Due August 2022

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Hello,

Just found out we are pregnant after 13 months of trying - based on last period will be due august 19th.

Any others with similar time like to join to support one another?

@LMc1 I don't think I was prepared for quite how weird, frustrating and disconnected this stage would feel! It's so horrible to know I'll upset some people when I tell them. And at the same time, I keep stopping and thinking that the anxiety about that and all the feeling rubbish might not even be worth it because things could still go wrong!

I've watched a few first trimester vlogs recently and they have helped me to realise that that's all quite normal and things will start to feel a lot more normal and positive. I really want to fast forward this bit!

@LMc1 totally normal, it's about to turn your whole life upside down!

@LMc1 You’re not alone and I can totally relate to what you’re saying. I think @Mufflette hit the nail on the head saying how disconnected it feels. I feel lucky, worried, scared and sick (which I don’t know how much is morning sickness or stress and anxiety about the pregnancy and life!).

I think/hope when we all have our 12 weeks scans, we’ll feel more relaxed, confident and hopefully less poorly!

Thank you @Beth262 and @Dontsaykwen x

The back pain has gone thankfully but I'm still experiencing bleeding. I'm worried it's getting heavier and also feel like my boobs are not as sore anymore so I'm not feeling very positive this morning  I did get a call back from the EPU and they said it could be bleeding from my cervix as pregnancy causes more sensitivity and to phone back if needed. I'm going to monitor it today and call back later if it's any worse.

@LMc1 I totally get you. I think we also believe we should feel a certain way when we find out we're pregnant but in reality it's a massive bag of emotions!!

@StayWeird hopefully your having a better day today.

We had an early scan yesterday too which made things more real. I thought I was 8w but measured at 7+2. My periods haven't been as predictable lately so pleased I wasn't too far out. Happy we got to see a little "blob" with what sounded like a pretty strong heart beat .

I hope everyones enjoying their Sunday!

@StayWeird Fingers crossed all is ok for you. I bled on and off all the way through with DS so not always a need to worry but does put anxiety through the roof! Do call epu back if it doesn't improve or you're worrying a lot x

@surprised12 Good luck for your scan today 🤞 Meant to message you earlier this morning, but gosh have I been rough 🤢

Congratulations @RP90

Hope everyone is ok today!!

Just a weird question, but have any of you told anyone? With my daughter, I told my parents basically straight away, when we first found out, which was about 5 weeks. This time, I’m having major anxiety about telling them. I mean, my closest friends know, but for some reason, I feel I can’t tell them. I’m not sure if it’s because I know they aren’t big fans of my fiancé (different dad to my daughter), so I’m anticipating the reaction being less than positive, or if it’s something else. My mom doesn’t have the greatest track record for good initial responses to news - she usually finds the negative. And as I’m an older mother, I’m expecting doom and gloom around this pregnancy as a result. I’m 7 weeks now

Hi, I found out I was pregnant over Christmas and I have come to terms with my surprise pregnancy, at 37 with a 7 and 9 year old 😵‍💫 Now I’m getting quite excited! Due 22nd August

@Unsure1010 Congratulations. I'm 7+4 and an older mum (to be) too (39). I have only told my Mum so far. She is my best friend and she would've suspected when I didn't drink over Christmas and I felt bad leaving her in suspense. Other than that, we don't plan to tell anyone until 12 weeks scan.
I'm so sorry that you don't feel your mum will react positively, but if that's the case I just wouldn't tell her until you tell everyone else. At least that way, your fiancé and you can enjoy your little secret, and when you do tell everyone then hopefully you can use the positive reactions of others to over shadow the negative reactions that you don't want/need. 😊

Had my early scan today and it went really well! The scan lady was so lovely and re- assuring.
We saw the baby - measured at 7 weeks so I'm end of August due date at the minute.

We saw it's strong little heartbeat 💓

The scan lady thoroughly checked everything and really put my mind at ease. Up to now, everything is perfect!

@Unsure1010

Hope everyone is ok today!!

Just a weird question, but have any of you told anyone? With my daughter, I told my parents basically straight away, when we first found out, which was about 5 weeks. This time, I’m having major anxiety about telling them. I mean, my closest friends know, but for some reason, I feel I can’t tell them. I’m not sure if it’s because I know they aren’t big fans of my fiancé (different dad to my daughter), so I’m anticipating the reaction being less than positive, or if it’s something else. My mom doesn’t have the greatest track record for good initial responses to news - she usually finds the negative. And as I’m an older mother, I’m expecting doom and gloom around this pregnancy as a result. I’m 7 weeks now

We haven't told anyone either.

This will be my parents first grandchild - and I know they'll be happy. But not sure why, just don't want to tell them yet.

Sorry about your situation - maybe wait a few more weeks until you feel more settled. How did they react when they found out about your first?

congratulations @surprised12! glad all is okay and baby's doing well ♥️♥️

our due has changed slightly too after scan, we've gone from 16th Aug to 21st..

@surprised12
Congratulations. That must be very reassuring and exciting.

@surprised12 thanks so much. She was a bit hesitant and not super happy at first with my first, but came around in the end. She will be fine, it’s just always a bit hard telling her things.

Congratulations on your scan today, so exciting!!! I’ve got mine at 8 weeks next Saturday

Thought I was doing ok with nausea but it has hit badly today! Anyone else finding it worse with a mask on? Thought I might need to run to the loos in the supermarket earlier 🤮

Has anyone got twins run in their family's? I do but there hasn't been twins for 50 years so we are waiting on someone having them. Can't wait for my scan in 2 weeks time! X

@surprised12 Wonderful news

@mamaof2girls My DP is a twin but thankfully my scan only showed one baby Sounds like it's well overdue in your family!

@isonthecase I'm almost 10 weeks and I have had no nausea whatsoever. But man has it hit me today! Thankfully I've been on the sofa most of the day. I wouldn't have fancied my chances with a mask on tbh! 😆

@Beth262 yeah, bad timing to not be able to wear a mask! 🤦

@Beth262 yeah defo if long over due but I feel like I have hardly any symptoms feel sick sometimes and boobs feel abit heavy only thing I have is am constantly tired ( funny that I can't sleep right now though) tbh with my other 2 I didn't have any morning with them eaither! X

@Unsure1010

Hope everyone is ok today!!

Just a weird question, but have any of you told anyone? With my daughter, I told my parents basically straight away, when we first found out, which was about 5 weeks. This time, I’m having major anxiety about telling them. I mean, my closest friends know, but for some reason, I feel I can’t tell them. I’m not sure if it’s because I know they aren’t big fans of my fiancé (different dad to my daughter), so I’m anticipating the reaction being less than positive, or if it’s something else. My mom doesn’t have the greatest track record for good initial responses to news - she usually finds the negative. And as I’m an older mother, I’m expecting doom and gloom around this pregnancy as a result. I’m 7 weeks now

We were planning not to tell anyone until after the 12-week scan, as I had a miscarriage back in July at 9 weeks and we don't want anyone getting too excited.

However, my in-laws found out by accident on Boxing Day when I was about 8.5 weeks. We waited a week and told my folks, as I didn't feel comfortable with husband's family knowing and mine having no idea. We're not telling anyone else now until 12 weeks. My mum has a tendency to get over-involved and I was expecting her to want daily updates, but she's been surprisingly restrained so far.

If you're worried about their reaction and you don't want the stress, there's no harm in putting it off. Do it when you feel ready.

It's funny how much pregnancies differ! This is my second and I am finding it emotionally much easier - much less anxiety and stress - but physically much harder. I had virtually no nausea last time, but now I feel sick most days, and I'm so very tired too.

It's also strange how symptoms come and go. I have days with no nausea, where I feel I could eat a horse, and other days where I feel awful and have to force down foods I would normally consider treats.

I was so good in my first pregnancy and didn't tell anyone till after the 12 week scan. This time I sort of accidentally spilled the beans... A friend of mine told me she was 8 weeks and I just blurted out "oh I'm 7 weeks!" I will also likely have to tell work this week. I really don't want to but it may be unavoidable from a safety perspective.

As for family... Again I'd really like to wait till after the scan. We have a big family get together when I'll be 11 weeks and it would be such a great chance with everyone together already, but sadly I probably won't have had the scan yet so may just have to wait. DH is adamant about keeping shtum, too.

Sorry lots are suffering with nausea and sickness.
Only think I've found is little of often - but lit like a toddler make sure snacks are always available!

Telling wise, both parents know. My best friend. My boss (who also happens to be one of my oldest friends too) just because with the nausea I get a lot of dry heaving (sorry) and being on the phone isn't great with that. And a school mum friend, just in case I need help with the school drop/pick up - that and also we were going to a kickboxing class together which between the sickness and tiredness by 6pm has been a no go, and didn't want her thinking I was being fickle!

My little early scan photos - 7 weeks exactly!