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Minsters Sidecar Bumping Along - ttc graduates thread 4

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lucyrp · 02/12/2021 07:16

Hey girls! I've gone ahead and created a follow up thread for us all. Let's hope we have some more ladies joining us from over on the other thread! ❤️

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Kate105 · 22/12/2021 08:48

I second what @Minster2012 said @Kirky658 you are doing an amazing job and that's really all that matters. It's shitty that you're only finding this out now but it doesn't make any difference to the here and now ❤️❤️❤️

paintfairy · 22/12/2021 08:53

@Vil10 yes exactly!. No way do I want to be getting that news on my own. I had a word dream last night that I went for a scan and it was like 3d but I was still only early. But they told me everything was perfect because my baby had teeth - which you could count on the scan! 🤣
@Minster2012 I'll find a plain folder to put them in. Are you sure there's a baby? 🤔 🤣

Anyone know at what point clothes become an issue? As in, can't fit in them? I'm guessing bottoms are more of a problem than tops.

Lexber · 22/12/2021 09:17

Morning ladies

@Justanothercyster I love seeing your pics on Instagram ❤️

@Kirky658 hugs sweets it must have been a shock to hear. Take time to process it but remember you have. A beautiful baby and you are doing amazing as a mum and that's what matters now xxxx

My notes are folded so for lively in my handbag - scrap carrying that big ugly folder everywhere Altho you can't miss I'm pregnant even if I wanted to hide it!
I've been worrying a little about possible restrictions coming in next year - we are hopeful to an April birth (37 weeks 20/4) but in reality we e May end up with an early one which if restrictions come in they may not be lifted in time and the thought my OH won't be allowed to be around for his babies whenever he wants worries me.

20 weeks today and the twins decided to celebrate by making mummy's morning sickness return 🤣🤣🤣🥳🥳

Scan tomorrow - it will be nice to find out if they've moved again and if so where they are so I can try and figure out which movements are which baby and which part of them! I think they're both across still and they push bums out but I'm not 100% also last hospital scan I had a low lying placenta so will find out tomorrow if it's placenta privia (which explains the bleeding) and if that's the case it's a C-section for sure so atleast I can start trying to plan life...

Crazydoglady123 · 22/12/2021 09:23

@paintfairy I keep my notes in a black plastic folder

@Kirky658 that must've been hard to hear but concentrate on where you are now. You have a beautiful, thriving baby girl

@Vil10 that nightmare sounds horrible! Just remember it's only a dream ❤️

Crazydoglady123 · 22/12/2021 09:25

Had my 36 week scan this morning. Had the most miserable sonographer but all looking normal, baby's head is on my bladder (didn't need a scan to tell me that!) and she's estimated 6lb2oz, bang on the 50th centile

larrythelizard · 22/12/2021 09:46

@Justanothercyster do you have the wonder weeks app? Some people think it's rubbish but it worked for DS, it helped me remember I hadn't broken him, he was just brewing some new skills!

@Kirky658 it must be so tough to hear that. Just this morning I saw a post from a sports dr lady I follow on insta and the words said something like '5 years after a traumatic birth and the memories made with him dwarf the bad birth memories' - so have faith that you'll get through it.

There's no answer for clothes @paintfairy as everyone will get bumps at different rates and have different shaped bumps etc!

Keep the faith @Vil10, scanxiety is super real and scary but try and assume that all is well as that's the most likely outcome.

I had my booster yesterday and between that and not having slept well all week as I hurt my back at the gym on Monday I feel like trash so the plan is on the sofa under a big pile of blankets and Emily in Paris season 2!

I feel equal parts sick and hungry, presumably at some point one of them will win and I'll know what to do with myself?!

larrythelizard · 22/12/2021 09:46

Oh that's exciting @Crazydoglady123 that would be a fine weight if baby decided to make an early appearance!

2020mission · 22/12/2021 09:56

@Crazydoglady123 50th percentile sounds great! I'm above the 90th 😬 still no sign of baby here, those back cramps on and off all day were all a tease. I have a sweep this afternoon hopefully 🤞 I'm blaming my husbands genes as I am only 5'2 and I was a small baby (under 7lbs) but this one is being estimated as over 8lbs!

@Vil10 completely normal to have that anxiety knowing people who've had miscarriages or having had them yourself. You'll be in a much better place after the scan! I forgot to bring water with me to my 12 week scan so only drank water in the 15 mins before when I bought some at the shop on route and they still saw baby with no issues. It's just to help make things clearer.

I have to say, enjoy the scans at 12 and 20 weeks because at the later growth scans (if you need any) you can barely see anything that resembles a baby 😅 my last ones they didn't even give me a photo and I never saw his head as it wasn't possible for them to access it. I would rather have not had those scans!

@paintfairy I had to get some maternity leggings and tights towards the end of the second trimester. Luckily had plenty of dresses and tops that were loose enough to keep wearing as normal. I've not bought anything other than the maternity leggings and tights but since it's winter oversized jumpers are my main outfit now anyway 😆 my jackets don't close anymore but I'm not buying a maternity one this late on so managing to work around it with scarves

Crazydoglady123 · 22/12/2021 10:11

@larrythelizard I hate that when you don't know whether to eat or be sick! Hope you feel a bit better as the day goes on!

@2020mission oh no, I was hoping something would've happened for you! Don't take the growth scans too literal. I always measured small with my DS and on the growth scan I remember working out by his due date he'd be nearly 10lbs. He was born by induction at 42 weeks and weighed 8lb4oz. I have my midwife appointment tomorrow and I want to beg her for a sweep early haha. Have you tried any remedies/old favourite tried and tested things yet? I'm doing raspberry leaf capsules. Started on tea a couple of weeks ago but changed to the tablets now

Crazydoglady123 · 22/12/2021 10:12

@paintfairy I've stayed in my gym leggings up until now and last week bought my first pair of maternity leggings. My jackets and tops have all been fine

Juno231 · 22/12/2021 10:22

@paintfairy the post Christmas sales would be a good time to pick up some basic maternity clothes I think!

@vil10 im the same - and it's especially the possibility of a missed miscarriage that messes with my head!

@Lexber gosh I hadn't considered that obv you need to know which ones moving! Having them horisontal doesn't sound too comfortable 😅. But goodness morning sickness at week 20!

@Crazydoglady123 glad the scan went well! 50th sounds really good!

DKDK123 · 22/12/2021 10:28

@2020mission, have you decided if you're going ahead with the induction tomorrow or not? Either way you are soooo close to meeting your baby, how exciting 😁

@Minster2012 ye sticking with Emily, it would feel weird calling her anything else now because I've heard DS call her that daily while talking to my tummy since only 4 1/2weeks pregnant. Kinda hoping DS isn't quite as psychic as we think tho as the past few days he's been telling me that he'll miss me when I die, but not to worry he'll look after Emily for me. I told him I'm not going to die till I'm an old lady and he's a grown up man with his own children and he said you might not be an old lady, you might die soon 😱

@larrythelizard think your doctors seem to be the only one in the country that still make you go via the GP for your booking appointment. What a waste of gp resources but at least you'll be on the system soon.

@feliznavidad2 that's good that they're supporting you right away to have the birth you're wanting so you're not having to worry about fighting for it further down the line.

@vil10 hope your cards arrive soon! Don't worry about the not feeling pregnant, took me 17 weeks to accept it remember 😂 Actually started buying some wee outfits yesterday and still it crossed my mind what if something goes wrong......but just batted the thought away by buying even more 😂
Such a shame for both your friends, the one who had to hear bad news by herself and the one with recurrent miscarriages 😢 My mum lost one after her 12 week scan think it was around 16 weeks and that was always in the back of my mind that it could still go wrong after the scan. Had to keep telling myself that while I hear of a lot of m/c, I also hear of people getting knocked down crossing the road every day but it doesn't make me scared of crossing the road I need to keep doing it, I could be knocked down but the chances are small .....don't get me wrong it only helped for like the 5mins I told myself that but it was 5 minutes of not panicking!

@paintfairy yes the screaming 'look this person is pregnant!' folder they give you 😂 It's how I clocked when my neighbour was 1st pregnant as I saw her carrying hers from the car and it was the same non discrete folder they were giving out from back when I had DS. I smuggled mine out the appointment under my coat incase anyone saw this time round! I transfered what I needed to something more discrete, I dont get why they can't just put it in a plain folder, not everyone wants to shout from the rooftops they're pregnant early on for a variety of reasons.
My friends baby was born with teeth, think it was about 3 it had.....Needless to say she didn't breastfeed 🤣
On the clothing front you can get away with tunic tops and leggings for your whole pregnancy if you want. Actual trousers and jeans you'll find more of an issue. I switched to maternity trousers for work quite early on (think it was around 10 weeks) as I felt so bloated anything touching my stomach felt uncomfortable. I can still wear my normal work trousers but as the day goes on they get increasingly snug and uncomfortable so I much prefer the ones in my normal size but with an over the bump soft band.

@Kirky658 as others have said that must be quite traumatic to hear but the important bit now is to focus on the fact it hasn't effected her she's lovely and healthy and completely non the wiser. I think it must be common to only give you the bare minimum of facts if you're also recovering as I only found out about the ins and outs of DSs birth at my latest consultant appointment and that was triggering enough 4 years down the line so I can only imagine how hard it must be hearing things like that while you're still so close to the event. (I was given a debrief appointment at the time but the letter never arrived and I was too busy with the baby to chase it up). I suppose in their eyes telling you all the scary details isn't going to change the outcome so best to just let you focus on initially healing and looking after baby so you don't dwell on it too much at the time. Hopefully the therapy will help you process this latest news too, you and Alice have came a long way since the beginning, you're doing great. 😘

@lexber I've been getting worried about the restrictions too. With DS I was in and out of hospital having to stay for a day or two each time from 24 weeks and that takes me to Feb, the thought of being hospitalised during restrictions and DS not being allowed to be there is really getting me nervous. Fingers crossed we escape any hospital restrictions and definitely that it's lifted by the time your little ones are here 🤞 Exciting for your scan tomorrow 😁

@crazydoglady123 glad to hear all was well with the scan, had a chuckle at the didn't need a scan to tell you baby was on your bladder comment 😂

DS came bounding through excitedly at 3.30 this morning to tell me it was the Christmas holidays 😴😴😴😴 dread to think what time actual Christmas morning wake up will be 🙈

If you're someone who likes to be prepared for the worst so it doesn't come as a shock after baby is born, this was a good thread to read this morning to bring it all back to me (to be fair the stuff on it's not that bad but again it's the side of post birth that seems to be hidden until it happens to you, these are the kind of discussions that should be more open so it doesn't come as a shock to new mums!), it gave me a laugh and oh shit it's all coming back to me now realisation 😂. If it'll give you the fear then don't read just stay in your happy, bubble, you'll figure it out as you go along anyways! www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4432767-What-was-the-biggest-shock-after-having-a-baby

paintfairy · 22/12/2021 10:34

@2020mission @Crazydoglady123 no way on earth is my body capable of wearing leggings. 🤣 Not unless I was wearing a very long top to my knees over the top. I only wear jeans which is why I was wondering. Summer (near the end) I can opt for floaty dresses (not that I own any) but there'll come a point i have nothing to wear. My jeans were actually verging on being very tight as it was, as I kept putting on weight, but luckily I've lost some so for now it's fine.
@crazydoglady123 great news about the scan. And the fact she's hanging on in there. She's a good size now.
@Juno231 I bloody hate clothes shopping. 🤣 I never buy them for that reason. But I think I'll need to as jeans aren't forgiving.
@Lexber I would hope things will be starting to relax again by then. But it is shit and you shouldn't be having to worry about it!
@larrythelizard you feel sick when you feel hungry. Unfortunately. 🤣

Lexber · 22/12/2021 10:47

That's great news @Crazydoglady123 ❤️ not long now, do you think you are all ready?

@larrythelizard I felt crap after my booster Sunday - paracetamol helped me a little. Hope you feel better soon! When i feel sick/hungry I always eat as it's usually sickness cos I'm hungry

Fingers crossed @2020mission that it's not long for you now! I found the more active I was encouraged my youngest out - stairs sideways and bouncing in my ball...

@Vil10 I have had 3 hospitals and and a private one for gender and I still get scanxiety! I'm worrying something will be wrong tomorrow as it's the 20 week one... I think it's normal for us to worry xx

@Juno231 at the minute it isn't too bad as they're there but have space still, if they stay sideways I'm not sure how that's going to go when bigger 🤣🤦🏽‍♀️ it will def be useful to know positions etc for movements and knowing its both moving not the same all the time of that makes sense?
Thankfully the sickness was short lived but what a lovely treat 🤣

Aww @DKDK123 I actually really like the name Emily, and how beautiful that DS picked it before even knowing!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I'm so glad you are keeping that name!
Oh gosh, that'd freak me a little. But take it with a pinch of salt! I'm sure it's nothing
I'm preparing to stay in with it being twins it's more common so fingers crossed he can come when he wants/needs
Aww I love his excitement- we are having Xmas dinner Xmas eve and my youngest is so excited for it, at 11/14 the magic of Christmas isn't as much so we can't wait to start again next year with the twins! 🎄❤️

Vil10 · 22/12/2021 10:48

@paintfairy hahaha imagine that sight, a baby with a mouth full of teeth on a scan🤣

@Lexber ohh noo sorry you've got the sickness back!! I'm pretty fed up and over this whole covid shit but the thought of restrictions and OH not being able to attend appointments does worry me a little just because I've seen my friend go through a lockdown pregnancy and she hated it! It'll be so nice seeing where they are tomorrow, post pics for us if you can!

@Crazydoglady123 I've told myself to stop being so crazy and I feel slightly better, literally one more day to get through!! Glad all is looking well!!

@larrythelizard I don't think I've ever had this feeling before, it's like I'm trying to prepare myself just in case the worst was to happen but then I don't want to be so negative!! That sounds a perfect day, my mum had her booster last week and she was so so ill, she's never ill and she was being violently sick for 2 days, she's now fuming she's even had it because it doesn't look like her holiday in January is going ahead either! The sick and hungry thing I get, I feel sick when im hungry but then don't have a clue what to eat because a lot of foods are making me gag!

@2020mission I kinda wish I was oblivious to what could go wrong, but suppose it does prepare you!! I wouldn't have thought about taking water with me actually so Thankyou for the reminder!! The place is literally only a 5 min drive so I'll drink it in the car! How annoying those back pains seem to have been teasing you!! I hope something happens soon🤞🏼

@Juno231 absolutely, I know it's not very likely but the amount of women on here who have unfortunately suffered from one is awful!

@DKDK123 im hoping it's today they arrive🤞🏼 ohhh yes, do you still have the tampon?🤣 ohhhh so sweet!! Well it was actually the same friend!! Her second miscarriage was during the time when partners couldn't go in, she's really had a shit run with it all and I really don't know how we're going to tell her and her partner when we get to 12 weeks, I know we'll have to be super sensitive but I just feel awful (if it's good news about little cashew that is) that is actually a perfect way of looking at it and not something I've ever thought of before so Thankyou for that, I'm definitely going to keep telling myself that!!

Started with sciatica last night and it's driving me insane, I'm prone to it anyway but actually had an operation almost 2 years ago now where they took away part of my disc because it was sitting on my sciatic nerve, it has helped I don't get it anywhere near as often as I did but this time it's bloody killing me!! A day of errands will hopefully keep my mind off it and I bloody hope by the time I'm home later the boiler man has managed to fix the problem!!

larrythelizard · 22/12/2021 10:49

I think ignorance can be bliss @DKDK123! I can't get my head around the thought of doing it all again. Oh god I hope DS is wrong on that one too...!

I struggled through some wheat crunchies @paintfairy and am feeling a bit better, I think you were right!

GP rang last night, apparently vitamin D is now recommended for pregnant women, I didn't know that so just passing it along!

DH has decided we should tell his parents before Xmas day (some strange reasoning about how shocked they'll be), I would rather try and get a 3+ first...so let's hope there's one by the end of the week!

Lexber · 22/12/2021 10:49

@paintfairy I also hate clothes shopping - I picked up some nice maternity bits from the next sale (there's another now) and Primark maternity range are cheap and easy and actually comfy!
Otherwise I'm just buying bigger to cover my growing ass and belly 🤣🤣🤣

Minster2012 · 22/12/2021 11:07

Morning ladies, boring day here sat in the hairdressers chair, I find it so dull

@Vil10 def distract yourself, it's very normal to be anxious but you got this, keep drinking water & tomorrow you'll see a lovely healthy baby! Any sign of the cards yet? 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻for a boiler fix

@paintfairy on the clothes it all depends, we haven't had a bump shot from you yet! I'm still able to wear my normal skinny jeans without looking ridiculous but not for much longer, same with a lot of skirts are fine, it's more about being comfortable. Things with fixed or tight waistbands if I'm sitting are just a bit uncomfortable. Tops on the other hand for my melons are a nightmare! And I can't zip any but one coat up literally won't go over my boobs, I was thinking I might have to get a new coat in the sales! 18+3 here & will def be buying some stuff in the sales

@Lexber I'm excited for you having another scan, I love hearing how they are doing but not great with the morning sickness, this is (meant to be) glowing phase 😂but halfway through, boom!!

@Juno231 are you going to Sweden tomorrow?

@Crazydoglady123 yes more good news! Fantastic

@larrythelizard def a day on the sofa for you, did you get the ibruptofen gel for your back? Errrr there's an Emily in Paris season 2? Yessss I'm sorted 😂 when do you think you'll do the week's test again?

Argh he's teasing you @2020mission, what did you decide on the induction? If the sweep doesn't work that is 😬

Also with you @DKDK123 I will be buying some little bits in the sales and it's still a worry but you gotta try be positive still. Born with teeth wtf?! And I read that thread earlier, it sure it helped 😂

Juno231 · 22/12/2021 11:25

@paintfairy h&m do good maternity jeans and they're supposed to be super comfortable! My friend wore them for ages after birth cause she found real Jeans horrible in comparison.

@Minster2012 I am! Your memory is insane.

@vil10 if the cards don't arrive I'd nip out to a shop and get baby booties wrapped up and addressed to both your parents. When they unwrap you can just say they're going to be grandparents?

Got an exciting day ahead - need to pick up anti freeze from Halfords 😆

larrythelizard · 22/12/2021 11:35

@Minster2012 no was a no for anything ibuprofen so paracetamol, heat pad and whinging. Definitely starting to feel better, not sure I'll be back to the gym next week.

You can buy extra zippy panels for coats - in theory to fit a baby in a sling in but also to fit mega boobs in so that might be an option of no suitable coats in the sale

Minster2012 · 22/12/2021 11:36

Omg @Juno231 it was freezing and so frosty here this morning, a beautiful crisp dog walk but I need to start wearing more clothes! (The only one coat that fits is an issue!) ooooo exciting is DH going with you?

Minster2012 · 22/12/2021 11:37

Oh and thank you @larrythelizard I was going to ask ppl about the baby wearing coats 😂and keep whinging it will make you feel better 👏🏻

Juno231 · 22/12/2021 11:41

@Minster2012 ah it's been snowing a bit back home, I'm not sure I can cope with the cold anymore as I have none of the gear living in mild London! No OH coming with, partly because there's not enough space so we'd have to get a hotel or Airbnb and then seeing family is that much harder but also because my family's Christmas is crap compared to his so I don't want to feel like he's bored the whole time and I need to worry about entertaining him. It's no fun being the translator either!

2020mission · 22/12/2021 11:42

@paintfairy I don't do leggings without tops/jumpers that at least cover the ass so I know that feeling! I have visible pants fear 😆 I'm don't usually wear leggings much but it's the most comfortable in pregnancy. I felt better when I turned up to my appointments at the maternity hospital and found almost every pregnant lady there was in leggings too haha. I don't like wearing jeans for long as they are so uncomfortable and restrictive. I'll wear them out of the day but wound take them off as soon as I was home and I couldn't sit in them at work all day either. And jeggings are just leggings right?

@Minster2012 @DKDK123 they seemed to have no induction booking on my record when I called on Monday so I will speak to them this afternoon at the sweep and find out what the deal is. I'm hoping to shift it back a few days to give the sweep a chance to work first (at least 48 hours) so might try asking for an induction on the 26th if that's possible and they are still keen to do it. That would hopefully mean the little guy would be born around 28-29th December instead which at least isn't Christmas Day or New Year 😅 I don't now why but I'd really prefer him to come naturally. Maybe so that when he complains about his bad birthday in the future I can say "you chose to come out on that day" 😂

@Vil10 yeah definitely bring a bottle of water and sip while you wait. If your appointment is anything like the ones I've had, you'll be waiting a little bit beyond your time slot anyway so plenty of time to sip in the waiting room.

2020mission · 22/12/2021 11:46

@Crazydoglady123 I hope they are off with the measurements 🤞 so far I've tried sitting on my birth/gym ball more, having sex (making sure DH finishes inside 😆) and a lot of walking. I do have raspberry leaf tea in but I read it's not good to start it too close to labour so it seems I should have started at the beginning of the third trimester 😑