@Minster2012 @bez91 yip still majorly struggling with pregnancy insomnia. Have had it from 6weeks on, think baby must have a middle of the night party that I'm subconsciously aware of, I was the exact same with DS for the whole of his pregnancy. It's usually from around 2.30-4.30am fall back asleep for an hour then DS is awake, but up earlier today (1.
30) due to feeling sick 😴
@Juno231 cancelling the IVF and making your booking appointment, two great (even if scary feeling) steps in the right direction. Time to believe it now 😊
@feliznavidad2 how was the pregnancy yoga class? Glad to hear scan went well, going to be a long impatient 7 day wait for you to find our gender!
@vil10 lots of exciting appointments coming up for you!
Handhold for the scanxiety @sunbird24, we're all here for you today.
@larrythelizard sorry to say but mega headaches, nausea and fatigue are all classic pregnancy symptoms so yip just gotta ride it out but it will pass eventually. Don't worry about trying to eat well just eat whatever your body can manage for now. I ate mainly carbs 1st trimester and completely went off all fruit and salad, but my eating is swinging now more to healthy foods and finding it hard to stomach carbs, just go with the flow of what your body's saying at the time.
@paintfairy yea you can get the replacement mattresses for carry cots, moses baskets, cribs, cots etc easily enough if you get any of them 2nd hand. I usually just order mine from Amazon or argos, just measure the size for each thing they usually come in a standard one or two size choices so measure your item type in the size and you're good to go. Your most expensive one will be your cot mattress but the rest aren't that expensive maybe around £20 to replace. Car seat wise we started off with one car seat but soon got very fed up with the hassle of moving it car to car and ended up just getting one for each vehicle baby would be in. Remember some friends/family may give you vouchers or money when baby's born too so you could always start off with one car seat and put that towards a 2nd car seat that's what we did.
As for working from home with a baby, I think your OH underestimates how much his life is about to change with a baby 🙈😂 Yes you might hit it lucky and land with a quiet, placid baby that will lie there entertaining itself while you're on calls for some of the time but trying to juggle a child and work every day 5 days a week I think would be a struggle even with the most best behaved baby as you won't be able to give both work and your baby your full attention. And what if you're on an important call and baby started screaming the place down, which do you give your priority to, leave your baby distressed and screaming while you leave the room as you can't hear your call or tell your client you need to call them back and risk losing the client/being pulled up by your boss for being unprofessional 🤷♀️ Hopefully your DH is just having a wee mid pregnancy time wobble about finances and the reality of a baby, we all have the 'shit what have I done' moment at some point once you start to think about things like how your financial situation will change, but you make it work.
As for the going back full or part time although financially going back full time may make more sense you may decide nearer the time that part time suits you better in terms of work/life balance. I'd planned on going back full time before DS but changed my mind during mat leave and decided taking a financial cut for a few years but gpong part time and having more time to spend at home with him was better for me. Yip it sucks living off less wage but you make it work. Just wait till nearer the time and see how you feel. I think I'd have been too burnt out doing full time and raising a child and feel resentful at missing so much of him growing up, but loads of people manage it fine, it's just whatever works for you.
On the baby changing question we definitely used ours lots so I'd recommend one to save your back but I know of other friends who just changing on the floor worked fine for them. Tho if you end up needing a section for whatever reason you'd struggle to change on the floor for the first while, I'd def say in that case a changing unit is a must. Again you can pick them up real cheap 2nd hand. Most 2nd hand baby things are in excellent condition as they're used for a year or less till baby grows out of them. If you don't have the space for a changing unit you can also get the changing tables that clip onto the top of some cots. We had a changing unit for DS but as we're tighter for space this time round we got the cot with the top changer that clips on it.
@haiyaa don't worry I'm in the neurotic what if I die during my section club too 😂 I keep saying to DH things like if I die remember you have to do xyz (practical day to day things that men think just magically happen) have already contemplated writing him an if I die book of things he's to think about when raising the children. He just laughs and tells me not to be so morbid 🙈 And yip you're right on the steroid injections, they're the sorest jags I've ever had and needles don't usually bother me. Def not looking forward to having them again this time round!
Try not to worry too much on the hospital front tho, they'll still work to a ratio but if they're short staffed you may be transfered to a different hospital if their ratio limits are reached. With DS (precovid times) I was kept in hospital for a month before he was born and any extremely busy times they'd prepare me for the fact if things didn't quite down in the next few hours they were getting ready to transfer me to another hospital as they knew my case was high risk so didn't want to jeopardise me being in the ward when it was at full capacity incase something happened and they didn't have enough staff to attend to me. Luckily it never happened as any times of high demand seemed to simmer down again within a few hours or extra staff were brought in but it was good they were always very much aware of working within their limits, I think the same will be had just now with covid times if they're short staffed you may just get sent to a neighbouring hospital if need be.
My mum asked DS if he wanted to go for a sleepover so he's away to hers till Friday. 🥳 So DH and I had an impromptu date night last night and went out for dinner. I think sometimes you need a right good falling out to make things even better again afterwards, we had a great time 😂 As predicted there were loads of staff off work yesterday but luckily for me as I only work Mon-Wed I just had to do one day then off today. So glad as I was shattered by the end of the day, not looking forward to next week! As I'm off and child free today I'm going to get some glossing done as the doors and skirting are all badly needing done so best do it while there's no fear of sticky child handprints appearing elsewhere. Glossing and napping that'll be my rock n roll day today 😂