Due June 2022 (thread five)

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New thread!

Just heard back and apparently I don't have a specific midwife, I just have a team and will encounter a variety of midwives throughout my pregnancy. I don't know why but this has upset me - it doesn't seem to be the norm for others and they don't have a direct contact number (because I don't have my own assigned midwife) so if I have any concerns I have to just email and they will aim to get back within 3-5 working days! They also keep ignoring my request for information about the genetic team! Probably just pregnancy hormones but really feel like crying.

@mrkb where are you based? I'm in London and this was very much the case in my last pregnancy. Saw different midwives, definitely didn't have a midwife I could text, it was just maternity triage if I had any problems. Maybe in smaller places you get more individualised care?

@Prema112 I'm in London (with St Thomas') but had been told at booking that I had one main midwife and that her contact details were on the app so it's a bit of a shock that this isn't the case! I also know someone else with ST who does have an assigned midwife. Glad to hear from you that this is maybe more normal than I'd thought!

@Clomid1 Are you still getting cramps? I wanted to let you know that I had antibiotics for a UTI that didn't show up on the dip test but was found in the lab, halfway through the antibiotics my cramps disappeared and I haven't had them since. So if you still have them might be worth getting urine sent to labs x

@3yearstrying and @HWka, was it red blood or pink/brown mixed with CM?

I had a scan on Monday too which was fine, only to have pink spotting mixed with CM when wiping on Tuesday! Grrrr. I didn't even bother phoning it in as it's getting embarrassing now.

Nobody has offered to check my cervix to see where the bleeding is coming from - do you think I should press for that? I've been seen probably 8 times so far and had 5 scans! 🙄

@beansprout55 its was red blood, she asked if it was after sex or bowel movement but it wasnt. Yes id definitely ask for a cervix check, i didnt even think of that but it sounds logical!

@Prema112 just to tag onto the UTI bit, ive never had one, but feel tender sometimes and i am going more often and feel like i need to go again 10 minutes after going. I thought its just pregnancy but Thinking about it i think i may get that checked now!

Regarding midwives, I'm in London as well and had a similar set-up to @Prema112 in my first pregnancy. I was assigned to a team of 4-5 midwives at the hospital and saw all of them over the duration of the pregnancy (I think I had a couple of them twice). Pre 18 (or 20?) weeks I was told to go to the GP with any issues, or A&E if urgent. After 18/20 weeks I had a triage number- which I did in fact call a couple of times when I was worried about movements and they called me in for monitoring.
I have a team of midwives again this time but I haven't checked on the protocol for calling if there's an issue.
If that makes a difference, I'm seeing hospital and not community midwives because I have a heart condition.

@3yearstrying UTIs can also cause bleeding, could be related?

just had my scan, im measuring at 13+2 which is what they measured when i was 9+2 for my early scan, the wee one was jumping about like crazy was so difficult to get a photo but we got there in the end! Everything is looking great and how it should be so its such a relief!

I'm really struggling emotionally today.

My mum has a terminal illness and we've been given 2 years. We had a friends funeral this morning and I just kept thinking of my mum. All I've done today is cry.

I'm worried about my mum, and then worried that worrying is taking it's toll on the baby, and then I worry about the baby. It's a vicious cycle.

Is this something I should discuss with the midwife? I can't talk to my GP until next week but have booked an appointment

here are my scan photos if theres any nub experts or if anyone has any thoughts id live to here what you think the gender is😊 i had a gut feeling it was a boy but now i have no clue lol.

@unknownscot im so sorry to hear about your mum thats so upsetting it must be even harder worrying about your baby at the same time, sounds very draining.
I would talk to your midwife about it to just let her know your feelings but its good that you are going to the GP too, sending my prayers to your mother

@jennixxx I'm not expert but that looks like a boy to me!

@unknownscot talk to your midwife! Mine told me that there's alot of services out their for pregnant women who need support if feeling down/depressed or just have alot on your mind! My mum found out on new years eve that she has an inoperable brain tumor that is growing. She starts radio in Jan to hopefully stop it growing and keep her here! She's my best friend and I can't imagine life without her. I feel for you. I hope you're ok ❤

These are my scan photos! Baby measured 11w1d so I need to go back next week to have all the screenings. The baby was moving quite a lot and even waved at us! Any guesses on the gender?

@unknownscot so sorry to hear about your mother, I'd talk to the midwife

Hello - first time posting on the thread but I've been reading for a little bit ! I'm 11wk today and wondering if anyone who is a bit further along can say when I might find out if I am rhesus negative and need the jabs? My mum was so think it is likely I might be too.

@GrowBabyGrow they told me at my 12 week scan, they've since done another blood test to find out the blood type of the baby because they'd rather not give you the anti d if they don't need to! Still waiting for the results of that one

Thank you.
I tried to ring the midwife but just ringing out and no option to leave a message, I'll try again tomorrow.

@Olive60
I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. It's just horrible knowing someone so close is so ill isn't it?

@GrowBabyGrow
I got my blood results put on my BadgerNotes app if you have that at all?

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@unknownscot I'm sorry you're feeling so low. Not at all the same situation but i came here to ask the same question. Glad you have an appointment coming up to talk to GP. I have been crying constantly for a few days and I am getting myself into stressful arguments with family where I now feel like they're sick of me and I've myself in a corner and can't bring myself to talk to them about my low mood even though I know in reality they would want to help me. I think I am going to try and reach my midwife tomorrow.

Gosh I've just found the new thread! I'm so busy at work I have so much to catch up on! I hope everybody is all still ok? xx

@unknownscot I'm so sorry for your loss and to hear about your mum. Worrying won't harm your baby, but it isn't good for you. Be kind to yourself.xxxx

Thank you @ERH29 and @czycoup for your replies. I'll wait for it in the post assuming everything else goes well tomorrow 🤞🏽

Anyone getting back pain

Lower back one sided* . Im getting it only if i stand too long or if in walking around.not very bad atm but more like pressure

@MrsNT My lower back is killing, I do have scoliosis and a 15cm cyst though so I'm sure they are contributing factors