moving about x

@SoOverThisCrap I definitely think you should go! Hopefully the in laws will be sympathetic if you explain your reasoning, but if not then they'll just have to suck it up. No-one else's opinion matters. If you want to go then go! Maybe your DH is taking their possible opinion into too much consideration and it's clouding his view, especially if like you say he's clearly nervous too ♥️ I bet he does want to go deep down. He also can't ask you if everything is okay with baby then dismiss a scan... mother's instinct is good but you don't have X-ray vision into your uterus! 😉

@petitlapin1

Abdo pain since yesterday lunchtime so going to get checked out at the hospital today. Anyone needed to do this before and have an idea of what they do? Is it likely to be a scan or monitoring? I'm anticipating a lot of sitting around- what do others do to control the anxiety in waiting rooms?

Bless you, hope there isn't too much waiting around. I don't have experience of this per se, but I have waited around in hospitals an awful lot over the past month or so - my saviour was playing solitaire on my phone. Completely mindless but good to focus on at the same time.

I always said I'd get DH to get me a magazine but never bothered as I was so worried (I was waiting for a CVS the firs two times, then an amnio when they couldn't do CVS, and am scared of needles so found it hard to concentrate on anything - though it was actually completely fine in the end!).

So my top tip is brainless mobile games! 😂

Hope it all goes well xx

@HaresHoping thanks, mindless phone games are go!

@ShiningStarz Like trapped wind. Definitely hoping it is trapped wind- I can deal with the embarrassment, but if I don't get it checked out then I'll be so anxious for the next 4 weeks.

@SoOverThisCrap I'd be going for the scan too. 2 of my previous losses were MMC an I'm all for early reassurance now. (As evidenced by my huge anxiety issues and current attendance at the day unit! 🤦

Thank you @ShiningStarz it is definitely something us women think about all the time! X

@HaresHoping yes I think he wants to go too, I know he gets nervous about the scans too.
I think my in laws will be supportive, I will have a proper chat with DH later on. Like you say, no one has x-ray vision!

Thank you @petitlapin1 I'm sorry to hear about your previous MMCS, I hope everything goes ok today. Definitely better to get it checked out though x

@SoOverThisCrap

I've very pleased I took the advice on here and called the midwife on Friday because yesterday was another day where we didn't have any post!

I have a bit of a dilemma - I've booked a private gender scan for next Sunday (well I've paid the deposit) but DH can't quite understand why I want one. He thinks I'm just worrying unnecessarily and that I should just wait the 4 and a bit weeks for the 20 week scan. For a bit of context I found out last year at 6 weeks we were expecting twins. At about 10 weeks I had a gut feeling that I wanted a private scan to check all was ok but DH managed to talk me out of it. Didn't want to take the risk of potentially catching covid by going too far, that it would be a waste of money, that he was sure everything was fine, etc especially as I had typical pregnancy symptoms including awful morning sickness.
However, when I went for my screening scan at 13 weeks we discovered I'd had a MMC and that they'd both stopped growing at 10 weeks and sometimes I wonder if I'd just had the private scan at 10 weeks like I'd wanted then I would have found this out sooner, although rationally I know that even if I'd had a scan then they may well both have still been ok at that point as I don't know at which point into the 10 weeks they'd stopped growing...

I still have pregnancy symptoms with this pregnancy and I know they can ease off at this stage but due to the MMC there is a part of me that just doesn't trust my body.

I'd like the scan next Sunday (also because I'm impatient and want to know the gender) but I don't drive so DH will have to take me (which he is happy to do) BUT he doesn't want to tell his parents about the scan as he thinks they'll think it's a waste of time so we won't be able to leave DD with them, which will mean taking her with us. I don't feel comfortable about this just in case...

I have my midwife appointment tomorrow afternoon so if I get to hear the heartbeat (I'll be 15 weeks and 4 days) then I think I'd feel more comfortable about taking DD to the scan, but I just feel so unsure.

DH says not to worry and that I shouldn't need the scan but at the same time he was fretting about the screening scan, asking me every few days if I'd had the results yet, and he also keeps asking if I feel like everything is ok in general with the baby so I know he's anxious too, which is why I'm a bit annoyed he's dismissive of the scan as he's clearly also worried about this pregnancy.

Sorry for rambling on! 😂

I have a very similar situation to you. I can't offer you a solution but don't want you to feel alone with only an anxious mind for company.

I had MMC in my first pregnancy which was discovered at the 12 week scan, however I knew there was something not quite right going on despite never being pregnant before. I have since had DD.

I've got a private scan booked for Thursday as I'm desperate to find out what I'm having to build the bond with baby. I'm scared to let myself get attached. My parents can't look after DD whilst we are having our scan, for a while I thought I would have to take her in with us. Luckily one of my best friends has offered to look after DD. I haven't even told DD that I'm expecting yet.

I think you should go @SoOverThisCrap. It will put your mind at rest a bit.

My private scan is in an hour. I am so nervous but I also couldn’t NOT have a scan at this point as the wait until the 20 week one is killing me…

@BlueSky57

I think you should go *@SoOverThisCrap*. It will put your mind at rest a bit.

My private scan is in an hour. I am so nervous but I also couldn’t NOT have a scan at this point as the wait until the 20 week one is killing me…

I hope your scan goes well 😊 I know what you mean about the long wait to the 20 week scan x

Good luck @BlueSky57 , let us know how you get on xxx

Good luck @BlueSky57 hope all goes well at your private scan, how far along are you? Are you going to find out the sex? x

@TotoAnnihiliation I'm sorry to hear of your previous MMC, I hope your scan goes well on Thursday. X

@BlueSky57 how exciting!! I'm having quite a few scans due to being high risk with previous diabetes and emergency c section. Not sure I could have gone from 12-20 without a scan! Enjoy

@petitlapin1 I don't think I can do big meals anymore! I'm sure it is just trapped wind. I went to loo couple times this morning and felt better after, I'm sure constipation is one of those yukky side effects!

@Poppypip1 my glucose test is not until 21 weeks but I have a feeling I will have GD as I have similar symptoms to yours - especially thirst no matter how much I drink and I always drink some 3l a day 🥺

Homeward with antibiotics for presumed UTI. Phew!
Amazing care from the day unit- even a quick scan for reassurance for me. Urine samples, blood pressure/pulse/temp, scan, bloods, speculum and swabs, doctor examination- when I was wondering what to expect it definitely wasn't all that lot!!

Baby was very settled (he/she doesn't like moving on scans! Will have to have something fizzy before the 20 week one!) but staff made sure I could see and hear the heartbeat.

Good luck for your scan @BlueSky57!

@petitlapin1 I'm so pleased that everything is ok! It sounds like they were very thorough with their testing, which is great, and it's great that you got to have a scan and see/hear the heartbeat 🥰

Getting a bit antsy today. Thought I'd maybe felt baby a bit but haven't for sure. Haven't really got much of a bump but I am really fat so could just be that. Just over 2 weeks til 20 week scan. Can't really shell out for a private scan as they're so expensive. Just a bit worried....

No pain, or bleeding though. So I guess I should assume everything is fine. Just feel a bit meh!

@stimpyyouidiot given my post today, I know exactly how you feel. I can't really afford my private scan, they are so expensive, but maybe try and get one for peace of mind if you can? I will just have to be really tight with my money for the rest of the month.
Not much advice to offer, just sending hugs as I know how you feel....

I know how you feel @stimpyyouidiot. I'm absolutely sick as a dog this weekend, not pregnancy related but some sort of head cold, body chills. Been sat on the sofa all weekend feeling like death warmed up and dwelling on baby. Its so long until my scan on 10th May (!!) but can't justify the private scan cost. I'd also love to know the gender. Since the nub people predicted a girl my head is spinning and I'd love to be able to buy something or look at some stuff to get excited. Not that I'd be upset having a third boy! Just would need to be much better prepared for a girl in terms of clothes etc 💜 I'm also overweight, paranoid about how much I've put on to date and generally feeling like a crap mum ATM as DH has done everything this weekend for the boys I'm putting it down to a bad day. Fingers crossed tomorrow I wake up feeling better and can shake the gloom off.

Sending hugs to those struggling with the waiting ATM 💐 and goodluck to those with upcoming scans

Thank you @SoOverThisCrap and @EverydayIsPJday

The waiting is hard! I've been very cool and mostly anxiety free until now. 20th April isn't far away but it feels like it is!

I can't remember who it was up thread who suggested a fitness club - but I think it's a brilliant idea. I think there are quite a few of us who want to get motivated and could do with some companionship.