Minsters Side Car - A few more bumps have now turned into babies - Thread 6

[larrythelizard]

A little summary of the crew so far - all welcome!

Probably missing a couple of ladies but thread 5 is almost full...

Babies due in 20200

@crazydoglady 28 January 💜
@Haiyaa 1 February 💛
@becarefuloutthere 22 February 💜
@Lexber 20 April 💜💙
@DKDK123 12 May 💜
@bez91 14 May 💛
@Minster2012 22 May 💜 (C-section the week before)
@whatwonder 5 June 💛
@feliznavidad2 5 July 💜
@SWAttempting 23 July (will be delivered in June).
@paintfairy 24 July 💛
@Vil10 1 August 💛
@Juno231 12 August 💜
@kaylsd 16 August 💛
@larrythelizard 20 August 💛

Previous bumps that have made an appearance:

@Kirky658 11 August 2021 💜
@Kate105 14 October 2021 💙
@Justanothercyster 10 November 2021 💜
@2020Mission 27 December 2021 💙
@blackcurrantqueen 17 January 2022 💜

@Juno231 thanks 😊 my nursery pic had the eviction notice in front of it 😂
No, it'll be feb still as induction starts on Friday so I reckon she'll be here Monday latest. Great news on the house and scan date! Don't worry about the weight gain, part and parcel of growing life inside of you ☺️

Totally agreeing with @becarefuloutthere about
you not worrying about weight gain @Juno231, I'm really excited to hear about the builders & if you can get it done before baby that would be immense but I'm not a fan of the DH response to how long, it's def like @bez91 said an ego thing but it totally makes it awkward

Scan date buddy @Juno231 ☺️

Omg yes @paintfairy please tell me the dining table is clear??? (She says with a kitchen dining table that IS THE dumping ground & currently you can barely see table underneath my paperwork. I have always used non bio so that's what I do, & then DS had horrendous eczema so was even more careful. However the one I use is a "cheap one" but animal friendly, vegan friendly & no fragrance & it's surcare from sainsburys or some cheap discount shops even sell it

@Franklydear that's fab well done!

@larrythelizard that's what I thought about the getting home safely but we were told before they had to check baby was safely in a car seat 🤷🏼‍♀️weird! Note to add to list, "find newborn inserts" for car seat I can't believe you are on 3 seats before 3?!

@kaylsd I was the same once I announced our struggles I found out so many friends and family who had either m/c or had fertility problems that I didnt know of. I know not everyone does feel comfortable talking about it which is totally their right, but I think its a good thing the more people can be open and honest about struggles the more others will realise they're not alone.

@bez91 spooky on the nail front, I had to get a new tyre this week as I had 3 nails in mine! The guy in the garage said it looked deliberate tho like someone's done it not just a random roll over them, can't think who I've pissed off or why someone would just randomly do it but I definitely wasn't best pleased at forking out for a new tyre 😤

@becarefuloutthere gutting when you had a particular date in mind but all will be forgotten once baby's in your arms. And bonus on the nails 😁

@minster2012 yeay on the new mum friend! I need to work on building my real life mum tribe with similar age kids.

@paintfairy I started washing DS baby clothes in fairy non bio when he was wee for the first few months then tried with my normal whatevers on offer washing capsules and he didn't have any reactions or anything so kept with that. I think the non bio stuff is supposed to be gentler and less likely to irritate.....or maybe it's the other way round, I can't remember I really need to look it up before I wash this one's clothes.

@Franklydear amazing that your talents getting out there and you've items in a real shop, well done you!

@juno231 great on the extra scan, gives you something else to break up the time. And house renovations sound promising! I'm wondering if your OHs friends have had problems too and that's why they're asking how long it took to see if what they've experienced is normal as its quite a random question to ask. 🤔

I had an appointment with occupational health at work today, just so that work would have an idea of how long it would be safe for me to keep working before switching to working from home. After hearing my history the woman said today is your last day in the class it's too risky you will be working from home from now on! Was not expecting to be pulled so soon. I felt so bad as my kids need time to prep for things and instead I had to go back and tell them today was the last day they'd see me for a year, there were tears from some and it nearly set me off. I know it is safest option for me and there is work I can do from home as we have some learners who are still doing online learning (even tho I hate doing it online), but I am going to miss my wee class, I thought they'd tell me to work till about 28/30 weeks not you end today! But the other part of me is relieved as it definitely has been a struggle the past week or two and I know its only going to get worse.

@paintfairy you might find it better/easier to go for crop top things rather than nursing bras which in my humble opinion are disgusting, vile and never fit. Also non wired bras are not ok past a D cup... I used to be a bra fitter for my student job so I feel like I'm qualified to say this 😂 I got some stretchy bralettes from H&M for cheaps and they were far more successful. More versatile too! I also have very little in terms of nursing outfits. I just pull up my top and jumper! Also very unfussy with washing powder (has to be powder for washable nappies) - whatever is on offer usually works for us! Although do tend to use non bio.

Mildly interested in the overflow of girls. Assuming TSD turns out to be straight he will have his pick of the ladies 🤔 assuming the ladies are very unfussy and fancy a short, grumpy gremlin... My MIL informed me that she wasn't going to pass on a pink potty to us from TSD's older cousins as she "didn't want him to turn into a P**F" so I kind of want him to be gay to spite her now. She's lovely most of the time but also really fucking ignorant. Deliberately dressed him in pink next time she was looking after him 😂

@Kate105 I think TSD will have his pick of the lady boom 💥 cos he'll have got out all his annoying ness on you over the child/teenager years & you will have moulded him into a lovely gent...that's my little mantra anyway. And I've got molke non wired bras & my boobs are a 34H or HH atm 😳

@DKDK123 jesus lady who you been pushing off so much for 3 nails??? But did you see I've also had 2 new tyres in 3 weeks due to 2 punctures. Bastard. I'd also get really upset over leaving straight away, and especially as your kids have special needs am I right in thinking? But it's good for you though hun xx

@Juno231 yeah I think that's odd people have asked. No one has actually asked us that so far yet. I'll be honest and just say it took an age. 🤣 But we've not actually said to anyone it was ivf. The conversation just has never even gone that way. And the kitchen table right now is horrific @Minster2012 , because I dumped a load of stuff on it earlier. 🤣 And yeah the wash powder i just wasn't sure. I was only thinking about it because the 2nd hand stuff I've bought I'll probably rinse through and I suddenly thought- oh in what @DKDK123 and didn't want to do something I shouldn't. Is fabric conditioner allowed?
Crap about the nails in the tyre but that does sound odd. Probably a good thing about wfh though, for sure!
@Kate105 oh god don't say that. I'm currently in 34dd and struggling. I just don't know what to get and I don't want to waste money! But I need comfort! TSD will privacy not stay short. My brother was. And now he's bloody huge and taller than my mum and dad! Like 6ft.
@bez91 it'll be summer so difficult, but I was thinking long and short sleeve vests, sleep suits and hats. Surely that'll do? 🤣 The prolapse thing sounds terrifying but hopefully no one will be having that!

Must be tyre season as we also had to have 2 new tyres last week. 🤣
I also think I have felt the baby move. 🤔 Its so hard to tell and every time I'm like is it? But just now I'm sure it was. Kind of feels like a strong pulse, but not rhythmical obviously. Then you focus on it, but it's gone. 🤣 Odd. I have wondered but when you don't know what you are feeling for it seems impossible to tell, until its happened too many times to just be something random.

Thank you all, it’s all very exciting, I am only skimming your bus, we are talking on the bus, it’s about time to stop ttcing, last cycle before yet another conversation where no doubt dh will try to extent the deadline, again,....he’s agreed on the zip, but hasn’t talk to the gp about it yet, think he’s hoping for an accident

@DKDK123 ahh nails/screws seem to have gotten everyone, I'm convinced it's just to all the fence damage 😆 that's sensible on the work front but frustrating as they could have planned it better but at least you have someone in your side. I need to have the conversation next week to stop visits, my work radius extends up to about a 50 minute drive in each direction but after this week's appointment I don't want to be too far away now.

@Kate105 a potty 🤦🏼‍♀️ Jesus. My MIL sounds like she'd be quite similar.
TSD will definitely have his pick of the ladies.

@paintfairy more than enough 😆 I'm going to buy nappies today then I'm done ie tied over for week 1. Sounds like it could be movement 🥰

Also on the boy front, on the multiple scans on Tuesday I'm convinced I accidentally saw balls and a Willy 😆 could just be a swollen vagina but now I feel it's playing on my mind and I'll be in shock if it's a girl

Just popping on this morning to announce that TODAY IS A GOOD DAY because I am finally getting my hair coloured for the first time since TSD arrived and fucked up my social life...

BYE BYE GREYSSSSSSSSSSSSSS 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳 my hairdresser texted me last night to remind me and I was just, oh you don't need to remind me of this I will be banging down the door to get in 😂😂😂😂

Also pleas enjoy this thread 😂😂😂 http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/4488954-to-ask-if-you-wash-your-bed-linen-every-time-you-have-sex

@Kate105 yay enjoy your hair! Post a pic if you can. Lol to that thread, I started it yesterday, good to see it's picked up momentum! 😁

@Kate105 ooh show us how it turns out!

Well a lady on the July/August group who is two weeks ahead of me has already had two cervix scans and has been asked to come in today for a stitch already - it's made me realise I never got my obstetrics appointment through! Emailed my midwife last night and got a response at 8 am to say there are no bookings on the system for me so she'll investigate... Ffs.

@paintfairy @DKDK123 yeah weirdly OHs friends have been really into the pregnancy info overall - at the shoot last month they were asking so many questions about the scans, how I feel, what my food aversions/cravings have been. A lot of them are single or unmarried so not in the TTC business yet. I was pleasantly surprised though!

Decided to go for a sleepyhead/dockatot instead of a Moses basket and picking one up from FB marketplace locally after work today!

Hi ladies sorry for being a shit passenger I've been struggling with sinus headaches these last few days and just feel exhausted by 6 o'clock!! However house things seem to be moving, we picked a new solicitor and he seems great, he's really getting the ball rolling and is telling us with cases similar to ours, with no delays or setbacks he's hoping for a 6-8 weeks turn around!! Which is so much sooner than I thought, so I'm starting to get slightly excited! My 20 week scan was supposed to be on 15th March early morning, which will be my 25th birthday but I think OH has something planned because he asked if we could possibly change the time to after dinner, I rang and they can only change the date, it's only the day after though so no major change!!

One of my friends has lent me her book all about breastfeeding called "Milk it" not sure if anyone on here has read it?? I haven't started it yet but will let you all know what I think!

@Juno231 I've been looking at the dockatots too, lots of my friends who have them and love them have said midwives and health visitors really don't like them, however my friend is a midwife and she's just had her second baby and she loves hers, she said the health visitor was really rude and patronising towards her because she'd put the dockatot in the next to me crib just for somewhere to store in during the day, baby didn't sleep in it in there, and apparently the HV really didn't like it but don't think she knew that my friend is actually a midwife herself! I'll be getting one though!

@Vil10 brilliant news on the house! Terrible that you ended up having to get a new solicitor though 🙈. I've heard good things about milk it, I'll put it on my list! And yeah I think HV's disapprove of babies sleeping in the dockatots as the fabric isn't permeable enough I think? So there's a risk of suffocation. I'm not planning on leaving the baby unsupervised (much) in it or to sleep through the night in it so am happy to take that minor risk 😅

Such a sensible response from @bez91 there instead of conspiracy theories about people putting nails in tyres on purpose!

I did the other week @paintfairy but it's gone again now, didn't expect it to feel it so early but obv now trying not to worry about them going away. I described it to DH as a random fizzy feeling in my pelvis.

Ooh possible team blue then @bez91 - you've said that for a while!

Jeez @Kate105 your MIL is something, DS enjoyed doing prétend make up and pretend having his hair straightened last week 😂

Hope you enjoyed the hairdresser @Kate105 and that's it's all swishy and beautiful!

@DKDK123 if wfh stops you heading into hospital sooner it's a win/win surely despite not exactly what you wanted? Also allows for sneaky naps if needed.

Im also pretty sure I should have had a consultant appt by now too @Juno231- going to mention it to the MW next week.

Excellent news on the house @Vil10 will continue to keep fingers crossed!

Feel a bit light headed and weird again today, had a nap after the gym (which thankfully was a fairly low intensity one) and planning another one shortly!

Have managed to practice the 'I'm pregnant' conversation with a colleague, I need to do it with my manager now...maybe tomorrow!

@Juno231 @Vil10 Sonia a dockatot like a sleepyhead? I've got a sleepy head & im the same thoughts as you @Juno231**.

Good thing you noticed your appointment hadn't come through @Juno231 it's so annoying chasing but we have to 🙄it's good I guess his mates are interested (or at least sounding vaguely interested!)

@Vil10 great news on the house, it's def possible to buy that quickly, we've bought one house in the past in 6 weeks then this one our fab solicitor turned round in just under 8 weeks to get it into the stamp duty 30th June deadline, it could've been quicker we were all ready the week before but the sellers wanted as much time as possible to move. Oooo I wonder what OH has planned?! Sounds fab

@Kate105 WHOOP WHOOP for hair!! Yes to self care!! God I saw that thread earlier, can you imagine for TTC???

@bez91 I am in awe of hot restraint, or is it just I have no faith in my DH in that I know I have a section so things like nappies & provisions I'd rather have in than have to send him in case he comes back with the wrong thing 🤣5 outfits?! You put me to shame even from the amount we kept from DS!

And movements for @paintfairy & @larrythelizard that's so good! They prob were them moving, it's so weird at first but then again I didn't feel movements til late I think 🤔 @larrythelizard think you need to stick to low intensity & I think Friday is a good day to tell a manager. Maybe in the afternoon 😂

@Kate105 happy hair day 🥳 no better feeling than getting it done after having a baby!

@Juno231 ooh we have a sleepyhead from DD just need to wash the cover. When she was a baby there wasn't advise not to sleep overnight in them and they were deemed safe 🤦🏼‍♀️ but like you say as long as there is some supervision they're not the devil!

@Vil10 great news on the house, let's hope that comes to fruition, that'd be great with plenty of time before baby arrives. I got a free Audible book and downloaded Breastfeeding Made Simple (Nancy Mohrbacher) I did BF DD for a few weeks but we really struggled with her breathlessness because of her heart condition and later found lip tie. The audiobook is good as it has real life problems that may occur and how to troubleshoot whereas I struggled for some of that advise from midwives/HVs etc it's American but the best one I've found yet 😊

@larrythelizard love how you're practising your conversation in advance, do it now lady!

@Minster2012 oh by outfits I mean like sleepsuits 😂 not like an actual outfit but I don't plan on leaving the house for a couple of weeks after the birth anyway. I trusted DH when DD was born and he did ok bringing back some pink sleep suits 😆 I need to do a you also and go through stuff in the loft

@Kate105 god i forgot to comment on the pink = gay comment 🤣 she can't even be that old surely??

@larrythelizard might be worth chasing it now?

@Minster2012 at yes sleepyhead changed their brand to dockatot.... In hindsight maybe because you're now no longer meant to let them sleep in them?

@paintfairy how exciting if that was the start of feeling movements btw!

@minster2012 are you feeling them regularly now?

@Juno231 well we originally were going to stay with the solicitor we used to sell our house, even though she was lovely she was so hard to get hold of and took days to get back to us about minor questions!! So we thought we'd be better off going for someone with more urgency! I'm the same, baby won't be spending time in the sleepyhead unsupervised etc so I'm happy to get one!

@larrythelizard Thankyou! Definitely take a nap if you feel light headed! I felt like that yesterday morning, was awful!

@Minster2012 yeah they're the same, dockatot is just the new name for sleepyhead that's all! Wow that's crazy!! I really hope that's the case for us!! He's so good at planning things for my birthday but he's so secretive with plans so I won't know until the day, at least it's only 3 weeks away!!

@bez91 that sounds good too!! I'll have to have a look at that! I love reading when I get into a good book! Also how're you feeling after your appointment, was it yesterday? I did read but completely forgot to reply!! What a whirlwind it must've been for you!!

@paintfairy @larrythelizard I'm pretty sure I've had flutters too, a few days last week and then a few nights this week too, at first I passed it off as something else but I'm guessing it must be, it feels kinda like little bubbles, only last a few seconds, but it's exciting!! I wonder when we'll start to feel proper movements!!

@Minster2012 yea they have autism so the more time you can give them to prepare for changes the better. I know it can't be helped leaving so abruptly but I still feel bad for them.

@paintfairy I used the fairy fabric softener too (and again switched to whatever was on offer after a few months). Sounds like you probably did feel baby move 😁 It's so gentle in the earlier days like little flutters that it does make you question whether it was or not but don't worry as they get stronger there's definitely no questioning things. I have a regular little tap dancer on my hands at the minute and it's bloody sore at times (but very reassuring so I won't complain!).

@Franklydear it's a tough one when one of you don't want to give up and the other one is physically and mentally done with it all. It won't be easy to come to a solution that pleases both of you, big hugs.

@bez91 I think you definitely have grounds for asking not to be working so far away given the circumstances. Ask your consultant for back up if work don't cooperate, when things started to get further along with DS I was told not to travel any further than 30mins from the hospital (that's how far away my house is), so yours might give you a similar distance that you could go back to work with. Tho hopefully they'll be reasonable and agree in the first place.

@Kate105 Woo hoo for new hair day 🥳 I bet you'll feel amazing and like a new woman after it's done. 😁

@Juno231 that's lovely that his friends are so interested even tho they're not ttc themselves yet. Hopefully they'll be just as interested in baby once it's here too and they can do dad/guys day out with the baby to give you some rest.

@Vil10 great news on the house progress! I'm intrigued to see what your OH has planned for your birthday, glad you don't need to wait too much longer for the scan. You'll need to let me know how the breastfeeding book is, I've started to look up some as I really want to bf this time round so want to arm myself with as much info as poss to make it successful but haven't bought any yet. Going to download the suggestion from @bez91 too.

Snow day here today so DD has had great fun pelting me with snowballs. I did feel a bit bad tho as he wanted to build a snowman and I couldn't bend down to help roll the snow or pull him on his sledge 😔 hopefully the snow will still be there when DH comes home from work. After he came in and had some hot choc to heat up he sat doing some arts and crafts and appeared with a picture he'd drawn of him and the baby, he even wrapped baby in a blanket in the pic and drew big smiles on both their faces saying they were both happy to meet each other, it was very sweet. 🥰

I just wrote a post and lost it and that really pisses me off! 🤬🤬 Crappy bloody phone and website.

To summarise- we all probably are feeling the baby but it's so slight and you don't know what you expect, that you dismiss it for ages. However @DKDK123 is getting the full experience now. I am going to buy some baby safe washing stuff to start with and then see how it goes. @Vil10 now hopefully has a decent solicitor! @Kate105 has good hair. And that thread- no i don't wash my bed after sex but then we don't get it on the sheets. @bez91 i plan on never leaving the house also. 🤣 We definitely have no snow here!

I have now collected my accidental pram purchase and it's gone to mum's. Carrycot part never used and still boxed and the rest was only used about 3 times. So complete bargain!

@bez91 I def counts sleepsuit as an outfit (for me too!) so we've got loads but then again DS was reflux baby & got through 3 things a day easy 😬plus I also think you need to be asking about working closer DEF

@paintfairy loving your summary 😂, my first movement were bubbles @Vil10 but def gone as soon as I concentrated which was frustrating 😂that's really good on the pram too

@Juno231 yes feeling the movements regularly, well, a lot, not like I could "count" but def feel a lot & LOADS at night. They are still more like "movements" than kicks but there were 3 def kicks last night but I couldn't see them as they were under my bump & im now getting a bump shelf I can't see under 😂and that makes sense on the sleepyhead. I've still got one I intend to use with supervision

@DKDK123 I couldn't believe how much snow you had when I saw Insta, CRAZY!!! Looks so much fun. We had some sleet & rain. OMG that's so cute with the picture, we drew a family the other day & it's similar it made me cry! I'm sorry you didn't have time to prepare the kids, it does seem a bit abrupt 😬

OMG that thread btw you all know I'm of lake spermo & vag cave fame so I'd be forever washing sheets when TTC, I'm not exactly a slattern (probs am) but DEF not each time

My back is KILLING me today. Like actually making me go "OWWW" out loud & double over in pain. This pregnancy malarkey, not fun

Am I right in thinking you went for anBugaboo Fox 2? I wanna try one out as we're v rural now and need to decide on a pushchair at some point. Out of interest, how much did you get it for?

We had an Uppababy Cruz with DS but it's not ideal for where we live now (no suspension/smallish wheels...)

@paintfairy that was for!