Due June 2022 (thread seven!)

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@czycoup hope you are doing as OK as you can be at this time ❤❤

Ladies any recomendations for baby towels? Where to buy good quality and soft ones

@Octoblockisadick
Im a bit confused how to collect the packs. Do u just show the vouchers at the shop tills and they bring out the packs for u?

@MrsNT
Go to boots pharmacy point, not the main till and just ask for the pack and they will scan the barcode on the app xx

@destiEos Thanks a lot. So I might take a look at size 0-1m for newborns then as well.
@pregnancydiaries All the best for your scan tomorrow.

I'm thinking of you @czycoup.☘️

Hi guys, sorry ive missed so
many messages over the passed couple days, hardly been getting any sleep, does anyone have really awful backpain? My lower back is in agony and it makes it hard to walk ive just been waddling about for a week or so i feel like a moron😂 Anyone have any tips to help ???

@jennixxx 19+4 & I've been up all night with back pain! Made my other half massage it at 5am before work 😅 according to the baby apps there's a big growth spurt between 19-21 weeks so I'm putting it down to that! My sides ache too!

@jennixxx
Have you considered obstetric physio? I went yesterday and they were great. X

Well the inevitable power struggle with the in-laws has already begun. They wanted to stay with us in our house for a week about 4weeks after birth (they are from abroad). I barley know them, there is a language barrier and mil never listens to anyone. I'm going to be a physical mess, fragile and sleep deprived and potentially depressed. I asked if they could stay in a bnb for 4 days instead just for first visit as it was going to be a very difficult time. This blew up into a full row, we hate them, they are a burden, they will never see their grandchild and they also dislike me now. So I have been up all night with stress and my feelings are hurt that they don't have any respect or empathy for me. I feel like a fucking vessel whose only purpose is to deliver everyone's heir. My needs are not important.

@Turniptracker I’m so sorry! I had similar issues (not with my in-laws, but my parents!) and honestly you are doing the right thing. Stay firm, and do not give in. You will not regret it in the long run. We had a week’s visit in the end as a compromise, a good few weeks after baby was born. I thought it would be a nightmare and it was. Honestly, I don’t think anyone benefited from it. And I have so much sympathy for how you’re feeling - the guilt and stress are horrible, especially when hormonal. I don’t want to derail the thread but can PM you if helpful. My advice though is - do not budge. They’ll say you’ll need help and they’ll guilt you that way - what you need is time to bond with your baby, get to know him or her and learn how to be parent and child from each other, without interference, other people telling you what to do, vying for time with the baby, bossing you around and guilting you.

Is anyone else feeling sore, out of breath, and generally achy fast more of the time than they were expecting? I feel so pathetic at only 20 weeks, and slightly worried about what's to come. The 15 min walk to the train this morning was about as much as I could handle.

I was planning on having my parents here after the birth as they live abroad and I think I'll need my mother. However sometimes I wonder if it will be too much for me and how I would be feeling. I'm so conflicted with this matter.

I think having them stay elsewhere feels like a good plan - then they can be around as little or much as is helpful. Wondering how we'll play this too as my folks are at the other end of the country.

Hi all, we had our anomaly scan yesterday. Baby doesn't seem to be growing brilliantly, but we are at least still within 'normal' values. We got a little wave, and plenty of movement.

We have no idea about the sex, as DP wants to be surprised, and after three failed pregnancies, all we really hope for is a healthy baby. I have to say I got huge boy vibes from baby. It just came across like a little dude.

I still don't feel hugely secure, but at least we have made it this far. Hopefully, it will now get easier to join in with the fun on getting ready for baby's arrival.

Wishing all others with scans still to come so much good luck with yours!

Ladies i have my whooping cough vaccination today. Did any of u get symptoms etc afterwards or was it just pain in arm

Oh @Turniptracker that sounds really difficult! I think stick with what you want and ask them to not stay with you or be around for an entire month if that isn't what you think you will need at the time. Would your DH be able to talk them round? Babies get more interesting when they are a few months older anyway so surely they would get more quality time with their DGC once they are a couple of months old anyway!

We live in the same area as both sets of parents (we're the classic stereotype of leaving London and returning to your hometown to start a family) but I don't even want to think about whether we want them around or not. My Mum will either be absolutely fantastic or an absolute nightmare as she very much likes to do things her way.

@RoseValleyRambles I've started to feel quite achy recently. I think this growth spurt that they will be putting on is putting our bodies under more strain

@Lostintranslatio I’d say it depends on your relationship with your mother. You’ll know best of all of your mother is helpful or not. I knew mine would be tricky and she was, it was entirely predictable. I also knew that I’m the kind of person who likes to work out my own way of doing things and does not like being told what to do. I also don’t like sharing my personal space. All in all I had a pretty good idea in advance how it would go!!

@RoseValleyRambles, no not strange at all. I am also feeling the strain, and lose my breath more easily. It is a big job our bodies are doing!

My midwife said that walking is the best thing we can do fitness-wise, so you are doing great.

@EarlGreywithLemon I don't think the problem would be my parents, as they are not invasive at all. I know they would be a great help reg cooking, cleaning, etc. My concern is more for me and how I will cope after birth in general, as I admit I can get very cranky at times (sometimes I can even put up with myself 😂), and I'm afraid of ending up fed up and wanting everybody out of my house 😂😂

@MrsNT had my whooping cough on Monday and the flu yesterday. Just sore arms for both.

@4thtimethecharm Congratulations on your 20 weeks scan! Did they want you to come in for growth scans or did they say they were concerned? My little boy has always been small, he's around 25th percentile or less but they've never said they are worried so I try not to worry too (easier said than done) x

@MrsNT - Same as @Clomid1 for me - just sore arms for 24-48 hours and then only felt a bit of pain when I rubbed my arm at the injection site when putting body lotion on.

I’ve just filled up with fuel at Asda and while there thought I might pop in and have a little look at the baby clothes. There is currently a sale on clothing at my local store so I managed to pick up a few bits (sleep suits, long sleeve & short sleeve baby grows and a few other things) quite cheaply. I’m quite impressed with my surprise haul! Just thought it was worth mentioning in case anyone was due to go for a ship anytime soon.

Shop* - I suppose I should be relieved it didn’t auto correct to something else!!!

I’m interested to read there are other small babies on the thread. We haven’t been given an overall percentile just the individual ranges which were all under average except abdominal, which was bang in the middle. But the sonographer didn’t have concerns and said nearly all babies are within that broad range at this point! I think most of the growth happens from now on? Isn’t that what midwives measure your belly for from 25 week?

@Prema112, mine is on 15th for femur length. Growth is a sore point for us as we lost our previous baby at this stage due to an undiagnosed blood clotting issue on my side that messed with the placenta and hence affected baby. I have been on blood-thinning meds and baby aspirin from the very beginning to prevent this from happening again, and although baby is not growing as much as we had hoped for (I had secretly hoped to be above 20th centile), we are for now still in the green, and trying to count our blessings.

I am consultant-led this time around, and they don't seem concerned at the moment in the slightest. They just keep pressing me to keep on taking my meds (which I faithfully do). We do have additional growth scans scheduled from 28 weeks onwards. We just try to stay hopeful for now, and I try not to stress (and eat lots of food).