Due August 2022

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Hello,

Just found out we are pregnant after 13 months of trying - based on last period will be due august 19th.

Any others with similar time like to join to support one another?

No @surprised12, like I said, I didn’t mean at all that people shouldn’t mention losses, of course people will mention losses. I’m just curious to know whether losses ARE more common than the NHS statistics state as SO many people on here seem to have had them. It just doesn’t seem representative of the statistics which makes me think the statistics are outdated/ inaccurate.

@Pearldrops04 I think that given mn is a safe space for lots of people in early pregnancy this is probably the only place many feel they can post about loss and get support from those in a similar situation. That may be way it seems so common across the threads and boards here and makes the NHS stats appear skewed. Just a thought x

@Pearldrops04

No *@surprised12*, like I said, I didn’t mean at all that people shouldn’t mention losses, of course people will mention losses. I’m just curious to know whether losses ARE more common than the NHS statistics state as SO many people on here seem to have had them. It just doesn’t seem representative of the statistics which makes me think the statistics are outdated/ inaccurate.

No, I'm understand where you are coming from. I wasn't on here in my last pregnancy and didn't even look into it. The EPU told me that it's as common as 1 in 4, but the thing that really helped me in a weird way, was knowing I could get pregnant and the nurses said to that there must have been something wrong with the baby if I'd miscarried, which made me feel like it just wasn't meant to be that time.

I think try to stay off Google and just try to think positive thoughts. That's what I'm doing this time and hopefully it works out for us.

I do think it is better to have an awareness of MC stats, because like I said, it didn't even cross my mind as a possibility last time - which I think made it more traumatic for me.

[quote Beth262]@Pearldrops04 I think that given mn is a safe space for lots of people in early pregnancy this is probably the only place many feel they can post about loss and get support from those in a similar situation. That may be way it seems so common across the threads and boards here and makes the NHS stats appear skewed. Just a thought x[/quote]
I was saying to my other half last night the lack of support within these first few weeks in crazy!

This is my first time being pregnant and google has been my best friend and enemy! I called my GP to ask them about the booster jab that i had already booked before i found out and when i told them, they just gave me the answer about the jab. I was like what do i do now, do i need a docs app? they just said i needed to choose which hospital and fill out their online referral form. It says on the hospital website to do this between 6-7 weeks & they will get back within 2 weeks! In the meantime, there is no support, or friendly advice. You're worried to tell too many people in case something goes wrong so can't really talk to anyone. It's really hard in these early stages! Thank goodness for places like these where we can talk openly..

I really do think there needs to be more in place to support women early stages.. I'm not sure what others think..

@Pearldrops04

I thought your post about the frequency of miscarriage, and it seeming more frequent than the 1 in 4, was really interesting.

Personally I think the main reason for the apparent discrepancy is that while it may be true that 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in miscarriage, a lot of women have multiple pregnancies, each with that 1 in 4 chance, so ultimately more than 1 in 4 women who want children have a miscarriage.

The secondary reason is that, as many people have said, this forum tends to amplify things going wrong. Not many people are going to start a thread saying "help, my pregnancy is going smoothly and I have no concerns!" On the other hand, threads looking for advice about suspected miscarriages, or seeking support after a miscarriage, are much more likely to be posted.

Thanks for the welcome

I have a scan booked in on the 10th January. I should be just over 7 weeks 🤞If all is well, then I will be telling my sisters straight away, and the rest of the family after the 12w scan! X

I'm so early at 4w5d . I'm due 27th august so I'm struggling to get excited yet.

How are you all feeling?

@Pearldrops04 I think the answer is probably both that the nhs stats under-state it and that it comes up more commonly on mn than is necessarily representative of the pregnant population as a whole because it’s a safe space for people to talk about what they’re going through.

I don’t know, but I would be pretty confident the nhs stats are based on number of pregnancies that they are notified of which end in mc - so a mc that happens before the mum is referred to her midwife unit or has her booking in probably isn’t included in the numbers. If that makes sense? I think there are quite a lot of early mcs which might not be recorded anywhere.

The other thing I’ve noticed is that a lot of people on the ttc board test really early. That’s not a criticism at all - I get it!! But I think, as a result, there’s a greater awareness of very early mcs which might be missed otherwise.

Appreciating that anecdotal evidence has very little weight… of the 9 sisters/v close friends of mine that have children/have been pregnant, 4 have had mcs and only 1 of the 9 did a test before a missed period. Between them they’ve had 17 pregnancies go to full term and 9 mcs (one friend had an awful experience with recurring mcs).

So, basically, I think it’s somewhere in the middle.

I do think mn has so many benefits (this thread and the lovely people on it being one example!) but I definitely have an increased awareness of risks having spent some time on the ttc board. I really don’t know whether that’s a good thing or a bad thing…

I do think also it's easy to get swept up in the furore of the TTC and PG boards. There's a lot of early testing, daily testing... I'm not criticising it but I do think it increases both the total number of "noticed" miscarriages (as opposed to them just being perceived as a period coming a bit late), and the mental strain / load on posters. On the other hand, MN was hugely helpful to me in my first pregnancy and I expect it will be again.

I think the stats and others' experiences can make it difficult to remember that it's a very individual journey and whichever way we feel they skew things bears no relation to what's actually happening to us as an individual. I'm trying to remind myself that what happens will happen, and to be prepared to go with whatever that is, good or bad.

@Prayingforabubba

Thanks for the welcome

I have a scan booked in on the 10th January. I should be just over 7 weeks 🤞If all is well, then I will be telling my sisters straight away, and the rest of the family after the 12w scan! X

I'm so early at 4w5d . I'm due 27th august so I'm struggling to get excited yet.

How are you all feeling?

We've got the same due date!! 🎉🎉

Hi. Hope it's okay to join. I got my BfP last Tuesday. Although we'd been trying for a number of months I'd sort of given up symptom spotting and just expected AF at some point as AF was becoming quite irregular. Anyway, here I am and by my calculations I'm due around 19th August and 5+5 today. I share everyone's views on anxiety/worry/whether it's ok to get excited/tell anyone. I have hardly any symptoms, just either sleep for 10 hours or don't sleep at all and feel pretty bloated most of the time. We have booked an early scan for 2nd Jan just to hopefully give us some reassurance. I'm 39 and wasn't confident we'd even get this far 😳😬

@surprised12 due date twins.

How are you feeling? Any symptoms?

Congratulations @KCat82 . So exciting that you've got a scan booked in so soon! I found out I was pregnant a week ago and it feels like the slowest week ever!

@Pearldrops04 I completely understand your comment and I thought it was just me thinking it. These boards are very nice to talk to people but they do definitely add to the anxiety in early pregnancy, as it makes you more aware to the amount of miscarriages people do have, which is why I haven’t been on them as much since my BFP as I don’t want to stress myself out thinking about the worse happening xx

I think it's very normal to have worries this early in our pregnancies when we all want our little ones so badly. Sending love and hugs to those going through stressful times . I found this website helpful during my last pregnancy, I though I would share it in case it helps others too. It's designed to reassure pregnant ladies like us.
https://datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer

Oh lots of messages, I haven't checked in a few days! @KCat82 and @Prayingforabubba, I'm due then too - 5 weeks today!

Sorry for the losses and worries people are having. I remember feeling a bit lost the first time around until I had a midwife appointment and scan.

I'm having horrible cramping and bloating this time, pretty much all night - anyone else?

Tested positive for covid at midnight last night car all packed to go away this morning to see family, toddler so excited to see his gran and cousins, he's already crying as we've said we can't go anymore 😢 no food or many presents for him here. And worried about being positive in early pregnancy too 😢 merry bloody Christmas

Oh @rosesarereddish, that absolutely sucks. I’m so sorry to hear that

I hope a friend or family member can be of some assistance to you today re cards and presents and that you’re not too ill. Honestly, this bloody virus!!

@Rainmother

Oh lots of messages, I haven't checked in a few days! *@KCat82 and @Prayingforabubba*, I'm due then too - 5 weeks today!

Sorry for the losses and worries people are having. I remember feeling a bit lost the first time around until I had a midwife appointment and scan.

I'm having horrible cramping and bloating this time, pretty much all night - anyone else?

I've been experiencing weird pain and cramping since last night. It's all left sided and making my upper leg feel dead. I've had a bad belly and ran to the loo 3 times this morning. I'm 4+4 and so worried. EPAU are seeing me next week because I had a loss last month.

@Hannabanana2021, I really hope everything’s okay, I’m sure it will be but can completely understand how worried you must be.

Insomnia did a no on me again last night...this time waking up at 2am , argh! My back was killing me too. Moved rooms and managed to get back to sleep at 4.30ish and then woke up again at 6.30, did a test just because it’d been a couple of days since my last one then went back to sleep until now. Meant to be out for a meal tonight so really needed those extra hours.

Is anyone else still testing like me or are you all just trusting the process now? I know, at 5 weeks that’s kinda what I need to be doing now.

@NetflixAndSauvignonBlanc Thank you for sharing that link 🌟

@Rainmother Also five weeks today! 👋🏼

@rosesarereddish So sorry to hear that, not a fun start to Christmas Eve! With regards to covid and early pregnancy - from what I’ve read, covid is a concern in the third trimester. Personally, I was totally reassured about early pregnancy. Still, not what you need when you’re pregnant and about to leave for Christmas plans and hope you don’t feel poorly.

@Hannabanana2021 Hope you’re ok. Great that you’re going to be seen. I had mild cramping up until yesterday when it really ramped up and I’ve been having on and off pains for the last 24 hours or so. Slept ridiculously long last night and so far, no spotting so I’m chalking it down to implantation etc. Feels like there’s a lot going on in there! My stomach was also quite bad around 4 weeks, could be hormones. Hope you feel better soon.

@Pearldrops04

Insomnia did a no on me again last night...this time waking up at 2am , argh! My back was killing me too. Moved rooms and managed to get back to sleep at 4.30ish and then woke up again at 6.30, did a test just because it’d been a couple of days since my last one then went back to sleep until now. Meant to be out for a meal tonight so really needed those extra hours.

Is anyone else still testing like me or are you all just trusting the process now? I know, at 5 weeks that’s kinda what I need to be doing now.

I have been checking if clearblue changes Friday not pregnant Sat 1-2 weeks Wednesday 2-3 weeks Then the EPAU will scan and blood test me next week so I won't bother checking for 3+ 😅

@Pearldrops04 Hope you can get some rest today! I’ve stopped doing actual tests but am still doing a HGC stick every 2-3 days. I don’t think I’ll stop doing that until the end of Jan when I’ve booked a scan.

*HCG 🙄