Minsters Sidecar Bumping Along - ttc graduates thread 4

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Hey girls! I've gone ahead and created a follow up thread for us all. Let's hope we have some more ladies joining us from over on the other thread! ❤️

I hope they don't stop it either @paintfairy but it was like it for a long time so I suspect it may come back in 😩😩😩

I'm RAVENOUS today I can't stop eating, anyone got any ideas of healthy or healthy ish snacks as I'm uninspired - I can't eat dairy or eggs though!

@larrythelizard I tended to go for fruit for snacks in early pregnancy. Especially apples I think it was because they was also thirst quenching 😆 sometimes even a bowl of bran flakes cereal, again for the thirst quenching oat 'milk' along with it! What snacks are you going for right now?

I've had some backache on and off all day and starting to wonder if it's maybe an early sign of labour. Might just be wishful thinking 😅

Ooh that would be good if it was @2020mission!

I've controlled myself today really but wanted to eat crisps and bread...very little of either in so have eaten two apples and a pear amongst other things! Am absolutely shattered and no dinner to eat and DH is out 😩

Aww @larrythelizard how long is DH going to be out for? I also did crave salty crisps for a period in pregnancy too. I tried to eat lightly salted proper corn popcorn bags some of the time instead as they felt a little healthier at least 😅 I think as long as you are eating some good things during the day the odd unhealthy snacks are fine anyway. Better than eating nothing!

I had a tiny streak of pink on the toilet paper when wiping with my last pee so I'm really being teased now. Cross your fingers for me that it's happening so I can be home by Christmas 😆

Oh that's a good shout @2020mission, salty popcorn! He'll be home in about an hour, I'll be ready for bed by then!

Ooooooh I so hope so 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

@whatwonder hopefully everyone has put your mind at ease about the round ligament pain, I get quite a lot of it and ranges from sharp stitch shooting pains to dull cramping and I'm with @Juno231 if the cheese is hard it's fine anyway

@paintfairy you don't have to tell your mum until you want to do no need to be hard on yourself for no reason

I find Xmas wrapping very boring @Vil10, usually do it say on the floor at night when DS is in bed staring a bottle of wine. Humph.

@2020mission they didn't have the induction booked? My SIL was going in today for induction as overdue, but think it might be tomorrow now, hoping it goes well. Oooo just read there may be signs come on baby!!! 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@larrythelizard I can smash through an entire punnet of grapes as like @2020mission says I find them refreshing too, also been eating yoghurt (are there any good non dairy ones?) and salt & vinegar rice cakes are good. Breadsticks? Dried fruit like a handful of dried apricots. Oh and of course the unhealthy stuff 😂

I've just taken DS & met up with DH at the pub for food from 4pm and I've drank 3 of the non alcoholic ciders as ppl kept buying them for me & I SOOOOOOOO BLOATED

@DKDK123 so pleased the scan has reassured you!

Hope you're okay @kaylsd ❤️

@2020mission DS was born 27th Dec and was two weeks overdue (due 13th Dec) so I feel your pain! Fingers crossed this is the start of natural labour for you and you can be home for Xmas 🤞

@paintfairy men just don't get it end of! I've been having a row with my OH as he has a works do in town Thursday which ends up in clubs/bars and I'm like hellloooo I'm over here un-vaxxed, 36 weeks pregnant and being careful AF and you want to go out out with things the way they are 🤯 I'm actually so pleased this isn't my first pregnancy as I'd feel really anxious I think about the restrictions coming in. Tbh if I had to give birth without a birthing partner in Jan it really wouldn't bother me 🙈

@Minster2012 alcohol free drinks are just like pure sugar I swear!

I'm well and truly fed up of being pregnant now 😑 I'm struggling to get to sleep till 2am ish most nights as my belly hurts so much plus her head is wedged so low that every time she moves I get lightening pains on my cervix and feel like I'm about to wet myself even though I'd just been 2 minutes previously... And because of the scare of her coming a couple of weeks ago I'm fed up of everyone messaging for "updates" ffs!! I've ordered a colostrum harvesting kit from My Expert Midwife and plan to start expressing after Christmas, see if I can get things started.

Ahh the weeks seem to be flying by now ladies!

@Minster2012 shit got real, geddit? 😫 😆 booking in appointment was loooong but alright. Midwife was quite nice, said totally reasonable to ask for elective section after DS' horrible birth and also said I'll be consultant led which I expected anyway.

@Vil10 hope the boiler man gets fixing quick tomorrow. So, you're staying team yellow? That's exciting! I'm not patient enough... and like to know everything.

Also jealous of @Juno231 finishing work. I've got a good feeling for you @larrythelizard - each day, is another day closer (to Xmas, and a baby!)

@whatwonder I actually used a little stool thing we have this pm after reading your message, good shout, still couldn't poo but meh, may work after a few more Laxido. 🎊

It'll get better @paintfairy do what you have to to get through it. I'm starting to feel way less nauseous now, which is nice albeit a bit scary as makes me worry somethings gone wrong. Nice you're another team yellow too!

Fingers tightly crossed @2020mission 😬 🤞🏻

Ah @Crazydoglady123 bless you, not surprised you're fed up with OH. Colostrum harvesting is a good shout, let us know if kit is any good?

Off to sleep as I'm still knackered. x

I've lost track @Crazydoglady123, how many weeks are you now?

Sounds lovely but gassy @Minster2012!

Thanks @feliznavidad2 I hope so and feel like I've been pregnant forever already - I hate this limbo bit at the beginning where it's too early for a reassurance scan! That's good you're in for ELCS, I am very tempted by that as DS's birth also not good. Have filed it away under 'things to think about if the pregnancy sticks'

I hurt my back at the gym yesterday morning and it's so sore still, sleep was awful as I move a lot and it woke me up every time I turned over. Ibuprofen would help but that's a no for pregnant ladies, might ask the dr when they ring if I could use ibuprofen gel!

@feliznavidad2 geddit!!

@Crazydoglady123 oh god yeah pure sugar, not ideal, colostrum harvesting?! What is this & how to you do it? Do you express in advance? What do you do with it? How's your little sausage dog?

I tried to use a pregnancy pillow last night & ended up chucking it out for frustrating me & making me more uncomfortable, I'm rubbish at this side sleeping business

@feliznavidad2 tbf I think he's "re-evaluating" his decision 🤞

@larrythelizard 36 long old weeks 😅 I don't think I'd be so impatient if we hadn't had the scare a couple of weeks ago and the senior consultant telling me the bleed could be a sign she was coming early... Sorry to hear about your back! I did that doing a barbell squat once and my back went into spasm in the middle of the gym. It's so hard when you can't take ibuprofen in pregnancy. Have you got some cold packs at all to help take any swelling down?

@Minster2012 so it's basically expressing 1-2ml of colostrum before birth into syringes which you freeze. Then if you're planning on breastfeeding and you have trouble with latching or anything you can still give the baby your colostrum. I'm not actually breast feeding but I believe in the importance of colostrum so I'd rather do this when she's born. Also, it can stimulate labour haha. This is the link https://myexpertmidwife.com/products/colostrum-harvesting-kit?variant=40349015802024&currency=GBP&utmmedium=producttsync&utmsource=google&utmmcontent=sagorganic&utmmcampaign=sagorganic&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIgZWjorn09AIVN4FQBh0D0AQeEAQYASABEgJCKPDDBwE
The sausage is okay thank you. Not really much different in that still very little use of her back legs but apparently the next four weeks will be like that so it's just super hard looking after her right now! She comes off Calpol tomorrow too and one of the other medications she's on, Sunday.
I hate those pregnancy pillows. I can't sleep well with them at all! I just bought a load more normal pillows for my bed.

@paintfairy I've also said this to OH that I'll be so annoyed if he can't come to my scans, one of my friends was pregnant in the midst of lockdown last year and her partner couldn't go to their 12 week scan, she was in lockdown for majority of her pregnancy and had to have her baby shower on zoom😫

@2020mission @larrythelizard for the first time yesterday I was really fancying like fruity fresh stuff instead of just salt and vinegar things🤣 so ended up grabbing some mango and pineapple and pouring some mango yoghurt all over it, it felt like the best snack in the world🤣

@2020mission hope it's signs that baby is coming🤞🏼🤞🏼

@Minster2012 we'll definitely more boring this year then, I usually do it with a gin in hand too, this year I had to substitute the gin for chocolate instead! Ooo they really do bloat you dont they!! I was thinking of getting a couple of non alcoholic ciders and some nosecco for Christmas Day but I'll be so bloated!! And will definitely get fury teeth from all the sugar!

@Crazydoglady123 oh I'm not surprised you're fed up!! Yesss please enlighten us on what a harvesting kit is?? Hmm maybe some stretching will help and hot water bottle??

@feliznavidad2 he's turned round now and said he'll be here today at the very earliest so might not even be today😫 definitely! I'm usually not patient enough for stuff like this but I just keep thinking not many things in life are a surprise and this is the best surprise I could have!

So I'm annoyed, the cards I ordered to tell our parents we're pregnant, I ordered them Wednesday and paid for first class delivery, they got dispatched Thursday and said delivery would be 18th-19th, still hadnt arrived by yesterday so I messaged the woman asking for a tracking number and got an automated reply saying they're off until after new year, excellent! I do have until Thursday but still!!
Also does anyone still struggle to believe they're pregnant? I always used to say "I just can't picture myself ever getting a positive pregnancy test" and now I just can't picture ever having a scan picture to show or having a bump, it feels so surreal and I'm sort of expecting bad news on Thursday because I can't believe it still!!

Hi all, I've been shite at being on here... Molly's been going through a "phase" but I think we're out the other side now 🤞🏼
Just wanted to pop on and say I hope you're all ok and managing to get some festive fun times in 🎅🏼💕

Ooo thank you @Crazydoglady123 that looks interesting, I'm pleased the sausage is overall ok but very hard work for you at a tough time, I think I'm gonna end up with just lots of pillows.

@Vil10 I still get that. Cos I'm only getting a small bump and don't feel much I'm still very much in disbelief. Ppl have said to me "when you have the baby" and I'm like errrr yeah i guess so 😬, but it doesn't mean that that cashew isn't just growing away nicely whilst you disbelieve it! That's the great thing. I've only ever been to one baby shower, it's not really something we do I guess.

A d here's hoping on the cards @Vil10 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@Crazydoglady123 yeah that would annoy me. They just don't even think?! Fingers crossed for the little doggy.
@Minster2012 I usually side sleep in our normal bed so I'm hoping that will my be an issue later. So many rules! We should be back in there long before it matters.
@Vil10 I despise baby showers so I'm not bothered about that. But I don't want to go to scans alone. Firstly its his baby too? But also i hate going to appointments and get really anxious. Throw in the mix they could tell you something is wrong? Not good at all! Post is really slow at the moment. Took me 5 days to get something that was sent next day 1st class signed for.
And no, I still don't believe I'm pregnant. Keep forgetting. That's why I'm not telling anyone, its so early anything can go wrong so I think it's maybe best I'm like this than already buying baby clothes. 🤣 Its strange though. And @minster2012 I don't think I've associated this with an actual baby turning up at the end. 🤣🤣🤣

In actual fact (I'm sure this is normal) not only do I forget in pregnant, I then remember and wonder what on earth i was thinking and how the hell I'm going to look after another human being. Or if I can be bothered! I have my nice easy life. 🤷‍♀️ I don't think I expected it to actually happen......
I had my midwife booking appointment today. Random really. They give you a non discreet shiny plastic folder to carry out and I was told to take my booklet to all my appointments and hospital visits. But I think I'm going to have to rehouse it in a more suitable folder! Because to me this still feels like some weird secret i don't even want strangers to know about. I couldn't bloody wee so the drop i gave her is likely no good. My next one will be at 16 weeks and she referred me to my chosen hospital, and I should hear from them about a scan. Was just a load of boring questions really, checked bmi, took blood, blood pressure, checked carbon monoxide levels, asked me if I was related to my husband. 🧐 That was it. Gave me loads of crap to read in this folder thing. Took about 50 minutes. I've definitely lost weight as my bmi is now only 25. It was 26 point something before.

Sorry girls been totally shit at keeping up, not doing so well. I had my birth debrief today and found the reason I had to have a section was because Alice's heart trace was dangerously bad, and when she was born she had the cord wrapped round her neck. She was also resuscitated for 4 minutes and only breathing 40% oxygen. I'm absolutely distraught to learn of this and struggling to come to terms with it.

I hope that everyone's keeping safe and well ❤️❤️❤️

Aww @Kirky658 that does sound awful I'm so glad she's well though but scary to hear that happened! I assumed both you and @Justanothercyster were quiet due to being busy with your girls.

@Kirky658 how come you only find this out now? Is that standard? I'm not sure I'd be impressed that this is the first I'd be hearing about it. Flipping heck.

@2020mission thanks ❤️
@paintfairy a birth debrief isn't standard, they only do it if you've had a traumatic birth or request it. Still not sure why I wasn't told any of it, DH thinks maybe because I was ill they didn't want to make my BP raise higher. Who knows?

@Kirky658 well, what i meant was, you'd have thought you'd have known at the time. Strange no one even mentioning it? Maybe it's so it doesn't stress you out more, who knows! But it's not what you want to hear now either.

@Kirky658 i can understand them not wanting to stress you out as you had preeclampsia at the time but they could have maybe spoke to your husband at least? I know it's not nice information to share but it's still what happened and you had a right to know! I assumed you just had a C section as your induction didn't get things going from what you said before.

@paintfairy breaking news...there's a baby at the end 😜🤪and it will shout to make you notice it. I put my notes in a smaller folder that was inside my big one & I can fold that so it goes in my handbag or DS's bag.

@Kirky658 that is poor you are only finding out now. HOWEVER, despite a clearly awful & traumatic birth for you both the headline now (& for ages cos you are acing this mum thing) is that She's doing absolutely great and you wouldn't tell. it's awful definitely, but your girl is strong and she gets that from you. Phoenix from the ashes you both are & will continue getting stronger. I know it. All the love 💕

@Justanothercyster hope you and Molly are doing okay❤️

@clolo it's just the most surreal thing isn't it, I'm the same, I keep thinking it isn't happening to me!

@Minster2012 hahaha you thinking oh god yeah a baby is coming I forgot🤣 it's just crazy, OH doesnt believe it either, I don't even think he will after the scan! Also the cards still haven't arrived!!!

@paintfairy exactly, it's their baby too so they shouldn't be denied the right to go to appointments! My friend was confirmed a miscarriage at a scan during the times when her partner couldn't go in, my heart was breaking for her!! I'm going to have to think of something else if they don't arrive in time, I wish I was a crafty person🤣 it's surreal isn't it, and that's completely understandable not wanting to tell anyone, I physically sont tbink I can hide it from my mum much longer! Hope you hear from your chosen hospital soon!!

@Kirky658 I understand them not wanting to tell you at the time because you weren't well, but I would've thought they'd have told you sooner than this or even told your husband! But, even it must've been awful, you're both here and you're both okay and doing amazing, you got this❤️

So one of my friends, has sadly suffered 3 miscarriages and my heart breaks for her every time she mentions it, 1st one she bled and had lots of pains, 2nd one she got to her 12 week after having all the symptoms and baby was measuring too far behind and then she lost it, 3rd one went for a 7 week and again baby was measuring too small and she lost it again, anyway I saw her yesterday (she doesn't know I'm pregnant) and she told me about this appointment she had and started telling me about the 2nd miscarriage when she went to the scan oblivious thinking everything was fine, and oh god it panicked me, I had an awful dream last night that I ended up desperately needing a wee 20 mins before my scan and I couldn't hold it in so I weed, and then they couldn't get a clear picture but they kept saying "I don't know if it's the picture but we can't see a baby", and it felt like it went on forever!! It was just awful!! However, I'm trying to be rational today, and going to distract myself by running lots of errands!